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10 Creative Ways To Say I Love You Without Saying A Word

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For some people, saying the three little words “I love you” is very difficult. Others have no problem with it at all (and sometimes even say it when they don’t mean it). If you struggle to express the way you feel to your partner through words, there are lots of ways to let your partner know that they are important to you and you enjoy having them in your life without using a single word at all! Here are 10 creative ideas to let your partner know that they are a big part of your life and you love having them in it.

Write A Quick Letter Or Card

Instead of saying “I love you” to your partner, instead, write them a quick love letter or jot it down in a sweet card that you picked up from the store. It is a quick and easy way to let your partner know just how much they mean to you without saying a word.

Send A Text

In the age of technology, almost everyone has texting capabilities on their cell phones. Instead of sending her a text to please pick up milk after work, send her a text that lets her know you’ve been thinking about her all day. You can do this in a romantic way to let her know that you love her, or you can make a racy text – called sexting – to tell her what you want to do to her when you both get home after work. Texting is so easy and cheap you can do it often just to add a little bit of love to her day.

Put It On A Cookie

On your next trip to the mall, visit the cookie store and have them write “I Love You” on one of those giant chocolate chip cookies. The best part is that you two can enjoy the cookie together later that night!

Draw It On The Sidewalk With Chalk

This is a great idea if your partner is away for business often or if you get home from work several minutes before your partner does. Draw a sweet message on the driveway or sidewalk with sidewalk chalk and they’ll see it as soon as they pull in the driveway from work.

Write It On The Bathroom Mirror

Write “I love you” on the bathroom mirror with an old lipstick that you don’t use anymore, or do it in soap so that when the mirror fogs up when your partner is taking a shower, the message becomes clear. The latter is so much fun because they won’t see the message when they step in the shower, but they’ll see it when they come out!

Use An Entire Pad Of Post It Notes

You can really show your love by using an entire pad of Post-It notes to write sweet messages and stick them all over the house. You can write a different message on each note, or you can simply write “I love you” over and over on each note. Make sure you use brightly colored Post-Its for maximum impact!

Place An Ad In A Newspaper Or Magazine They Read

Surprise your partner by placing a sweet message in an ad in a newspaper or magazine that they read. Make sure it’s a magazine or newspaper that they actually read though, or else they won’t get your special message!

Draw It On Their Car Windshield

You can use a wax pen or special car window chalk (you know, the kind they use for those “Just Married” signs when people tie the knot) and write “I love you” all over your partner’s car windows. Do this either in the morning before they leave for work or drop by their place of employment while they’re inside so they don’t catch you. If you’re lucky enough, you’ll be around to see the look on their face when they discover your surprise!

Use Glow In The Dark Stars

Get some of those glow in the dark stars (usually in the kids toy section) and write a sweet message on the wall or ceiling for your partner to discover when they turn off the lights. You can also use this as a seduction tactic and suggest that you two have sex “under the stars!”

Create Your Very Own LoveBook

Create an inexpensive but romantic LoveBook that contains reasons why you love your partner and enjoy having them in your life. A LoveBook truly is a keepsake that they will have forever!

11 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Guy

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Dating can be complicated, but there are definitely some clear signs that the guy you’re dating should be kicked to the curb. Here are eleven of them.

So you’re dating this guy and things seems great but not that great. If its the beginning of the relationship, maybe you are holding out to see how things pan out, see if they get better. Or maybe you’ve been dating the same guy for a few years and things are not as great as they used to be. How do you know if this relationship is in fact a good thing or if you two are just wasting your time?

What She Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

1. You Don’t Look Forward To Being With Him

Whether this is a long term relationship or you’re dating a new guy, if you aren’t excited to hang out with this guy then you are defiantly with the wrong person. In the beginning of relationships everything should be exciting and you should be psyched to see him. If this is a long term relationship you should be looking forward to spending time with your man and still get a little giddy thinking about him. If these feelings are not there and you find yourself wishing you were hanging out with your friends, yourself of another guy then that is a huge sign that you are dating the wrong person. If this is a new relationship and you dread another date, or hanging with him then you are dating the wrong guy.

2. When You Are With Him You Still Feel Lonely

This usually can happen in long term relationships. After a while you guys get into a groove where you are hanging out (or living together) and can be sitting right next to the guy and feel like you two are miles away. Its a weird phenomenon but it happens when so much is left unsaid and so many touches are left un-felt If you start to feel constantly (like every time you are together) emotionally far from your guy, its a pretty good sign he is not the one.

3. You Cheat On Him

Red flag, sirens, alarms, cow bells, punch in the face!! Any sex outside of your relationship sex is a sure sign that you are with the wrong person! I’m not going to get into the moral ramifications of cheating, nor the right and wrong of it. I’m just saying there is nothing wrong with being attracted to other guys, I’m just saying that if you find yourself not only attracted to but then acting on that attraction with another guy then you are definitely not getting what you want from your man and he is not the right one for you.

4. Your Friends And Family Say You Should End It

These are the closest people in your life, they know you the best. If they think you could do better or are dating the wrong guy, listen to them. Always go with what you feel is right but don’t ignore the people that love you if they think you are wasting your time. In relationships we can wear rose colored glasses and sometimes it takes an outsider to see something we didn’t see. So listen to the people that care about you.

5. You Are More Friends Than Lovers

Sex is the glue that separates men and women from being friends or lovers. So if you are in a relationship and the passion has died then you are with the wrong person. Yes passion and sex can ebb and flow but if there is a huge lack of sex or libido and you are not happy about that then you are with the wrong person.

6. What You Once Loved Is Now Annoying

Maybe it’s the way he drinks a beer or the way he eats corn on the cob, there was a time when his little quirks and mannerism used to be so adorable to you and now they annoy the hell out of you. You once loved how he would snore in his sleep or maybe leave his coffee on the table half drank but now you are so angered by this and annoyed. It’s impossible to love everything that they do but if you are finding your self fed up with his mannerisms then you need to end it.

What He Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

7. You Don’t Appreciate Him & He Doesn’t Appreciate You

Taking someone for granted isn’t a good sign, but if you’re looking for signs that you should break up with your boyfriend, this has to be at the top of the list. Look, relationships have seasons, or cycles. You may want to rip his clothes off for a while, then not be sexual for while. Things go up and down, but if there’s more down than up, that’s a sign that either one or both of you don’t appreciate each other.

8. You’re Still In A Relationship But Have Stopped Dating

One of the big pitfalls for any long term relationship is getting too comfortable or getting stuck in the status quo. When you first start dating, everything is amazing and electric. Part of that is the new-ness of the relationship, and while the spark may fade a bit, it shouldn’t burn out. No matter how long you are together, you never ever stop dating. If you do, that’s when problems start. If you’re in a relationship with a guy, but not dating him, you may have a breakup sign and it’s one of the big ones.

9. You Don’t Want To Have Sex

Let’s face it. One of the main benefits to being in a relationship is the constant access to booty. Yes, companionship is great, but that’s what pets are for. You don’t just want companionship, you want some ass too. What’s the point without the intercourse? Not so much. If you could be getting laid and you don’t want to do the guy you’re with, that’s a red flag meaning it’s time to think about ending it.

10. The Things You Used To Like Piss You Off 

Everyone’s got their little idiosyncrasies  That’s just how we are. You know you’re into someone when you see a person’s little ticks and not only do they not bother you, you think they’re cute. When you find yourself suddenly pissed off or annoyed by them, then you’ve got yourself a sign it’s time to breakup. Everyone goes through phases, but if you find yourself consistently annoyed by these things and you just can’t stand them anymore, that’s a sign. Not a good one either.

11. You Try Sabotaging The Relationship

Ever find yourself picking fights with your partner for no reason? Ever ask “Why did I yell at him for that?” That means some part of you want to breakup with them and your subconscious is trying to get your attention. It’s saying “Hey! Get us out of here! You know you want to!” You may or may not be ready or willing to listen to your inner voice, but you should.

The main thing to remember about all these “signs” is that you need to listen to your gut and your heart. You know if you are not happy, you know if you are settling, you know if he is not the one for you. No list is going to give you the answer you already know. Now it’s up to you to do something about it.

Penis Size – And 4 Other Things He’s Secretly Self Conscious About

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Penis size is only one of the things guys are secretly self conscious about. What else is he worrying about that he’s not telling you?

There are a lot of things that women are self conscious about. Having smaller breasts or a little extra weight is enough to send some women over the edge. But there are a lot of things that men are self conscious about. Men are just as insecure about certain aspects of their body; they’re just a little better at hiding it.

Men have a way of showing confidence even when they are not confident. A guy can know that he’s not the smartest, tallest or most well endowed guy in the room, but he can still make women swoon. Here are some of the things that he’s secretly self-conscious about.

1. Height

Hollywood has trained women to think that a guy is not worth it unless he’s 6’1. If you have ever heard of the Napoleon Complex, then you know the kind of guy that is secretly self-conscious about his height. Height is a sign of dominance. When a guy is taller than other men, there is a perception that he is better than other men.

While most women know that this simply isn’t true, guys can be very self-conscious about their height. A guy that is not even average height certainly will not have any problems finding a girl that is shorter than him, but he might find it hard to have the confidence to approach her. Most women are between 5’3 and 5’7. This leaves a lot of options to guys that are 5’7-5’8 and even guys that are only 5’5, but height is a key factor to confidence.

2. Hairlines

While height is an indication of dominance, hair can be an indication of youth. When a guy starts to lose his hair, it’s a sign that he’s getting older. This symptom of mortality is enough to send any guy into a tailspin. If you have ever met a guy with a receding hairline, you probably know the self-conscious means of hiding it.

Hats are fairly common with guys who are losing their hair. Wacky haircuts to hide the fact that they are going bald are also a key factor. If the guy is loosing his hair and he’s in his 20’s, you are going to find him extra sensitive about this subject. If you ever meet a guy that is losing his hair, try to stay off the subject.

3. Weight

Weight can be a factor for guys, but it’s much more a factor for women. Although guys have been romanticized with six pack abs and bulging muscles, a little weight might not affect them that much. If the guy is very overweight he could be self conscious about it. Weight is such an issue with all people that it can negatively affect confidence levels and self-image.

If your last boyfriend was in great shape and your new boyfriend has a little pudge, it’s only natural for him to feel self conscious about it. Talk to your guy about his weight and see if there is something that you can to help him out. Simple diets and exercise can go a long way in transforming a body.

4. Body Hair

Excessive hair is an extreme turn off to most women. Having a hairy back is not something that screams sex appeal. Most guys that have hairy backs suck it up and head to a salon to have it waxed off. When the summer hits everybody likes to head to the pool, beach or lake to relax. This can be a nightmare for guys that have hair in places that it shouldn’t be. If you have ever met a guy with a hairy back, you probably know the signs. He is hesitant to take his shirt off or avoids situations where a shirt should not be present.

5. Penis Size

By far the most common thing that men are self conscious about is their penis size. The penis is not like other organs. Although there are pills, exercises and ridiculous penis pumps, most men fret over their penis even when it is of average penis size. The signs are fairly clear. Most men will avoid sexual contact with women if they have small penis or constantly bombard them with questions about previous lovers.

One way to reassure a man is to tell them that the sex is good – even great. We all know that you don’t have to have a huge penis size to satisfy a woman and there are positions that will give deeper penetration for smaller penises. Informing your partner that you are happy with them and your sex life is essential to instilling confidence in their abilities and penis size.

What To Do When HE Is Lazy In Bed!

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Sex tips can often help you get out of a rut, especially when you’re putting more effort in than your lover. Many times in a relationship, the sex gets boring because one or both partners get comfortable and start doing the same thing over and over. If you want a super hot sex life, you have to bring variety to the table! Use these sex tips to get him trying new things!

Normal Sexual Progression In A Relationship

Often, sex can get pretty lame when you’re in a relationship – especially if your relationship is long term and you and your partner are monogamous. Many times what will happen in situations like these is that one or both partners start getting comfortable with the relationship and the sex, and don’t bother to use their imagination to come up with new things. It often happens to guys because once they figure out the “secret formula” to getting their girl to reach orgasm, they stick with it! They don’t want to go trying different strokes, techniques or sex positions because they found what works. If it’s not broken, why fix it, right?

This is not at all uncommon, however, that doesn’t make it any less frustrating. Girls don’t always want “A + B + C = Orgasm” sex. They want passion and variety! They want to experiment. A girl can spice things up in the bedroom but she’s got to have a game plan first.

Stop Bitching

One of the biggest reasons guys get less interested in making sex adventurous over time is because their partners get more and more comfortable griping about this and that. Women often do this because as the “warm fuzzies” begin to wear off as the relationship gets older, annoying habits start becoming more and more apparent. Most of the time, they’re not make-or-break-the-relationship types of things – but as a girl gets more comfortable with her guy, she will often want to “fix” him. She’ll think that by telling him what she doesn’t like that he’ll stop and start doing things her way.

You may think your nagging is letting him know that you don’t like a certain behavior, but all it’s really doing is killing his sex drive. He doesn’t see it as you gently guiding him in the right direction – he sees it as nagging, bitching, griping, etc. He’ll still leave his dirty underwear on the floor but he won’t bother taking yours off and throwing them down next to his.

Make An Effort To Be Sexy

While he probably thinks you’re cute in your flannel pajamas, if that’s all you’re wearing, he’s going to start seeing you as non-sexual and just wonderfully cuddly. While this can be an advantage on those cold days when you just don’t feel like doing anything but snuggling up in your man’s arms, if this is all you’re getting, you’re going to wonder what happened to make your guy not want to have sex with you as much anymore, or just not care about trying new things.

The truth is, he wants BOTH sides of you. Sweet, cuddly and wearing flannels without makeup. But other times, he wants to be reminded that he’s with an incredible sex vixen who will ride him all night long! So make a point to wear lingerie to bed sometimes. And heels. When you look sexy, you feel sexy. When you feel sexy, you look sexy. Don’t forget that confidence is truly the sexiest thing you can wear. Rock it like a bombshell and he’ll be on fire!

Don’t Underestimate Sex Games

A fantasy box is an incredibly fun, non-threatening way to introduce your lover to new things and ideas when it comes giving him sex tips and letting him know what you want in bed. This can be as simple or as elaborate as you and your partner want it to be. You can indulge your crafty side and make a fun fantasy box, or use something you have around the house. The more you put into this fun sex game, the more you get out of it. That is, unless you have some damn good imagination. If you do though, it won’t matter one bit if all you have is bar napkins and a Styrofoam cup.

With the “fantasy box” sex game, you and your partner each get to write a secret fantasy that you’d like to try out. Write a few down, three from each of you is a fun number to start with. What you actually write down can range from tame to super kinky, but agree on how hot you’re going to get before you start – you can always start small and up the ante later. It will be pretty awkward if you write down “Spank my ass hard and call me your whore while having sex doggy style” and his says “french kiss for 10 minutes.”  Consider thinking of different “levels” of how hot you want it to be, and decide on a “level” before you start writing down your ideas.

Throw your slips of paper in the box, mix them up and take turns fishing them out. You will, of course, have much more fun trying them out! This is often all that is needed to rev up a “vanilla” guy – simply because they don’t see the fantasy box as a threat to their ego/manhood/pride like they would if you outright told him what he was doing wrong and gave him sex tips.

Reward Him

Men are awesome like puppies – loving, playful and in need of praise when they do something right. When your man does something especially hot that you’re totally into, make some noise! Do NOT let the opportunity slip away – if he doesn’t hear anything, he’s going to assume he’s done something you don’t like and move on to the next ideas or sex tips. So if you don’t let him know when he does something spot on, you’re really screwing yourself because he’ll never learn what you like!

Let him know how much it turns you on when he does something good. Also, reward him by doing something he really enjoys – like giving him an amazing blowjob. This doesn’t apply only to sex either. You can mix and match. Reward him for a sweet gesture like filling up your car with gas by giving him road head. Or taking him on an impromptu shopping spree at the manly store of his choice. Either way, so long as you reward him for anything he does that pleases you. Because when you do, he’ll want to do it again!

7 Ways To Rekindle Your Girlfriend’s Love For You

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Are you you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had? Scared this may affect or eventually end your relationship?

You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can make things stale and lose the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

Send Her A Unique Gift At Work

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart.

Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

Have Fun With Water

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your girlfriend and then have a huge water fight. If you’re lucky (and you probably will be) your lover will want to to take advantage of the fact that you’re both wet and turned on! Find a good hiding place and get your public sex on.

Bring Back Childhood Memories

Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example, if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.

Become Kids Again

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give her a ride. Might bring back happy memories from childhood.

Organize A Backyard Picnic

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

Show Her You’re Grateful For Her

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”

Spice Up Your Lovemaking

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try new sex positions, learn to give your partner an erotic massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the power these little things have on a relationship. If things are rough in your relationship don’t wait for your significant other to do something. Take action. Make the first step towards mending your partnership. It’s all about passionate love. Show it.