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Top 10 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Her

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Valentine’s Day is a perfect day to show your partner that you truly love and care for her. But just how are you going to do that? There are tons of romantic Valentine’s Day ideas out there, and lots of ideas for gifts you can get her on that special day. However, even the gifts that seem romantic and sweet can actually backfire on you! Check out these Valentine’s Day gifts that are sure to make her swoon on the 14th!

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Jewelry

While jewelry may seem cliche, don’t underestimate the fact that almost every women loves things that are pretty and sparkly. If you want to ask her to get married, a ring is great on Valentine’s Day, but your girl will appreciate a nice pair of earrings or a tennis bracelet just as much. Just make sure to put some thought into it – if she works with her hands all day, a channel set ring would be a better choice than a marquis diamond.

Flowers

Sure, it’s just as cliche as jewelry, but very few women won’t love a gorgeous bouquet of blooms. The trick is, however, to make giving the flowers unique. Surprise her at work with a bouquet of flowers – IN PERSON. She’ll love the attention! Do it right before her lunch break and then take her out to lunch. When she comes back, it’s all her coworkers will talk about! Bonus points if you get a quickie in the car – or at least make it look like you did. Whatever you choose to do, just don’t be the guy who has his secretary send her a tiny, overpriced bouquet off the Internet or the guy who gets the discount flowers from the supermarket after all the good ones have been picked through.

Chocolate

Chocolate is a popular Valentine’s Day present, but it’s easy to go very wrong when buying your woman chocolates for the big day. We’re not talking about the box you can simply grab at the store with the rest of your groceries. These heart shaped boxes can be pretty, but they’re usually filled with cheap tasting chocolate and gritty fillings. This Valentine’s Day, give her fine imported or Godiva special order chocolates. She’ll swoon over those.

You can make it really special by finding out what chocolates she really likes. For example, lots of people don’t like dark chocolate or coconut (especially the cheaper varieties) and many boxes of mixed chocolates have a large ratio of these flavors. If she doesn’t like dark chocolate, go for a milk chocolate mix or hand select which chocolates she’d like. Many specialty chocolatiers and candy stores will allow you to put together a box of chocolates that you pick out.

Wine Or Champagne

Another great Valentine’s Day idea is to surprise her with a bottle of her favorite wine or champagne – you know, the kind she loves but it’s just a little over her price range so she never buys it for herself. Make a point to enjoy it with her. This is where you can make the gift truly special, by enjoying a nice, long conversation with her while relaxing over drinks. Make sure to bring a back up because if she really likes it, one bottle isn’t going to be enough for the two of you!

Weekend Getaway

You’d be surprised at how much a simple change in scenery will rev up your sex life and make Valentine’s Day super special. Even if it’s just for the weekend, a simple getaway with just the two of you will be just the ticket to a perfect weekend. Or, you can simply book a hotel for that night if you don’t have the time or funds to splurge for the entire weekend. Make sure you’re booking a nice 3-5 star hotel, not the sleazy motel across the street. The venue you choose will make a difference. Bonus points if you bring the high end chocolate AND the champagne.

Spa Voucher

Women love to be pampered, but unfortunately, it is a rare woman indeed that will actually spend that kind of money on herself. For Valentine’s Day, get her a massage voucher. Or a hair voucher. Or nail voucher. Or all three. You get the idea – let her know that you feel like she’s worth it and that you appreciate all of her hard work and everything that she’s done for you. Take her to the spa and be there to pick her up when her appointment is finished.

Sex Toy

While getting her a sex toy as a gift can definitely backfire if you’re not careful, all you have to do is pay attention to what she likes and what she doesn’t like in bed to make sure you get her one that she’ll like. If you choose the right toy, you’ll show her that you really do know her well and know what she enjoys. Pair a sex toy with another gift, such as a massage or a night at your favorite hotel, for the perfect Valentine’s Day evening.

Photograph Of You And Her Together

Show your love for your girl by giving her a gift of a photo of you two together in a nice keepsake frame. If you don’t have good pictures of you two together to frame, make your gift a photo shoot together. Get them professionally done and give it to her to put on her desk or hang up in her house – or your house if you share one. This is a super creative and sweet way to show your lover that your relationship with her is important to you and you want to celebrate it on Valentine’s Day.

Comfortable Pajamas

Lingerie is a popular gift for Valentine’s Day, but let’s face it – how often is she really going to wear it? Probably just the once. Come to think of it, isn’t lingerie for her really a gift for you in disguise? It’s kind of like getting her a fishing pole for her birthday – you’re really getting her a present that is for you to use. Instead of getting her lingerie, get her high end, comfortable pajamas to wear that shows her you care about her and her comfort. A sweet set of silky pajamas will make her feel loved and pampered – and it probably won’t be long before the pajamas come off and you get to enjoy the night in your birthday suits.

A Love Book

A LoveBook is a wonderful Valentine’s Day gift, because it’s something that will last forever – a book full of things you love about your partner that you made yourself. It’s an easy gift to give, because the program used to make the LoveBook guides you through the process, but it also allows you to be as creative as you want and customize your LoveBook completely. It’s something she can read every day that tells her each little thing that you love about her.

Alone On Valentines Day? Hot Masturbation Tips For Him AND Her

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Flying solo on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean that you have to spend the night moping around about how you’re not gettin’ any. Instead, why not plan to get some – with yourself? Plan an evening of pleasure for yourself, whether it’s watching your favorite porn flick or taking a hot bath and relaxing before breaking out a new vibrator. Here are some excellent ways you can get busy by yourself on Valentine’s Day!

Grab An Erotic Movie Or Book

For Him: Rent, buy or download a new porn with your favorite star in it, or indulge yourself in a fetish movie that you haven’t gotten around to checking out yet. Men love visual stimulation, so lock your doors and turn on the tube. You can also check out free porn on websites like YouPorn. Either way, just make sure you get your mind in the mood with whatever turns you on the most. Make sure you have your masturbation tools nearby in case you can’t hold out through the whole movie!

For Her: Visit your local sex toy store for an erotic novel or two, or order them online. Heck, you can even find free erotic stories online with just a simple Internet search. While men are visual creatures and enjoy watching sex, most women prefer to have their imaginations stimulated with an erotic novel. Don’t just re-read one of your steamy romance novels though – this Valentine’s Day, treat yourself to something really naughty. You’ll be surprised at how much better your masturbation can be after just a few erotic stories!

Purchase A Sex Toy Just For The Occasion

For Him: There are a lot of guys out there that are still stuck in the hand and lotion “stone age.” There are lots of hot sex toys for boys available at both traditional sex toy stores and their online counterparts. Male sex toys come in a variety of different styles, colors, textures and sizes to accommodate every man’s desires. Masturbation sleeves are among the most popular sex toys for guys, whether it’s a “Fleshlight” modeled after a real vagina or a simple pink silicone sleeve that feels absolutely divine with a few squirts of lube. Consider purchasing a new sex toy before the big day and save it for that special night. You’ll feel the difference right away!

For Her: Thinking about busting out your tried and true vibrator for a quickie masturbation session on Valentine’s Day? Think again. Order a brand new dildo or bullet vibe (or whatever else tickles your fancy) and save it for the 14th.

Relax In A Hot Bath

For Him: You may think it’s sissy for guys to want to relax in a hot bath, but don’t underestimate the power that hot water, bubbles, steam and aromatherapy can do to relax your body and your mind. Especially if you’ve had a particularly long or difficult day at work, it’s important to clear your mind of everything that happened that day and start getting yourself in the mood and thinking about sex. Stroke yourself a few times in the bath, or think about something really arousing to get yourself ready.

For Her: Every woman loves a good, long soak in a hot bath. Take this to heart on Valentine’s Day and plan to take a long bath before your masturbation session. Make it special by adding some new, great smelling bath oils or salts, or light your favorite scented candles and add some rose petals to the water. The idea behind doing this on Valentine’s Day is to treat yourself right and make yourself feel special when you’re spending the evening alone. After your bath, make sure to put on some decadently rich body lotion and enjoy the feel of your silky smooth skin.

Go Slow And Take Your Time

For Him: Most of the time when guys masturbate, they do it in a hurry. As kids, guys had to “hurry up” before Mom came home, and even as adults, husbands have to “make it quick” before the wife catches them. If you’re spending February 14th by yourself, there’s no reason to rush your masturbation. Lock your doors, draw the blinds and take as much time with yourself as you need to make it really spectacular.

For Her: Some women naturally take their time during masturbation, simply because it takes several minutes for a woman to get warmed up, but others have got masturbation down pat and can reach orgasm in three minutes or less. If you’re used to quickie masturbation, make sure to slow it down on Valentine’s Day. This isn’t about “getting the job done” and masturbation doesn’t have to be a means to an end. Take time to enjoy yourself and really savor the way everything feels.

Multiple Orgasms? Yes, Please!

For Him: Can men really have multiple orgasms! Absolutely! While most men aren’t necessarily going to have multiple orgasms in quick succession like a woman can, most men can cool down in a period of about 15-25 minutes and get started again. Why not make Valentine’s Day night last all night long?

For Her: It’s a little easier for women to have multiple orgasms than it is for men. Women are like ovens – it takes some time for them to warm up but once they’re hot, they stay that way for a little while. When a woman reaches orgasm, she doesn’t go all the way back down to the starting point. She’s actually very close to having another. Take advantage of the way your body works and don’t stop after just the first orgasm. You may even want to try to have as many orgasms as you can – you might just set a Valentine’s Day record!

Lame Valentine’s Day Ideas That Will Put You In The Doghouse

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Valentine’s Day is about love – not gifts – so it shouldn’t matter what you get your partner, right? Wrong! While you don’t have to spend a lot of money on your significant other’s Valentine’s Day gift, it does have to show that you truly thought about your partner when selecting or making the gift and it should illustrate your love for them. While most of the time any effort a guy puts into a Valentine’s Day gift is applauded, there are some gifts that just won’t make the cut – and they’ll probably land you on the couch for the next several nights.

Flowers From A Gas Station

Yes, women absolutely adore getting flowers on Valentine’s Day. In fact, it’s even something women feel very strongly that their partners should do for them on February 14th. But just getting her any flowers doesn’t win you brownie points – getting them from somewhere like a gas station will no doubt make you look cheap and make her feel like you just grabbed something on your way out of a convenience store. Don’t make her think that she’s not worth your time – because if you’re with her, she is! Instead, surprise her with flowers at work. Don’t want to spend the money getting them sent there by a florist? Show up right before her lunch break with a handful of fresh picked flowers and take her out for a lunch full of romance.

A Card…Without A Gift

Lots of people give cards on Valentine’s Day, but they’re usually accompanied by a gift of some sort, preferably one that shows that the gift giver really and truly cares. It’s great to pick out a sweet or funny card for your significant other for Valentine’s Day, but don’t give her just a card with nothing else to go with it. This will show your partner that she’s unimportant in your life or that you just couldn’t think of anything to get her. It’s a great way to make you feel like a stranger to her. Instead, pick out a really sweet or funny card and pair it with a single rose from the florist (less than $5) or a special dinner date.

Sex Advice

If you want to turn Valentine’s Day into a night of super steamy sex, giving her the gift of sex advice – be it in book form or other – will only serve to make your partner think that you’re trying to tell her she’s a terrible lover. You’re much better off if you want to look up sex advice of your own on how to please her. In fact, this is recommended if you want to plan a night of amazing sex and explosive orgasms on Valentine’s Day. Learn how to give her incredible oral sex with moves you’ve never tried before – and surprise her with them on the night of the 14th!

Porn For “Her”

Watching porn together on the 14th is a great way to connect sexually with your lover, but it has to be the right kind of porn and it certainly can’t be your “gift” to her – well, your only one anyway. Lots of guys try to get away with giving their girls porn as a gift, and this most certainly will not work on Valentine’s Day. Most guys have no clue as to what a woman truly finds erotic in an adult movie and end up choosing something they think is hot – which often the women off completely. If you get her porn as a Valentine’s Day gift, you’re suggesting that she’s not good enough for you in bed and that she doesn’t turn you on. Not at all what you want to say to her on the big night!

A Prank Gift

It may seem funny to give your lover a prank gift on Valentine’s Day, but this is almost never a good idea, even if your partner has a great sense of humor. A prank gift will show your partner that you cared more about entertaining yourself than you did about her, and at her expense. If you really want a laugh on Valentine’s Day, take your partner out to see a funny movie after eating a delicious and romantic dinner together. There are so many awesome sweet and sexy Valentine’s Day ideas out there, so you don’t have to worry about coming up with something all on your own. Take the time to plan something really special and show your partner that she really means a lot to you and you feel like she’s an important part of your life.

Romantic Valentine’s Day Cocktail Recipes

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Spice up this Valentine’s Day with a few drinks concocted with cupid’s special day in mind. These drink recipes will invoke everything that makes Valentine’s Day special – sex, kissing, orgasms, romance and love! Surprise your significant other with a super special, pink frothy drink on the 14th, or have fun making different cocktails together and trying them out. You can also host a trendy Valentine’s Day bash and serve a few of these drinks to your guests! Enjoy!

Strawberry Kiss

  • 1 1/2 oz. vanilla vodka
  • 1/2 oz. strawberry liqueur
  • Splash of cranberry and pineapple juice
  • Splash of champagne
  • 1 strawberry

Mix together vanilla vodka, strawberry liqueur, cranberry and pineapple juice in an ice shaker. Strain into short hurricane glass or wine glass. Drop the strawberry in the bottom of the glass and top with a splash of your favorite champagne. This drink will remind you of kissing your lover sweetly on the lips!

Chocolate Covered Cherry Cocktail

  • 1 part pink or rose vodka
  • 1/2 part maraschino liqueur
  • 3/4 ounce creme de cacao
  • 1 tablespoon chocolate sauce
  • 1 chocolate covered cherry
  • 1 maraschino cherry

Everyone’s favorite Valentine’s Day treat is a chocolate covered cherry. Turn this delectable treat into an adult beverage! Drizzle the inside of a martini glass with chocolate. Set it aside and mix together vodka, maraschino liqueur and creme de cacao into a drink shaker with ice. Shake well and strain into your chocolate drizzled martini glass. To garnish, thread a chocolate covered cherry and a maraschino cherry on a cocktail pick. Simply divine!

Love Potion

  • 1 oz gold rum
  • 1 oz orange liqueur
  • Splash of lemon juice
  • 2 oz grapefruit juice

Make your partner fall in love with you all over again with this pretty potion. Mix all ingredients together and pour over ice in an old fashioned glass or a lowball glass.  Garnish this delicious drink with a twist of lemon or an orange slice.

Chocolate Kiss

  • 1 oz. White Creme de Cacao
  • 1 oz. Frangelico
  • 1 oz. Vodka
  • 1 Hershey’s Kiss Chocolate

Everyone loves chocolate on Valentine’s Day, so why limit it to a simple box of chocolates? Take your love of chocolate to the next level with this sinful martini. Start by mixing all liquid ingredients into shaker filled with ice, shaking well. Strain into a martini glass. Add the Hershey’s kiss to the bottom of the martini glass and serve immediately. If you really want to make this drink perfect, melt a bit of chocolate in a double boiler and dip the rims of your martini glasses in the chocolate. Set glasses on a cookie sheet and chill until chocolate is set!

Orgasm

  • 1 oz. Irish Cream
  • 1 oz. Triple Sec
  • 2/3 oz. Grand Marnier
  • 1 maraschino cherry

Who doesn’t want an orgasm on Valentine’s Day? Give your partner an amazing orgasm in bed and follow it up with an orgasm nightcap for an incredible evening! Shake all ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice and strain into a glass. You can serve this drink in a variety of ways, including in a shooter, a lowball glass or an old fashioned glass. Garnish either with a cherry dropped in the glass or threaded on a cocktail pick.

Raspberry Truffle

  • 1 part raspberry liqueur
  • 1 part Godiva liqueur
  • 1 part cream
  • 3 raspberries
  • Chocolate shavings

If you want a drink that is as pretty as it is delicious, go with the Raspberry Truffle. Take a chilled martini glass and layer the ingredients in thirds, starting with the raspberry liqueur, then the chocolate liqueur and then finally the cream. The trick to layering cocktails is to pour the liqueur over the back of a spoon into the glass. Top with chocolate shavings and garnish with 3 raspberries threaded on a cocktail pick. Dark and decadent!

The Flirtini

  • 1 oz. Triple Sec
  • Splash of champagne
  • 3/4 oz. vodka
  • 2 oz. pineapple juice

What’s Valentine’s Day without a little flirting? Make this delicious drink with  by shaking all of the liquid ingredients (with the exception of the champagne) in a cocktail shaker with ice. Strain gently into a tall champagne flute with two ice cubes. Add the splash of champagne on top and get ready to get your flirt on.

Red Hot Lover

  • 2 oz. peach schnapps
  • 2 oz. vodka
  • 1 dash grenadine
  • 2 1/2 oz. orange juice
  • 2 1/2 oz. strawberry margarita mix
  • Pair of cherries

Be a red hot lover this Valentine’s Day with this delicious and addicting drink. Mix all liquid ingredients together and pour over ice into a hurricane glass. Garnish with cherries – preferably a pair of cherries that are still stuck together at the stems so you can drape the cherries over the side of the glass with one cherry inside the glass. Don’t be surprised if this drink gets your partner in the mood for sex!

How To Spend Valentine’s Day If You’re Single

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Valentine’s Day is for couples, right? Wrong! Just because you’re flying solo on February 14th doesn’t mean that you have to confine yourself to your house like a leper just because you don’t have a significant other on your arm. Treat yourself to something special this Valentine’s Day, like a massage or a special dinner. Check out these great ways to spend the day if you’re sans a date.

Book A Spa Appointment

Pamper yourself on Valentine’s Day by booking an appointment at your favorite spa or salon. Pedicure? Yes, please! If you’ve got the money to spend, book a few services or even purchase a “day spa” ticket where lunch is served. Instead of being bummed out that you’re single on the big day, you’ll be enjoying being pampered all day long. Plus, human touch during a massage is known to boost a person’s mood almost immediately! Even if you’re watching your wallet this February, consider booking just a half hour massage or a simple pedicure or manicure. You’d be surprised that even a little pampering will go a long way.

Try A New Restaurant

Grab a friend (or go solo) to the restaurant you’ve been dying to try. Sure, it may be full of couples having a romantic dinner, but there’s nothing wrong with bringing a book or surfing the web on your phone while you enjoy an amazing meal (that you didn’t have to make!) on Valentine’s Day. If you don’t want to brave the crowds of couples on the 14th, consider ordering out. Either way, make sure you’re treating yourself to something super yummy so you have something to look forward to all day – kind of like a date with yourself!

Host A Valentine’s Day Party

Being single on Valentine’s Day puts you in the perfect position to host an amazing party for your friends. Instead of having to spend the night hanging on someone’s arm, you can mingle with your friends all evening, making you a great host. Throw a rooftop party if you have access to one and the weather is nice, or just string some twinkle lights in your living room or den. You can go all out with decorations and food, or you can keep it simple with snacks and ask that guests bring their own alcohol if they wish to drink. Make it as big or as small as you like, depending on whether you want to throw the Valentine’s Day bash of the century or if you just want an intimate gathering with your closest friends.

Veg Out In Front Of The Tube

Most people have to work on Valentine’s Day, because it’s definitely not a holiday that is recognized by the corporate or business world. After a long, hard day at work, you may not want to do anything but hang out at home in your pajamas – and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing that! Plan for a great night in front of the tube with your favorite movies or DVD’s of your favorite television series, and make sure you have lots of your favorite snacks and drinks. Spend the night relaxing and treating yourself to an evening of doing absolutely nothing!

Spread Kindness

There’s something about being nice to other people that makes you feel all warm and tingly inside. Instead of spending Valentine’s Day moping around and feeling sorry for yourself about being single, try donating your time to an animal or homeless shelter instead. Serve up soup to the homeless or take a few puppies from the pound for a walk in the dog park – bonus points if you end up finding homes for any of the doggies! Smile at everyone you meet and make a point to be as nice and kind as you can. At the end of the day, you’ll feel really great about yourself and your self-esteem will have gone way up. It’s a great way to spend Valentine’s Day if you’re alone!

Take A Class

Have you ever wanted to try a kickboxing class or an art class? Have you been dying to hit up the poetry slam at your local coffee shop? Flex your creative muscles and take the class you’ve always wanted to take or check out the underground theater you’ve been eying for a couple months. Valentine’s Day is a perfect day to finally do something you’ve always wanted to, because it’s a great way to remind yourself that you are a creative, talented human being and that you truly do love yourself!