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What To Keep In Mind – And In Your Purse – If You’re Single

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Safe sex is the best kind of sex, especially if you’re single. Many single women aren’t ready to get pregnant and have a baby, and nobody wants to contract a sexually transmitted disease or infection like chlamydia or HIV and AIDS. If safety is on your checklist for great sex, here are some things you may want to keep in your purse in case you get caught in an an impromptu situation and want the freedom to have safe sex if you’d like to.

Condoms

Keeping condoms in your purse may seem like a no-brainer, but many women end up getting caught in impromptu sex situations unprepared. Condoms protect against pregnancy and most STD’s. Although condoms aren’t foolproof, they’re the best sex accessory if you want to have fun and safe sex without having to worry about getting pregnant when you’re not ready or contracting a sexually transmitted disease or infection that is at best inconvenient and at worst life threatening. You may also want to keep flavored condoms in your purse in the event of oral sex. When keeping condoms in your purse, don’t throw them in there unless they’re in a protective sleeve or case first. Putting condoms in your purse loose can cause the wrapper or condom to get holes in it when all of the stuff in your purse bounces around during daily use. Guys shouldn’t put condoms in their wallet, because this can cause condoms to break down faster due to temperature issues. Condoms should be kept clean and dry and at room temperature to stay effective. Always inspect the wrapper first to check for holes or damage, and make sure you check the expiration date if you’ve had it for awhile.

Spermicide

Some couples don’t like using spermicide for pregnancy protection, but it can be an excellent option if you’re with an STD free partner and don’t want to use condoms, but still want protection from unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. Spermicide is also a great option for women or couples who want another layer of protection in addition to condoms or birth control – or both. Spermicides come in many different forms, some that are more convenient than others. Contraceptive foam is the least expensive, but may burn or cause discomfort for you or your sex partner. Suppositories are good options because they are small and easy to carry, but your partner will most likely know that you’ve used spermicide. The newest type of spermicide on the market is a contraceptive film. It is a thin, clear square that looks like plastic and is folded up and placed in the vagina behind the cervix. It takes about ten to fifteen minutes, but the film will “melt” and create a gel-like barrier of spermicide in front of the cervix. They can be kept in a purse or wallet and can be used discreetly without your partner knowing you’ve used it.

Birth Control

If you’d like to take pregnancy protection into your own hands, consider going on birth control if you’re not already on it. Talk to your doctor about the right kind of birth control for you and how to take it so it is most effective against unplanned pregnancies. Birth control doesn’t protect against STD’s, so if you’re with a new partner, make sure you’re using a condom as well. Plan-B, or emergency contraception, is a good thing to keep on hand as well, in case a condom breaks or you miss too many birth control pills.

Dental Dam

A dental dam is a small square of latex or plastic that is laid over the vagina during cunnilingus to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Contrary to popular belief, there are many STD’s that can be transmitted through oral sex on a woman including chlamydia and yeast infections. Keeping a dental dam in your purse will ensure that you’ve got it if you need it – for example, you’d like a new partner to perform oral sex on you but he won’t do so without the necessary safe sex tools. Many women believe that using a dental dam is less pleasurable than feeling the tongue itself, but you can closely mimic this feeling by putting a dab of lube underneath the dental dam, in between the latex and the clitoris. This allows the dental dam to slide around on the vagina, much like a tongue or mouth would. Many dental dams come in flavors, making it much much more pleasurable for the partner giving the oral sex.

How To Get A First Date

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Asking someone out on a first date can be highly nerve-wracking. In fact, fear of rejection can cause people to put off, or even give up on, asking someone out. That’s very unfortunate. Risky though it may be, asking for a first date can be highly rewarding. Though you can never be one hundred percent certain you’ll get the “yes” you’re looking for, you can up your odds. A little planning and skillful flirting can go a long way.

Reading The Body Language

So you’ve met someone that you’re interested in, and you’ve decided to ask them out. What now? Before you set a plan in motion, think over the interaction you’ve had with this person so far. You want to be sure they’ll be at least somewhat receptive to your advances. How did they act when you spoke with them in person? Were they upbeat, laughing at your jokes, and smiling a lot? What was their body language like? Did he or she lean in close when you were talking? Did they ever rest their hand on your arm or shoulder, or even give you a hug at the end of the night? All of these actions are indicators that they’re attracted to you.

If they acted in the opposite manner—closed off, somber, etc.—they probably aren’t interested. Don’t waste your time asking someone out, unless the evidence points to them liking you.

Coming Up With The Right Material For A First Date

If the person you’d like to be dating is a friend of a friend, there’s no shame in doing some reconnaissance work. Ask your friend for a little background on your new love interest. This will allow you to come up with a plan for a date that will be that much more enticing. Besides, your mutual friend may mention your interest to the guy or gal you’re pursuing, which will allow your friend to further gauge their interest in you.

If you don’t have a friend in common, try to recall anything that might have come up during your previous conversations with your intended. Did they mention a favorite band or sports team that you could get tickets to see? Maybe they brought up a movie or show they have been hoping to check out. If your date idea references something they mentioned when talking to you, that will show him or her that you’re very attentive and thoughtful.

Making The Phone Call

Now that you’ve got a date plan in mind and have decided that this individual is definitely interested in you, it’s time to call them up. Never invite someone on a date using email or a text message. In an ideal world, you’d be able to ask them in person, but if you’re not going to see each other soon, phone flirting is your best bet. Be simple and straightforward in your speech, without being forceful or over the top.

Say hello and ask how he or she has been doing, then get right to the point. Tell them how you enjoyed talking to them the last time you saw them. Then ask them if they’d be interested in going out with you to whatever event you’ve decided on. Tell them you’d really like to get to know them better in a one-on-one setting, just to make sure they don’t think you’re asking them to a group hang. Thanks to your advance planning and clear, simple wording, odds are very good you’ll get the yes you’re hoping to hear.

6 Types Of Sex You Need To Try – Tonight!

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Sex can of course get boring. It’s a natural, albeit frustrating progression of long term relationships. But does being in a committed, monogamous relationship and doing it with the same person again and again mean that you’re stuck with boring sex for the rest of your life? Not hardly! Check out these six different kinds that will turn up the heat in the bedroom – or elsewhere. Each type is amazing and satisfying in its own way – try one out with your partner tonight!

Animal Sex

There’s just something special about the “I want you right now!” kind of nookie. When you do it like the animals do, you forget about everything else except “doing it.” Every once in awhile, throw down everything that you’re doing, no matter what it is, and just have do it with your lover right then and there. Bend your partner over the stove while she’s cooking, or do it over the washer while she’s washing clothes. Let your partner know that you have to have them right now or you’re just going to bust! Bonus points if you do this with oral sex instead of penetration.

Chicken Soup Sex

When you or your partner had a bad day at work or are feeling down about something, the right kind of nookie can be just like a bowl of chicken soup. Warm and comforting, it’s just what you want right when you want it. With this type, you want to use the sex positions that are most comfortable for you and your partner. If missionary is what you both like, don’t worry that it’s considered “boring.” Don’t worry about trying something new, “spicing it up” or looking a certain way during the deed. Just do what you’re comfortable with and what feels good.

Make Up Sex

Make up sex can be some of the best you or your partner have ever had. After an especially big fight (or even a little tiff if you feel like it), start kissing your lover deeply and passionately. When they kiss you back, make a move to start taking off their clothes. Like chicken soup sex, it can make you feel better when you’re down because of a fight you and your partner just had. This type of nookie also has a way of making everything seem like the fight never happened, especially when you’re basking in the glow of an amazing orgasm.

Quickie Sex

There’s nothing like an amazing quickie. Just when you think you don’t have time to do the dirty deed, your partner surprises you by taking advantage of the situation and reaching climax in record time. While many couples in long term relationships get “tired” of having quickies, having a quickie is actually a great way to get the desire for pleasure out of your system in a short amount of time. Whether you’re in the back of the car on a pit stop during a road trip or have to do it fast before the kids get home from school, the quickie is great – just in a shorter amount of time.

Public Sex

There’s very little out there that will give you the adrenaline rush that public sex will. This will usually involve a quickie, but doing it in public is very different than just having a quickie in your house. The fear of getting caught or being watched by other people while you do it is an amazing turn on for both you and your partner, and it is a great way to spice up your life. Don’t do it anywhere that you could get caught and have permanent repercussions for you, such as losing your job or getting arrested.

Marathon Sex

If you have a day off without kids in the house – for example, if you’re snowed in – it’s the perfect time to set up a little sex marathon for you and your partner to engage in. Instead of trying to do it as quick as you can, try to last as long as you can. Try going through all of the different positions you know, or breaking the record of how many orgasms you can give your partner in a row. You can prolong it by switching between oral sex, foreplay and penetration, or you can take small breaks in between several sessions. Don’t stop until you’re both completely exhausted and satisfied!

How To Get A Girlfriend

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Dating and getting a girlfriend isn’t always the easiest thing to do – in fact, it’s downright frightening! Not only is dating scary and intimidating, you’re not always sure what you’re going to get out of the deal. Will you get a girlfriend, a one night stand or will you get rejected, yet again? Instead of worrying about how you’re going to get a date, use these three simple yet extremely effective suggestions to make sure you do get the girl!

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Have Your Own Life

When dating, many guys assume that they have to put all of their time and effort into scoring a date with a girl. Instead of having a life of their own where they do things that they enjoy doing, they sit at a bar waiting for the right girl to walk in. This is not the best way to get a girlfriend! In fact, the best way to meet the right woman for you is to have your own life and do the things you like to do. Be at the places you like to be and take part in activities that make you happy.

What is so great about this is that instead of meeting a woman at a bar, you’ll meet her while doing something that is actually interesting to you and you know you’ll have at least one thing in common with them! If you are too desperate for a relationship, you put off a clingy, needy energy. Women will instantly pick up on this and they’ll actually be repelled by you – not attracted to you. If you have your own life, women will see that you are confident and able to have fun without them – and that you’re fun to be with!

Don’t Be Afraid To Make The First Move

Many guys are afraid to make the first move when playing the dating game, whether it’s flirting with a girl or kissing her. They’re afraid that a woman will reject them if they make the first move, so they play it safe and avoid doing anything at all! These guys may stand in the corner of the bar, looking around at cute women but never taking a step forward to meet them or say hello. If you are too timid when first meeting a woman, you’ll be stuck in the friend zone for sure!

Instead of hanging back and waiting for a woman to approach you, walk up to her and strike up a conversation! Introduce yourself and ask her a question about herself instead of using a lame pickup line. Don’t compliment her looks – instead, compliment her work ethic or tell her how hot it is that she’s into baseball. If she’s responding well to you and seems to be laughing and joking with you, put your hand on her knee or shoulder. Look her in the eyes and if things seem to get romantic, lean in for a kiss. Just don’t go too far before she’s really warmed up to you. Make sure that you are aware of her reactions – don’t push it if she’s not ready.

Show Your Interest Physically Instead Of Verbally

While telling a woman that you like her is one thing, actually showing her is the best way to move from dating to actually getting a girlfriend. This is where reading body language comes in. If you don’t know how to look at her body, the way she is standing and what she’s doing with her hands to tell if she likes you or not, it’s time to learn. Most women won’t flat out tell you that they like you. Instead, she might start touching you while she’s talking to you or lick their lips if she wants you to kiss her. Learn how to read body language instead of asking her if it’s okay for you to kiss her.

If you ask permission, it’s a turn off because it shows that you aren’t aware of her interest. Sure, you’re risking rejection by doing it, but keep in mind that if a girl seems to like you but doesn’t want to kiss you or go home with you, she’s not rejecting you – she’s just rejecting the next step. If you don’t make a big deal out of it, you may get another chance. Remember that the dating game is all about taking risks! Having the confidence to put yourself out there and taking the risk of being rejected by a woman is actually very sexy and attractive!

How To Turn On Your Girl Without Touching Her

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You’ve read about foreplay and how to sex manuals before and you just haven’t found the right way to make your woman want you like never before. That’s about to change! You can make your partner want to have sex with you right now, if you use these four little know foreplay tips.

In fact, you’ll get her wetter than you ever have before without even laying your hands on her.

Leave Your Scent On Her Pillow

Your scent is what will really drive her crazy and get her more turned on than she’s ever been in her life. Your scent is actually what drew her to you in the first place, even if it was subconsciously. We’re not talking about your favorite cologne here, however, your cologne can actually play a part in how hot your smell makes your lover.

What makes your partner instantly turned on by you are your pheromones – the special hormones that are secreted by you in your sweat and on your skin. Each person’s pheromones are different, so you can be assured that it’s your smell that she’s so crazy about. Add a hint of cologne to your natural “man” smell and she’ll be head over heels in no time – or is that heels over head?

To make her horny before you even lay your hands on her, switch pillows with her for a night or two. Sleep with her pillow and don’t be afraid to put it under your arm and snuggle up with it. Get as much of your scent on her pillow as you can. The next night she sleeps with it, you’re definitely going to get some.

Compliment Her

Every woman loves getting complimented by a man, especially if it’s her man. While telling her that she looks great may seem like a straightforward compliment, it’s not going to get you laid in and of itself. In fact, a compliment like that won’t even make her horny and want to have sex with you. However, if you choose the right compliment, she will want to do it with you without you even having to make a move on her.

Instead of saying something about how she looks or what she’s wearing, say something about how hard she works or how much her skills amaze you. Talk about how great her cooking is or how awesome she is at her job. Compliment something that she’s really worked hard for and you’ll be in the sack with her before you know it.

Master The Smoldering Look

There’s a reason that there are so many movies out there with “brooding” male characters that make every woman swoon.  Many sexy actors can pull off the “smoldering” look that will make a woman instantly melt and be absolutely powerless against you and your advances. There’s no better foreplay technique.

However, if you get the smoldering look right, you’ll probably have your woman throwing herself at you before you can even get your pants unzipped. Believe it or not, this tip in and of itself is one of the most powerful ways to get her hot and bothered, even more so than dirty talk or any other sex tip out there!

When you’re by yourself one night, rent a few of the popular movies that all the women are talking about. Check out the way the guys in the movie look at the women – almost like their feelings for the woman are so powerful and overwhelming, they’re almost painful. Stand in front of the mirror and practice the look – once you feel comfortable doing it, give your lovely lady the same look. Watch as she melts right before your eyes!

Do Something “Manly” For Your Girl

Since the women’s rights movement, the amount of “manly things” that men do and women don’t has decreased. Now women are mowing the lawns and men are cooking dinner, as well as doing other role reversed activities. Sure, a woman can fix a toilet or a garbage disposal. She can mow the lawn, put oil in the car and do anything else you can. But does she want to? Not hardly!

You can actually turn her on by stepping up and doing something “manly” for her. Don’t insist that she can’t do it or take the task from her because you can do it “right” or better than she can. This attitude will backfire in your face! Instead, you’re going to beat her to the punch and do something manly for her before she can even think about it needing to be done. Fill her car with gas in the morning before she wakes up to get ready for work, or have the water drip in the bathroom fixed before she comes home.

Bonus points if she comes home to a shirtless man in grease covered jeans with a wrench in his hand. You might just find that the wrench doubles as a sex toy and that your jeans didn’t stay on very long.