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How To REALLY Impress A Guy

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Dating tips for women aren’t something girls automatically “know.” Don’t bomb your next date – check out these tricks to really make an impression!

Knowing how to really impress a guy is one of the most important aspects of being a woman. When you meet a guy that you want, it’s fairly easy to fall into the trap of playing coy or hard to get. While these methods can work on some men, it’s not foul proof. Impressing a guy doesn’t take games or seduction methods. In fact, it’s really not that hard.

There are a several qualities that men find very impressive in all women, no matter what you look like. Here are some of the most desired qualities that will really impress a guy.

1. Have A Great Outlook On Life

Your outlook on life should always be positive. It doesn’t matter if you’re a liberal or a conservative, a positive outlook on life can a very long way with men. Even if you’re not the bubbly type that is always smiling, being content with yourself and where you going over the next 4-5 years can be enough to impress him.

Nobody wants to date a downer. Keep this in mind the next time that you meet a guy that you really like. He wants to be inspired by you and the only he can do that is if you have positivity and know what you would like out of your time on the planet.

2. Look Great (Yes, This Is One Of The Essential Dating Tips!)

No, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to impress a guy. The typical girl goes out of her way to look her best all times. This usually does not work. Guys that see a girl dressed to the 9s every time they step out of the house assume they are high maintenance. While there is a time and a place for getting dressed up, guys generally want a girl that can toss on a pair of jeans and still look great. This may take some shopping.

No girl is going to look sexy in a pair of ragged Wranglers, but you also don’t want to use your $200 jeans for yard work. Find clothing that is not very fancy or expensive, but still accentuates your best attributes. Once this is accomplished he’s going to wonder why you’re the only one that can turn him on by dusting.

3. Be Honest

Have you ever watched a TV show and wondered, “Why didn’t she just tell him that from the start?” Lies have a way of surfacing. No matter how small or how big, there will come a time and place when your honesty is going to be tested. No guy wants to be with a girl that he can’t trust.

Open up to the guy from the moment that you meet him and he will appreciate it. A relationship built on trust and transparency can always be mended. One of the biggest fears of a guy is that the girl he is seeing isn’t being honest with him. Good or bad, always tell the truth and he will be extremely impressed right from the start.

4. Handle Stress Well

There are a lot of women that curl up into the fetal position every time they get stressed out. Guys love a strong woman that is good at problem solving and won’t freak out every time there is a bump in the road. Guys notice how the girls they are with handle stress. Whether you avoid it or tackle it head on, be sure that he’s watching.

He wants to make sure that you’re not going to have a total mental breakdown the next time that a restaurant forgets your reservation. Being easy going is one of the best qualities that you can have when dating. While you don’t want to float through the relationship, you also don’t want to be dram queen.

5. Be Independent

Being independent is a quality that every guy wants from a girl. Yes, traditionally it is the man’s job to bring home the bacon. However, we’re living in revolutionary times. Women are CEO’s, business owners and are even running as the president. We can’t have it both ways. We either want to be taken care of, which releases our power over the relationship or leads to guilt, or we have to be considered an equal. You never want the guy calling all the shots.

If you have plans with your girlfriends, stick to them. Never cancel plans because a guy wants you to. If you would rather hang out with him over your friends, then make that clear, but don’t do it just because he wants you to. Being independent shows that you’re not going to cater to his every whim and allows you to be your own woman.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Guys Make When They Approach Women

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When you don’t know how to approach women the right way, you’re constantly missing out on opportunities. Very few guys understand how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, interesting way that creates a compelling REASON for women to want to know them and take things further.

When you spot a hot girl, you can assume that the last 47 guys who attempted to approach her — whether it was at the bar, the supermarket, or on the street — sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her “force field” to go on high alert. At that point, she’s going to look for a reason to end the interaction as soon as possible.

She may indulge you with a few minutes of polite conversation and then blow you off gently (“It’s been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend…”), or she might shoot you down immediately (“Uh, I’ve got a boyfriend”). Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it’s very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere.

Don’t Make These Mistakes When You Approach Women

Here are the three deadliest mistakes that guys make when they approach women, and some tips on how to AVOID these traps and get the results you want.

Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking permission to talk to her

This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as:

“Excuse me, may I know your name?”

“Hi, do you mind if I ask you something?”

“Can I buy you a drink?”

Opening a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in.

Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you’ll expect in return: you’ll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don’t even know, you’re basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time.

Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Absolutely not. There’s a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it and it’s certainly not in the first 30 seconds.

One of the rules of effective conversation is for you to stay in control at all times. You maintain the “power position” and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to “invisibly” guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her passions, ambitions and talents) that she’d normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago.

This is when women begin to feel attraction, and you’re on your way to success.

The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. Asking permission is a surefire way to blow the conversation before it even begins. Don’t do it.

Deadly Approach Mistake #2: You must assume rapport.

When two people have “rapport” it means they’re comfortable with each other and have things in common. They vibe with each other in the manner of old friends — joking around, having fun, talking about topics of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview.

When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the “conversation” seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: “So what’s your name?” “Are you from around here?” “So what do you do for work?” He could be having this same conversation with his dentist!

On the other hand, the guy who is extremely good with women always assumes rapport. He doesn’t bother with the boring “getting to know you” questions. Right from the start, he’s joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination.

He makes her feel invested in the conversation, and she’ll want to show that she can keep up with him. Even in the first few minutes he’s showing her that he’s a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle.

Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy.

Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to “open” her). Actually, what you follow up with is far more important — how you transition into the conversation and get it flowing.

From there, you’ll want to use techniques of mine such as Hypotheticals, Advanced Cold Reads, and Hooks & Ladders (my method for making sure the conversation NEVER runs out of steam).

After You Approach Women, What Comes Next?

In short, you’ve got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different “emotional buttons.” For example, building comfort is a crucial early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven’t made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important.

Next, once comfort has been established, you’ll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is “hard to get.” You’re going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they’re up to HER standards.)

Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the circumstances, this could mean getting her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home that night. So few guys understand how to “close” successfully.

Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them – or seeing them again – and having the “rock star sex life” that most men can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women.

It means that literally anytime you leave your home – whether it’s to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends – you’ll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out about.

3 Rude Things To Say To A Woman You Just Met

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When flirting, do you have to compliment a woman you just met to successfully get a date? Not always. Do you think jerks, bad boys or the other guys she falls for tell her how beautiful and perfect she is?

They catch her attention by saying something “out of left field.” Sometimes it’s even downright RUDE! And in this article, you’ll discover three of these “Rude” things you can say to a woman to grab her full attention.

You’ll find out how to follow them up with a compliment or just small talk to win her heart. And you’ll be able to walk right up to a beautiful woman, grab her full attention in two sentences and be just one step away from getting her phone number. (Especially if you know her already)

Here’s exactly what you gotta say:

“Whoa. You Can’t Just Do That…”

Guaranteed to stop a woman in her tracks. You’d say this to a woman you see on the street, or sit next to on the subway, or even a woman you see shopping for clothes at the mall. You can use this flirting technique on women who are working, or women you work with. Even with college students or women you see everyday. The “trick” here is to follow it up with a compliment about something she’s doing. For example:

  • “Whoa. You can’t just do that.” “What?” “When you walk in here smiling like that, I lose my whole train of thought”
  • “Whoa. You can’t just do that.” “What?” “Your smile is too pretty to walk right by me without saying hi.”
  • “Whoa. You can’t just do that.” “What?” “Something about your energy is messing with me. I can’t take my eyes off of you.”

You get the idea, right? Of course – you’re catching her attention with a kind of rude sentence, then flipping it around to a positive compliment. You’ll have her full attention and the SURPRISE sexual attraction she gets when she meets someone truly charming.

“I Can’t Believe You Just Did That!”

You want to use this one after she DOES something. Your goal here is to make her think, “Wait. Did I just do something embarrassing or wrong?” And it’s OK to make her think this because you’re about to make her feel good with a compliment.

Here are some examples:

  • “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “The way you looked at me made my heart skip a few beats. What’s your name?”
  • “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “Walked right by me without apologizing.” “For what?” “For having such a great smile, I forgot everything I was thinking about.”
  • “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “The way you move has almost a hypnotizing effect. And for a split second, every single person in this room was looking at you. What’s your name?”

And this time, we added a second step to the pick up line. Sometimes, this step was to ask her for her name. (This lets you transition into small talk easier) And once, you made the tension even greater, by adding another “rude” statement in the middle.

Now you’re starting to see how powerful this type of flirting really is.

“Are You Seriously Going To Do That?”

You know the drill by now – make her freeze up, then give her a compliment. So let’s see how you’d use this “rude” statement:

  • “Are you seriously going to do that?” “Do what?” “Walk right by me without saying hi.” (This one should be done with a smile and a playful, flirting attitude.
  • “Are you seriously going to do that?” “Do what?” “Walk right by me without saying hi.” She laughs “What’s your name?”

In this example, you “evolve” one of these rude statements into a conversation.

First, it’s just the “rude” statement and a teasing compliment. (This is like flirting, or bantering with her.)

Second, you ask “What’s your name?” to add some small talk. Third, you tell her your name, and then ask her what she’s up to. This way, you get her name (she’ll tell you because you told her) and you’re on a better small talk conversation.

3 Kissing Tips That Will Drive Her Wild!

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Kissing is one of the best ways to turn a girl on – women love to kiss and it ignites their senses immediately. The same isn’t true for guys – they respond better to visual stimulation, such as porn. However, with a kiss, you allow a woman’s imagination to go wild, which will have her all over you in no time. Here’s how to kiss a girl and make her melt.

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Wait Until You Know That She Wants To Be Kissed

You don’t want to surprise a woman with a kiss when she’s not ready, because it can totally backfire and depending on the woman’s mood, it could ruin the whole evening. You want to feel the situation out first and make sure you’re fairly confident that she wants to be kissed before you actually head in for the smooch.

To find out if she’s really ready for you to make the next move, get in your girl’s space while flirting. Move in closer to your girl and touch your lady’s hand or arm softly. How does she respond? If she seems to like it, that’s your cue to continue. Move in closer and closer, touching your girl’s arm and then moving to brush the hair out of her face and touch her cheek softly. If you get a good response to all of these maneuvers, you can be pretty confident that she’s ready for a kiss.

Knowing When She Doesn’t Want To Be Kissed

Making a kiss absolutely perfect is all about having the right timing. Timing is everything when it comes to seducing a woman. You don’t want to do it when she’s not responding well to your advances, because that usually means that  she’s just not in the mood. That’s the whole purpose of feeling your woman out to begin with – because if she’s not into what you’re doing, it’s better if you stop and simply try again another time.

If she doesn’t seem into it, it doesn’t mean that she’s not into YOU – in fact, quite the opposite may be true. If she doesn’t want you to make a move now, she may still be into it later. Pay attention to your girl’s body language and cues. She’ll let you know when she’s ready.

Start Slowly And Gently

If she seems ready for kissing, it’s important that you start slowly and gently, and work your way into building it up into something more passionate. You don’t want to start off with tongue right away – even if she’s ready for a kiss, if you plow into your woman with your mouth right off the bat, you’re going to turn her off immediately and probably cause her to shut down for the rest of the night.

Pay attention to the kissing tips you’ve heard before and be aware of introducing tongue too early or using too much tongue. Some girls don’t even like tongue during kissing, so make sure you’re paying attention to your girl’s responses to each move that you make. If she backs off a little or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, switch it up and do something a little different. Backtrack a little and start kissing more softly if you were escalating too fast.

Slowly Escalate To More Passionate Kissing

If she seems into what you’re doing, that’s your cue to take it to the next level. Just like how foreplay is important for sex, slowly building up the kiss is important when you’re making out with a woman. If she keeps responding to your advances though, you know that you’re okay to kick it up a notch.

Start slowly bringing your hands up to cradle your lady’s face or place them on her hips to draw her body close to you. Gently move your lips down to the chin and lightly kiss your girl’s neck. You can also gently nibble the ear before moving up to put your lips on hers again. If you’re moving at the right pace, you might end up seducing your girl into having sex with you! However, if you go too fast, you’re bound to turn your woman off before you can even understand what happened.

Always Start From Scratch

Each time you go to kiss a woman – even if you’ve done it hundreds of times before – you want to start from scratch. Don’t assume that because you guys had an intense make out session last week that you can jump right back in where you left off. Even in long term relationships, you want to approach a girl like you’ve never kissed her before and take steps to make sure that she is ready.

Top 5 Reasons Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

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Pick up lines aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Here’s why they almost always will cause you to fail at getting a girl!

Pick up lines are some of the worst methods getting a girl’s attention. When you use a line you show that you’re not only desperate, but also highly unoriginal. They are played out and make you come off as a tool. If you have ever thought about using a line, get it out of your head immediately. Here are the top 5 reasons they just don’t work.

1. They’re Generic

“Come here often?” The line doesn’t work primarily because it’s too generic. The fact that you’re using it on a girl that you don’t know shows that you don’t really care about her or have anything original to say. This shows her that you’re not a guy that separates himself from the pack. When you use an original “Hello” or “How are you” you don’t come off as a guy who bombards women at every bar with the same line. “How are you” and “Hello” are pretty common for every day conversation so this gives you a non-threatening way of approaching women.

2. They’re Needy

There is nothing more pathetic than a guy who is desperate. When you use pick up lines, you come off as a guy who only wants to have sex. This can be problematic for a guy who really does want to get to know a girl. When you use a line like “great dress, but it would look better on my bedroom floor,” you sound like a guy who is desperate for sex. Women want a guy that has options. When you use a line you look like you would just say the line to any girl that walks by. Avoid using pick up lines so you don’t look needy.

3. They’re Unoriginal

You know when you walk into a bar or a club and you see every guy or girl dressed the same? How many times do you think a girl has been given a pick up line and actually followed through on it? Women are hit on by guys every day and most guys stick with pick up lines because they are familiar. So when a girl hears you say something that she has heard a couple of hours before, she’s going to be even more put off by you. Pick up lines have been around forever. Chances are, she’s heard it and it’s not going to make her laugh or feel attracted to you.

4. They’re Creepy

How would you feel if some guy walked up to you and said that one about the angel falling from heaven? I would definitely be creeped out. This is exactly how women feel when some stranger walks up to her and delivers a line. Creeping a girl out is not the way to get a phone number. You want to build comfort and rapport with the girl in order to take a relationship to the next level. When you use a  line, you’re going to creep her out and you will probably see it on her face.

5. They’re Not Funny

The fact of the matter is that pick up lines aren’t that funny. They can even be offensive to a lot of women. Do you think that you’re going to get her phone number after offending her? Probably not. It’s best to use a simple opener when approaching women. A pick up line can leave a bad taste in her mouth and leave you feeling like an idiot. If you think that it’s funny, stop yourself anyway.

Pick up lines are usually seen on TV or in movies, but think about the guy that is saying them. Is he the hero of the film or show? More than likely he’s the creep that nobody wants around. Pick lines are generic and will never come off as appealing to women. They have the ability to ruin a situation that could have become favorable with just a simple opener. Some pick up lines even have the ability to offend the girl and send her on her way after the first sentence is spoken.

Even if you do have a hilarious pick up line, she might not get the joke. This could leave you explaining why it’s funny and explaining a joke effectively creates an awkward situation. It’s best to leave you pick up lines at the door when you’re out approaching women. Use an environmental opener or mention something about her clothing to get a conversation started properly.