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How To Make A Girl Like You

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There’s no dating formula that you can use to make a woman be interested in you. You certainly can’t force it, but does that mean you just have to go with the flow and let whatever happens happen? Not exactly. While there’s no tried and true way to make a woman want to hang out with you, you can use these great suggestions to help her realize what a fun, awesome and attractive guy you are! After you show her how great spending time with you can be, there’s no way she won’t think you’re awesome!

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Don’t Force It

You can’t force someone to be attracted to you when you want to be dating them. It just doesn’t happen that way! Obligation, of course, is very unattractive. A woman will not be attracted to you if she feels obligated in any way towards you, whether it’s feeling obligated to be dating you, or to spend time with you or have sex with you. There’s a reason that they say “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” You’ve got to give someone the opportunity to want to spend time with you.

This is actually a huge reason that married couples and couples in long term relationships lose attraction between each other. They feel too much obligation to spend time together or have sex with each other, and they never give their partners the opportunity or chance to want it naturally, without forcing it.

Have Fun

The most important thing to remember when playing the dating game is to have fun. Dating is all about having fun and if you take it too seriously, you’re not going to get very far at all! When hanging out with a woman you really like, make fun your first priority. Make sure you have positive, fun experiences together. Talk to her and get to know her and what she thinks is funny, and tell great jokes that make her laugh. It also doesn’t hurt to be a little protective of her and of course, chivalrous.

Chivalry is not dead, contrary to popular belief! While women don’t necessarily “need” a strong, confident man to protect them, wanting a man like that is hardwired into a woman’s DNA. Even the most independent, self reliant woman will be instantly attracted to a man that looks and acts like a man who can take care of a woman. Even if she doesn’t actually want you to “take care” of anything, showing her that you’re the kind of man that will appeals to something deep inside her that she really never even knew was there!

Give her the emotions she deeply craves, but don’t be too predictable, otherwise she’ll take you for granted. Be a strong, confident man and watch as she gravitates towards you without thinking. This is a great way to get a girlfriend without making it look like you’re desperate or trying too hard.

Give Her Freedom

When dating, it’s important that you not be the “clingy” guy. Show her you’re not jealous, and that you value her freedom. Most women aren’t going to be interested in a guy that is clingy, asks her what she’s doing, when she’s doing it and who she’ll be with. Not valuing her freedom and her right to do what she wishes is the fastest way to end up alone! When you show her that you’re cool with her doing what she wants, you show her that you not only trust her, but that you’re secure enough in yourself that you’re not worried about what is going to happen next. This is an extremely attractive quality in a man!

If you encourage her to go have fun with her other friends, it will create an attractive energy towards you. She’ll be much more interested in you because you’re fun to be around and you’re confident enough that you’re not going to get jealous if she’s hanging out with other people. This will give her the time and opportunity to think about you while she’s away from you and allow her to want you, which is extremely important in any relationship.

If you smother her and put up a fight when she wants to go do things without you, not only are you creating an environment in which she has no room to miss you or want you, you’re also creating a hostile environment that will make her feel trapped and smothered. You’ve heard the saying, “let her go and if she comes back, she’s yours,” right? That definitely applies here!

Sex Toys – Top 5 Myths

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Sex toys are the subject of many misconceptions and rumors, causing many couples and singles that would consider purchasing them to rethink their decision. Most of the rumors surrounding them are absolute bunk! Using sex toys safely does require a little education on which objects to use during certain activities, however, it’s time to dispel the myths that surround sex toys once and for all.

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If A Woman Has A Sex Toy, She Won’t Need A Man

It is a common misconception that if a woman owns a vibrator or a dildo, that she will no longer need a man sexually. While sex toys are designed to give a woman an orgasm (and usually can do it faster and more efficiently), they will never replace the intimacy, love and comfort that a human being can provide for us. A sex toy can give a woman an orgasm, but it can’t make her feel loved and cherished. A sex toy can’t tell you it loves you. The same goes for men – just because a man masturbates, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need or enjoy sex with his female partner.

More Expensive Sex Toys Are Better

Luxury sex toys are just that – a luxury. They look and feel great, but does that mean that more economical toys won’t do the job just as well? Not hardly. A modestly priced vibrator will give you the same buzz as a 24 K gold one encrusted with diamonds. Keep this in mind when shopping for a new dildo or vibrator. It’s important to stay within your budget, but don’t deny yourself a great sex toy just because you think you can’t afford a good one. There are lots of great vibrators and dildos that will leave you just as satisfied sexually as one that cost twice or three times as much. Don’t rush into making the purchase – find one that has everything you’re looking for in a sex toy that is priced affordably.

Only People With Bad Sex Lives Need To Use Sex Toys

Another common misconception about sex toys is that they’re reserved for single people or couples who don’t have very good sex lives. This is definitely not true! Sex toys can be part of a healthy and hot sexual relationship. They can enhance sexual pleasure for both men and women, and can help a woman have an orgasm when she ordinarily wouldn’t have one. In fact, many couples who don’t have good sex lives won’t use toys because they don’t talk about what feels good or what they’d like to try. Don’t underestimate communication in a sexual relationship! Lots of sex toys are designed for couples who want to add an extra kick to their already spicy sex life. For example, a clitoris vibrator can stimulate a woman while her partner penetrates her, while anal beads can make a blowjob absolutely amazing.

Sex Toys Aren’t “Natural”

Many women can’t achieve orgasm through “natural” sex – that is, without the help of a favorite toy. It is not at all uncommon for a woman to need a vibrator to help get her over the top, even if her partner does everything that pleases her, including oral sex or fingering. Some women just can’t get there without the help of a toy. Does this mean she should fake her orgasm in lieu of “natural” sex? Absolutely not. Every woman deserves a satisfying sex life, and sex toys can actually be a great part of a naturally satisfying sexual experience. Many couples who use them actually notice that their relationship improves, both in and out of the bedroom!

Sex Toys Can Hurt Your Body

There is no medical evidence to support the claim that even regular use of sex toys will damage the body when used properly. Keep in mind that if you are super aggressive with your toy (and this can happen even during “natural sex”), you stand a chance of hurting yourself or your partner. However, do some research about the toy you’re buying – certain toys should be used for certain activities. For example, anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base at the bottom to keep them from getting “lost” inside the anal cavity. Anything used for anal sex should have this, or it’s simply not safe to use for anal play and is better suited for vaginal penetration or other types of stimulation. You may also want to pay attention to what materials are being used for the objects in question and whether they can leave you with harmful side effects. If you’re allergic to latex, don’t get a latex sex toy!

Is It Okay To Date A Friend’s Ex?

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When you’re dating and you fall for a friend’s ex-boyfriend girlfriend, trouble could be brewing. Some people believe that you should never date a friend’s past partner, but that’s not necessarily true. Yet there are certainly lots of factors to gauge before deciding to date a friend’s former flame.

So You Like Your Friend’s Ex – Now What?

If you’ve fallen for your friend’s past significant other, you need to consider a lot of things before moving forward. First and foremost, you need to be certain that your friend’s past lover is also interested in you. If you make a move to start dating them and they turn you down, you could still anger your friend. Then you come out a loser not one, but two fronts. Therefore, you really shouldn’t risk damaging your friendship unless you’re dealing with a sure thing.

How Did They Break Up?

Once you’re certain that the object of your affection shares your feelings, you need to consider your friend’s standpoint very carefully. How did his or her relationship end with said person? Did your friend do the dumping, or were they the dump-ee? Was the breakup an ugly or fairly amicable one? Has your friend ever hinted to you that he or she is still attracted to them? Have they mentioned hoping for a reconciliation with this person?

If your friend did the dumping because he or she was looking to move on, you might be okay. Likewise, you can move forward if that friend has moved on themselves and has a new boyfriend or girlfriend. If your friend was dumped and suffered a lot of pain as a result, or if he/she is still mooning after their former flame, you need to hold up. Even if he or she has found a new boyfriend or girlfriend, if their breakup with this ex was particularly messy, you should still give serious pause.

Preserving Your Friendship

The next thing to consider is the state of your friendship. Just how close of friends are you? You must acknowledge that, regardless of how the break up happened, there’s still a chance your friend could become very angry with you. They may even break off your friendship. If the thought of losing this particular friend is too much to bear, then you may have to pass on this romantic opportunity. If this friend isn’t particularly close to you, however, you may find that dating their former partner is more valuable to you than your friendship with them. Just be certain that you know where you stand and assess the risks before proceeding with dating the old lover.

Pursuing A Relationship With The Ex

Should you decide that you are going to start dating your friend’s ex, you need to be very careful about how you handle it. Don’t try to hide it from your friend—that will make things far worse. Lying about or covering it up will only give your friend more things to be mad about. Additionally, it makes you look bad to everyone involved. You’ll seem sneaky and like a backstabber. Instead, be open and up front. Pull your friend aside and let him or her know what’s going on.

Tell your friend that you hope he or she will be understanding, but that you also completely get it if he or she is angry with you. Be sensitive to his or her feelings. You may want to avoid hanging out with your friend as a couple at first. Ease your friend into the situation. If your friend really can’t deal with it, don’t force the issue. Let him or her know that you hope he/she can come around to the idea, then give your friend a lot of space. Hopefully they will eventually be able to move on, and you can all come to terms with you and the former partner dating sooner rather than later.

Sex Tips: 5 Ways To Keep A One Night Stand From Being Awkward

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Having sex with someone you just met can be super fun and frisky, but it can also be downright weird if things don’t go the way you planned. There’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults hooking up for some naughty satisfaction, but there are lots of ways to ruin a good one night stand. Avoid one night stand mishaps by following these five simple but essential rules.

Don’t Leave Anything Behind

You might be tempted to leave something of yours behind at your hookup’s house to either get them to remember you or give yourself an excuse to go back and have sex with them again. This is a definite one night stand no-no. When you’re hooking up, make sure that you don’t wear or bring anything valuable to you. You definitely don’t want to wear jewelry and while you may want to look nice, your favorite jeans or best looking shirt is not something you want to leave behind. Let’s face it – if you leave something of yours behind after a one night stand, it’s a good bet you’re never going to see it again. And you shouldn’t.

Don’t Ask For A Phone Number

Some people may feel tempted to score a phone number after a one night stand, even if it’s just to save face. This is one of the worst hookup mistakes you can make! No matter how awesome the sex was or how great an orgasm you had, calling them, texting them or emailing them is just not going to make you look very cool. In fact, it will make you look quite desperate! If you’re going to have a one night stand and have sex with someone you don’t know, make it stay it that way and don’t get to know them. They probably don’t want to get to know you. The one exception to this rule is if you and your f-buddy have decided beforehand that the sexual relationship will be a long standing one, i.e. a booty call.

Don’t Keep Their Stuff In Your House

For the same reason that you shouldn’t leave your stuff behind after one night stand sex, you shouldn’t hang on to stuff around that they might have left at your place. Whether it’s a thong, boxers or a nice watch, pitch it. There’s a reason you don’t bring anything valuable to a sex hookup, especially if it’s with someone you just met or don’t know well. If you happen to have their phone number, you can send them a casual text that they’ve left something, but hopefully you don’t have their phone number and they don’t have yours. If you are able to, however, make sure you designate a completely benign time and place for them to pick it up such as a restaurant during the day or heck, the post office. The idea is to make it completely casual.

Don’t Be Tempted To Cuddle

A lot of girls will insist on cuddling after sex, much to the man’s chagrin. Of course, sometimes it is vice versa. However, if it was a hookup and a hookup only, cuddling is a big mistake no matter who initiates it. You don’t know them and they don’t know you, so why do you want to hold each other in an intimate way? Cuddling completely takes away from the thrill of no-holds barred sex (and sex only) with someone you don’t know. After sex, make a beeline for the bathroom and get yourself cleaned up so you can start getting dressed. A simple, “That was great, thanks!” conversation is all you need after a one night stand.

Don’t Stalk Them Online

So you’ve gotten the one night stand out of your system and it was great. The oral sex was great, the intercourse was great and it was exactly what you needed. Leave it there and move on. Too many people (mostly women, but some men too) are tempted to stalk their f-buddy online on various social networking sites like Facebook or MySpace. Sure, you’d like to check out some pics of your super hot hookup, but do you really want to see his wedding pictures or the pictures of his kids? Do you really want to see what her boyfriend looks like or who else might have hit that? Exactly. If you simply can’t resist checking out their Facebook page, for the love of all that is sacred, do not “friend” them or leave a comment. The best way to move forward after a one night stand is to do exactly that.

Unhappy Couples Make These Sex Mistakes – Do You?

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Sex mistakes are something that happens in almost every relationship, especially if two people have been together for any real length of time. Some of them aren’t going to be that bad and may give you or your partner a laugh or two, but we’re not talking about passing gas on accident during sex. There are a few problems that guys and gals have that can cause distress in the relationship – or end it completely. Do you make sex mistakes that could end it all?

Waiting To Get In The Right Mood

This is one of the worst mistakes that you can make! Many people in relationships wait to get in the right mood before having sex. While waiting for the mood to strike will definitely make for an incredibly hot evening, the chances of that actually happening are few and far between. For many people, day to day life often gets in the way of sexual intimacy and it’s difficult to actually get in the mood after a long day of work, making dinner and taking care of the kids. Instead of waiting for the mood to hit you, try setting a date for sex and do it whether you feel like it or not. Chances are, once you shut the rest of the world out and focus on you and your partner getting it on, you’ll find that you’re much more into it than you were when you started.

Foregoing Trying Something New

If you are stuck in a “comfort zone,” you’re certainly not alone. Like chicken soup when you’re sick, the boring old, we’re-doing-it-just-to-be-doing-it sex is comforting – but unlike chicken soup does, this very rarely ever hits the spot. Break out of your rut by trying a few new things instead of simply sticking to what you know. Try some new sex positions, or incorporate a new sex toy into the mix. You can play sexy dress up or even try taking dirty to each other. Use your creativity! No matter what you do, don’t get stuck doing the same thing over and over in the bedroom. It’s time to mix it up!

Thinking Sex Education Is For Beginners

People who have been doing it for awhile seem to believe that reading up on sex or how to give their partner an incredible orgasm is for beginners. They assume that since they’ve been doing it for years that they know all there is to know about it! Instead of thinking that you already know how to push your partner’s pleasure buttons, try reading a little bit on how to go down on your partner and get them begging for more. Or, you can always try communicating with them by asking them what feels good, what they like and what they don’t like. Don’t worry – an old dog can learn new tricks!

Thinking Sex Is A Means To An End

After being with someone for awhile, you stop relishing every moment you’re naked with your partner. You’ve seen her butt and her breasts a thousand times and she’s seen your package up close and personal more times than either of you would like to count, and not because you were doing it at the time. Men and women that live together or spend a lot of time together see each other naked a lot and often in very compromising situations. This usually leads people to feel less like taking their time with foreplay and more like doing it just to get an orgasm. Take some time out to cherish your partner’s body and enjoy it like you did before you saw it on the toilet or plucking stray hairs in weird places.

Withholding Sex

Women are notorious for withholding sex from their lovers when they’re angry. Chances are, the guy doesn’t even know why she doesn’t want to do it – or what he did wrong in the first place. Save the withholding for when you really have a headache or aren’t feeling good. Withholding to punish your guy won’t do a darn thing besides keep you from getting an amazing climax. Instead, tell your man what you’re upset about or why you’re angry and talk it out instead of being passive aggressive. You may just find that after talking to your partner and hearing an apology or his side of the story may make you less angry – and everyone knows that some of the best sex on earth is after a huge fight!