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How To REALLY Impress A Guy

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Dating tips for women aren’t something girls automatically “know.” Don’t bomb your next date – check out these tricks to really make an impression!

Knowing how to really impress a guy is one of the most important aspects of being a woman. When you meet a guy that you want, it’s fairly easy to fall into the trap of playing coy or hard to get. While these methods can work on some men, it’s not foul proof. Impressing a guy doesn’t take games or seduction methods. In fact, it’s really not that hard.

There are a several qualities that men find very impressive in all women, no matter what you look like. Here are some of the most desired qualities that will really impress a guy.

1. Have A Great Outlook On Life

Your outlook on life should always be positive. It doesn’t matter if you’re a liberal or a conservative, a positive outlook on life can a very long way with men. Even if you’re not the bubbly type that is always smiling, being content with yourself and where you going over the next 4-5 years can be enough to impress him.

Nobody wants to date a downer. Keep this in mind the next time that you meet a guy that you really like. He wants to be inspired by you and the only he can do that is if you have positivity and know what you would like out of your time on the planet.

2. Look Great (Yes, This Is One Of The Essential Dating Tips!)

No, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to impress a guy. The typical girl goes out of her way to look her best all times. This usually does not work. Guys that see a girl dressed to the 9s every time they step out of the house assume they are high maintenance. While there is a time and a place for getting dressed up, guys generally want a girl that can toss on a pair of jeans and still look great. This may take some shopping.

No girl is going to look sexy in a pair of ragged Wranglers, but you also don’t want to use your $200 jeans for yard work. Find clothing that is not very fancy or expensive, but still accentuates your best attributes. Once this is accomplished he’s going to wonder why you’re the only one that can turn him on by dusting.

3. Be Honest

Have you ever watched a TV show and wondered, “Why didn’t she just tell him that from the start?” Lies have a way of surfacing. No matter how small or how big, there will come a time and place when your honesty is going to be tested. No guy wants to be with a girl that he can’t trust.

Open up to the guy from the moment that you meet him and he will appreciate it. A relationship built on trust and transparency can always be mended. One of the biggest fears of a guy is that the girl he is seeing isn’t being honest with him. Good or bad, always tell the truth and he will be extremely impressed right from the start.

4. Handle Stress Well

There are a lot of women that curl up into the fetal position every time they get stressed out. Guys love a strong woman that is good at problem solving and won’t freak out every time there is a bump in the road. Guys notice how the girls they are with handle stress. Whether you avoid it or tackle it head on, be sure that he’s watching.

He wants to make sure that you’re not going to have a total mental breakdown the next time that a restaurant forgets your reservation. Being easy going is one of the best qualities that you can have when dating. While you don’t want to float through the relationship, you also don’t want to be dram queen.

5. Be Independent

Being independent is a quality that every guy wants from a girl. Yes, traditionally it is the man’s job to bring home the bacon. However, we’re living in revolutionary times. Women are CEO’s, business owners and are even running as the president. We can’t have it both ways. We either want to be taken care of, which releases our power over the relationship or leads to guilt, or we have to be considered an equal. You never want the guy calling all the shots.

If you have plans with your girlfriends, stick to them. Never cancel plans because a guy wants you to. If you would rather hang out with him over your friends, then make that clear, but don’t do it just because he wants you to. Being independent shows that you’re not going to cater to his every whim and allows you to be your own woman.

11 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Guy

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Dating can be complicated, but there are definitely some clear signs that the guy you’re dating should be kicked to the curb. Here are eleven of them.

So you’re dating this guy and things seems great but not that great. If its the beginning of the relationship, maybe you are holding out to see how things pan out, see if they get better. Or maybe you’ve been dating the same guy for a few years and things are not as great as they used to be. How do you know if this relationship is in fact a good thing or if you two are just wasting your time?

What She Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

1. You Don’t Look Forward To Being With Him

Whether this is a long term relationship or you’re dating a new guy, if you aren’t excited to hang out with this guy then you are defiantly with the wrong person. In the beginning of relationships everything should be exciting and you should be psyched to see him. If this is a long term relationship you should be looking forward to spending time with your man and still get a little giddy thinking about him. If these feelings are not there and you find yourself wishing you were hanging out with your friends, yourself of another guy then that is a huge sign that you are dating the wrong person. If this is a new relationship and you dread another date, or hanging with him then you are dating the wrong guy.

2. When You Are With Him You Still Feel Lonely

This usually can happen in long term relationships. After a while you guys get into a groove where you are hanging out (or living together) and can be sitting right next to the guy and feel like you two are miles away. Its a weird phenomenon but it happens when so much is left unsaid and so many touches are left un-felt If you start to feel constantly (like every time you are together) emotionally far from your guy, its a pretty good sign he is not the one.

3. You Cheat On Him

Red flag, sirens, alarms, cow bells, punch in the face!! Any sex outside of your relationship sex is a sure sign that you are with the wrong person! I’m not going to get into the moral ramifications of cheating, nor the right and wrong of it. I’m just saying there is nothing wrong with being attracted to other guys, I’m just saying that if you find yourself not only attracted to but then acting on that attraction with another guy then you are definitely not getting what you want from your man and he is not the right one for you.

4. Your Friends And Family Say You Should End It

These are the closest people in your life, they know you the best. If they think you could do better or are dating the wrong guy, listen to them. Always go with what you feel is right but don’t ignore the people that love you if they think you are wasting your time. In relationships we can wear rose colored glasses and sometimes it takes an outsider to see something we didn’t see. So listen to the people that care about you.

5. You Are More Friends Than Lovers

Sex is the glue that separates men and women from being friends or lovers. So if you are in a relationship and the passion has died then you are with the wrong person. Yes passion and sex can ebb and flow but if there is a huge lack of sex or libido and you are not happy about that then you are with the wrong person.

6. What You Once Loved Is Now Annoying

Maybe it’s the way he drinks a beer or the way he eats corn on the cob, there was a time when his little quirks and mannerism used to be so adorable to you and now they annoy the hell out of you. You once loved how he would snore in his sleep or maybe leave his coffee on the table half drank but now you are so angered by this and annoyed. It’s impossible to love everything that they do but if you are finding your self fed up with his mannerisms then you need to end it.

What He Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

7. You Don’t Appreciate Him & He Doesn’t Appreciate You

Taking someone for granted isn’t a good sign, but if you’re looking for signs that you should break up with your boyfriend, this has to be at the top of the list. Look, relationships have seasons, or cycles. You may want to rip his clothes off for a while, then not be sexual for while. Things go up and down, but if there’s more down than up, that’s a sign that either one or both of you don’t appreciate each other.

8. You’re Still In A Relationship But Have Stopped Dating

One of the big pitfalls for any long term relationship is getting too comfortable or getting stuck in the status quo. When you first start dating, everything is amazing and electric. Part of that is the new-ness of the relationship, and while the spark may fade a bit, it shouldn’t burn out. No matter how long you are together, you never ever stop dating. If you do, that’s when problems start. If you’re in a relationship with a guy, but not dating him, you may have a breakup sign and it’s one of the big ones.

9. You Don’t Want To Have Sex

Let’s face it. One of the main benefits to being in a relationship is the constant access to booty. Yes, companionship is great, but that’s what pets are for. You don’t just want companionship, you want some ass too. What’s the point without the intercourse? Not so much. If you could be getting laid and you don’t want to do the guy you’re with, that’s a red flag meaning it’s time to think about ending it.

10. The Things You Used To Like Piss You Off 

Everyone’s got their little idiosyncrasies  That’s just how we are. You know you’re into someone when you see a person’s little ticks and not only do they not bother you, you think they’re cute. When you find yourself suddenly pissed off or annoyed by them, then you’ve got yourself a sign it’s time to breakup. Everyone goes through phases, but if you find yourself consistently annoyed by these things and you just can’t stand them anymore, that’s a sign. Not a good one either.

11. You Try Sabotaging The Relationship

Ever find yourself picking fights with your partner for no reason? Ever ask “Why did I yell at him for that?” That means some part of you want to breakup with them and your subconscious is trying to get your attention. It’s saying “Hey! Get us out of here! You know you want to!” You may or may not be ready or willing to listen to your inner voice, but you should.

The main thing to remember about all these “signs” is that you need to listen to your gut and your heart. You know if you are not happy, you know if you are settling, you know if he is not the one for you. No list is going to give you the answer you already know. Now it’s up to you to do something about it.

Penis Size – And 4 Other Things He’s Secretly Self Conscious About

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Penis size is only one of the things guys are secretly self conscious about. What else is he worrying about that he’s not telling you?

There are a lot of things that women are self conscious about. Having smaller breasts or a little extra weight is enough to send some women over the edge. But there are a lot of things that men are self conscious about. Men are just as insecure about certain aspects of their body; they’re just a little better at hiding it.

Men have a way of showing confidence even when they are not confident. A guy can know that he’s not the smartest, tallest or most well endowed guy in the room, but he can still make women swoon. Here are some of the things that he’s secretly self-conscious about.

1. Height

Hollywood has trained women to think that a guy is not worth it unless he’s 6’1. If you have ever heard of the Napoleon Complex, then you know the kind of guy that is secretly self-conscious about his height. Height is a sign of dominance. When a guy is taller than other men, there is a perception that he is better than other men.

While most women know that this simply isn’t true, guys can be very self-conscious about their height. A guy that is not even average height certainly will not have any problems finding a girl that is shorter than him, but he might find it hard to have the confidence to approach her. Most women are between 5’3 and 5’7. This leaves a lot of options to guys that are 5’7-5’8 and even guys that are only 5’5, but height is a key factor to confidence.

2. Hairlines

While height is an indication of dominance, hair can be an indication of youth. When a guy starts to lose his hair, it’s a sign that he’s getting older. This symptom of mortality is enough to send any guy into a tailspin. If you have ever met a guy with a receding hairline, you probably know the self-conscious means of hiding it.

Hats are fairly common with guys who are losing their hair. Wacky haircuts to hide the fact that they are going bald are also a key factor. If the guy is loosing his hair and he’s in his 20’s, you are going to find him extra sensitive about this subject. If you ever meet a guy that is losing his hair, try to stay off the subject.

3. Weight

Weight can be a factor for guys, but it’s much more a factor for women. Although guys have been romanticized with six pack abs and bulging muscles, a little weight might not affect them that much. If the guy is very overweight he could be self conscious about it. Weight is such an issue with all people that it can negatively affect confidence levels and self-image.

If your last boyfriend was in great shape and your new boyfriend has a little pudge, it’s only natural for him to feel self conscious about it. Talk to your guy about his weight and see if there is something that you can to help him out. Simple diets and exercise can go a long way in transforming a body.

4. Body Hair

Excessive hair is an extreme turn off to most women. Having a hairy back is not something that screams sex appeal. Most guys that have hairy backs suck it up and head to a salon to have it waxed off. When the summer hits everybody likes to head to the pool, beach or lake to relax. This can be a nightmare for guys that have hair in places that it shouldn’t be. If you have ever met a guy with a hairy back, you probably know the signs. He is hesitant to take his shirt off or avoids situations where a shirt should not be present.

5. Penis Size

By far the most common thing that men are self conscious about is their penis size. The penis is not like other organs. Although there are pills, exercises and ridiculous penis pumps, most men fret over their penis even when it is of average penis size. The signs are fairly clear. Most men will avoid sexual contact with women if they have small penis or constantly bombard them with questions about previous lovers.

One way to reassure a man is to tell them that the sex is good – even great. We all know that you don’t have to have a huge penis size to satisfy a woman and there are positions that will give deeper penetration for smaller penises. Informing your partner that you are happy with them and your sex life is essential to instilling confidence in their abilities and penis size.

Top 5 Reasons Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

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Pick up lines aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Here’s why they almost always will cause you to fail at getting a girl!

Pick up lines are some of the worst methods getting a girl’s attention. When you use a line you show that you’re not only desperate, but also highly unoriginal. They are played out and make you come off as a tool. If you have ever thought about using a line, get it out of your head immediately. Here are the top 5 reasons they just don’t work.

1. They’re Generic

“Come here often?” The line doesn’t work primarily because it’s too generic. The fact that you’re using it on a girl that you don’t know shows that you don’t really care about her or have anything original to say. This shows her that you’re not a guy that separates himself from the pack. When you use an original “Hello” or “How are you” you don’t come off as a guy who bombards women at every bar with the same line. “How are you” and “Hello” are pretty common for every day conversation so this gives you a non-threatening way of approaching women.

2. They’re Needy

There is nothing more pathetic than a guy who is desperate. When you use pick up lines, you come off as a guy who only wants to have sex. This can be problematic for a guy who really does want to get to know a girl. When you use a line like “great dress, but it would look better on my bedroom floor,” you sound like a guy who is desperate for sex. Women want a guy that has options. When you use a line you look like you would just say the line to any girl that walks by. Avoid using pick up lines so you don’t look needy.

3. They’re Unoriginal

You know when you walk into a bar or a club and you see every guy or girl dressed the same? How many times do you think a girl has been given a pick up line and actually followed through on it? Women are hit on by guys every day and most guys stick with pick up lines because they are familiar. So when a girl hears you say something that she has heard a couple of hours before, she’s going to be even more put off by you. Pick up lines have been around forever. Chances are, she’s heard it and it’s not going to make her laugh or feel attracted to you.

4. They’re Creepy

How would you feel if some guy walked up to you and said that one about the angel falling from heaven? I would definitely be creeped out. This is exactly how women feel when some stranger walks up to her and delivers a line. Creeping a girl out is not the way to get a phone number. You want to build comfort and rapport with the girl in order to take a relationship to the next level. When you use a  line, you’re going to creep her out and you will probably see it on her face.

5. They’re Not Funny

The fact of the matter is that pick up lines aren’t that funny. They can even be offensive to a lot of women. Do you think that you’re going to get her phone number after offending her? Probably not. It’s best to use a simple opener when approaching women. A pick up line can leave a bad taste in her mouth and leave you feeling like an idiot. If you think that it’s funny, stop yourself anyway.

Pick up lines are usually seen on TV or in movies, but think about the guy that is saying them. Is he the hero of the film or show? More than likely he’s the creep that nobody wants around. Pick lines are generic and will never come off as appealing to women. They have the ability to ruin a situation that could have become favorable with just a simple opener. Some pick up lines even have the ability to offend the girl and send her on her way after the first sentence is spoken.

Even if you do have a hilarious pick up line, she might not get the joke. This could leave you explaining why it’s funny and explaining a joke effectively creates an awkward situation. It’s best to leave you pick up lines at the door when you’re out approaching women. Use an environmental opener or mention something about her clothing to get a conversation started properly.

10 Really Unique Valentine’s Day Date Ideas

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Valentine’s Day is traditionally a “date night” for most couples, but don’t do something cliche this year. Get creative and do something really fun and exciting that will make your partner feel super special! Forget about dinner and a movie – check out these brand new Valentine’s Day date ideas!

1. Surprise Valentine’s Day Dinner At Home

The idea itself has been done before, but this is where you have to use your imagination to take it to a whole new level. Don’t have cash? Grab McDonald’s – and a few candles from the dollar store. Have a romantic dinner by candlelight! If you cook something yourself, why not use red and pink food coloring to make it a Valentine’s Day delight? Seriously. Just use your brain!

2. Charity Work

This is another excellent idea if you don’t have a lot of cash this year to blow on romantic dinners and dates. Take some time out of your day to deliver inexpensive Valentines to the elderly at a nursing home, or the cancer ward of the hospital. Even better if you live near a large hospital like St. Jude’s that has a children’s wing. Wherever you choose to go, spend the day with your honey making the lives of others just a little brighter!

3. Painting Together

Grab some inexpensive painting supplies from your local hobby store and set out to paint pictures for each other. If you’re inept at drawing, try abstract painting. Or, watch a few Bob Ross episodes before you get going. It’s actually not too difficult to paint those happy little trees, after all! Have a blast painting with each other and present your gifts to each other at the end of the day.

4. Totally Decked Out Romantic Space

Surprise your girl (this one doesn’t work too well for guys, sorry!) with a totally decked out romantic space. this can be the bathroom if you want to give her a romantic bubble bath and an erotic massage, or it can be the bedroom if you’re planning a night of hot passion. Red sheets and a satiny comforter? Yes. So many balloons you can no longer see the ceiling or floor. Yes. Champagne, chocolate covered strawberries and roses by the bed? Yes!

5. Picnic And Dancing In A Field

If the weather is nice on Valentine’s Day, you can pack up a picnic and head out to an empty field. Once you finish the meal, you can open the doors and windows of the car and play music. Have fun dancing and rolling around in the grass with each other! If you’re really secluded, you might even want to have sex right there in the middle of nowhere!

6. Candlemaking

This is definitely a unique idea that really isn’t done often enough – probably because the thought of candlemaking with a girl makes any man’s insides squirm. But in all honesty, candlemaking is actually a really cool date. If you have somewhere in your town that has candlemaking classes, this is an excellent choice. If not, head over to your local craft store, pick up the supplies and do it at home. It’s actually really fun, your girl will love it, and the candles actually end up being pretty good if you use quality supplies.

7. Picnic With A Twist

A lot of couples don’t have picnics because who wants sandwiches? It’s not like that’s a super exciting cuisine, anyways. But head out anyways and have a picnic with a twist. Have a pizza or Chinese food delivered to wherever you’re at! This is easiest at a public place you know is in their delivery area, like a park with tables. It’s still pretty inexpensive as meals go, and it will be way more fun than just ordering a pizza at home.

8. Ice Cream “Social”

Go out for dinner, but plan to have the dessert at home. Grab all the fixin’s for ice cream sundaes (the more decked out the better) and have an “ice cream social” at your house after dinner. If you want to take this to a really special level, head to your local “paint it yourself” pottery store and paint her a sweet ice cream dish. She can take it home as her gift after the “social!”

9. Wii Competition

Lots of girls are competitive. Plan a simple date night by having a Wii championship. Choose whatever game your partner feels like they’re best at, and make sure to win a few times but ultimately end up losing the championship to her (make it believable!) Ideally, you’ll have both set a “winner takes all” wager, and she’ll get either great sex or a lifetime of servitude.

10. At Your Service

If you can’t plan something really special for Valentine’s Day, have a normal night at home. It won’t be a normal night though – you’re going to make her feel like a princess! Wait on her hand and foot, clean up the house, fix her dinner and give her an incredible foot or back massage afterwards. For the entire evening, she is to be treated like royalty. It’s a very special and fun Valentine’s Day date that doesn’t cost a thing!