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How To Lick The Clitoris The RIGHT Way

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Oral sex on a woman can be tricky, because the clitoris is just so sensitive. Use these simple but effective techniques to lick your girl into an orgasm frenzy!

Why You’re Probably Licking Her Clitoris The WRONG Way

Most women respond well to clitoral stimulation outside the clitoral hood. The clitoris is often much too sensitive to handle direct stimulation. Many guys, however, go gung ho right on her clitoris itself, which can be really uncomfortable!

An outside approach works best – after all, the protection of the clitoral head is exactly what the hood was designed to do. There’s no need to go digging around underneath the clitoral hood with your tongue to find the head – this will only cause extreme discomfort and in some cases, even pain.

Don’t forget, however, that you must also develop a rhythm and keep it, especially close to orgasm. Keeping that in mind, let’s go over some of the correct tongue techniques in more detail.

We cover these tequniques in detail here: The Big Black Book Of Sex Positions

Sweeping Your Tongue Across The Clitoris

This move is great! It simply feels wonderful to a woman and should be a staple of any oral sex routine. It is a fairly easy move – position your tongue on either the right or left side of the clitoris and move from side to side as though you were sweeping a floor.

Clitoral Circles

This too is one of the best and most pleasurable clitoral techniques in cunnilingus. You’ll want to use this one a lot, because it can rarely get boring! The technique is somewhat self-explanatory – again, you’ll position your tongue either to the left or right of your partner’s clitoris. You will begin to move your tongue in circles, either in a clockwise or counter-clockwise motion.

This feels excellent when your partner is fairly aroused because it gives the clitoris plenty of stimulation outside the hood where it is well-received, but once your tongue gets to the 6:00 position on the “clock,” she will get a lovely preview of your tongue on her sensitive clitoral head – but not so much that it is uncomfortable.

Light Suction On The Clitoris

This is a move that is best performed when your partner is sufficiently aroused. Suction too early in the game may turn her off completely by putting too much pressure on her sensitive parts too soon.

You’ll want to take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly suck on it – much as though you were drinking from a straw. Remember; don’t get too rough with this move! This can be easy to do, so it is very important that you pay attention to your partner’s cues and movements. If she seems to be shrinking away before her orgasm, lighten up on the suction or discontinue sucking at all.

Remember Your ABC’s

You might have heard of this oral sex technique before, but then again, you might have not. This may quite possibly be the best technique out there, so listen up!

It may sound funny, but you’ll once again position your tongue (a pointed one works best here) either to the side or at the top of her clitoris and begin using your tongue to draw your ABC’s. Yes, you heard right.

This gives your partner a clitoral sensation similar to that of the circular stroke (most of the movement is performed outside of the clitoral hood while just a few strokes end up contacting the clitoral head itself) and simply feels divine to your partner. But wait a second!

If the sensations are really all that similar to the circular strokes, why even do the ABC strokes at all? Well, there’s the money question. The ABC stroke is as powerful as it is because it gives just the right amount of contact to both the clitoral hood and the clitoral head while mixing things up. You get the best of all the worlds – perfect contact, an excellent rhythm but here’s the rub – no two strokes are exactly the same. The different letters that you’ll be tracing with your tongue allow for enough variation to keep your partner guessing and on the edge – of orgasm! Very few men with sufficiently warmed up partners have made it all the way to the letter Z.

The Messy Eater

This is a tricky one, although it may not sound like it at first.

Basically, this move encompasses all the other techniques (such as tongue circles or gentle vacuum suction) but in somewhat of a “smorgasbord” fashion. You’ll want to use an oral sex position where you cradle both legs in your arms (her thigh will be in the crease of your elbow and your hands should come up around and rest on her hip bones) and…well, dig in!

This is a move where attitude really pays off – you’ve got to act like you’re hungry and you just can’t get enough of it. On the same token, however, you’ve still got to keep in mind that the clitoris is very sensitive and although you may be going at it like you’re at a pie-eating contest, you don’t want to go caveman on her and rough her up. Keeping a balance between the two is really what makes this move worthwhile.

3 Things All Men Need To Know About The Female Orgasm

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Fortunately for women, gone are the days when it is commonplace for them to have sex and not reach an orgasm. As sex experts have started delving deeper into female sexuality, there has been more awareness about what female orgasm is all about.

Today, women reach orgasms as often as men ejaculate – and they’re even luckier in the sense that they are capable of achieving multiple orgasms.

A Quick Look At What Happens When A Woman Reaches Orgasm

First, let us take a look at exactly what happens when a woman reaches an orgasm. This, of course, is entirely for a man’s perspective. Just imagine what happens to your body as you ejaculate. There’s basically a tightening in your balls and an almost liquid feeling climbing up your spine when you’re close to coming. This sexual experience is very similar to what a woman goes through during a female orgasm.

For a woman, reaching orgasm involves a sensation like no other, wherein excitement slowly builds up until such a point that her vagina ‘surges’ and contracts almost every second. That throb of pleasure that you feel once you ejaculate is similar to the feeling of a woman reaching an orgasm – minus the production of fluid.

And you’ll be glad to know that some women are capable of reaching multiple orgasm if they so desire and if you’re that good of a lover. So it’s perfectly fine to ‘tune her up’ first by letting her reach an orgasm through oral sex first – and then joining in on the action as you penetrate her later on. At that point, she’ll be primed and ready again for her second, third or even fourth orgasm!

Myths About Female Orgasm

Despite being in sexually liberated times, there are still myths about female orgasm which persist until today.

First, there’s the myth that there is something wrong with a woman if she cannot have an earth-shattering orgasm. This is not true at all, because most women have orgasms without them being aware of it. In every sexual contact, they will reach a peak of arousal which is the same as having the feeling of reaching orgasm.

Another persistent myth is that ‘normal’ women can reach orgasm during intercourse. However, a large percentage of the female population cannot reach female orgasm this way. Instead, they can achieve it through a combination of intercourse and oral stimulation – or even by oral stimulation alone.

3 Things That Men Need To Know About Female Orgasm

Now, here are the three things that every man should know about female orgasm:

1. If it takes men two to five minutes of direct stimulation to have an orgasm, the average female needs about 20 minutes of direct stimulation.

So the moral of the story is that you should be patient, prime her up and try to hold off your own pleasure for as long as you can. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication. If you want to reach the point of no return together, giver her at least a 20-minute head start.

2. Women also experience the equivalent of ‘blue balls’.

You already know what blue balls mean – but you probably didn’t know that women experience an equivalent of this, too. Once she gets extremely turned on, the clitoris becomes engorged with blood. If this is not released through an orgasm, she will experience the same level of discomfort that you feel in your penis once your sexual tension isn’t released.

So when you’re going down on her, for example, help build up the tension through stimulation so that she will reach that explosion of release – which is already the female orgasm.

3. Aside from the obvious perks of reaching a female orgasm, there are also health benefits which are in it for them.

Let’s say that women needed another reason for reaching an orgasm besides its being extremely pleasurable. Its health benefits include being less sensitive to pain, relief in menstrual cramps and it also alleviates stress.

There you have it – the top three female orgasm facts that men need to know about. So what are you waiting for? Sharpen your sexual techniques now so that you can give that special woman in your life a female orgasm that she’s not bound to forget!

Women: How To Have More Orgasms

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It’s a fact; women tend to need more time to reach orgasm.

During the few times you’ve managed to reach a climax with your lover, it felt GREAT, right?

So why not apply a few tactics to guarantee the process to bliss? How? Easy. Just learn MORE regarding your own body. The more you know about what makes you tic sexually, the sooner your climax will be. I asked a few sexuality experts to help us out and following are their wonderful tips. Try them all and figure out which one works best for you. Who knows, they may ALL work for you.

Self-Pleasuring 101

Firstly, engage a little ALONE time naked. As you stimulate yourself, concentrate to the state of your mind and how your body reacts up until you reach your climax. Later, when you are with your man, try to re-create these moves.

It’s also imperative to develop an exciting mood. The idea is to establish a scenario that supports a very sexy mindset. For example, sure, you may know what ‘moves’ to apply to induce orgasm but if you open your eyes and see clutter all around, that will zap your sexual mood. Try soft pillows, scented candles, and soft, romantic music. Find out what ambiance works for you and go about ‘staging it’.

Create A Mental Sex Picture

When it comes to sex, men are visual creatures, whereas females are more mental ones. To put it in simple terms, we women like to be ‘sexed up’ up down there before he even makes a move. So to help you reach your orgasm sooner during sex, think of all the hot and sexy things he’s going to do to you (or that you want him to do) tonight. Paint a sexy mental picture and you’ll find that you will be twice more excited as he actually goes about doing the deed.

If visualization is not enough, don’t be afraid to engage in a little self-pleasuring. However, you should NOT reach a climax. Just make things hot – but not too hot – for yourself. When you make love with your partner, your body will instinctively start from where you left off earlier, making orgasm within easy reach.

Sure-Fire Orgasmic Sexual Positions

Females have two major sexual key points: the clitoris and the G-spot. The G-spot, or the Grafenberg spot, is located about 2-3 inches up the front of your vaginal wall. And one of the best ways to locate this spot is to insert your (or his!) index and middle fingers, palm up, inside you and search for a slight bump (like the clitoris, the G-Spot gets engorged when stimulated). So it makes sense that the straight road to orgasm is to stimulate both these sex zones simultaneously!

For instant stimulation of both these areas, woman-on-top seems to be the winning position. This is because in this position, you get to control the angle by which his penis hits your G-spot, the depth of penetration, and other factors.

Now, I did say double stimulation, right? So for your clitoris, give it the attention it deserves by grinding your front against his body. Be sure to try various speeds and movements. For instance, make your hips grind against him in a circular fashion rather than going up and down. This way, you get to stimulate the clitoris as you move up, and his penis gets to hit your g-spot as you move down.

Of course, there’s also the doggy-style position. In this position, his penis is angled almost dead on your G-spot!

If he’s gifted in the size department down there, he may even hit your A-spot, a place some scientists think is capable of producing mind-numbing orgasms too. At the very least, going on all fours enables you to NOT face your lover if you’re the shy type.

If you want to increase the pleasure you feel, you can also squeeze your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles (the ones you use when you try to stem the flow of your urine) during sex. By squeezing these muscles, you are pulling your clitoris and vagina inwards, increasing the level of friction against them as he thrusts.

How to Maximize Your Pleasure

A woman’s body has many sexual secrets. There are a lot of erotic nooks and crannies. The key is to be able to stimulate as many hot buttons as possible at any given time.

For instance, I just love it when my man goes all oral on me. But when he reaches upwards too to fondle my erect nipples as his tongue does his magic down there, I get to the Big O faster than I can blink!

You can also try the ‘reverse cow girl’ position, where you go on top of him but are facing his feet. This position enables you to have your G-spot stimulated by his penis… while your hands are busy stimulating your C-spot at the front. And of course, encourage to multi-task too! Whatever position, tell him to touch, caress, lick and rub anywhere!

Gadgets to Speed Up the Big O

Sometimes, a few sex toys increase the pace to a mind-blowing orgasm. For instance, too much thrusting can make your vagina a tad dry so why not use a bit of lubricant so that everything flows (pun intended) smoothly?

Also, why not experiment with some sex gadgets? For instance, whip out the vibrator and really give your clit a titillating time. If you think this will offend your lover then just slip on a ‘finger vibrator’ on him, which will help, rather than replace, his stimulating moves. For his pleasure, why not put on a penis ring? There’s also buzz toys that you can place between your bodies to give you both a tingly feeling each time you grind against each other.

Orgasmic timing is always a bone of contention between males and females. Bridge that climactic gap by finding ways to speed up yours. It’s a win-win situation so go for it!

How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms…

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To All Men Who Are Frustrated With Their Sex Lives…

I have a simple question for you…

Do you get enough sex to REALLY make you feel like a man? Are you satisfied with how often you get it?

I mean, you work all damn day taking care of the things you need to do and all you want is a little “R & R” to ease the frustration, if you know what I mean. I bet you’ve gone for weeks and maybe even months without having sex with your wife or girlfriend.

It’s harmful to your well-being and could put a serious strain on your relationship. Before you know it, you’ll be looking for someone else or she will.

You can prevent it from ever happening!

Look, if you simply want to learn how to give your girl an orgasm, there’s plenty of information out there. But if you want to learn how to get her to have sex more often, then this may be the most important thing you’ll ever read.

So Where Did You Say You Got Your Sex Education Again?

If you think sex is just insert, repeat and complete, you’re shamelessly wrong. Truth of the matter is, most guys don’t have a clue about having sex, because most men simply aren’t getting a quality sexual education.

If you wanted to be a plumber, you simply go to a trade school, graduate, and *POOF* – you’re a plumber! Why can’t it be that simple when it comes to becoming an excellent, satisfying lover?

Unfortunately, most of us learn about sex as we go and never really know the true ways of satisfying a woman.

So This Makes Me Wonder… Is Your Lady Getting What She Needs?

I know it sucks not to be able to give your woman an orgasm. But that’s only half the story!

I mean, it’s easy for guys to get sexual pleasure when we’re with a woman.  Whether it’s through oral sex, a hand job, or straight-up intercourse, it’s easy for women to give men orgasms.

But when it comes time for us to return the favor and try to give her an orgasm, that’s where most men fail…and you know what? It’s no surprise…

Check out these startling facts, and see if any of these apply to you:

  • 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man.
  • 60% of married women will cheat on their husbands.  Why? There are many reasons, but I bet one of them is because they’re looking for sexual satisfaction that you can’t provide.
  • 25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time.  These men have women who think sex is a chore.
  • Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?)
  • 92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with”.  It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working.

And, over time, after many “failed attempts” at trying to give your woman an orgasm, you’ll probably even hear her saying things like:

  • “I’m too tired”
  • “Not right now”
  • “I’ve had a long day”
  • “Not tonight… I have a headache” or…
  • “I just don’t want to have sex”

Have you experienced any of the above in your lifetime? Have you been turned down by your girlfriend or wife, because you wanted to have sex and she didn’t? Has she ever told you any of the excuses, cheated on you, or even faked an orgasm just to get it over with?

There are a lot of men out there who are frustrated with their sex lives.  But it’s not like we’re special; women are frustrated with their sex lives too (you can probably remember that most women go through their entire life without experiencing one single orgasm).

And you know what?

It’s not right for women to go through life without experiencing an orgasm… And it’s up to us men to do something about it! So, for all the men and women in the world who are frustrated with their sex lives…

The Solution To Your Sex-Deprived Problem

An easy to read, step-by-step system on how to give an orgasm to any woman and bring her coming back for more and more!

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The Female Orgasm Black Book is for men and women, but it is especially valuable for caring boyfriends and husbands who want a no-nonsense, step-by-step plan for bringing explosive sexual pleasures to their partners so they can get more for themselves (what a sacrifice, right?).

The “Black Book” explains the female orgasm, A-to-Z, with sex tips, checklists and examples of “orgasm routines” you can use to bring your partner to an orgasm (or multiple orgasms).

In doing so, you are placing a bookmark into her mind to come back soon and continue with the never-ending novel of joy, passion and love.

That IS what you want, right?

This guide alone could save you hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars in untold frustrations that you (and your partner) could never measure, and that you could never forget.

You obviously care about your relationship, but think about how much it is worth to you to keep her from leaving you because you couldn’t keep her sexually satisfied and given her an orgasm? And if you’re reading this, none of those dates and gifts has gotten you to a point where… You can give her the gift of an orgasm!

She might think you’re a good “boyfriend” or “husband”, but is she having orgasms like you are, and thinking about having sex with you all the time? For less than the price of a decent movie and dinner date, you can have The Female Orgasm Black Book.

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6 Female Masturbation Secrets!

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Female masturbation does exist – and it can be the key to unlocking a totally hot and ravishing sex life!

Female masturbation has existed since women were young girls squeezing stuff between their legs. While many still struggle with the conditioning that anything sexual is sinful, more and more women are admitting their needs and embracing the same. They jill off, pet the kitty or stroke the cat. If they’re not gonna get some from their man, they’ll settle with self-service.

Masturbation, as an invaluable spring of well-being, indeed, is the World’s Favorite Pastime. As George Carlin expressed it, “If God intended us not to masturbate, He would have made our arms shorter.”

It’s The Only Way Some Women Can Orgasm

It’s the only source of O’s for many women, keeping everybody sane, and making up for life’s numerous disappointments – horrible sex included. Petting the kitty affords Eve to settle and be less demanding during sex.

The ladies got everything to gain, considering it doesn’t cost a single penny. Besides being the orgasmic highway, it’s loads of pleasure & fun! They can do it anywhere, they don’t have to dress up for it or put on serious pounds of make-up. They can have it anytime. Most importantly, they have perfect control of the proceedings. They decide how long and how many they’ll get.

Unless she’s one of those ladies who never looked down there, a woman has been touching herself years before she even met you. She has been helping herself before she even got a shot at sex. And guess what, over the years, she has become really good at it – winning herself the easiest, fastest and most intense orgasms. She knows her body best.

Over time, women have perfected a personal process and a set of techniques to reach orgasm.

Of course she has. She knows the type of stimulation needed & the specific parts to be attended. Women know how to turn themselves on and push themselves off.

Masturbation is “practice sex” – an imitation of the real thing – note that to get off, the same organs are given the same type of stimulation. For example, men can’t get enough of blowjobs, handjobs and penetrations because these stimulate the penis in the same manner as jacking off.

So during sex, replicate her jilling moves, especially during manual stimulation. You won’t be able to do that until you know exactly how she does it — so ask her to give you a show. Remember that every time a woman touches herself in front of a man, she’s schooling him and giving him insider info on her O’s!

What To Look For

You may think, “All women masturbate the same way.” Not at all. That’s only the big picture. Go into details and discover that women treat themselves very uniquely. Pay close attention to how she tangos with her vulva, her clitoris in particular – she’s giving you a private lesson from years of personal experience. Here are six elements to consider:

General Types

Though the most common method is ‘hands-on’, the routes to Orgasmville are different. She could employ objects like dildos, vibrators, pillows, bed sheets, a spray of warm/cold water, bottles, vegetables and practically anything she can get her hands on. While most women do it while resting on their backs, there are also others who prefer to be on their stomachs. Still, there are those who never use hands but press their thighs in a familiar rhythm.

Watch for her leg positions. Are they spread, bent, raised or together?

Speed & Timing

During sex, a woman is usually under her handler’s mercy. In masturbation, she has perfect control of speed and rhythm. Find out the gear she’s most happy with. See how fast she works it and try to extricate a rhythm or beat. (Notice that she doesn’t operate in a single speed but sometimes speeds up and slows down.)

While nothing beats having her guiding hand over yours, as long as you’re looking, compare how you operated in the past. Were you too slow or too fast? How was your rhythm? Apply these lessons during intercourse as she’ll be needing speeds similar to the ones she’s shown you.

Type Of Stimulation

Faithfully clone her ways.

It’s unfair for women to be expected to climax with the type of stimulation some guys give. Why? Because it’s not only grossly insufficient, it’s all wrong! How can she be expected to cum with a method totally alien and perhaps even opposite to what she’s accustomed to?! (It’s like demanding from you ejaculation when all she’s doing is tapping your penis.)

During masturbation, a woman has perfect control of the stimulation she gets. So observe her hands, palms, fingers, everything. Pay close attention to the DIRECTIONS her hands go. Is it clockwise, counterclockwise, up-down, side-to-side? Look for patterns and combinations – she has them. See if there’s some pinching, squeezing, tapping, patting, tugging or pulling going on.

Notice her applied PRESSURE. Some stroke minimally, others crave hard action. Again, different strokes for different folks, whatever works for her, works!

How often do her fingers venture inside the vagina? You might be in for a surprise. Blokes imagine that when women jill off, it’s all poke-poke-poke inside. I’m sorry to tell you that this doesn’t happen as often as we’d like to think. Some don’t even bother sliding fingers inside. After all, her clitoris is on the outside.

Specific Areas

Those who shove fingers or dildos oftentimes aim it somewhere specific. It could be at the G-spot or any of her sweet spots. Find out where these are.

Another thing, if she’s using one hand, observe what the other is doing. Is it sensually stroking her breasts? If so, observe carefully how she works them. Usually, when a woman touches herself, other areas besides the vulva gets attention.

The Environment

Environmental conditions are just as important. When women treat themselves, they usually prepare the mood by setting the environment to certain specifications. They set things right, for example, by initially taking a warm or cold shower, lighting candles, even dressing up! They prefer a certain time or day, a particular music, even props. These are her secrets, (she may not even be conscious of them.)

Conversely, guys don’t bother with this nonsense. Men do it who-knows-when and who-knows-where. Backrooms, dark alleys, wet pavements don’t make any difference, so long as they get their hands on johnny, it’s all good!

Psychological Conditions

Sex has two sides – physical and psychological. So far, we’ve dealt only with physical conditions, but just as important are the psychological ones.

What fantasies spur her? What thoughts does she focus on? Later on, it will be clearer to you how a woman’s thoughts and frame of mind affect her ability to cum. Suffice it is to say here, for now, that psychological pressures make reaching orgasm difficult for a girl.

So there it is, six things to look for when your girl schools you. It may sound complicated, but it’s really not that bad, especially when you see her with eyes closed, completely enjoying herself. Don’t you want to give her that same bliss?

Ask her to show you. As the Chinese saying goes, “He who asks is a fool for 5 minutes, but he who does not remains a fool forever.”