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Top 6 Valentine’s Day Sex Positions

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Valentine’s Day is all about trying new things, and new sex positions are at the top of the list for a steamy evening that will last long into the night! Try these amazing new sex positions (that’s right, you’ve probably never tried them before) and create a Valentine’s Day that you and your partner will never, ever forget!

Bended Knee

This sex position isn’t difficult to do, but it may require a hard surface such as the floor or a very firm bed. Face your partner while sitting up on your knees. The man will lift one of his knees so that it makes a 90 degree angle and his foot is on the floor. He will be resting most of his weight on his other knee, which is still on the bed or floor. The woman will lift her leg and drape it over her partner’s thigh (the one he lifted up) and both partners will bring their groins together. This amazing sex position allows for face to face contact (which is important on Valentine’s Day) and gives the sensation of standing up without either partner having to hold the other up.

Sit & See

Have the man sit on the edge of a bed or couch with his feet touching the floor. His partner will straddle him while facing him and insert his penis into her vagina. This sounds like a regular sitting position, but the fun part is yet to come (no pun intended). The woman will then lean back, holding on to her partner’s hands to keep her balance. If she has a hard time doing this, she can pull an ottoman or other object over to the bed to lay back on for more support. This amazing sex position is a great Valentine’s Day gift for the man because he is able to completely view her entire body, which is stretched out for him to marvel at and play with.

Reverse Doggy Style

Feeling a bit more like having kinky sex this Valentine’s Day? Try the reverse doggy style position, which is actually better suited for anal sex than vaginal penetration. The woman gets on her hands and knees and lifts her rear in the air, just as though she were getting ready for the regular doggy style sex position. However, instead of facing her, the man will face away from her and lower his penis into her from above. This is one of the more difficult sex positions to achieve, and he may have more luck by facing a little bit to the side rather than directly behind her. He can then use his hands to finger her g-spot or clitoris!

Spooning Blowjob

Valentine’s Day just isn’t fun without a little bit of oral sex involved. For an intense blowjob, have a man lie on his side on the bed. The woman will then lay at a 90 degree angle, placing her head in between his legs. Her legs will be behind him. This will afford the woman a little bit more comfort during the blowjob, as she will be able to rest her head on his thigh as she performs fellatio. This can get a little kinky if both partners are into it – the man can grab his partner’s head and thrust into her mouth as she goes down on him. Don’t be afraid to prop yourself up with pillows to provide more support.

68 – For Her

It’s just as important for her to get oral sex this Valentine’s Day as it is for him. In this titillating sex position, the man can focus totally on her pleasure – and get a little kinky if he wants! The man will lay on his back, as though he were preparing to sixty-nine. The woman will then lie down on top of him with her vagina towards his face. Instead of lying with her stomach touching his stomach like in the traditional sixty-nine position, she will lie with her back to his stomach and the back of her head will be resting in his groin area. This affords him total access to her vagina and clitoris, and if both partners are into analingus, this can easily be done in this position also.

Sybian-Style Cowgirl

Every girl loves the cowgirl position because it gives her more control over her pleasure and orgasm. This particular sex position gives the woman even more control, because she can use her legs more easily to thrust up and down against her partner’s penis. Have your partner lie down with his back on an ottoman and his feet on the floor. The woman will then straddle her partner, with one leg on each side of her partner and her feet on the floor. This is an amazing sex position for g-spot orgasms!

Are Online Dating Sites Worthwhile?

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Though online dating services once held a certain stigma, they are now commonly used by hopeful relationship seekers. If you’ve been afraid to sign up for one, fearing that you’ll only meet antisocial geeks, you may be missing out. All sorts of people are finding boyfriends, girlfriends, and even future spouses online.

The Benefits Of Online Dating

So just what can online dating sites do for you that a singles’ bar can’t? For one thing, they simultaneously broaden and narrow your search. The site could find people that you wouldn’t otherwise run into in everyday life, casting a wider net for you. Yet it can also turn your focus toward people who share your interests, helping to eliminate unlikely candidates. That saves you time and ensures that you have a lot less first date fiascoes and more fourth and fifth dates and beyond.

You also have the ability to screen potential matches more easily, since you can study the person’s profile before you decide to respond to them. Online matchmaking services can be particularly helpful if you live in a large, highly populous area. It can be hard to navigate dating in a big city. Weeding your way through crowded bars and parties at your friends’ apartments can be daunting. Going online can help steer you toward the right people who desire the same kind of relationship that you do.

That’s something you can’t always tell when you first meet a cute guy or girl at your friend’s cook out. Just because someone seems like a good match, doesn’t mean they’re looking for something as serious as you are searching for. These same sites can also be really helpful for those who live in smaller towns. If you know everyone in town, but still haven’t found the right fit, using a dating site can help you find someone in a neighboring town that you don’t normally visit.

Are There Online Dating Dangers?

Of course, there are some dangers in using online matchmaking services, and you won’t necessarily find your dream date on the first try. It’s bad enough that people can misrepresent themselves in person, but online they can be even trickier. People can lie about their ages, their interests, and even their appearance. If you sense that a person’s profile isn’t totally truthful, or if they admit at some point that they fudged a few details, it’s best to pass over them.

A relationship based on lies can’t come to any good. That’s also why you have to be true to yourself when you put together your profile. If you twist your interests or information to make yourself seem more appealing, you’re not doing anyone any favors. The wrong kind of people are going to end up matched to you, and then they’ll be let down when they find out you weren’t totally honest. If you accurately describe yourself, you’ll draw the kind of people who will truly appreciate you for you. Finding the right match is what online dating is all about. Add it into your dating mix, and you just might find your perfect partner.

Sex Tips For Your First Time Having Sex

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Sex for the first time is a nerve wracking experience. You’re afraid of getting everything wrong or not being able to give your partner an orgasm. You’re worried about your inexperience, what to do and when to do it. It can be hard to relax and go with the flow when you’re having sex for the first time, but here are some excellent suggestions to help you make it fun and memorable.

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Inexperience Is Okay

Doing it for the first time means that you’re inexperienced – and that’s okay. You don’t have to know everything there is to know on how to please the opposite gender before you ever have sex, and no one expects you to. You’re going to fumble around a little bit and be a little unsure of exactly what you’re doing. This is perfectly normal! The most important thing is to laugh it off and move on.

What makes someone great in bed and able to give their partner an orgasm again and again is time, practice and trial and error. No guy or girl ever got it completely right the first time, but learn from your mistakes and let them help you get better at making love. Repeating the same mistakes over and over isn’t a good thing – but making a mistake and learning from it and using it to help make you a better lover is!

Relax and remember to have fun. Your first time may be awkward, but it’s your first time and that’s okay. You’re never going to have another chance at doing it for the first time, so enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the discovery process!

Get A Sex Buddy

Your first time is meant to be special, and saving it for that special someone is a great way to make sure that it’s memorable and fun. However, as the second, third and fourth times roll around, you may want to consider finding yourself a “sex buddy,” or a friend that you can be intimate with so you can learn the ropes. Make sure you choose a friend that you’re completely comfortable with!

The benefits of having a “sex buddy” is that you can practice things like oral sex or giving a blowjob without having to worry about someone judging your skills in the sack or embarrassing yourself in front of someone you want to have a relationship with (or at least want to have really hot relations with). Having a friend like this will allow you to practice and practice some more until you really get the hang of things. That way, when you meet someone super special, you’ll have had at least a little experience in that department and you can be more confident in the bedroom.

Safe Sex

Of course, with any partner, safe sex is of the utmost importance. Using a condom will not only help protect against unwanted pregnancy, it will also help protect against most sexually transmitted diseases. You may think that getting busy for the first time (especially if you and your partner are both virgins) means that you don’t have to worry about protection, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Unless you and your partner have had a clear STD test and haven’t had any new partners since the test (and are monogamous with each other), a condom is necessary to protect yourself and your partner. It’s also a great way to keep from getting pregnant without the side effects of some birth controls. Remember that safe sex is always in style!

Being Emotionally Mature Enough For Sex

Before hopping in the sack for the first time, make sure that you’re emotionally and physically mature enough to do it. Rushing into it because you think you’re ready or because someone is pressuring you to do it are the wrong reasons for losing your virginity. Make sure you’re with someone you’re comfortable with and not someone who you will regret your first time being with later. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and really make sure it’s something you’re ready for before you actually do it.

Remember that you can’t re-do losing your virginity and if you rush through it just to get it over with, you may end up regretting it. If you’re not ready, that’s okay too! Never let anyone tell you when you’re ready or when you’re not, because only you can make that decision for yourself. If you want to wait, that’s okay and if you’re ready, that’s okay too!

Sexting: How Women Think About Sex And How To Give Them What They Crave

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Sexting is an extremely powerful flirting and seduction tool when you use it the right way and with the right attitude. With any girl, your attitude is either a huge turn on or turn off, and when you apply that concept to sexting, you can literally have your partner wishing she could tear your clothes off before you even walk in the door from work. Here’s how your attitude – and how sexting – can give your partner what she secretly desires!

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A Woman’s Biggest Erogenous Zone Is Her Mind

Have you ever seen a really hot girl with a pretty average or below average guy and wondered how he got her on his arm? You figure it’s because he’s great in bed, but that’s rarely the case. It’s more likely because he found a way to stimulate her mind and emotions! Sure, a woman values looks in a man, but definitely not more than his smarts or his sense of humor. A woman greatly values being intellectually stimulated, even more so than having a guy that looks fabulous. If a guy can make a woman feel great mentally and emotionally, he’s a shoe in even if his physical attributes aren’t the greatest.

Women Are Attracted To Non-Creepy Dominance

Women are almost always attracted to non-creepy dominance, with “non-creepy” being the operative word. Contrary to what some men may think, it is possible for men to assert confidence and dominance without being superior, condescending or hateful. Girls are attracted to men who appear confident and in control without acting cocky or degrading towards the ladies.

For example, a great way to exert confidence and dominance on a date without being creepy is to have a “date plan” in mind, such as picking the restaurant. Tell your girl, “I’d love to take you here, they have the best ‘pasta e olio’ I’ve ever had.” However, picking the restaurant doesn’t mean being a jerk about it and insisting that you go there. If she’s not into Italian, have a back up. But more likely than not, your girl will appreciate you taking the lead and showing that you’re a strong, confident man.

You definitely want to AVOID saying, “I don’t care, whatever you want to do” when planning a date, because it shows weakness and lack of leadership qualities – and this is something most women aren’t attracted to. Get used to showing your girl what your preferences are and never apologize for what you desire!

How Does All This Apply To Sexting?

Take the strong, confident attitude that you use when you’re going on a date with your lover and apply it to sexting her. Sexting is powerful because it takes sex and puts it into a woman’s language – the language of words. Most women keep their cell phones with them at all times, so sexting will allow you to communicate with her sexually in a way that is important to her. It’s like blowing past all her defenses and stimulating her right at her very core!

In your sexy text messages, you’re going to tell her what you’re going to do to her behind closed doors (and how badly you want to do it) in a dominant, leading manner. Make sure you use descriptive, sensual language that hooks into her imagination and stimulates her mind. Use your creativity to come up with sexy situations such as oral sex or a new sex position and describe it to her over text.

You can even tell her how she’ll respond to your actions to create a titillating fantasy. Talking about foreplay with your partner throughout the day will get both you and her so turned on that it will be all you can do to keep your head straight while you finish the work day! Here are some great examples of sexting that you can use to turn her on:

  • “When I get home, I’m going to nibble may way down your neck and….”
  • “I want to lick your clitoris while I fondle your nipples….”
  • “I can’t wait to get home and kiss you all over your body….”
  • “You’ll love it when I slip my fingers inside….”

Coming up with something to say over text to get your partner turned on isn’t difficult if you use your imagination and learn to let go a little. If you’re apprehensive about what to say and when to say it, just remember that whatever you’re thinking of doing to her in your head is something you can say in a text!

Different Pheromones And Which One Is Right For You

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Pheromones can be a great way to increase your attraction level to the opposite sex, but figuring out exactly what pheromones are, what they do, how they work and how to use them can be extremely intimidating. Here’s a breakdown of the different kinds that are available and how you can use them to create the right kind of attraction between you and someone you’re interested in!

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How Pheromone Products Work

Pheromones are sex hormones that we all secrete naturally onto the skin via glands near the armpits and pubic region. Pubic and underarm hair help disperse the scent onto the skin so it is noticed by members of the opposite sex. Natural pheromones are what help two people to be attracted to each other, but it is so subtle that it is more on a subconscious level.

Synthetic pheromones claim to produce similar effects as natural ones, resulting in the sexual arousal of the opposite sex. Studies show that adding pheromones to a woman’s perfume will increase her attractiveness to the opposite sex. The study showed that 74% of women noticed an increase in frequency of kissing, heavy petting and affection, sex, sleeping next to their partner and formal dates with men when wearing pheromone products along with their normal perfume. The same study also used placebo hormones on a number of women as part of the control group. Only 23% of women with the placebo saw an increase in male affection!

Common Types Of Phermones

Androstenone – This hormone signals dominance and aggression. It creates a competitive energy and it is often associated with a sexual response, but not always and not exclusively.

Androstenol – Signals youth and sociability, talking, comfort, and friendliness. It helps ease the jitters people can have before meeting and striking up a conversation and it can be a good ice breaker. This is a great one to use when you want to be more easily approachable!

Androsterone – This hormone signals masculinity, creates an impression of reliability and protection. This is what would be considered an “alpha male” hormone and is excellent for men to use when they want to attract women.

Copulins – These are hormones that are secreted in a womans vagina during ovulation. They are designed to increase the possibility of a sexual encounter between a man and a woman during ovulation for the purpose of procreation. If a man smells copulins on a woman, she’s instantly more attractive to him because he smells the “mating” scent. Copulins increase testosterone levels in men, and will create a positive sexual response to women wearing them.

What Should You Be Looking For In A Pheromone Product?

For Men – Choose a product that incorporates both androsterone and androstenone. This will create an aura of strength, confidence and dominance, so women who are seeking an “alpha male” will instantly be attracted to you. You can also balance the two hormones with androstenol, to make you seem friendly and approachable as well.

For Women – Use pheromone products that have both copulins and androstenols. The copulins will make you instantly more attractive to men because you’re letting off the “mating scent,” and the androstenols will help make you seem more friendly and approachable to men.

Will Pheromones Always Work?

Just like any “natural” or herbal remedy, it’s going to work for some people and not others. This is because it all depends on how the products react with your individual body chemistry and how that body chemistry reacts with the chemistry of the opposite sex. The best way to find out if pheromone products will work well for you is to give them a try! Try mixing them with your favorite cologne or perfume before you go out for the night and see what happens. You may find that you are more confident and that people are more attracted to you and can approach you more easily!

What Happens When You Stop Using A Pheromone Product?

Using pheromones to help with an initial connection is a great way to utilize the products for what they are intended for. However, continuing to use them to create chemistry in a long term relationship can do more harm than good. You definitely don’t want to be carrying on a relationship with someone that is based on chemistry that isn’t really your own! If you stop using pheromones several months after you and your partner have been together, you may create a discord between the two of you that you can’t explain by any conventional means and it may even cause a break up. Stick to using pheromones for initial attraction purposes only.