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A Valentine’s Day Bondage Guide

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Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to bring something new – like bondage – to the bedroom. Your partner will be more receptive to trying bondage for the first time on Valentine’s Day, and if you and your lover have already experimented with tying each other up before, now is a great time to step it up a night. Here is your bondage guide for Valentine’s Day – what you need, how to keep it safe and how to reach the next level!

The Right Kind Of Bondage Rope

The type of rope you use for bondage is extremely important. Grabbing just any old rope from your shed, garage or the hardware store just isn’t going to work in the bedroom. Well, it will work on a technical level, but it will definitely be uncomfortable and may cause pain and discomfort from mild to severe rope burns. Honestly, when trying anything new when it comes to sex, it’s important that you have the right tools for the job. This Valentine’s Day, invest a little money (not a lot, because most bondage rope is generally inexpensive) in the right kind of rope for bondage play. You can choose from a variety of different rope materials, ranging all the way from nylon to natural fiber and hemp. There are also different braids available, but those are a matter of personal preference. Any rope that is made specifically for bedroom play will work just fine.

Blindfolds? Yes, Please!

A big part of BDSM is blindfolding. This adds a certain element of surprise and mystery to sex, because your partner can’t see what you’re about to do or where you’re going next. This heightens the pleasurable sensations during sex and oral sex ten fold because anticipation is a huge part of experiencing sexual pleasure. Don’t leave out blindfolds in your bedroom play this Valentine’s Day! You can purchase a special love mask by itself, or you can get a “beginner’s bondage kit” that usually includes a blindfold along with other BDSM items such as paddles, feather ticklers, light whips and fuzzy handcuffs. If you’re really short on cash, try using a silk scarf or tie for a blindfold instead. It’s easy to use and doesn’t cost a thing!

Keeping Bondage Safe And Fun

One of the most important parts of bondage and BDSM play is to make sure you’re doing it safely and everyone involved is having a good time. You definitely want to follow the safety rules on Valentine’s Day to make sure your sexy “gift” doesn’t backfire on you! Here are some simple guidelines to use when bringing bondage and BDSM into the bedroom so you and your partner both have fun!

  • Have a “safe word” that is totally unrelated to sex (i.e. banana, waffle, Christmas tree, etc.)
  • Don’t be afraid to use the safe word if you are uncomfortable or are in pain and want the play to stop immediately.
  • If your partner uses the safe word, it is your job to stop whatever you’re doing right away!
  • Discuss with your partner beforehand what is acceptable and what isn’t. For example, oral sex while being tied up is fine, but you want to be untied before having sex so you can participate.
  • Don’t ever insert sex toys without your partner’s consent (and without lube!)

Taking BDSM To The Next Level

Lots of people enjoy light bondage, but others enjoy heavy BDSM play. If you’ve tried rope, handcuffs and the like, you may be ready to take your bedroom play to the next level this Valentine’s Day. Try incorporating a little pain into the mix, with some gentle nipping and biting or spanking. Use a paddle for spanking, as this is so much more comfortable for the spanker than using your hand! It can also feel better for the spankee, because some paddles are padded and shaped just right. Here’s a quick list of other things you can try this Valentines Day if you feel like you’ve already tried just about everything else!

  • Roleplaying. Act out a hot fantasy with your partner like teacher/student or doctor/patient.
  • Diaper play. Do you have a diaper fetish but haven’t come out of the “closet” so to speak? Try getting your partner involved!
  • Mutual masturbation. Never had the guts to masturbate in front of your partner? Give them a show this Valentines Day!
  • Tantric sex. Want a more romantic way to connect with your partner sexually? Try tantric sex for mind blowing orgasms.
  • Try new sex positions. After all, new sex positions can make regular old vanilla sex something new and exciting on any night!

5 Cheap Valentine’s Day Surprises For Your Partner – For Under $10

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Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to surprise your partner with some amazing gifts, but does that mean you have to buy flowers, chocolate, champagne or jewelry to make the day special? Absolutely not! You can make Valentine’s Day the best one your lover’s ever had by being creative – and checking out these great ideas that your wallet will definitely appreciate.

Jar Of Hearts

Before Valentine’s Day, buy one of those huge jars of pickles from the grocery store and transfer the pickles into a large plastic container. Your shopping list should also include red or pink paint and red, pink and white construction paper. Yes, this is starting to sound like a kid’s Valentine’s Day craft project, but rest assured that your partner will absolutely love it when you’re done. Cut the construction paper into medium sized hearts, enough to fill the jar as full as you’d like – the fuller it is with paper hearts, the better. On each heart, you’re going to write something you love about your partner. Put all the hearts in the jar and swipe a layer or two of red or pink paint on the jar lid. Tie a red ribbon around the top for an extra-special touch. Leave it somewhere your lover will find it on Valentine’s Day!

Project Estimate:

Pickle Jar $5, Construction Paper $3, Paint $1 = $9

Photo Montage

If you have a lot of photos of you and your significant other together, consider putting together a photo montage together for Valentine’s Day. There are lots of ways the end project can turn out, but you have to get your photo prints first. Most places (both online and off) will do a single 4×6″ photo print for about $0.08, but watch for special offers from online companies like Winkflash – where you can sometimes get 50 free prints and $0.99 shipping if you’re a new customer. Using an online photo printing company is also better if your pictures are in a digital format. Buy a poster size frame and a sheet of poster board, cutting the poster board to fit the frame. Glue the pictures to the poster board and mount in the frame. Voila! A sweet, thoughtful photo montage that will sweep your partner off their feet.

Project Estimate:

Frame $5, Poster Board $0.50, Glue $1, Photos $3 = $9.50

Sensual Massage

Women love getting massages, but coughing up $50 for a Valentine’s Day gift certificate for an hour long massage isn’t within a lot of guys’ February budgets. Try giving your partner a erotic massage yourself for Valentine’s Day instead! It’s a great gift because you can make it last as long as you want and it’s incredibly inexpensive. You probably want to splurge on some kind of scented or pheromone laced massage oil to set the mood and relax your partner, such as Adam & Eve’s Pheromone Massage Oil. Candles are optional but definitely well worth it if you decide to get them – you can often find a large bag of plain tea light candles at the dollar store. Imagine the romance you’ll create with a hundred tea light candles! Bonus points if it leads to sex!

Project Estimate:

Adam & Eve’s Pheromone Massage Oil $5 (50% off and free shipping with offer code DANJENN), Tea Lights $2 = $7

Dinner And A Movie – At Home

Instead of going out on Valentine’s Day, why not stay in? Plan a romantic candlelight dinner at home cooked by you, followed by a night of romantic movies (or whatever movies you and your partner enjoy most). Make whatever you were planning on making for dinner anyways, but spice it up by putting it on your best dinnerware and eating by candlelight at the table. Play some soft music and definitely don’t turn on the TV! Pop some microwave popcorn and rent a few movies from your local movie kiosk. Enjoy!

Project Estimate:

Taper Candles $3, Candle Holders $2, Movie Rentals $2 = $7

Balloon Notes

Buy a pack of Valentine’s Day themed balloons and some construction paper. Cut the construction paper out into hearts, making as many hearts as there are balloons. Write something you love about your partner on each heart and place it inside the balloon. Blow the balloon up and tie it off, writing “Pop Me” on the balloons with a Sharpie marker. Scatter the balloons all over your partner’s bedroom floor before they wake up in the morning and make sure you set the alarm a little earlier than usual so they have time to pop all the balloons and read your loving messages before heading to work for the day!

Project Estimate:

Construction Paper $3, Balloons $2.50, Sharpie Marker $1 = $6.50

Valentine’s Day – 7 Ways To Make It Sizzle

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Making Valentine’s Day sexy doesn’t have to be difficult. There are lots of super easy and fun ways you can turn up the heat inside the bedroom (or outside of it) for the 14th and most of them don’t require you to spend a lot of money or go too far outside your comfort zone. Read on for seven excellent sex tips to make this Valentine’s Day smolder.

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Give The Gift Of Oral Sex

This Valentine’s Day, give your partner crazy good oral sex – and we’re talking crazy good. Not the “Sure-I’ll-Give-You-Head-If-You-Want” oral sex, the “I’m-Going-To-Die-If-I-Can’t-Get-You-In-My-Mouth-Right-Now” kind. Prep with flavored lubes, do some research on how to please them orally, and plan to be down there about an hour – or however long it takes! This is not a rush job – this is a gift, so make it good. Attitude is important here, because if you act like you can’t wait to get it over with, your partner is going to sense that you’re not into it. Think of it as savoring a delicious dessert or that you’re starving and you just can’t get enough.

Try Something New

Make a point to try something totally new and adventurous on Valentine’s Day. Do something you’ve never, ever done before. Never tried anal sex? BDSM? Roleplaying? The trick here is to select something you’ve never done before, but also something that is only slightly outside of your normal bedroom fare. If you’ve never tried anal sex, don’t whip out a huge dildo to use on her backdoor for the first time. Instead, why not gift her a tiny butt plug or try analingus?

Turn Your Partner Into A Buffet

Instead of going out for entertainment after dinner on Valentine’s Day, why not make dinner the entertainment? Certain foods are considered sensual, such as chocolate, strawberries, champagne, sushi and even oysters. You can make these foods even sexier by eating them off your partner! Have your partner lie down on the table naked and set a few pieces of sushi on their bodies for a sexy Sushi buffet. Then for dessert, drizzle chocolate sauce all over them and lick it off – slowly!

Go Outside The Bedroom Doors

This Valentine’s Day, have sex somewhere other than your bedroom. It’s a great way to spice up your sex life without using new sex positions or bringing sex toys into the mix. You’d be surprised at what a simple change in location can do for the heat level between you and your lover! Try having sex somewhere else in your house (shower sex anyone?) or get naughty in your local laundromat, the balcony of a hotel room or even in your car. Check out our 1001 Best Places To Have Sex In America for the best ideas!

Bring Out The Sex Games

After dinner on Valentine’s Day, take the entertainment home and try out some super hot sex games with your partner. There are tons of great sex games available at online sex toy stores like Adam & Eve, such as sexy dice or a sensuous board game with a spinner. If you want to keep things low cost, you can also turn your favorite game into something naughty. Try out naked twister or strip poker with stuff you already have at home, or play a simple but sizzling game of truth or dare. When you use your imagination, you can pretty much make any game sexy.

Watch Pornography Together

Unless watching porn together is something you and your partner do regularly, it can be a super hot way to spice up Valentine’s Day. If you watch porn together all the time, it’s not going to feel as special as it will if it’s a once in awhile treat. Pick a really steamy, erotic movie to watch together and make sure no one else is home. Avoid choosing a hardcore sex flick that just shows people banging away on each other – something more sensual is best for Valentine’s Day. You’ll probably get busy right there on the couch with the movie going! Bonus points for doing it outside the bedroom.

Put A Twist On Chocolate

Sure, chocolates are pretty cliche for Valentine’s Day, but add a twist by introducing chocolate scented condoms, chocolate sauce or even chocolate flavored lube for a great blowjob or cunnilingus. There are tons of great ways to make chocolate sexual. If you’re feeling really creative, try replacing the chocolates in traditional heart shaped box with chocolate condoms, or put small penis shaped chocolates inside (usually found at party supply stores). Get creative!

10 Valentine’s Day Sex Toys That You’ll Both Love

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Giving the perfect Valentine’s Day gift is easy when you remember that Valentine’s Day is all about love, romance and hot, steamy sex! Sex toys make great gifts for the 14th, and they’re usually things you and your partner can enjoy together! Plan a night full of trying new things and give her a brand new Valentine’s Day vibrator or glass dildo that she’ll absolutely love. Adam & Eve has tons of great cupid themed gifts that will make your partner swoon.

Don’t forget – use offer code DANJENN when checking out to save 50% on any one item AND you’ll receive free shipping and some great mystery gifts! This is an offer that is too good to pass up!

Red Hearts Glass Dildo

This gorgeous glass dildo is clear with a flared tip and a wide base, making it suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration. The shaft of the Red Hearts Glass Dildo ($17.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) has raised hearts made from glass piping to add extra texture and stimulation with every thrust. You can cool your glass dildo down by placing it in the fridge or freezer, or warm it up by running it under hot water. It’s truly the sexiest Valentine’s Day gift you can get!

Adam & Eve’s Lover’s Ring

Take a cock ring to the next level and give the Lover’s Ring ($4.98 with 50% off  – offer code DANJENN) to your partner this Valentine’s Day. The Lover’s Ring is a 3″ long cock ring that stretches over most of the penis shaft and it’s crafted from pink silicone hearts for her pleasure. The heart-shaped ridges make his penis feel thicker than ever and will also help prolong his orgasm so sex lasts as long as you want it to. This really is a must see – and a must have!

My Secret Valentine Tingle Gel

Up the pleasure factor for her this Valentine’s Day with Adam & Eve’s My Secret Valentine Tingle Gel ($4.98 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN). Plan a night of amazing oral sex and apply the tingle gel to her vagina and clitoris before going down on her. What a difference it makes! Special herbs and hormones in the gel stimulate blood flow to the vagina and clitoris, enhancing every sensation! Packaged in a sweet pink lip-gloss style canister, this strawberry flavored gel is a treat for both you and your partner. Bonus gift included with your purchase is a clear silicone vibrating cock ring for even more fun!

Hustler Heartbreaker Vibrator

The Hustler Heartbreaker Vibrator ($16.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) is a smooth and sleek vibe with a gorgeous, deep red color. Both ends of this vibrator are flared so you can stimulate your g-spot with one side and operate the easy to use controls with the other. Your partner will absolutely love how chic and expensive-looking this toy is, and she’ll think you spent a fortune on a name-brand vibrator just for her. Only you’ll know that you actually got it for half price!

Adam & Eve’s Heart Warmer Massager

Why not seduce your partner this Valentine’s Day with an erotic massage before giving her the best sex of her life? Use the Heart Warmer Massager ($4.98 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) to get her relaxed before giving her an amazing orgasm. This heart shaped, red liquid filled pillow has a secret “snap button” inside that magically heats up the gel without hot water or a microwave. Perfect for use with massage oils or lube. Plus, it’s reusable!

Sexy Slave Kit

Why not try a little BDSM or bondage this Valentine’s Day? Adam & Eve’s Sexy Slave Kit ($13.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) is perfect for beginners, and the red hot colors are perfect for the 14th – and any day after that! The kit includes four deep red, velvety soft wrist and ankle restraints, making it easy to tie your partner up and have your way with her. The kit also features a red velvet blindfold and a feather tickler to help you tease and seduce!

B3 Onye Fleur Vibrator

This tiny, glossy red bullet vibe is a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the girl on the go. The B3 Onye Fleur Vibrator ($17.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) offers 3 vibrating speeds for discreet pleasure that rivals even the big rabbit vibrators! Unlike many bullet vibrators, this one has a textured silicone grip that allows your girl to hang on tight while she rides the waves of pleasure. It’s waterproof too, so don’t forget to take it in the tub for some wet and wild Valentine’s Day fun.

Adam & Eve Bag Of Love

Treat yourself and your partner to a bag of sexy Valentine’s Day goodies this year. Adam & Eve’s Bag Of Love ($24.98 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) contains tons of great sex toys and intimate products that will make your evening absolutely amazing. Stimulate your partner with the mini red vibrator (with different textured tips) after you tape her up with red bondage tape, or get her relaxed with a hot oil massage using the Liquid Love massage lotion and the Heart Warmer heated massager. Also included are a heart shaped jelly cock ring, a red satin blindfold, Lover’s Lotto Cards and a mini red silicone butt plug and red glossy anal beads! Of course, a bottle of toy cleaner is also included to keep your kit looking brand new every time you use it!

Inflatable Lover’s Pillow

What’s Valentine’s Day without trying a few new sex positions? Make trying out different sex positions easy with the Inflatable Lover’s Pillow ($8.48 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN). This red, heart shaped blow up pillow is about 15″ wide and 15″ long, so you can use it to get in all kinds of fun new sex positions! Use it for deeper doggy style or to lift her buttocks up while you perform oral sex on her. The possibilities are endless!

Red Hot Butt Plug

Try a little anal play on Valentine’s Day with this gorgeous red silicone butt plug. While the Red Hot Butt Plug ($6.48 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN)may look big (it’s flared at the tip and in the middle of the shaft), it’s actually only 4″ long and about 1/4″ wide, so it’s great for both anal sex beginners and those looking to add a new toy to their anal sex collection.

Valentine’s Day – 8 Creative Ways To Say I Love You

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Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg if all you’re trying to do is say “I love you” to your partner. But sometimes those three little words just aren’t enough, especially on Valentine’s Day. Here are some awesome, creative ideas that will help you show your partner how you feel.

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Mow The Lawn

This Valentine’s Day, put an “I love you” message in the lawn. This works best if you live in a warmer area and actually have grass to cut in February. With the mower, write your message in the grass – it helps if you spray paint the grass first so you have a guide while you’re mowing. If you have a smaller lawn, just mow a heart. When you’re done, have your partner look at it from a window on the second story!

Make Toast

Check out online cookware outlets or check your local specialty food stores and get an “I love you” toast stamper. They’re sweet, easy to use and usually inexpensive. Make your partner breakfast in bed for Valentine’s Day, and use the stamper to mark the toast. Your lover will be so surprised that your “I love you” message is on the bread!

Tattoo Their Name On Your Body – For Fake

Before Valentine’s Day, order a special made fake tattoo with their name on it. A quick online search will reveal tons of places you can order name tattoos in just about any kind of font, but be careful when browsing websites that require a minimum bulk order. When you get the tattoo, apply it somewhere on your body in secret. Let them discover it next time you have sex! They’ll think it’s real!

Make A Fashion Statement

Make a t-shirt with their picture on it that says “I love ___.”  These are usually easy and inexpensive to make, whether you order one online or have one made by your local photo store. Heck, you can even use a plain t-shirt and puff paints if you want to. The idea is that this “I love you” message is a cheesy Valentine’s Day idea, but it’s funny and sweet. Proclaim your love to everyone when you wear it!

Name A Star For Your Partner

This Valentine’s Day, do something sweet and special like naming a star after your partner. However, get a little creative with it. Instead of just naming it “Karen” after her, make the name “Jeffery loves Karen” be the name of the star. You can also try, “I love you Karen,” or a line from the lyrics of your favorite song together. Make sure you’re able to locate it with a telescope so your partner can really enjoy it. This is especially great if you and your lover enjoy stargazing together.

Make A Radio Announcement

Plan to have a radio announcement say “I love you” to your significant other on Valentine’s Day. You can also dedicate a song to your lover and have it played after the announcement. Make it super special by having “your song” played. Make sure you put it on the radio station that your partner actually listens to, and know approximately what time the announcement will be aired. That way, you can set up a radio in the bathroom to play while they get ready for work, or you can make sure it’s on that station while you carpool home at the end of the day.

Make A Lighted Message

Cut out the words “I love you” in a black garbage bag. Tape it up to a window in your home and turn off all the lights in your house except for the lights in that one room. Make sure ALL the lights in that room are turned on. This works best if you plan to get home from work a little while before your partner does on Valentine’s Day. When your significant other walks up the drive after work, they’ll see your lighted message!

Put Up A New Background Pic

This is a great Valentine’s Day idea for someone you’ve been with for awhile (and who doesn’t mind you looking at or using their phone or computer), because if you do this for someone you’ve only been dating for a short while, it could actually backfire on you and creep them out. Change the screensaver or desktop background on their computer or phone with a picture of you two and an “I love you” message. Next time they flip open their laptop or check their phone, they’ll see your message!