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Do You Really Need To Know If She’s Faking An Orgasm?

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I have had many people ask me if it really is possible to know when a woman is faking an orgasm. My answer to that question is yes, if you are extremely alert.

However, why spend so much time trying to find out if she’s faking an orgasm when you can rather spend that time learning different techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse. 

More importantly, why not spend that time to learn what your woman’s sexual wants and needs are in the bedroom. By doing that, you won’t ever have to wonder if she is faking it or not.

Why Is She Faking Her Orgasm?

If your woman truly is faking an orgasm, it is because she does not want to hurt your feelings. So, the only way to make sure that she never does this again, is by allowing her to be open with you in the bedroom.

Take the initiative to be the first to open the communication channels between yourself and your partner. Make her feel totally relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. The way to do this is by showing her that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

For example, if you make a small yet embarrassing mistake during a lovemaking session, don’t just keep it quiet. Instead, acknowledge it in front of her, and then laugh it off.

By doing this, you will show your partner that if things don’t go the way they should when making love, you won’t get all upset and act like you have just lost your manhood.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

By not taking yourself too seriously, you will show your woman that you are open to criticism, and that if all still fails in the end, it doesn’t matter, because you are both just having fun. Once she has opened up, take the opportunity to ask her what really gets her going.

Let her know that you are open and ready to do whatever it takes to please her, and that you lay no judgment on her for showing you. Do it in a fun way so that it does not look like a science project, and never feel frustrated or anxious if you do not get it right the first time.

By applying this type of mindset, you will make it easier for your woman to be open with you. This will then allow her to openly tell you what her deepest and darkest desires are.

Think About What Faking An Orgasm Really Means

Faking an orgasm spells "miscommunication between two lovers". Both are afraid to open up to each other, because both feel the other might get upset or judge them incorrectly.

So really, if you read between the lines, you will realize that each partner has a common goal, and that goal is to please the other, even if it means not hurting the other’s feelings. Unfortunately, the outcome is disastrous, because both shoot themselves in the foot. Someone needs to break the ice, so why not take the lead and let it be you?

By spending your valuable time on being open, and learning to accept your other half for who they are, you will be paving the way for a much healthier, passionate sex life between the two of you.

So ask yourself seriously, what sounds more productive; Finding out if she is faking an orgasm in the hopes that one day you can catch her out and embarrass her, which in the end will make your woman close up even more in the hopes that you never catch her out again, or rather spending the time to learn how to prevent your woman from faking an orgasm by learning how to communicate openly and not take yourself  so seriously, so that both parties can actually learn to enjoy a night of passionate sex.

You decide.

Discover The One Powerful Skill That Will Turn You Into an Exceptional Lover

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A true master in the art of making love knows that every woman has different wants and needs. Therefore, a lover a can only really become a masterful lover to the one woman he takes the time to learn.

A masterful lover realizes that each woman will have specific tastes in the bedroom. While one woman might like her man to be rough, another might prefer her man to take the more gentle approach.

The Sexual Uniqueness of Men and Women

Yes, like men, every woman will have the same basic likes and dislikes, but that is only on the surface. Think about it, while most of us like the taste of fruit, some of us prefer an orange over a banana.

This is what makes every man and woman unique. It is this uniqueness that a masterful lover will try to discover and appreciate in his partner, thus will take the necessary time needed in order to truly know what turns his woman on.

No matter what techniques you learn, none of them will really matter if you have no idea what your woman’s true desires are. Therefore, if you want to become an exceptional lover in your woman’s eyes, it is important that you learn one very important skill;

The Art of Paying Attention To Her

In order to master the “art of paying attention”, you need to learn to listen to every moan and groan your woman makes while you are making love with her. Now there is a difference between listening and really listening. I am talking about the type of listening that is able to interpret each moan and groan your woman makes.

You have to find out if a certain groan means that she likes what you are doing, or if it means that you should stop what you are doing. This takes time, concentration, and patience.

In order to successfully interpret every noise that your woman makes, you also need to learn to pay attention to every movement she makes during sex. Is she squirming her pelvis during a cunnilingus session because she is enjoying what you are doing, or is it because she is signaling you to stop as she is feeling uncomfortable with the type of stimulation you are applying?

By paying attention to both her movements and noises, you will soon be able to get an accurate interpretation what she is feeling, and what she would really like you to do to her.

The Importance of Verbal Communication During Lovemaking

Verbal communication also plays a big part in the “Art of Paying Attention”. I am talking about the type of communication that goes on during a love making session. This is where you really have to be careful. If you ask too many questions, you will simply annoy your partner.

In order to verbally communicate with her , you have to do it in such a way that it actually becomes part of the love making ritual. There are many ways to find out exactly what your woman likes or dislikes, while at the same time using the question and tone of your voice to turn her on and keep her on that “erotic high.”

An example of this would be to seductively ask your woman how she is feeling while you are stimulating any part of her hot zones.

Keep the questions short and make them sound sexy.

For example, the wrong way to do it would be to stop what you are doing and say something like this; “Now, when I move my finger up and down like this, does it make you feel excited, or should I rather move it in a circular motion.Really, which one is better; up and down like so, or circular like so …”. At this point you might as well put your clothes on, politely say goodbye to her, and show yourself out. Don’t forget to shut the door behind you.

Communicating the Right Way During Sex

The right way to verbally communicate with your woman during sex is by continuing to do what you are doing, and while you are doing it, say the following softly in the most sensual and sexiest voice you can muster; “does that feel good?”, or “do you like that?”.

Now, if you have “paid attention”, you will realize something very important. Not only are the questions short, but they also require a simple yes or no. This ensures that your woman does not have to strain her self too much by having to pull herself out of concentration to answer your long “philosophical” questions. She simply has to say yes, no, nod, shake her head, say “hmmm hmmm”, or “mhhhh mhhhh”.

Another thing to keep in mind, as short and sexy as these questions may seem, don’t ask them after every friggin move you try on your woman. That will also bug the hell out of her. The perfect balance is to verbally ask her a question now and then, while at the same time paying attention to every noise and movement she makes. Once you have accomplished that, you will be well on your way to becoming an exceptional lover.

How to Intensify Your Woman’s Orgasms

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Ask any woman what she would prefer; multiple orgasms, or one extremely powerful orgasm? Most likely she will choose the second option.

Okay, now take it one step further; ask her if she would prefer multiple orgasms, or powerful mind blowing multiple orgasms.

Now that you see the bigger picture, let me show you some powerful techniques to intensify your woman’s orgasms to new heights;

Tease your Woman and Create anticipation

Most “sexperts” will tell you to take your time during foreplay, and they are right. However, there is more to it than just taking your time. Every bit of time spent must count. Pointlessly taking your time will only bore your woman.

However, taking your time to tease your woman will drive her crazy and keep her on an “erotic high”. All she will care about is hoping that you will make her cum, because she has such an itch for it.

You can apply this technique even before you get under the covers with your woman. Begin by flirting with your partner during the day. This will give you a feel as to whether she is in the mood for a lovemaking session or not. Once you have confirmation that she is, move to the next step of teasing her.

At different intervals during the day, do something a little naughty to her. Start off lightly by whispering sexy words into her ears. Tell her what you are going to do to her later that day. Then walk away.

The next time you brush past your partner, kiss her lightly and seductively, and when you feel she is wanting to kiss you more, pull away, but do it with a mischievous smile. Once again, walk away. This will show her how much control you have over your desires.

At this point your woman will be feeling a little frustrated, and maybe even a little annoyed. However, she will most likely be hoping that you approach her again so that she can regain some control.

When you do walk past her again, grab her a little more passionately, and give up just a little more control, but just when your partner thinks she has regained control of the situation, pull away.

By doing this, you are teasing her and building anticipation into her mind. The anticipation in turn will put your woman in a higher state of arousal. She has an itch, and she is dying to get it scratched, and she wants you to scratch that itch real bad.

The Trick To Keeping Her On The Erotic High

The trick is to keep your woman on this “erotic high”.

Once you and your partner are finally under the covers, you can continue to tease her. If you are performing cunnilingus, tease her by going as close to her clitoris as possible without ever touching it. By the time you finally do, her “erotic high” will reach a new level.

At this point you can bring your woman close to orgasm, then stop and move away to stimulate another area on her body. Continue to do this until she can’t take it anymore. When she finally reaches orgasm, she will be in a state of bliss.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique

If you have being paying attention, you would have noticed something very important. You would have noticed that the techniques you are using to intensify your woman’s orgasms are by stimulating her mind. The amplified Trigger response is a more direct example of mind stimulation.

It is important to keep in mind that timing plays a crucial part when it comes to using this technique. The “amplified Trigger Response” has to be applied just before your woman reaches an orgasm, and must continue during her orgasmic state.

This technique can be approached in two ways; by direct touch, or by what she hears. However, both approaches have the same end goal of triggering a thought or feeling in her mind that amplifies her state of arousal just before she reaches the ultimate height of ecstasy. This in turn will escalate that height of ecstasy.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Touch

This technique is especially effective when you are performing cunnilingus, or when you are fingering your partner. Before going down on your woman, mentally pick a part of your partner’s body ( preferably one of her erogenous zones) that you will avoid touching while performing cunnilingus on her.

In this example we will choose the nipples, and we will use cunnilingus as a method of stimulation.

Now tell your partner to lie back with her eyes closed and relax. During the cunnilingus session, you may let your hands freely explore your woman’s body. However, whatever you do, don’t go near her breasts and nipples. Keep doing this until you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm.

When she reaches this point, begin lightly pulling on her nipples. Keep on doing this until she has completed her orgasm. The unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Sound

This technique is effective through cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse. However, we will continue to use cunnilingus in order to show an example of this technique.

Let your partner lie back with her eyes closed. Feel free to explore her body with your hands. Yes, you may touch the breasts too. Once you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm, start moaning and groaning until she has fully completed her orgasm.

Once again, the unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Now feel free to combine the two methods of this technique to create something new. Your imagination is a powerful sex toy. By using it correctly, you can come up with many new techniques to give your woman a good time.

Does Your Woman Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Try These 2 Powerful Tips…

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I think you will agree with me that there is nothing more frustrating and tiring when you know you have done everything right in helping your partner achieve an orgasm, yet she still never reaches it.

It is frustrating because you have no idea what you have done wrong in terms of technique, and it is tiring because your hands, jaw or any other part of your body is aching from the never ending rubbing, licking or sucking.

In the end, nobody is having fun, and the whole ordeal turns into a nightmare.

Here are two tips to help your woman achieve any type of orgasm without difficulty;

She Must Be In The Mood

This is one of the biggest obstacles that will stand between you and your woman when it comes to helping her easily achieve an orgasm. If she is not in the mood, and is only having sex to end your begging and moaning, helping her achieve any type of orgasm can become very difficult.

Your woman needs to be in the mood for sex. It should never be a chore for her. Think about it; if she gives in and says yes so that you can stop your whining, she will want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Because of this, your woman will be trying very hard to orgasm, hoping that she can satisfy you and get it over with as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the opposite effect occurs. Because your woman is trying so hard to orgasm, she develops a mental block, thus finds it difficult to orgasm. In the end, nobody wins.

How Do I Get Her In The Mood?

Well, you could try the “ seduce her during the day” routine. This can be achieved by spoiling and flirting with your woman. Take your woman out for a romantic dinner. Give her a romantic gift. Charm your woman by telling her how beautiful she is. All of this might or might not work , because at the end of the day, it is up to her whether she truly feels in the mood, or not.

The best way to get your woman in the mood is by letting it happen naturally. Unlike men who generally get horny at the snap of a finger, women get horny for sex at certain times of the month. These “In the mood” days usually occur between ovulation and menstruation. This is somewhere between the 14th and 28th day of their cycle.

Knowing When That Occurs

The trick is to find out when these days occur. The only way to know this is by waiting and watching. If you pay attention, you will soon notice when she is feeling hornier than usual. When these days occur, make a mental note of it.

Not every woman is the same. While some women admit that they feel horny just before their period starts, other’s report to feel at their horniest right after their period ends.

During the days when your woman is in the mood, it will be a lot easier for you to seduce and make love with her. She will become more sensitive and responsive to every type of touch, thus stimulating her hot- spots to reach orgasm becomes a lot easier as well.

Do Not Go Faster Or Change Direction Just Before She Orgasms

The reason many women fall short of having an orgasm is because their partners believe they should go faster or change the direction of movement when their woman is just about to orgasm. This is a big mistake.

If your woman signals you that she is about to orgasm by moaning or breathing faster, just keep doing what you were doing at that point to get her to this stage of arousal. Do not change a thing. Don’t go faster. Don’t change direction of movement, and for crying out loud, don’t friggin stop. Continue doing what ever you are doing until she has totally completed her orgasm.

By keeping these two powerful points in mind, helping your woman achieve an a-spot, g-spot or clitoral orgasm will be very easy task. Instead of your lovemaking sessions being frustrating and tiring, they will be a lot more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner.

How To Give Your Woman The Kind of Orgasm SHE Wants

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Ok, after spending a good amount of time on foreplay, your woman is finally highly aroused. You decide that now is the time to get physical with her.

So, all you need to do is get into your favorite sex position and pound away. Before you know it, your woman will be achieving some “Earth-Shaking” orgasms, right?

Well, if you are happy to live in “Never Never” land, then go for it.

There is a lot more to intercourse than a few fancy sex positions and thrusting like a sledge hammer. Unfortunately, most men do not realize this, thus leaving themselves wondering why many women find it difficult to achieve any type of orgasm through intercourse.

Though it is never a good idea to approach sex as if it were a science project, it is important to understand that a little bit of logic can go a long way.

The Big “O” Decision

First you have to decide what orgasm you would like to help your woman achieve.  Do you want to give her a g-spot, a-spot or clitoral orgasm?

In order to make the correct decision, you have to take the time to learn your partner’s sexual likes and dislikes. Would she actually enjoy receiving a g-spot orgasm? Some women find the feeling of g-spot stimulation to be a little uncomfortable, painful, or just outright annoying. On the other hand, some women see the g-spot as the ultimate form of ecstasy.

The a-spot also shares a love/hate relationship with many women.  The reason for this is that the a-spot is situated between the cervix and the bladder. If stimulated correctly, some women can achieve very powerful orgasms. However, most women don’t enjoy having a penis pounding on their cervix wall, as it can be very painful.

So, before you take the plunge, make sure that you have learnt your woman well enough to know what her likes and dislikes are, otherwise you might find yourself pounding away for no good reason, and who knows, she might just fake the orgasms just to get it over with.

Sex positions play a very important role during intercourse, but only if used correctly. Yes, sex positions are fun and erotic, but they are also the foundation of allowing your partner to achieve certain types of orgasms. For example, not all sex positions are ideal for clitoral orgasms, just as not all sex positions are ideal for g-spot orgasms. The same applies for a-spot orgasms.

If you want to give your woman an a-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The a-spot lies deep within the vaginal canal between the cervix and the bladder.

Deep penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the a-spot.

The a-spot is best stimulated with pressure, not friction.

It would therefore make sense to find a sex position that allows for deep penetration without having to thrust too hard in order to reach the a-spot. The sex position must allow you to comfortably stimulate this area through gentle yet firm pressure.

If you want to give your woman a g-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The g-spot only lies a few inches on the upper wall of the vaginal canal.

Shallow penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

Like the a-spot, the g-spot is best stimulated with firm gentle pressure.

In order to stimulate the g-spot, you would need to use a sex position that allows you to easily angle your penis to thrust up against the g-spot while at the same time applying pressure to it as well.

If you want to give your woman a clitoral orgasm, you need to consider the following

The clitoris is actually quite a large organ than looks almost like a “wish bone”. The end of the clitoris is the only part that sticks out at the top of the vaginal entrance. However, most of this organ actually lies on each side of the vaginal canal near the entrance of the vagina.

At the moment it is agreed that most of the stimulation to the clitoris happens at the part sticking outside the vagina. Some experts argue that other parts of the clitoris can be stimulated as well.

Depth of penetration is not important. All that matters is that any part of the penis must rub against the clitoris.

Unlike the g-spot and a-spot, the clitoris is best stimulated by friction through rubbing, not pressure.

Therefore, the best way to help your woman achieve a clitoral orgasm would be by using any sex position that allows you to comfortably stimulate your woman’s clitoris by rubbing any part of your penis against it.

Let us summarize

In order to effectively give your woman powerful orgasms, you need to first know what type of orgasms she wants to receive.

Once you have figured that out, your next step is to find the best sex position that allows you to correctly angle your penis, as well as allow the correct depth of penetration of your penis in order to reach and stimulate that particular type of orgasm.