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How To Have Wild Sex And Give In To Your Primal Urges

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Humans are mammals and sex is in our nature – it’s a primal need that we all have to satisfy. We all crave orgasms and sexual intimacy with a partner, and most of us crave that “have to have it now” sex too. Even though sex is a normal, natural part of being a human being, some men and women have trouble letting go and fully giving into their primal, animalistic nature. Instead of having nice, warm and fuzzy vanilla sex tonight, try these techniques for hotter, wilder sex and let the animal in you come out!

Do It Against The Wall

Although sex against the wall is a somewhat difficult sex position to achieve, it can be one of the most titillating and amazing sex positions to use for a quickie, or longer sex if you and your man have the stamina and physical prowess to pull it off. The “I need you right now and I don’t care where we do it” essence behind doing it up against the wall is what makes this position so great. You can make it easier by standing on a footstool so your vagina is slightly higher than your man’s penis and he doesn’t have to lift you up and hold you there for a long period of time. By nature, this sex position is a little rougher, so make sure you have some good water or silicone based lube on hand or somewhere close by so you can use it even if you’re having sex at just a moment’s notice. This position really won’t be successful without good lube! Stay true to the natural “animalistic” order of things by letting your man take you up against the wall, but you can also show him your sexual prowess by initiating this sex position also.

The Doggy Style Sex Position

The doggy style sex position is probably the most basic and primal of all sex positions. Almost every animal uses the doggy style position, where the woman raises her backside up against her partner’s penis, completely submitting to him and allowing him complete control over his thrusting and his orgasm. The doggy style sex position can really help you let your inner animal out by allowing you to completely let go and submit to the “dominant male.” Of course, the doggy style sex position isn’t all about him. You can reach down and fondle your clitoris while he thrusts his penis into you from behind, and the angle of his penis is just about perfect for deep penetration and g-spot stimulation.

Have Sex Now… Right Now

Animals rarely give attention to the time of day or what else is going on when they have a need for sex. The desire for procreation simply overtakes them and it’s their job to have sex as soon as possible. Adopting this attitude in your own sex life can help turn up the heat if you feel like things have been lacking in your sex life recently. When your partner comes home from work, don’t worry about what has to be done like cooking dinner, doing laundry, etc. Instead, take them by the hand, lead them into the bedroom and let them know that you want sex now and aren’t interested in anything else right at that moment. Bonus points for initiating sex wherever you are at that moment, because sex in other places such as the couch or kitchen table adds to the “need it right now” feeling.

Get A Little Rough

Take the initiative to go a little harder or get a little rougher during sex. You don’t have to get too rough or go all out into BDSM (unless that’s your thing), but you can definitely spice things up by getting a little rougher and more confident with your sex techniques. Light spanking and biting are great ways to let your inner sexual animal out if your partner approves, and you can up the ante by having your partner spank or bite you. Remember that if you decide to really get rough to have a safe word that you or your partner can use if things go too far. When giving your partner a blowjob, grip his penis firmly at the base while you go down on him and don’t be afraid to get a little sloppy. If you switch to him giving you oral sex, don’t be afraid to grind your hips or press your genitals to his mouth to show that you’re really into it.

Eat Your Way To Better Sex – 6 Foods That Will Boost Your Libido

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Scientists have known for years that aphrodisiacs exist and when used the right way, can enhance both a man’s libido or a woman’s and can turn “blah” sex into explosive sex. They have tried – and often succeeded – in combining these ingredients in herbal supplements to increase the sex drive, but did you know that you probably already have some aphrodisiacs lying around your house? Here are the foods you need to try if you want to heat things up in the bedroom.

Guacamole

While avocados have a history of being a sexual fruit due to its shape and soft, creamy texture, the vitamins and nutrients contained within avocados actually help promote sexual health as well. Avocados contain tons of potassium, magnesium and beta carotene, as well as packing quite a punch in the Vitamin E department. Vitamin E helps both men’s and women’s bodies produce more sex hormones, which not only increase the libido, but also improve overall mood as well. Whip up a batch of guacamole or toss a few avocado slices in your salad for a sexual boost.

Ginger

Fresh ginger is best if using the herb as an aphrodisiac, but powdered ginger or ginger products such as ginger dressing, cookies or tea will work also. Ginger helps thin out the blood, helping blood to reach your genitals, nipples, lips and other hot spots during sexual arousal. Make a stir fry with fresh or powdered ginger in it for an at-home romantic dinner with your partner and serve a salad with ginger dressing as an appetizer. Combine with other aphrodisiac foods for even more libido enhancing power!

Chocolate

Chocolate, of course, has been a well known aphrodisac for many, many years. Not only is chocolate sinfully delicious and the mere fact that it melts in your mouth is an aphrodisiac in itself, chocolate also contains powerful “happy” hormones that will boost your mood and desire for sex almost instantly. Chocolate boosts the levels of seratonin and and dopamine in the brain, making people feel calmer and have a happier disposition. Chocolate also contains the chemical phenylethylamine, which is produced by our brains when we’re in love. No wonder chocolate makes such a popular romantic anniversary or special occasion gift! Serve chocolate for dessert and don’t hold back. Chocolate ice cream with chocolate syrup drizzle, dark chocolate French silk pie…you get the picture.

Pomegranates

Pomegranates are delicious, round red fruits that are in season in the fall. They are peeled and separated, and their jewel-like seeds are valued for their tart yet addicting juice. While pomegranates are rich in antioxidants and help boost the immune system, most of its reputation for being a great aphrodisiac comes from ancient Greek and Christian lore. Many greek mythologists believe that Aphrodite – the goddess of love – was very fond of pomegranates and considered them to be a symbol of sex and sensuality. Others believe that the “forbidden fruit” in the Garden Of Eden was not an apple at all, but rather, a pomegranate. Enjoy feeding your partner ruby red pomegranate seeds sensually, one by one, or toss a few seeds into a glass of champagne for a sexy garnish.

Vanilla

Vanilla has a very strong, comforting scent and flavor that is absolutely unmistakable. Vanilla extract has been used in perfumes, shampoos and soaps for years because the scent of vanilla is calming and envokes a feeling of sensuality. Vanilla is also said to increase muscular function and circulation, which will definitely help your body perform better when you start getting busy. If you’re planning on using vanilla as an aphrodisiac, however, your run of the mill vanilla extract isn’t going to work as well as the real deal. They’re expensive, but an honest to goodness vanilla bean or two will make all the difference in the world.

Asparagus

While some people believe that asparagus is an aphrodisiac simply because of its long, phallic shape, it is actually what asparagus does to you that makes it such a great tool for increasing sexual desire and improving the libido. The chemicals inside asparagus actually help stimulate the urinary tract, which actually creates sensations that are similar to that caused by the well-known aphrodisiac Spanish Fly. These sensations can heighten the feelings of arousal in both men and women, and can even increase the intensity of an orgasm. Asparagus is best when lightly blanched, because it can definitely get soggy and slimy if cooked too long. Try incorporating asparagus in some of your meals when you want to have an explosive orgasm that night.

The Skinny On Female Condoms

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Getting a guy to wear a condom isn’t always easy. Some guys don’t like the feel of condoms, or don’t want to bother buying them. He might not be concerned with safe sex, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be concerned about safe sex either? No way! Ladies can protect themselves by using female condoms and be in control of preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. But what exactly are female condoms and how do you use them? Here’s how female condoms are different from your traditional male condom and how to max out your pregnancy and STD prevention when using them.

What Are Female Condoms?

Female condoms, like their namesake, are condoms that are designed to fit inside the vagina and be used in lieu of a male condom. They consist of a silicone or plastic flexible ring at one end (this is the end designed to go first into the vagina) with a larger ring at the other end of a hollow latex or plastic “tube.” The smaller ring is folded and inserted into the vagina, where it will “pop” open and rest against the cervix, while the larger ring is made to stay outside the vagina and cover the outer opening of the vagina and labia. Some models of female condoms are larger on the outside and will cover the entire vulva including the clitoris, which provides better protection against some sexually transmitted diseases. The vaginal walls are then protected by the “tube” of latex, because the penis will only come into contact with the female condom and not the vagina at all. A man’s sperm will remain inside the female condom and after sex, the condom can be removed easily without spilling the semen.

What Are The Benefits Of Using A Female Condom?

The benefits of using a female condom are simple but powerful. Using a female condom allows a woman to be in complete control of preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Instead of relying on a man to purchase a box of condoms, bring the condoms with him and put them on before sex, a woman can rely on and trust herself to make sure she is protected. In fact, a female condom can even be inserted and worn well before sex even starts, so a woman who chooses to use them can go into sex already protected, making it easier for her to say, “no glove, no love.” Female condoms also help prevent more STD’s than their male counterparts. Since the outer ring covers some or all of the vulva with the latex, it can help prevent the spread of some STD’s like genital warts, genital herpes and pubic lice or crabs.

Are There Disadvantages To Using A Female Condom?

A female condom does not feel as natural as a traditional male condom. There is much more to it and instead of fitting the vaginal wall snugly, it can get a little bunched up in there. This is because a woman’s vaginal canal is flat until something is inserted into it to expand it. Since the “tube” portion of the female condom is hollow, it too will collapse onto itself when there is nothing else in the vagina. During sex, a man’s penis will expand both the vaginal canal and the female condom, but many men and women who have used female condoms report that it still feels like the plastic or latex is bunched up in the vagina. Other disadvantages of a female condom include difficult inserting and removing them from the vagina as well as being thicker than traditional male condoms and blocking more of the pleasurable sensations of friction during sex.

How To Make A Female Condom More Effective

While there is no way to make a female condom more effective at preventing the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, however, by adding spermicide to the inside of a female condom, you can make it more effective at preventing pregnancy. A lot of women who are sensitive to spermicides enjoy using them with female condoms, because the spermicide goes inside the “tube” and never comes into contact with the vagina. Simply squirt a half dollar sized amount of spermicide into the female condom, as close to the smallest ring (the one that will go inside your vagina) as possible. You can do this before inserting the condom inside your vagina, or after. Just remember to also use a good water based lube and plenty of it when using a female condom, whether you use spermicide or not. Lube can help reduce the amount of friction created by the condom and make it feel more like natural sex.

How To Make Sex Better After Baby

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After you have a baby, sex definitely isn’t the same anymore, at least not for awhile. Not only does your body look and feel a little different, there are lots of new things going on in your life too. It’s normal to feel differently towards sex than you did before you gave birth. After feeding, rocking, soothing and burping a new baby all day, honestly, you’re a little touched out. Sex with your partner is probably the last thing on your mind. You may not feel like having sex, but you definitely want to want it. Here’s how you can make sex better after having a baby.

Wait Until Your Doctor Clears You For Sex

You may think you need to get back in the sex game right away, or you may be receiving pressure from your partner to have sex soon after you have the baby. Your partner may pressure you to have sex more so if you didn’t feel much like having sex when you were pregnant. However, there are some rules that you need to follow after having a baby to allow your body to heal and get back to it’s normal, pre-baby state. Waiting to have sex until six to eight weeks after the birth is one of those rules and one that your partner needs to respect. Your doctor will let you know when it’s ok for you to resume a normal sex life, which is usually about six weeks after a vaginal birth and eight weeks after a ceserean section. If you don’t wait the required amount of time, sex may be uncomfortable or painful and you can do much more harm than good. Enjoy your time off from sex and focus on yourself.

Go Get Your Hair Done!

Or go get your nails done, or get a massage or go on a shopping trip once you’ve lost the baby weight. Most women feel pretty un-sexy after they have a baby and as a result, don’t want or desire sex as much as they did when they felt better about themselves. In fact, you probably haven’t felt like yourself in almost a year, with the baby inhabiting your body for the better part of a year before you even gave birth. So take some time to make yourself feel like you again, whether it’s visiting the beauty salon or an all girls shopping trip (preferably while he’s watching the baby). Do something a little differnet like giving your hair color a daring boost or buying a new bra and panties set that is slightly more racy than what you usually get. You may feel guilty for leaving the baby for a few hours or doing something entirely for yourself, but don’t! Taking care of yourself will help you feel sexier and more like your former bedroom vixen self.

Go Ahead And Have Sex – Even If You’re Not Into It

If you’ve been cleared by your doctor to have sex but still haven’t really gotten in the mood for it, go ahead and have sex with your partner anyways. Even if you’re tired or you’re absolutely sure you’re not going to be able to have an orgasm, settle down in between the sheets with your partner for a little nookie. But don’t be tempted to just give into having a quickie with him! Start by giving your partner a blowjob, or have him give you oral sex. Or try sixty-nining! The key to turning blah sex into good sex is lots and lots of foreplay for both you and your partner rather than just letting him do his thing. As you and your partner get it on, you’ll find that you start to get into it, even though you really weren’t planning on it!

Remember That You Are Still A Sexual Being

Even though you’ve had a baby and you feel more like a milk machine than a sexy woman, it’s important to remember that you’re still a sexual being capable of giving and receiving pleasure. You’re still the same person that you were before you had a baby, and you can have as good sex with your partner as you used to have, if not even better! Even if you don’t feel like you’re super sexy right now, make an effort to walk the walk and talk the talk. If you take the time to make yourself look good and feel good, you’ll eventually start to feel more like your normal self and feel sexy for real.

5 Ways You Could Be Ruining Your Sex Life – Are You Guilty?

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Both women and men are guilty of unknowingly sabotaging their sex lives. When you first get together with someone, you’re so smitten that you’re watching your every move, careful that you’re presenting the very best side of yourself. As time goes on and you get more and more comfortable with your partner, it’s not at all uncommon for couples to slack off on what made them so sexy at first. Here are some bedroom mistakes that you could be making – and simply cleaning up your bad habits can improve your sex life ten fold!

Going To The Bathroom In Front Of Your Partner

Most couples who have been together for awhile have no problem peeing – or going #2 or even changing their tampon – in front of their partner. Sure, this is great step towards complete intimacy with your partner, but not the sexual kind. It may be quicker to just drop your drawers in the morning while your partner is shaving or brushing their teeth, but it’s not going to make you look very sexy at all in front of your partner. Of course your partner isn’t going to say anything – after all, it is natural – but later on when they’re thinking of how great you look undressed, the image of you on the pot might come creeping in and quash all notions of sexiness right then and there. Next time, wait until your partner is done using the restroom or ask them to wait until you’re finished.

Talking About Your Other Lovers

If you’ve been with your partner for awhile, it may be nothing to mention an old lover in the midst of conversation. “Oh, Jim and I went to this restaurant once when we were dating. I’ve heard the food is good.” It may seem completely benign, especially if you have a solid, trusting relationship with your partner, but your partner is most likely going to be thinking about your dinner with Jim while you’re having dinner with him – and he’ll probably worry about what you guys did after dinner too. Your man isn’t silly enough to think that you’ve never had a sexual partner before him, but he prefers to ignore it so he can focus on how great the sex between the two of you is.

Wearing Unflattering Pajamas

Your flannel pajamas are uber comfy and all you want to do is throw them on before you hit the hay after a long day of work or taking care of the kids. However, if all your partner sees you in is your flannel jammies, you may be doing yourself a disservice. He likes your bod and he wants to see it – at least some of it – and not just you buried in yards of flannel. Wear your comfortable pajamas some of the time, but don’t let your partner forget how great you look in a silky camisole and panties set.

Holding Out On Him To Get What You Want

Some women – ok, many women – will often use sex as a bribe or even withhold sex as a punishment to get their man to do what they want. You want him to take out the trash and do the dishes? You offer him a blowjob to entice him. He really screwed up and majorly dissed you – so no sex for a week. If the only way your partner gets sex is either for performing tasks for you or being a “good boy,” he’s going to get real tired of it real quick. Sex is about the two of you getting to enjoy each other and giving each other great orgasms – it’s not a bartering tool.

Faking Your Orgasms

If you fake an orgasm, your only making your sex life worse for yourself. You may think that because he’s tried giving you an orgasm for forty minutes that you’re doing him a favor by faking it and letting him get on with doing what he wants to do, he’s never going to learn how to please you the right way if he thinks his current techniques are sufficient in giving you the big “O.” So if you want your partner to keep doing things the way you don’t like them (instead of learning how to please you and give you a real orgasm) then by all means continue faking it. But if you do, your partner really is the only one getting anything out of it and he may catch on after a while too, no matter how good you think you are at it!