So are you ready to get your kink on?
What will you need? Where are you going to get it? How crazy do you want to be?
This article will offer an interesting twist on classic BDSM items, as well as introduce you to a few new possibilities.
Hint: I’ve found a new use for four AA batteries, and the results have been spine-tingling.
Bondage in Aisle 5 – Hardware Stores Seen in a Whole New Light
It’s so funny – now that I’m into BDSM, the most innocent places spark sexually interesting ideas. We’re talking hardware stores, garden stores, pet stores… I used to have to be dragged into these places for sink parts and dog food, and now I like ducking into the rope aisle to see what colors or textures they have in stock.
I’ll whiz past the rawhide chews to see what kind of dog collars will fit a human-size neck. (“Does this come with a matching leash?”) Garden shops have hemp rope for binding trees – now come on, trees aren’t going anywhere, let’s put that rope to better use!
The Shopping List
In addition to your hands and mouth, here are some suggestions for your BDSM bag of tricks, one for every day of the week:
1. Ropes
Practice your reverse prayer, chest harness, and hog tie techniques with a variety of ropes – nylon, hemp, cotton. Rough, smooth, thick, silky, it’s fun to experiment and find out which works best for you. Not only can you restrain someone with rope, but you can fashion it into something as sexy as lingerie – highlight various parts of the body and turn it into an art form.
Fun tip: Apply a vibrator to a taut length of rope and feel the vibration spread…
Where you can find it: hardware, garden, army surplus store, online. Or steal it from the local boy scout troop.
2. Handcuffs
Metal cuffs are edgier and more painful, and lend an extra air of humiliation to your play session. It’s especially intense when they tighten up as you’re having sex, it’s like being bitten. I also like the smell of them – the oiled metal is hot.
Where you can find it: sex store, gun store, your friendly neighborhood police officer.
3. Clothes pins
Clothes pins should be renamed “nipple clamps.” I mean, who uses them for hanging clothes these days? The inexpensive wooden clamps can be arranged in nice little rows along the curve of the torso or along the shoulder blades to make “angel wings.”
Where you can find it: grocery store, laundry aisle of retailer store, your old-fashioned neighbors clothesline.
4. Wartenberg Wheel
My girlfriend introduced this one to me (she has a bit of a medical equipment fetish). I LOVE this thing. It’s a stainless steel metal wheel on a handle with sharp pins radiating from the wheel. It rotates as it is rolled across the flesh, lighting nerves on fire. She likes holding me down and running it along my back, my front… she likes making me shriek and squirm.
Where you can find it: ebay, online BDSM store, neurologist’s office.
5. Flog
A flog is great because you can use it as the sweetest little tickle toy, or raise up some serious red welts by putting some muscle into it as you lay into your loved one. At this stage of my exploration, I’m enjoying the light sensations of the many little tails dancing on my skin. Flogs are usually made of leather or rubber.
Where you can find it: Farm supply store (riding crops too!), online BDSM store, make your own.
6. Butt plug
The butt is often the least explored body part, and that is putting tons of sensitive nerve endings to waste. Wearing a butt plug during sex can completely change the dynamics of an otherwise normal and pleasurable coupling. It can add a whole new level of intensity and vulnerability. And guess what – they aren’t just for the bedroom. You’d be surprised how many people are walking around in grocery stores wearing one. Turns a boring trip to the store for some sugar and cereal into something kinky and fun.
Where you can find it: sex store, online, your mom’s bedside table (OK that’s just a rude joke, but wouldn’t it be fun if it were true?)
7. Cobra Stinger
This is my newest discovery, and wow am I excited about it! The cobra stinger is this small black box with two metal prongs. It has a low and high setting. You have to touch both of the prongs in order to feel the minor electrical charge it puts out. Try touching it with two finger, and then running it up your arm. OR you can touch one prong and your partner can touch the other and get the current working through both of you.
Even trippier, if you are both touching it and touch the other person’s tongue – well talk about tongue tingling. It’s more about feeling a fascinating sensation than it is about pain.
Where you can find it: online BDSM store, in my hot little hand.
If you have a toy that you love that hasn’t been mentioned here, please share as a comment. We’re all learning as we go!
Next up: What’s Your Safe Word? How to Get Off Without Getting Hurt.