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Insider Secrets Revealed – How To Pick Up Women In 4 Easy Steps

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Having trouble picking up women?

Have no fear!  All you need to do is follow a few simple methods to help you get the woman of your dreams!

Do you want to go out and pick up a woman tonight, but have no clue where to start?

Most of your friends probably don’t know how to pick up women. Your dad probably doesn’t know (and lord knows your mom couldn’t tell you)!

Even the dating “experts” that you see in the media wouldn’t be able to give you the proper tactics on how to pick up women, because if they did -they’d never be able to appear on TV again! (Let’s face it, the mainstream media is extremely feminist and looks down upon anything that could help guys get laid!).

Bottom line: Picking up women is not a politically-correct topic!

You want some practical advice that can really work, that you can start to use right away. Fortunately, you found this article. So let’s get started!

What You DON’T Need

First off – here’s what you DON’T need to pick up women.

You DON’T need to be “male model” good looking.

This is the biggest mistake men make.  You have to realize that close to 85% of women care more about how a man makes them FEEL, rather than how he actually LOOKS. So if you don’t think you’re a very attractive guy, don’t worry! There’s still hope for you.

Next, you DON’T have to drive a fancy car, or spend a lot of money! Quite a few of the best Pickup Artists I’ve ever known spend $30 or less when they go out on dates, and more than one of them doesn’t even own a car!  (And the ones that do don’t drive anything special!)

You’ll find that women can be very forgiving when it comes to how much money you make or spend on them, if they LIKE you! And part of picking up women is to get the girl to like you, right?

Finally, you DON’T have to be famous, be a certain type of ethnicity or nationality, or anything else you can think of. The secret is to have a great personality – this will make any other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you obsolete!  If you know the proper way to interact with women, nothing else matters.

Skyrocket to Success

Unless you’re already on the verge of becoming a master pick up artist, you’re probably not going to have phenomenal success right away using these tips and tactics. But if you apply these and other tactics over a period of time and learn from your experiences, you’ll find your success with women will skyrocket! In order to learn the quickest, you’ll want to go out as often as you can – particularly when you’re first starting.

You don’t have to go to nightclubs or other high-pressure environments to meet women, but they are great “practice grounds” because there are SO MANY women there to meet and talk to. Despite where you choose to go, you need to set aside some time every day to go out and pick up women – you’ll get better the more times you do it! When you’re first starting, you might not have a whole lot of success with the ladies.  But over time, as your experience builds, your confidence will grow.  Every success and failure you have is a learning experience meant to make you better at picking up women.

And Remember…

Remember: The more experience you have, the easier it’ll be.

The most important thing to remember about going out to pick up women is to gain experience! When you do go out to gain this valuable experience with the ladies, try and look as good as you possibly can! (Notice here that I’m not saying you have to be “good looking.”  I’m saying you need to “look good.”  There is a big difference between the two.  You don’t have any say about what you look like, but you DO have a say in your appearance – your hairstyle, the clothes you wear, what cologne you put on, etc.)

Look the Part

Dress for success: Wear clothing that fits you, that’s color-coordinated and looks good on you. If you have fashion-conscious friends who can help you pick out a wardrobe (particularly if they’re women), now’s the time to recruit them. It’s true that you don’t need fancy threads to meet girls, but why not make it easier by wearing nice clothes, why wouldn’t you do it? Besides, looking good will also make you feel more confident!

Be on the lookout for opportunities to do pickup. You can find attractive women just about anywhere. And if you notice that she’s given you the eye, it would almost be a sin not to start talking to her!

The Steps

Finally, every good pick-up follows a structure. Its a series of steps you can actually REPEAT time and time again and get similar results. Here’s the structure:

  1. Find the girl.
  2. Meet her.
  3. Talk and Gain Rapport.
  4. Build Attraction.

These four simple steps is all you need!  You’ll find that if you can just meet the women you want and gain rapport with them, you’ll easily be able to build attraction with them too.

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Sick And Tired Of Being Single? Here’s How To Find Love By Letting Go

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Does true love and romance seem to run away from you?

Could you be unknowingly be pushing love away?

If you’ve been single any amount of time at all someone, somewhere has told you that the key to finding love is to stop looking. And I don’t know about you, but hearing that always completely frustrated me.  How will I ever find someone if I stop looking?  It just made no sense in my head.

That is until I realized that what I needed to do was not physically stop looking.  I should still put myself out there. I should still follow inspired action.  What I do need to do is follow the steps the law of attraction gives us focusing especially on the the last step–receiving.

Ask. Believe. Receive.

First, I ask the Universe for the relationship I want. Next, I believe that the Universe will deliver it.  Finally, and maybe most importantly, I become ready to receive it.

Becoming ready to receive actually involves a couple of sub-steps.  First, you must turn your request over to the Universe truly believing you will get what you asked for. Then, you need to detach yourself from the emotions involved in really wanting it.

Asking.

The trick to asking is this. Know what it is you want in a relationship.  Be specific and be positive.  Don’t put in negative terms.  Don’t say, for example, “I want a man who won’t treat me badly.” The negativity is there and, simply put, if you ask for negativity that is exactly what you will get. Instead ask for a man who will value and nurture you.

If you have trouble doing this, first make a list of what you don’t want.  Then rewrite it in positive language.

Once you ask, follow inspired action to work toward getting it.  This may include joining an online dating site, expanding your social circle or checking out that new coffee shop in town.

Believing.

Believe with everything that you are that the Universe will grant your request.  Being skeptical will interfere with the process and end up attracting everything you don’t want. If you catch yourself in the middle of a negative thought, immediately reroute your thinking.

Receiving.

This is the part where you have to turn it over to the Universe and let it go. But turning it over to the Universe can be difficult.  For this we need to listen to the law of detachment.  This is where that stop looking for love thing comes in. We get too attached to what it is we are looking forward which leads to negative thoughts and emotions.  We end up focusing on that attachment and that negativity and we never receive the relationship we asked for.

But How Will I Ever Find it if I Let it Go?

Here’s the thing.  When we really want something, we become very emotionally attached to it.  Many times that attachment is based in fear.  Fear that there’s no one out there for you, fear that you’re not good enough to be loved, fear that you will grow old alone.  Letting go of that attachment, that fear, does not mean you are letting go of the desire or of the intention.  You are just letting go of the negative attachment to the outcome.

Besides when you look and look for that relationship, you become frustrated.  Negative emotions are born out of that frustration.  You find yourself thinking that there are no good men left, that all men are pigs, that there are only jerks on dating sites, and on and on.  Those negative emotions go straight to the ears of the Universe and that is what you find.

Applying the Law of Detachment

The first thing to do is to identify the fear and negative emotions you are carrying around not only about men or relationships but also about yourself.  If you think you don’t deserve love, that fear will permeate every other thing.  It’s like a virus.  Fear feeds the virus and it grows and grows.  Your attachment will grow and detaching from it will become even more difficult.

Once you have identified and cleared the fear and negative emotions, you are ready to detach.  Commit to detachment. Allow yourself to enjoy the freedom of anticipating the joy of what will come.

Realize that uncertainty is the foundation of creativity.  Out of uncertainty comes solutions and freedom. Revel in the fabulousness of anticipating the wonderful things that uncertainty will bring.

Be open to all of the possibilities.  They are endless and exciting!  Experience the joy of life, have fun, broaden your horizons and soon love will find you. You won’t have to look for it any longer.

8 Signs Your Date is Married

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Ever wondered if you’re dating a married man or woman?

Maybe it’s the fact that you know nothing about their personal life or you’ve never met their friends.

Something just doesn’t jive when you’re together.

Luckily, there are some telltale signs that your lover has another!

Below are eight easy-to-spot signs that your date is probably married… 

1. What’s Your Home Number?

Getting a hold of your partner is about as easy as contacting a government employee at 4:35 pm. You have a cellular number but it always seems to be turned off or out of range when you aren’t together.

Well, you can’t expect them to take your call at their son’s soccer game, can you?

2. Are You Dating A Homeless Person?

If you didn’t know better you’d think your lover lived on the street.

You know he must have a house — he has to store that extensive wardrobe somewhere — but, much like the Sasquatch, you’ve never actually seen it.

The reason all the sleepovers happen at your house? His wife would be an inconvenience at his.

3. Tell Me About Your Family…

Speaking of mysterious, how much do you know about her personal life?

Does she ever talk about her family, where she went to school, her hometown or hobbies?

If she’s keeping you in the dark, it’s because she doesn’t want to give you the information you need to discover she’s married.

4. I’d Never Find This On My Own

And that’s exactly the point. All of your public dates take place in very inconspicuous out-of-the-way places, but those happening in the privacy of your living room likely outweigh them.

If you find yourself watching movies at your place more often than eating dinner in a restaurant, you may be getting it on with a married man.

5. What A Strange Time To Call

Consistently calling at odd hours is a definite sign of something amiss.

She may call early in the morning on the way to work or in the wee hours of the night while walking the dog, but it never seems to be at a normal time or from a normal location. Also watch for lot of (untraceable) calls from public phone booths or leaving the room to take calls on his mobile when you are together.

6. Come On, Let Me See Them

Most people keep photos of their wife and kids close to their heart. If you spy some snaps in his wallet or her purse but they won’t let you have a look, it’s a safe bet they’re not of a best bud or beloved pet.

7. PDAs Are MIA

She always finds a way to wiggle her hand from yours when you walk down the street. She nervously looks around her before offering you a peck on the lips and hugs are quick and perfunctory.

If public displays of affection are rarer than black pearls, she’s probably worried about hubby seeing her locked onto your lips.

8. Why Don’t We Do Anything With Your Friends?

The two of you always go out alone.

There’s never another couple or friends along for the ride. He says his friends are all boring or they’re married and can’t go out.

The reality is that he’s all married and just trying to keep worlds from colliding and crashing into his elaborate lie!

Cinderella Was a Liar

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No Love Life? Blame Cinderella!

It’s all Cinderella’s fault.

“If you have ever sat in front of the television on a Friday night wondering ‘What the hell happened to the fairytale? Where’s my Happily Ever After?’

Then it’s time you knew the truth: Cinderella was a liar,” says Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was A Liar.

That’s right ladies, we’ve been spending our lives searching for something that doesn’t exist, all because of that damned glass slipper.

And guys, you’ve been through hell and back just because you don’t happen to fit the image we’ve been carrying around in our heads all of these years.

As little girls, we took to Cinderella as through it were gospel.

We were certain that our perfect guy would show up any day on his white stallion, ready to profess his love and devotion and whisk us off to the ball: He’d pop that glass slipper on your foot, and instantly your life would be transformed from sweeping the cinders to true love and the spotlight dance at the big ball.

The men in our lives – decent, stable guys with jobs and receding hairlines and no horseback riding experience whatsoever were thrown back, and deemed unworthy. Or maybe we met someone we were certain was Prince Charming, and he just disappeared into the sunset after the first date.

Sure, he might have been under some sort of a twilight frog spell. Or maybe, you’re one of the “Sisters” no Prince wants to date.

Here’s how Casa describes the various “Sister” types. Are any of them YOU?

The Dramatic Sister

She’s so fair, so fun, and so damn loud! A dramatic sister fashions herself a diva (which she mistakenly perceives as a good thing) and loves to put on a show.

Everything from where to go to the wrenching details of her latest romantic drama is such a huge production that everyone around her feels drained by the second hour. The ugly truth is that she’s an energy vampire: she just sucks.

The Jaded Sister

With more baggage than Eva Peron on her Rainbow Tour, discussions start out light and airy and soon take a turn for the morbid when the topic of relationships comes up.

Still pissed over her ex, who was a total cad and did not deserve her, she often unwittingly makes comments about suitors that make everyone feel they are wearing a wool sweater in a downpour. Oh, and please don’t bother sharing news about your new prince!

She doesn’t believe they exist.

Sister Self-Importance

This sister can’t figure out why she’s not famous yet. She’s a total star!

She is fantastic, interesting and drop-dead gorgeous. Just ask her! She’s always wanted to give one of those celebrity interviews she loves reading which is why she treats every new suitor like an US Weekly journalist.

By the end of the night her date has enough info on her to snatch her identity and she knows his name – well his first one at least.

The Saucy Sister

This sexy maiden loves to flaunt her, uh, appeal any chance she gets.

With her tightly bound corsets, double-entendres, heaving bosom and six-inch stilettos, she oozes sex, dresses sex and talks sex – and then she wonders why all she gets is sex?

The Martyr Sister

Sigh! Move over for Sister Joan of Arc. This is the kind of girl who’s been through hell and back – and that’s just while she’s at work. She’s always suffering at the hands of evil bosses, witchy-bitchy friends, and slimy toads.

If everyone in the world were as kind as she is, things would be so much nicer, wouldn’t they?

Sister Superficiality

In these modern times, magazines and television shows exploit the idea that a maiden’s hair color or a lad’s stock portfolio is more important than their value system.

Thus, it can be difficult to remember that underneath that shell lies a soul – with feelings, needs, wants, hopes and dreams. Whether your basis for placing an overwhelming amount of credibility on the external is based on total oblivion or a lack of empathy, a maiden who does so comes across as vapid and boring.

But The Best Part Was…

What I liked best about Cinderella Was A Liar was that the author spent a lot of pages talking about how to get past the fantasies and find real and lasting love.

How to appreciate the real guys around you, and how to create your own fairy tale life, prince or not. Perhaps the most entertaining parts of the book are the quotes from men – expressing their real feelings on everything from bachelor parties to women who make them crazy to why they fall in love.

Bottom line? This dating book is a charmer!

How To Embrace Your Inner Geek And Still Get The Girl!

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Do nice guys always finish last?

Well, that depends on the nice guy.

What if you’re a total geek, have absolutely no social skills, no self confidence, and no idea where to start with girls?

Can you still get the girl?

We think so, if you’re willing to follow a few simple guidelines…

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I am a total geek. Yes, the guy who sits in a computer store drooling, or beating a video game, or basically destroying people on the front in Dungeons and Dragons…

It’s very demoralizing to know that all your good at is blasting people online.

How can a guy like me have good confidence when I know I’m the ultimate geek? I really need your help on this.

— Carl, Colorado

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How To Embrace Your Inner Geek And Still Get The Girl!

Perception Is Everything

If you don’t feel confident or portray confidence, no one else is going to pay attention to you. So what you have to do is supercharge your own inner confidence.

Perception is everything. You have to work on how people perceive you, how you look and how you carry yourself.

Before anyone else can accept you, you have to accept yourself for exactly who you are today. No one else has the right to judge you or to tell you that you’re anything less than perfect.

It’s time to embrace what you call your “geekiness”.

Strengthen Your Inner Confidence

The secret to being a good salesman is to believe in the product you are selling. And when you are dating, that product is you…

And when you are dating, that product is you.

You say that you’re a geek, but the way you say it makes it sound like a bad thing.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a geek!

When I think of a geek, I think of someone who’s highly intelligent but generally lacks confidence in their own social skills. You should consider yourself lucky, because you’re either born with intelligence or you’re not. Social skills, on the other hand, can be learned.

The moment you start to truly accept yourself for who you actually are on the inside, others will too. You need to focus on your strengths and accept yourself for who you are. If you try to be someone else you’ll just come across as fake.

Another important point here is that as soon as you stop caring about what other people think and recognize that you are perfect just the way you are, that’s exactly when other people will start to see the real you, rather than just your lack of confidence.

Looks Do Matter

I’m not talking about physical looks and bodily build.  I’m talking about paying attention to the way you dress and basic grooming skills. You can be the best looking guy in the world, you can be the smartest guy in the world, but if you look funny and smell funny, forget it! No girl will want to be around you.

So pay attention to how you look and smell.

Dress nice. When you dress nice you feel better, stronger, and more confident. If you’re running around in a t-shirt and sweats and haven’t taken a shower, you feel funky. Right?

Take a shower, shave your face, and put on clean clothes before you leave the house.  And actually leave the house for at least an hour a day. Don’t underestimate the power of fresh air.

The question then becomes, do you really know how to dress nice?

If not, consider hiring a professional for one or two sessions to help you look and feel like you think you should. This is a topic that guys often feel weird about and think that only gay guys get help with their wardrobes…

Get over it, and hire a professional!

Beware Of Your Friends

Here’s a big warning: beware of your friends!

If you’ve ever wanted to change anything about your lifestyle – how you walk, talk, dress, or do anything else – then you already know that the biggest obstacle you’ll ever face, and I mean the absolute biggest obstacle, are your friends.

Your closest friends are the ones that you can count on to keep you exactly where you are, to keep you in place. They will do anything to keep you from growing or changing. It’s not because they don’t like you. It’s because they’re afraid that you’ll grow up and leave them behind.

So you have to ask yourself this question…

Do you want listen to your friends and stay exactly where you are – without a girlfriend? Or do you want to “sell out” and get the girl?

We say “Sell Out”. It’s well worth it!