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Sex Tips: 5 Ways To Keep A One Night Stand From Being Awkward

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Having sex with someone you just met can be super fun and frisky, but it can also be downright weird if things don’t go the way you planned. There’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults hooking up for some naughty satisfaction, but there are lots of ways to ruin a good one night stand. Avoid one night stand mishaps by following these five simple but essential rules.

Don’t Leave Anything Behind

You might be tempted to leave something of yours behind at your hookup’s house to either get them to remember you or give yourself an excuse to go back and have sex with them again. This is a definite one night stand no-no. When you’re hooking up, make sure that you don’t wear or bring anything valuable to you. You definitely don’t want to wear jewelry and while you may want to look nice, your favorite jeans or best looking shirt is not something you want to leave behind. Let’s face it – if you leave something of yours behind after a one night stand, it’s a good bet you’re never going to see it again. And you shouldn’t.

Don’t Ask For A Phone Number

Some people may feel tempted to score a phone number after a one night stand, even if it’s just to save face. This is one of the worst hookup mistakes you can make! No matter how awesome the sex was or how great an orgasm you had, calling them, texting them or emailing them is just not going to make you look very cool. In fact, it will make you look quite desperate! If you’re going to have a one night stand and have sex with someone you don’t know, make it stay it that way and don’t get to know them. They probably don’t want to get to know you. The one exception to this rule is if you and your f-buddy have decided beforehand that the sexual relationship will be a long standing one, i.e. a booty call.

Don’t Keep Their Stuff In Your House

For the same reason that you shouldn’t leave your stuff behind after one night stand sex, you shouldn’t hang on to stuff around that they might have left at your place. Whether it’s a thong, boxers or a nice watch, pitch it. There’s a reason you don’t bring anything valuable to a sex hookup, especially if it’s with someone you just met or don’t know well. If you happen to have their phone number, you can send them a casual text that they’ve left something, but hopefully you don’t have their phone number and they don’t have yours. If you are able to, however, make sure you designate a completely benign time and place for them to pick it up such as a restaurant during the day or heck, the post office. The idea is to make it completely casual.

Don’t Be Tempted To Cuddle

A lot of girls will insist on cuddling after sex, much to the man’s chagrin. Of course, sometimes it is vice versa. However, if it was a hookup and a hookup only, cuddling is a big mistake no matter who initiates it. You don’t know them and they don’t know you, so why do you want to hold each other in an intimate way? Cuddling completely takes away from the thrill of no-holds barred sex (and sex only) with someone you don’t know. After sex, make a beeline for the bathroom and get yourself cleaned up so you can start getting dressed. A simple, “That was great, thanks!” conversation is all you need after a one night stand.

Don’t Stalk Them Online

So you’ve gotten the one night stand out of your system and it was great. The oral sex was great, the intercourse was great and it was exactly what you needed. Leave it there and move on. Too many people (mostly women, but some men too) are tempted to stalk their f-buddy online on various social networking sites like Facebook or MySpace. Sure, you’d like to check out some pics of your super hot hookup, but do you really want to see his wedding pictures or the pictures of his kids? Do you really want to see what her boyfriend looks like or who else might have hit that? Exactly. If you simply can’t resist checking out their Facebook page, for the love of all that is sacred, do not “friend” them or leave a comment. The best way to move forward after a one night stand is to do exactly that.

7 Ways To Get Laid By Being Just A Friend

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Think you can’t seduce a woman who’s just a friend, huh? Well that must suck, especially because the movies and TV make it out to be such a big deal. They say if you’re her friend, you’ll never be anything more than friends with her. Well I’m here to tell you that’s not the case.

In fact, it’s a bold faced lie.

And in this article, you’ll discover 7 seduction tips that show how being “just a friend” can HELP you turn your friendship into a sexual relationship. (Maybe you can even date her in the long run)

Be The Nicest Man She’s Ever Met

Boy, just reading that makes you feel like you’re less “sexy,” right? Well, you should know that women love “nice guys” – they just don’t like “weak men.” What’s the difference? Well a nice guy is someone who treats a woman right. Someone who makes her feel special, sexy and important.

And a “weak man” is a man who lets other people walk all over him.

But fear not! Because there are a few, very simple, very easy ways to show her that YOU are a nice guy, not a weak man:

  • When she says something you don’t agree with, don’t agree with her. This doesn’t mean you have to be a prick. Be nice, just don’t be afraid to say “no” or “I don’t agree with you” every once in awhile.
  • Tease her, and put her down lightly. You see, nice guys are afraid of ever hurting her feelings. So afraid, they never tease her or make fun of her at all. You should feel free to make fun of her funny mistakes, the same way your friends tease you when you accidentally leave the garage door open, for example. This type of “teasing” is extremely attractive to women. (An example: Oh man, you’re terrible at that. Nope, I’m never letting you do that, ever again.)
  • You don’t have to return her calls if you’re busy. For example, she calls and you’re playing video games with a friend, feel free to let the call go to voicemail. Don’t be afraid to take your “alone” time, she’ll understand.

Don’t Be Afraid To Be Romantic

Romance is another trait most nice guys have. Yet you may be embarrassed by how romantic you’d like to be with women. For example, you might be thinking, “well what if she doesn’t like it? What if I’m coming on way too strong?”

And sometimes, you’d be right. Most of the time, however, women love a little romance. Even from their friends. So showing your romantic side will win you brownie points – if you follow these three rules:

  • RULE ONE: The romance should always be for you. Yeah, you buy her flowers to brighten her day. But why did you think about buying flowers in the frist place? Was it because you were in a romantic mood? Or because buying her flowers would make you feel good? As long as your emotional pleasure is the main CAUSE of romance, she’ll pick up on it, and appreciate the gesture. (This is what women’s intuition is for)
  • RULE TWO: Don’t overdo it. Little gestures are bigger than big gestures. A pair of slippers for her to wear because she’s always cold in your house is a MUCH better surprise than a candle light dinner for two (unless it’s Valentine’s Day, or a special holiday.) Keep your presents small…
  • RULE THREE: Curb your compliments. When you get the urge to compliment a woman, take a second and stop. Do you want to make her like you? Or do you want to make her feel good? The second is good. The first is “weak man” territory.

Make Her Feel Good

Who do you like to hang around more? A friend who makes you feel bad or a friend who makes you feel good?

Being a nice guy means wanting to make people feel good. Being a weak man means wanting to make people like you. Here’s how you can stay on the “ nice guy” side:

  • When you’re talking to someone, always ask yourself, “How can I make this person feel good ABOUT HIMSELF?” Most men ask “How can I make this person feel good ABOUT ME?” And it’s a losing, weak man question.
  • Feel free to become interested in people. You may feel like you get “too” interested in people, and you may feel like they’ll be annoyed you want to know so much about them. Such a thing has NEVER happened! People will talk about themselves for HOURS, as long as you make them feel good about themselves. So ask away.
  • Finally, always compliment. Never criticize. A great book for dealing with people is “How To Win Friends And Influence People” written by Dale Carnegie. His main principle: Never criticize, condemn or complain. And if you’re trying to get a girlfriend, get laid or even get a one night stand, being positive will get your farther than bitching or whining.

Give Her Respect

You respect her. This means you treat her like a lady. This means you want to take things slow, and not rush into a sexual situation she may regret later. This is fine and OK. Here’s what you NEED to remember, though:

  • Women are sexual. Just like men are sexual. Just like you are sexual. This doesn’t mean you’re thinking about sex 24/7 (or maybe you are) This means you like sex (and oral sex and anal sex and…you get the picture), and you want sex to be a natural part of your life. So when you respect a woman, don’t forget to respect this part of her personality, as well.
  • This means no judging, no calling her a slut, but it also means you can feel free to hold her hand, stroke her hair and kiss her, as long as the timing is right.

Once You Get Into Bed With Her….

Being a nice guy, you think sex with this girl is going to be important and special. Well, Skippy, that’s what she wants, too. She wants sex with you to be special and important and romantic and emotional and dirty and kinky and sweaty and FUN.

So use your desire to get sexual with her as a TOOL to treat her nicely:

  • Make your first time sex special. After a nice date, come back to your place and invite her up to watch a movie. From there, you can gradually make your move, so sex feels like something that “just happened” for her. This is the greatest gift you can give a woman.
  • Also – during sex – feel free to make her feel special. Do this by telling her how sexy she looks and how good she’s making you feel. You don’t like having sex with a silent woman, do you? You like when she tells you how good she’s feeling. Return the favor – show her how special she makes you feel.

How Being Shy Can Actually Help You

Here’s a ground-breaking thought: Women like shy guys. Women like quiet guys. Why? Because shy, quiet guys are mysteries to be solved. And women can’t get enough of a man who’s a mystery. So why aren’t women beating down your door to date you? Because women are scared of making the first move.

So the one – EXTREMELY EASY – way to use your shy side to date ANY woman is simply to make the first move. To ask her out to coffee. To touch her first. If you do this, and she knows you’re shy, she’ll know how big of a move this was, for you.

And she’ll feel special and flattered by it – exactly the way you want her feel.

Let Her Know That You Like HER…Not Some Random Girl

And this is the most important quality of all! Because you’re her friend and because you’re a nice guy, you like her for her. You don’t want just some random woman’s random sex. You want her. You want her good parts. You want her flaws. And you want her because you think SHE is special.

Don’t underestimate how powerful this urge is. Imagine someone walking up to you and saying, “I’ve traveled the world and I’ve met hundreds of thousands of people. I’ve seen the pyramids in Egypt and I’ve walked along the Great Wall of China. I’ve met every culture, every nationality and seen things I couldn’t have imagined or made up in a thousand years. But you are the most important person in the world to me, and I want to be with you.”

Makes you feel special, doesn’t it? Obviously it’s an exaggerated example, but doesn’t it match up with SO MANY of the romantic fantasies in movies and books? Luckily for you, you actually feel this way about her.

So don’t be afraid to show it. Just make sure you don’t come across like a “weak man” trying to suck up to her, for attention.

How To Get A First Date

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Asking someone out on a first date can be highly nerve-wracking. In fact, fear of rejection can cause people to put off, or even give up on, asking someone out. That’s very unfortunate. Risky though it may be, asking for a first date can be highly rewarding. Though you can never be one hundred percent certain you’ll get the “yes” you’re looking for, you can up your odds. A little planning and skillful flirting can go a long way.

Reading The Body Language

So you’ve met someone that you’re interested in, and you’ve decided to ask them out. What now? Before you set a plan in motion, think over the interaction you’ve had with this person so far. You want to be sure they’ll be at least somewhat receptive to your advances. How did they act when you spoke with them in person? Were they upbeat, laughing at your jokes, and smiling a lot? What was their body language like? Did he or she lean in close when you were talking? Did they ever rest their hand on your arm or shoulder, or even give you a hug at the end of the night? All of these actions are indicators that they’re attracted to you.

If they acted in the opposite manner—closed off, somber, etc.—they probably aren’t interested. Don’t waste your time asking someone out, unless the evidence points to them liking you.

Coming Up With The Right Material For A First Date

If the person you’d like to be dating is a friend of a friend, there’s no shame in doing some reconnaissance work. Ask your friend for a little background on your new love interest. This will allow you to come up with a plan for a date that will be that much more enticing. Besides, your mutual friend may mention your interest to the guy or gal you’re pursuing, which will allow your friend to further gauge their interest in you.

If you don’t have a friend in common, try to recall anything that might have come up during your previous conversations with your intended. Did they mention a favorite band or sports team that you could get tickets to see? Maybe they brought up a movie or show they have been hoping to check out. If your date idea references something they mentioned when talking to you, that will show him or her that you’re very attentive and thoughtful.

Making The Phone Call

Now that you’ve got a date plan in mind and have decided that this individual is definitely interested in you, it’s time to call them up. Never invite someone on a date using email or a text message. In an ideal world, you’d be able to ask them in person, but if you’re not going to see each other soon, phone flirting is your best bet. Be simple and straightforward in your speech, without being forceful or over the top.

Say hello and ask how he or she has been doing, then get right to the point. Tell them how you enjoyed talking to them the last time you saw them. Then ask them if they’d be interested in going out with you to whatever event you’ve decided on. Tell them you’d really like to get to know them better in a one-on-one setting, just to make sure they don’t think you’re asking them to a group hang. Thanks to your advance planning and clear, simple wording, odds are very good you’ll get the yes you’re hoping to hear.

How To Get A Girlfriend

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Dating and getting a girlfriend isn’t always the easiest thing to do – in fact, it’s downright frightening! Not only is dating scary and intimidating, you’re not always sure what you’re going to get out of the deal. Will you get a girlfriend, a one night stand or will you get rejected, yet again? Instead of worrying about how you’re going to get a date, use these three simple yet extremely effective suggestions to make sure you do get the girl!

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Have Your Own Life

When dating, many guys assume that they have to put all of their time and effort into scoring a date with a girl. Instead of having a life of their own where they do things that they enjoy doing, they sit at a bar waiting for the right girl to walk in. This is not the best way to get a girlfriend! In fact, the best way to meet the right woman for you is to have your own life and do the things you like to do. Be at the places you like to be and take part in activities that make you happy.

What is so great about this is that instead of meeting a woman at a bar, you’ll meet her while doing something that is actually interesting to you and you know you’ll have at least one thing in common with them! If you are too desperate for a relationship, you put off a clingy, needy energy. Women will instantly pick up on this and they’ll actually be repelled by you – not attracted to you. If you have your own life, women will see that you are confident and able to have fun without them – and that you’re fun to be with!

Don’t Be Afraid To Make The First Move

Many guys are afraid to make the first move when playing the dating game, whether it’s flirting with a girl or kissing her. They’re afraid that a woman will reject them if they make the first move, so they play it safe and avoid doing anything at all! These guys may stand in the corner of the bar, looking around at cute women but never taking a step forward to meet them or say hello. If you are too timid when first meeting a woman, you’ll be stuck in the friend zone for sure!

Instead of hanging back and waiting for a woman to approach you, walk up to her and strike up a conversation! Introduce yourself and ask her a question about herself instead of using a lame pickup line. Don’t compliment her looks – instead, compliment her work ethic or tell her how hot it is that she’s into baseball. If she’s responding well to you and seems to be laughing and joking with you, put your hand on her knee or shoulder. Look her in the eyes and if things seem to get romantic, lean in for a kiss. Just don’t go too far before she’s really warmed up to you. Make sure that you are aware of her reactions – don’t push it if she’s not ready.

Show Your Interest Physically Instead Of Verbally

While telling a woman that you like her is one thing, actually showing her is the best way to move from dating to actually getting a girlfriend. This is where reading body language comes in. If you don’t know how to look at her body, the way she is standing and what she’s doing with her hands to tell if she likes you or not, it’s time to learn. Most women won’t flat out tell you that they like you. Instead, she might start touching you while she’s talking to you or lick their lips if she wants you to kiss her. Learn how to read body language instead of asking her if it’s okay for you to kiss her.

If you ask permission, it’s a turn off because it shows that you aren’t aware of her interest. Sure, you’re risking rejection by doing it, but keep in mind that if a girl seems to like you but doesn’t want to kiss you or go home with you, she’s not rejecting you – she’s just rejecting the next step. If you don’t make a big deal out of it, you may get another chance. Remember that the dating game is all about taking risks! Having the confidence to put yourself out there and taking the risk of being rejected by a woman is actually very sexy and attractive!

How To Approach Women Without Fear Of Rejection

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When playing the dating scene, it can be difficult and even intimidating to approach a woman to ask her out on a date. Many guys are afraid of getting rejected by the woman they ask out, so they rarely approach a woman at all. Instead of being afraid of rejection next time you want to ask a girl out, try using these tips to confidently let her know that you’re into her – and get her to go on a date with you!

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Pay Attention To Your Body Language

When dating, most guys try to play it “cool” and avoid looking like they’re desperately looking to score a date. However, this often ends up backfiring in their face, because they start playing it “too cool” and the women they’re interested in have no idea that they’re actually interested! This usually happens subconsciously, because a man’s body language will give everything away if he’s not careful to pay attention to it and make sure his body language is giving the same message that he’s trying to put across. If a guy wants to score a date but is trying to play it cool, his body language may make a girl think he’s not interested in her when he really is. The wrong body language will also make a guy look arrogant, cocky and aloof, preventing any girls from coming up to him and asking him out too! When you’re dating, it’s important that you pay extra attention to your body language so you can give the right message to any lovely lady that you might be interested in.

Be Yourself And Be Honest

Instead of trying to be the guy you think will get all the girls, try being yourself when you’re dating. Be honest about who you are, what you like and don’t like and what is important to you. Stick to your guns and what you believe is right and wrong. There are lots of girls out there that you will hit it off with and will appreciate you for who you are and will appreciate the fact that you’ve been honest about it instead of lying and putting on a fake face like a lot of guys who play the dating scene. If you’re looking for sex only, be honest about it. Let girls know up front what you’re looking for. You may be afraid of doing that because you’re afraid that girls won’t want to have sex with you if you don’t pretend that you’re interested in more, but there are girls out there who are also looking for one night stands too. If you’re dating but interested in a relationship, be honest about that too.

How To Use Compliments

There’s not a woman alive who doesn’t like hearing compliments, but most guys use the wrong ones when they’re dating. Sure, it’s easy to comment a girl on the way she looks, especially if she’s a good looking woman. However, good looking women are used to hearing about how pretty or hot they are so you’re not going to score points for being original. However, if you really want to let a girl know that you’re interested in her, you want to compliment something that is more important to her than just her looks or her hot body. Compliment her about something she’s done or something that she’s achieved that she’s worked hard for. This will mean much more to her than just a canned compliment that she hears often.

Have A Goal In Mind

Most guys approach the dating scene with a goal of talking to a girl, getting her number or asking her out. While this is a good ultimate goal, you should have a smaller goal in mind when you first meet a girl. Your goal is to get her moving with you. Whether it is just a simple walk to the bar or to go get coffee down the street, your goal is to get her away from her friends and walking and talking with you. This will give her a chance to be in your space and you in hers, without the awkwardness of a face to face confrontation right away. Getting her moving is also a great first date idea too. Instead of asking her out for drinks or coffee where you’re both worried about what to say to each other, go out and do something together that you both enjoy such as bowling or taking an art or music class together!