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How To Tell If YOU Need A New Sex Toy!

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Sex toys can burn out over time, or you can get tired of them. Sometimes, you just want something you’ve never tried before! From time to time, you’re going to have to replace your sex toys or buy new ones, but it can be hard to part with a favorite. Here are five things to look for to tell if you need to chuck your current vibrator and go shopping for sex toys!

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.

Sex In The Shower – Dual Locking Suction Handle Review

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The Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle makes sex in the shower easier and safer with a large handle with two lock-down suction areas to achieve perfect positions in your showers or bath.

The Good

  • Reasonably priced.
  • Each handle has two lock down suction areas, so they’re pretty sturdy.
  • Because they hold so well, my partner and I have found shower sex positions, that I never thought possible.

The Bad

  • Once locked in, they’re hard to move.
  • Only one per package, so you really should buy two (or more).
  • They’re pretty obvious, so I have to take them down and set them up again before each use, which eliminates the option of spontaneous shower sex (with handles).

The Bottom Line

The Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle is THE product to get if you want sturdier shower sex. There are lots of similar products out there (even many of the same brand) but this product has been tried and tested, and the bottom line is that it WORKS! Get yours today and make the next shower you and your lover take together extraordinary! Better yet, get two – they work much better in tandem because they hold more weight and allow you to really get into some great sex positions! Your partner will have no trouble finding your sweet spot and giving you incredible orgasms in the shower if you’ve got the Dual Locking Suction Handle to help hold you up.

The Full Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle Review

Sex in the shower is fun, but it can also turn into a slippery disaster! Use the Dual Locking Suction Handle to keep a grip and keep going!

Sex In The Shower Is So Much Fun!

I love having sex in the shower. There is something that is so extremely sexy about wet skin, steam, and lathered bodies. However, until recently, I’ve felt that my experiences with sex in the shower have been a bit hindered by the lack of positions my partner and I can achieve. I can’t tell you how many times the thought, “if I could only get the right leverage,” has crossed my mind.

How The Dual Locking Suction Handle Will Help You Get A Grip

The Dual Locking Suction Handle has changed getting it on in the shower for me forever. I have to admit, I first tried the Single Locking Foot Rest by the same company with results that were mediocre at best, but I didn’t want to give up on the idea of amazing new positions in the shower, so I decided to try the Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle.

This handle is white and grey, 3 x 2 x 4.5 inches, it weighs less than 1 pound, and it offers two lock down suction areas per handle. I bought two handles, and all I can say is WOW!!! They really hold my weight. Granted, I’m not a big girl, but they hold my partner too, and he’s about 180 lbs. We have had an amazing time with this product. It took a little time, but now that we’ve gotten more comfortable with using the handles, and more trusting in their support, we have come up with some fantastic sex positions.

Get Yours Today!

If you love having sex in the shower but are worried about slipping, falling or just not being able to do it right, this product is right up your alley. It will give you the leverage you need and support you can trust so you can get in your favorite sex positions – and turn a morning shower into something so much more!

Pjur Lube & Personal Products Review

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Pjur lube is made in Germany with only the finest quality ingredients. It truly is top of the line lube and a little really does go a long way. You’ll love the silky smooth feel of the lube and the fact that it doesn’t dry out as easily as other lubes. In repeated testing, Pjur trumped all other lubes in the categories of silkiness, long lasting and comfortable to use.

The Good

What is great about Pjur lube is that it has everything you’ve been looking for in a lube and more. If you’ve searched for the right lube and keep coming up with half empty, sticky bottles on your nightstand, it’s time to chuck those in the trash and see what Pjur has to offer. It truly is one of the best (if not THE best) personal lubricant manufacturer out there. Here’s what Pjur lubricants do, that most other lubes don’t:

  • Silky and natural feeling
  • Closest to natural vaginal secretions
  • Non-sticky
  • Doesn’t dry out easily
  • A small amount is usually all that is necessary, so the bottle lasts a long time
  • Some specialized products aren’t available anywhere else, such as the Woman Cream Glide
  • Natural ingredients that don’t harm the body
  • Doesn’t burn or itch both male or female partner
  • Anal glides are specifically formulated for anal play (either penetration or with sex toys)

The Bad

Pjur lube is high quality – so you can’t get it at your local drugstore or supermarket. There are plenty of lubes available at supermarkets, but none of them last as long or feel as natural as Pjur. You’ll have to order Pjur lube online and it’s a little more expensive than other brands, but it is well worth the investment. Also, it can be somewhat difficult to select the product that is right for you, because there are so many products to choose from!

There is the option of purchasing a few small “trial size” products, but not in all the products that are available. Also, it would be neat if more products were available with a pump (who wants to grab a lube bottle to add more when you already have sticky, wet hands?) but this caveat is negligible compared to what you’re getting when you get authentic Pjur lube.

The Bottom Line

Pjur lube is hands down the best lube available. When compared to well known national brands, Pjur trumps the competition again and again. When other lubes get sticky, Pjur is still silky smooth and wet. With plenty of products to choose, you can be sure that there’s a Pjur product that will meet your needs, whether you’re looking for an all natural lube, a silicone variety, a lightweight variety for masturbation or anything for anal sex, you’re going to find exactly what you need in the Pjur line of personal products.

Pjur lube isn’t available at your local supermarket, but it’s well worth the purchase and waiting for it to ship to your home. Although it is more expensive, only a few drops does the trick, so you are definitely investing wisely and will most likely save money in the long run. If you’re looking for the perfect lube to keep handy by the bedside and use for with sex toys or during whatever activity you want, Pjur lube is exactly what you want!

The Full Pjur Lube & Personal Products Review

Lube is necessary for great sex. Pjur lube tops all other lubes during testing time and again. Find out why YOU need Pjur lube instead of what you’re using!

Original Bodyglide

This is probably the most widely used Pjur product of their family of lubes, and it is the most basic. It’s a silicone based formula that can be used for pretty much anything. Water free and non-pore blocking, this lube is perfect for extended sex sessions to anal sex and masturbation. It’s also preservative and oil free, so it’s completely condom safe.

Pjur Gel

This product is similar to the Original Bodyglide, but it is a thicker gel formula. It is also silicone based, and it does get a little stickier simply because it’s a thicker lube. This is an excellent product to use for anal play, because it’s nice and thick and doesn’t dry out easily. It’s not likely that you’ll have to apply much more throughout sex. It is also suitable for vaginal sex but can be a little difficult to wash out afterwards for a clean feeling.

Pjur Light Silicone Lube

If you’re looking for a silicone lube in it’s lightest formula, this is the one you want to get. It’s so light it almost feels like water based, but you can definitely tell that it’s silicone due to the fact that it lasts longer and feels a little “oilier.” Again, this product does not contain oil so it’s perfectly condom safe. This is a better choice if you choose to use silicone lube for vaginal sex.

Pjur Aqua Lube

This is probably the most popular water based lube that Pjur manufactures. As far as water based lubricants go, this one takes the cake. It’s super silky and feels almost exactly like natural vaginal secretions. It can be used simply to condition the skin if you have a dry vagina, or it can be used during sex for the smoothest glide possible during penetration. It’s non-toxic, doesn’t contain spermicides, and is stain free and tasteless, so you could theoretically even use it for oral sex if you like (although most people prefer flavored lubes for oral sex). This product even claims that no clean up is required!

Pjur Basic Waterbased

This is probably the most basic, inexpensive water based lube that you can get from Pjur. But that doesn’t mean that it’s an inferior product! After rigorous testing, the basic formula still came in high above other popular competing brands. If you want to try a Pjur product but want something a little more affordable, this one is your best bet. It’s condom safe, body safe and can be used for any activity you like, from foreplay to hot and wild sex.

Pjur Med Natural Glide

By far the favorite out of all the Pjur products, the Med Natural Glide is the closest thing to natural vaginal secretions that you’re going to get. With the exception of the fact that it is usually cool when it comes out of the bottle, you really can’t tell a difference between this product and natural wetness! This is a water based lubricant that uses only all natural ingredients including pure plant glycerin. It’s also free of paraffin products, colors, perfumes or anything synthetic. This is the perfect product for men and women who have very sensitive skin down there! This product does not burn or itch and the silky glide is superior over all the others.

Woman Cream Glide

Now this is an interesting concept! Many people choose to use petroleum jelly as lubrication during sex or anal sex, because of it’s thick, gel/oil like consistency. This can be very dangerous if you’re using condoms or dental dams, because petroleum jelly will break those right down (you might as well not use them if you’re using petroleum jelly). Besides, who wants to put crude oil products in their “down there” areas?

The Woman Cream Glide is a water and silicone based mixture that looks, feels and acts almost exactly like petroleum jelly! Fans of super slippery, thin water based lubes aren’t going to like this product, however, if you’re using petroleum jelly or would like to, you need to use THIS PRODUCT! This stuff stays where you put it and is a perfect companion with sex toys, both for vaginal and anal use.

Analyse Me Relaxing Anal Glide

Desensitizing lubes are a huge “no-no” when it comes to anal sex – if anal sex hurts at all, you need to be able to feel it. So if you numb that area with a desensitizing lube, you’re really not doing yourself any favors. Pjur, however, has come out with their own version of an anal lube that uses pure, gentle jojoba extract to relax the anal sphincter without desensitizing it. This lube is perfect for anal sex beginners, or anyone who just wants to experiment with anal play and would like a lube that helps relax the muscles a little.

Can Sex Toys Spice Up Our Relationship?

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Sex toys are great for solo play, but can they make things better with your partner? Find out now!

Should I bring sex toys into our bedroom? I’m looking to spice up my sex life with my man, but I’m not sure how he’ll respond. I really want to try them. How do I work them in? (No pun intended.)

What She Said:

I’m going to cut right to the chase – Yes! Sex toys can add a new level of satisfaction for both you and your mate. There’s no shame in making them a part of your lovemaking.

Talk to your man first before introducing the toys of your (and his!) choice. Make sure the conversation takes place in a neutral zone – say the living room instead of the bedroom. It sounds like you’re slightly nervous about his response, so surprising him with a dildo between the sheets is definitely not the way to go!

Be Positive

It’s important to place emphasis on the positive. This is not personal. Let him know you love having sex with him and enjoy his lovemaking techniques. You don’t want to make him feel defensive or inadequate.

After you’ve established that you’re happy in the bedroom, let him know you’d like to add even more to the joy you two share. Have a catalogue (or website) marked with some ideas of things you’d like to try. Odds are he’ll be thrilled to help you explore. After all, the more aroused you are, the better it is for him too! Loving partners are usually open to growing and sharing – I have no doubt this will be the case here as well.

The final step is to go shopping together – either to your local sex store or online (Adam & Eve is great AND you can use Dan & Jennifer’s special offer code for 50% OFF almost any item and FREE shipping – offer code is DANJENN) and pick out your new pleasure seekers. Run home, wash ‘em off and go have fun!

What He Said:

Yeah, sex toys can help, If you can handle them. Not everyone is into that kind of thing. Many people are pretty vanilla out there. But everyone can get a little bit wilder, all they need is a little bit of encouragement. Just a gentle nudge in the right direction.

How Does Your Partner Feel About Sex Toys?

Notice I didn’t say a push or shove. This can’t just be your idea. This has to be his idea too. Get his input on the idea and see how he feels about certain toys and most importantly, try and find out what his specific turn ons or turn offs are and more importantly, why. Maybe he had a bad experience with a previous partner. Maybe he’s afraid he won’t be enough for you. Maybe he’s open to using them, but not shopping for them in public. Whatever the issue it can be overcome, but you have to find out what it is first.

After you do that, be very open to trying these things and be curious and non judgmental. Don’t be too attached to any one outcome. You’ll find one or more toys that you both will like, but it might take a little time to do so. And make sure to only nudge, never push.

Penis Extensions – Can They Spice Up Your Sex Life?

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Penis extensions are for guys who can’t please a woman with their penis, right? Wrong! They can actually make great sex with your lover even better. You might think, “Why would a guy want to put a fake one on?” Truth is, they do make it a little more difficult to feel sex with your lover – but wouldn’t that make it ideal for men with premature ejaculation? Also, lots of couples enjoy how different intercourse feels when the male partner is wearing a penis extension – he feels bigger going in and it certainly feels bigger to her. Experimenting with penis extensions can be a lot of fun, even if you have average or larger sized genitals!

What Are Penis Extensions?

Think of penis extensions as dildos that fit over the head of your member. They are generally made of similar material (such as jelly, silicone or realistic skin-like material) and look very realistic. They extend the length of the penis considerably, allowing a shorter man to penetrate further into his partner’s vagina.

Average sized men can also use penis extensions if their partners desire a very deep, intense penetration. Some penis extensions require straps to keep them in place, while others simply slip over the head and stay there due to the soft, stretchy material that hugs the shaft.

Don’t They Reduce Pleasure? Why Would A Guy Want To Wear One?

It is true that penis extensions reduce some of the pleasurable sensations experienced during intercourse. However, many men and couples feel as though the benefits outweigh this. And of course, many men choose to wear a penis extension some of the time – while still having intimate, pleasurable sex with their partners without wearing one.

  • Men who suffer from premature ejaculation may find penis extensions incredibly useful. They reduce the amount of sensation that the nerves in the shaft feel, so he may be able to last longer.
  • Men who have smaller penises or simply just want more than what they already have will find that they can reach farther and stimulate more of their partner’s hot spots than with their own.
  • Many guys enjoy the feeling of being able to penetrate their lovers so deeply. And many women enjoy being penetrated exceptionally deep. This is one of the key reasons that guys with average or larger sized genitals would want a penis extension. It can be totally erotic to go as deep as possible!

During Role Play

Sexual role play is another fun thing you can do with penis extensions. This works well if you and your lover have agreed on monogamy, but want to spice things up and experience something a little different every once in a while. A penis extension will make the male partner feel like he’s a different man to both lovers! Incorporate this into a sexy role play scenario. Use costumes if you like, and definitely up the ante with some dirty talk.

Care & Safety

Care for penis extensions is much like the care of any sex toy. You want to be aware of the material it is made from, because latex can be broken down by using petroleum jelly or oil based lubes, while silicone can be broken down by using other silicone lubes. If you use a water based lube, you’re pretty much safe all around. Most penis extensions can be cleaned with simple soap and water, but if you purchase one made of life-like skin material, you’ll need to dust it with plain cornstarch to keep it soft and supple.

Although a penis extension covers the top of the penis, it does not completely prevent semen from spilling into the vagina. It is not designed for safe sex – so it won’t protect you or your partner from pregnancy or any kind of sexually transmitted diseases. If you are in a monogamous relationship with someone and you are both STD free, a condom may not be necessary for you when wearing a penis extension if you are either using birth control methods or are planning a pregnancy. However, if you wish to practice safe sex, you’ll want to wear a condom underneath the penis extension to be sure you’re protecting against unwanted pregnancies and STD’s.

A penis extension can be a lot of fun to experiment with if you’re looking for something a little different in the bedroom. It’s not a replacement for intimate, natural sex with your lover, but it can definitely add some spice in situations that are lacking it!