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Q&A: Top 10 Valentine’s Day Gifts For Men

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Getting a gift for your guy on Valentine’s Day is tricky business. Girls are easy to buy for – chocolates, flowers, jewelry. Cliche? Yes, but when have women ever not liked flowers or jewelry? Men, on the other hand, are a little bit tougher to buy for. So here are some great ideas for what to get him this Valentine’s Day – because YOU asked!

I have a question – what gifts do guys like to get for Valentine’s Day?

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  • Sexy Lingerie. Every guy loves seeing his woman in negligee. Make sure to find some that fits you – you want to look good and feel confident. Feel like you have a muffin top in the garter belt? Try a sweet, lacy babydoll instead. Your confidence is what makes it the sexiest.
  • Have A Wild, Sexy Night. No good girls allowed! Be naughty, but definitely don’t be nice! Take this one night to let the wild girl inside you go.
  • Try A Sex Game. Ever played a sex game before? They’re fun, and downright kinky at times. A sex game will not only take the guesswork out of what to do next, it keeps the night full of fresh, sexy ideas so you and your partner will never get bored.
  • Sext Him. It’s Valentine’s Day, so sex is pretty much in the bag, right? Sure, but why not titillate him all day with racy text messages about what you’re going to do to him when you finally get him home alone? He’ll be so hot by the time he walks in the door, he won’t be able to help but jump all over you.
  • Send Him A Racy Photo. One of the great things about cell phones is that the majority of them have a picture app. Take a racy (or raunchy, depending on how you guys like it) photo of yourself and send it to him as a surprise, given that you are18 or older. He won’t be able to stop thinking about you all day! Bonus points if you take a photo of yourself in the new lingerie you bought for the occasion.
  • Fulfull His Deepest, Wildest Fantasy. Yes, your man has a fantasy. Has he told you about it yet? Probably not. If you can get him to divulge, let him know that this Valentine’s Day, his fantasies are going to come true. This may take some advance planning though, especially if it involves costumes and the like.
  • Do A Sexy Striptease. Every guy loves a good striptease. Give him one like he would get at the club. Don’t know how to dance? No problem. A little writhing and grinding while he’s sitting in a chair is just as good.
  • Get Him A Cool New Gadget. Is your guy a techie? How about getting him the latest gadget for his phone or laptop?
  • Get Him Tickets To See His Favorite Team Play. If your guy is a sports buff, game tickets are a shoe-in.
  • Give Him A Really Awesome Blowjob. What man doesn’t LOVE a good blowjob? None. Not one. So get some flavored lube and give your guy a fabulous one. Make the night all about him. He’ll go absolutely nuts!

Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea – Fun In The Tub

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Picking a present for your honey on Valentine’s Day is tough. Especially if you want to do something fun and sexy for them instead of getting chocolates, flowers or pink teddy bears. So here’s a great idea for this Valentine’s Day – get hot, get wet and get in the tub with some brand-spanking-new sex toys for a night of soapy fun!

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Spend Valentine’s Day With Your Partner

Spending a lot of money on jewelry for your partner or buying an expensive gift is way – way – overrated. Valentine’s Day is about celebrating the fact that you and your partner are together and in love – so why throw money away on a gift just to say you did something for Valentine’s Day? Why not spend time with your partner and enjoy being together alone? Most couples don’t get a lot of alone time these days, especially if they have children together. Take some time out on Valentine’s Day to make love – and be in love!

Check In To Fun

Get away from the house for a night and check into a hotel, even if it’s just across the street from where you live. Different surroundings will definitely set the mood for a night of fun and romance. Just one thing the hotel must have? A Jacuzzi or a garden tub in the room. This Valentine’s Day you’re going to have fun in the tub – but not just any old tub and certainly not the tub you take showers in and bathe the kids in every day. How romantic is stepping on a wet Barbie doll while you’re trying to get it on?

Set the ambiance in the hotel by purchasing some nice smelling bath additive that is safe for hot tubs, light some candles (or use safer LED candles) and bring strawberries and champagne. Or cheeses and champagne. Or a decadent dessert and champagne. Get the picture? Bring champagne. Just make sure that whatever you bring to eat isn’t going to sit heavy on the stomach and make you want to nap instead of play. Also, bring something to do. Cards for strip poker, a sexy movie to watch or anything that sparks your interest. You don’t want to get through the door, put your bags down and say, “Okay, are you ready to have tub sex now?” Make it more interesting than that.

Foreplay In The Tub

Make sure that you’re also well prepared for having fun in the tub. Waterproof vibrators are always fun, especially if this fabulous Valentine’s Day occasion will be their maiden voyage. Sexy bathtub games are fun too and are great at keeping things from getting boring too quickly. There are a wide variety of fun, sexy toys that can be used in – and out – of the bathtub to make this Valentine’s Day a great one. Being prepared with fun things to do in the tub and lots of sexy foreplay ideas will help make the night memorable instead of quick and dirty. Remember, it’s all about having a great time and enjoying being with your partner!

Be sure to read Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas: Sexy Games For Couples and Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas: Gettin’ Kinky for more great ideas on how to heat up your Valentine’s Day night!

How To Improve Your Sexual Fitness

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Everyone wants better sex. Whether your sex life is suffering or you’re already having great sex, there is always the desire to make it better. So how can you have better sex? Improving your sexual fitness. Surprisingly, however, improving your sexual fitness is no different than improving your body’s fitness. Here’s how to get healthier so you can have even better sex than you’re already having.

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Toss The Junk Food

Food is fuel for our bodies, and we use that fuel during every activity that we do, including sex. Filling your body with potato chips, fast food and things that aren’t really nourishing isn’t going to give you the fuel you need for a great sex life. Instead, try to swap poor food choices with better ones. You don’t have to eat perfect all the time, but making an effort to make better food choices every day will make a difference, even if you splurge for the chocolate cake every once in awhile. Swap a hamburger for a grilled chicken sandwich at the drive-thru, or drink ice water instead of soda.

Exercise!

Yes! Exercise is the key to a healthier, happier body both in and out of the bedroom. Does that mean you have to spend hours at the gym working out every day? Not hardly. Making time for exercise a few times a week will definitely help improve your overall fitness – and your sexual fitness! Try for a few minutes a day, or even 15 minutes just a few times a week. Take the stairs at work instead of the elevator, or take a walk with your partner in the evening. Anything that you can do to get your heart rate up and improve your stamina is going to make a difference.

Strengthen Your Core Muscles

If you do decide to do any weight lifting or muscle toning, work on your core muscles – you know, the ones you use during sex. Abdominal muscles, glutes and leg muscles are among the most widely used muscles in our bodies when we have sex and if these muscles are in poor condition, you can bet that you’ll be pretty sore after sex. Improving the strength of your core muscles can help you last longer in bed and be more comfortable in new and different sex positions.

Minor Changes Will Make The Most Difference

When most people vow to become more fit, start exercising and eating better, they often bite off more than they can chew. Going on a strict diet or forcing yourself to work out every day is only going to burn you out really fast, instead of actually improving your sex life. Try to make small changes here and there that you are more likely to stick with instead of quit. Focus on making minor changes in your eating habits and getting a little bit of exercise each day or a few times a week to avoid overwhelming yourself. You’ll start noticing the changes in the bedroom before you know it!

Q&A: Should We Wait To Have Sex?

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It’s one of the most commonly asked questions about sex – when is the right time to have sex? Unfortunately, there’s no concrete answer to this question because the answer is different for everyone. Here are some things to explore on your own to decide if you should wait to have sex.

Question: I am 14. I like this girl and I want to ”do” her. Should I wait or what?

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Teenage Hormones

Teenagers and even pre-teens are just beginning to discover their sexuality. As you go through puberty, your body is responding to different hormones in different ways. Both boys and girls experience an increase in sexual desire, which can be overwhelming when you’ve never felt anything like it before. If you’re a teenager thinking about having sex for the first time, try to remember that almost every other teenager is or has been in your shoes before. Incredible sexual desire is just something that teenagers go through as they grow into a mature adult and learning how to handle it is part of being mature enough to start having sex.

What To Consider Before You Have Sex

There are many things to consider before having sex. First of all, make sure your partner wants to have sex too. Make sure you are both comfortable with each other and this is something you both want to experience together. Do some research before you have sex. Find out how to use a condom and how to prevent pregnancy. Learn what STD’s are and how you can get them and how to prevent contracting them and spreading them. Encourage your partner to do the same, or better yet, learn about these things together. Sure, it doesn’t sound very fun to read about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases before having sex, but it’s part of being responsible enough to have sex. A few other things you might want to think about before having sex is your morals and religion. Is there any reason that you or your partner might feel guilty for having sex now instead of waiting? Is talking to your parents about having sex something you and your parents have an open enough relationship to do? Talk to your parents if you can, and definitely talk to your partner. Perhaps you and your partner are only comfortable with some things and not others. Those are things that are important to discuss before you take the plunge.

There’s No Rush

When you’re a teenager, it may seem like the sexual frustration will eat you alive if you don’t have sex right this minute. Don’t worry – it won’t! Masturbation is a great way to relieve sexual tension and there’s nothing wrong with waiting to have sex. There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting until marriage, waiting for the right person or just waiting until you’re a little older. Sex isn’t any better if you do it now and it’s not any worse if you wait until later. In fact, you may just want to wait until tomorrow, or next week. That’s fine too. Just make sure that when you’re ready, you’re ready and your partner is too.

Q&A: Web Cam Romance And Sex On The First Date

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More and more people are using the Internet to meet people, and with inventions such as Skype, web cams and audio chatting, it can sometimes be like you’re in the same room with someone. But is web camming only good for sexy hookups, or can real relationships be built from online introductions?

Hi, I have a question. I’ve been web camming with this guy for like a month and a few weeks now. We are going to meet soon, but I am worried that it’s too much sex. We will probably have sex on the first date, is this bad? I know you said intimacy can be at any time, but is the first date too soon? Can relationships come out of hook ups?

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Decide What You Want

Do you want a sex-only relationship with this person? A hookup or a quickie, or a friend with benefits? Because that’s what you’re setting yourself up for. If that’s what you’re looking for, then go for it! But if you’re looking for a relationship to come out of your web camming and chatting, you need to let your friend know. Don’t lead him into thinking he’s got a booty call relationship now, if you want something more from it. Let him know that you like him and want to take it further. See if he’s on the same page.

A Relationship With Your Own Fantasy

Often, when we develop relationships with people online, our brains are filling in the gaps that a normal, face to face relationship wouldn’t have. You aren’t truly getting to know this person, their mannerisms and their personality – you are only getting to know one facet of them. Instead of taking that for what it is though, our brains are really good at inventing what we don’t know. Therefore, you truly are getting to “know” this fantasy version you have of this person instead of getting to know the real person. That can lead to a great deal of let down later on when you really do meet and get to know them. You’re most likely subconsciously creating a fantasy version of your friend that he or she could never possibly live up to.

Taking It Slow

If you’re looking to begin a real relationship with this person, take it slow when you meet them face to face. While you may be tempted to have sex on the first date, especially if you’ve been “intimate” with them before online, this is only going to label the relationship as being about sex. Get to know your partner just as though you were getting to know someone you met for the first time in person. Just because you and your friend have chatted and web cammed online, doesn’t mean you two know each other a great deal more than two people who just met. Treat the relationship that way and take it slow if you want it to develop into something more. If you’re simply looking for a quick, sexy hookup, have fun and be safe!