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Viagra 101 – Blue Pill Myths and Facts

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Most of us know what Viagra is – that magic little blue pill that can make turn a wet noodle into a flag at full mast. But what is Viagra, really? What are the pros and cons of these erectile dysfunction pills that are only growing in popularity? Is Viagra for you? Here’s what’s up on Viagra – no pun intended.

Viagra Pros

The most obvious “pro” of that little blue pill is that it can help many men and women reclaim their sex lives. Men who have been suffering from sexual dysfunction can once again experience fulfilling and satisfying sex, and so can their lonely partners. Viagra works by promoting blood flow to the penis, helping it to become and stay erect when sexually stimulated. When taken as prescribed by your doctor, this little blue pill can help you to become more sexually active, stay sexually active and have a better sex life. Many men enjoy taking Viagra to help counteract erectile dysfunction, especially when erectile dysfunction is diagnosed at an earlier age when a man still has sexual desires, needs and wants.

Viagra Cons

Just like any medication, Viagra has side effects as well. Here’s the scoop from WebMD. Only your doctor can tell you if the benefits of the drug outweigh the risks. Make sure you tell your doctor what you are allergic to, and any conditions that you currently have. The most common side effects of Viagra are dizziness, diarrhea, upset stomach and headaches. More serious side effects include sudden loss of vision in rare cases and a prolonged erection, both of which require immediate medical attention. Men who smoke, have high blood pressure and heart problems need to discuss this with their doctor extensively before trying Viagra.

Buying Viagra

Currently, you can buy Viagra with a valid prescription from your pharmacy, or through several internet websites. Cheap Viagra is often found on the internet, as it is usually expensive in its brand name form or from a pharmacy. Before deciding to buy Viagra, make sure you’re obtaining it from a trusted source!

Many men have found that Viagra has tremendously improved the quality of their sex lives, not only through the quantity of sex increasing, but the sensations that accompany it. Viagra should not be taken by men who do not have erectile dysfunction; rather, Viagra is a medication to help those men who have experienced erectile dysfunction and impotency. If the “blue pill” sounds like it might be your ticket out of a sexless, unsatisfying life, talk to your doctor about Viagra for you.

If you’ve made the decision to buy Viagra, you’ve become one of the millions of men who have benefited from this incredible drug. Why wait and watch life pass you by when you could be experiencing it with your whole mind, body and spirit? You’ll have a more satisfying sex life, your partner will be more satisfied and your quality of life will tremendously improve. Just ask your doctor if Viagra can help – it has for others and it can for you too!

Long Distance Relationship – What Do I Do?

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Long distance relationships can be tough – especially if you’ve been together for awhile but have recently become long distance. What do you do when you have to choose between your current life or giving it all up to be with your partner?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

 

I moved in with my boyfriend but missed my parents sooo much that I moved out to be closer to them. I hoped my boyfriend would join me, but it’s been 8 months and he’s still not here! I’m not sure what to do. Should I stay close to my parents or move back with my boyfriend?

 

–Jessica, NY

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Cut The Cord

If your parents are playing a part in your long distance relationship – meaning, you haven’t moved to be with your partner because you’re afraid your parents might disapprove – it’s time to cut the cord. It’s important to separate what you want from what your parents want and decide what’s best for you – not what’s best for your parents. Take some time to really consider what you want out of your relationship and what you’re willing to do for it, aside from what your parents think or don’t think. It’s essential that you make this big life decision without their influence – it’s your life, remember?

Why Won’t They Move To Be With Me?

You might be questioning why your partner hasn’t moved to be with you or isn’t planning to – they may be content with the long distance relationship as is, or they may not be ready to move and leave their job and their current life. They also may be wanting to avoid letting you have the “power” when it comes to who will relocate to be with the other, or they may not want to be as involved with your parents. It’s important to sit down and discuss these issues with your partner, because if you don’t, nothing will get solved! If you’ve bought a house, or have secured a great career, it’s important to let your partner know about these things so they can decide how that weighs in with their job and their current living situation. Talk to your partner and go through several “mock” scenarios, talking about what would happen if you moved, or what would happen if they moved. You’re more likely to find a compromise if you and your partner talk things out together rather than just waiting for the other to start getting ready to move.

What Do You Want?

In the end, this situation is about what you want. It’s important to really think about your relationship and what you want out of it, as well as what you want out of life. Does your relationship satisfy you? Do you love the person you’re with? Or are you not sure whether this relationship is worth moving for? Ask yourself these questions to dig deep and really find out what you want, instead of letting it all slide by until you are forced to deal with the situation after it’s already become exacerbated.

If you’re really stuck trying to make a decision, talk to a therapist or someone else outside of the situation that can offer good, unbiased advice. Meanwhile, stay close to your partner through phone calls, emails, web chatting and web cams. If you’re planning on being with your partner eventually – regardless of who moves – it’s important to nurture your relationship and give and receive love in the meantime!

Is It Worth It? Her Mother Is Ruining Our Relationship!

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 In-laws can be tough to deal with – just ask anyone who has in-laws! But what happens when one of your in-laws crosses the line and starts taking over your life? Your relationship with your partner is dwindling and your daily life is being affected because of it – how can you confront this situation without hurting your partner or causing more of a problem than there was to begin with?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

My relationship is like a car going 200 MPH backwards! Her mother is taking over our relationship to the point where I work late just so that I don’t have to go home… Nothing I say or do seems to matter. When it comes to sex, I’m not even going to go there… The only reason I stay is for my daughter. What’s the best way to handle this mess and get my sanity back?

 

–Jason, Wisconsin

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When The In-Laws Start Stepping In

Whether your in-laws have been in the picture the whole time or are just now starting to come around, your relationship with your partner can seriously suffer if your in-laws start taking over your life. Whether they’re constantly at your house with their grandchildren, or insisting you and your partner do things their way, having an in-law that is too close for comfort is never a healthy or happy situation to be in. What do you do?

Evaluating Your Reactions

The first thing you need to do is sit down and really think about how you feel about the situation. Write it down if you have to, but you can’t confront it if you don’t know exactly what is triggering your feelings of discomfort. Are you working long hours just to get away from your in-laws? Is there something in particular that they do that bothers you, or are they simply too involved in you and your partner’s life? If it’s overwhelming you and you’re unable to have a good relationship with your partner because of your in-laws’ involvement in your life, it’s time to really dig deep and evaluate why you’re upset and exactly what you’d like to see change.

Confronting The Situation

When you get ready to confront the situation, don’t do so without your partner by your side. This isn’t just “your” problem – it’s your partner’s problem too. Your in-laws’ involvement in your life is affecting your relationship with your partner, as well as your entire family. You need to address this situation as a “we.” Talk to your partner openly and honestly about how you feel about the situation and avoid being condescending, negative or petty. You certainly don’t want to make this an ultimatum or not – it’s not about your partner having to “choose” you over your in-laws or vice versa.

Once you’ve spoken to your partner about your feelings and you’re ready to confront the situation with your in laws’ as a couple, sit down and have an honest heart to heart talk. Again, avoid being negative or petty, as this can cause more harm than good. The idea is to just get your feelings out there and let your in-laws know that they’re overstepping their boundaries. Suggest that they watch their grandchildren for a weekend while you and your partner get away, or something similarly constructive. Plan family dinners together and stick to those plans – stay away from unannounced visits and so on. If your in-laws just don’t want to step out? Talk to your partner and consider moving. It doesn’t have to be far, but a little bit of physical space in between your family and your in-laws might be exactly what you need to get through to them.

How Do I Know If I’m A Nympho?

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 Women who truly enjoy sex often get labeled as nymphomaniacs, or “nymphos” for short. Just because a woman likes sex and enjoys having it, does that make her a “nympho?” What if she’s recently lost weight or had a big life change and has started to see herself in a more sexual way? Here’s what you want to know about sex and lots of it – as well as what’s safe and what’s not.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

 

I’ve recently lost a lot of weight and rediscovered my sexuality. I may have awakened a nymphomaniac! I think about sex all the time. Is there something wrong with me?

 

–Jane, Georgia

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When Your Body Changes

If you’ve lost a lot of weight, or recently started working out or even just gained some self esteem about the way you look, it’s perfectly natural to start feeling more sexual. It’s to be expected – you’re starting to see yourself as more attractive and people are starting to feel more attracted to you. Not only have you become more physically attractive, your own confidence in yourself has made you doubly attractive. No wonder you’re feeling more sexual than you have before! Embrace this new feeling – it’s an incredible feeling and you should feel proud of yourself for making such a great life change!

How Much Is Too Much?

Most people enjoy sex and some people enjoy sex more often than others. There are no guidelines as to “how much is too much” when it comes to sex, but there are a few questions to ask yourself. Is your newfound sex drive interfering with your daily life? Do you find it hard to function if you haven’t had sex recently, or do you find it hard to focus because you’re thinking about having sex all the time? If you truly find that your sex drive and the need for sex and sexual satisfaction start overtaking your life – almost like drugs – it’s time to see a therapist or a counselor to talk about your feelings. If you just find that you enjoy sex and do it when you can, you’re probably just like everyone else on the planet – human!

Playing It Safe

If you have started to enjoy sex more and have started to have more sex, it’s important to play it safe. Don’t be promiscuous and make sure you’re well informed about sex and especially sexually transmitted diseases. Take the time to educate yourself about sex, sex toys, STD’s, various forms of sex and sexuality and everything sex related – going into it well informed can help you make safe and smart decisions that will help you enjoy the moment more instead of creating a moment that you’re likely to regret later. Get tested regularly if you have multiple sex partners, or find friends that you can have fun and experiment with who stay monogamous with you. It’s all about finding a balance between what is fun and sex and what is safe!

If you take the time to educate yourself, feel confident about body and lifestyle changes and play it safe and smart, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with liking sex, enjoying sex and having sex, even lots of it! Find a partner who enjoys sex as much as you do and have fun with it. Life is short and as long as you’re not ignoring the facts, it’s time for you to love yourself enough to do what you enjoy doing!

Asexual Wanting BDSM But Not Sex – Is It The Medication?

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A self-proclaimed asexual begins taking medication and now finds herself having a strong sex drive – not only wanting sex, but BDSM as well! Is this normal? Is she falling out of the asexual orientation, or does her medication have something to do with it? It may be confusing and intimidating, but it’s important to get to the root of the issue – what is really going on here?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

I’ve been asexual all my life. I met my boyfriend on an asexual website. I’m taking medication and now I’m getting a sex drive. Now, all I can think about is BDSM. I can live with normal sex, but I can’t be happy with BDSM. My mind would never accept this type of lifestyle. What do I do?

 

–Alyssa, Virginia

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What is “Asexual”

“Asexual” is a sexual orientation, much like being gay, bisexual, lesbian or straight. Asexual people usually do not desire sex, and form emotional and satisfying relationships without being sexual at all. It’s comparable to celibacy, with the exception that asexuality is a sexual orientation and not a choice like celibacy is. You might want to compare it to the difference between being a lesbian (a sexual orientation) or just choosing to have a threesome because it’s fun. Asexuality is like celibacy, but it’s something that is rooted deep inside of the person’s identity rather than a choice.

A Sudden Interest In BDSM – Is It The Medication?

In this particular situation, experiencing a different set of emotions and feelings right after beginning a new medication should not be taken lightly. Anti-depressants, epilepsy medications and other type of mind altering medications can make you feel all sorts of different ways, even ways that you would have never expected or anticipated. If you’ve just started taking a new medication and find that your emotional and even sex drive is different than before you began the medication, it’s important to talk to your doctor. Talk with your medical doctor or even a psychiatrist to find out whether these new feelings are a side effect of the medication and will dissipate or not. If these new feelings are a result of the medication, ask your doctor if you are able to switch to a different medication that may not cause these side effects, or how to best handle the side effects until your body gets used to the medication.

It’s Not The Medication – Now What?

If you’ve found out that the medication has not caused your newfound desires and fantasies, it’s time to dig deep and start questioning yourself. You may still be asexual, but if you’re having desires and fantasies, find out where your comfort zones are. Are you okay with incorporating sex into your life? What about the BDSM part? In this situation, this particular person is uncomfortable with acting out on her BDSM fantasies. Why? Examine yourself and ask yourself why you’re comfortable with some things and not others. Think about trying BDSM, or slowly easing yourself into it. Try light roleplaying, or even a little dressing up, without harming yourself or harming someone else. There are lots of fun ways to get into BDSM without starting with the whips and chains. You might find out that this is something you really enjoy, with or without sex!

Remember, experimenting with your desires and fantasies is fun – it’s not supposed to be intimidating or make you feel ashamed. As long as you and anyone else involved is having fun and isn’t getting hurt, what is the harm in trying a few things out? It could be something that really fulfills your life, even asexually.