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Your Guide On How To Choose The Right Sex Toys

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Choosing sex toys takes definitely takes some thought – very rarely do couples buy sex toys on impulse. There are things to look for when you’re making a purchase, depending on what you like or don’t like. Here’s the best way to figure out what sex toys you want to buy and what aspects are more important in a sex toy than others.

What Not To Shop For

There are lots of things that you want in a sex toy, but it’s unlikely that you’ll find the perfect made-just-for-you toy that meets every one of your requirements. That said, it’s essential that you think about what’s important in your item and what isn’t as crucial. Here are some examples of things you don’t necessarily want to narrow down your search:

Color

While you want your vibrator or dildo to be pretty, shopping for one based on what color it is alone is a great way to get a sex toy that you hate or can’t use. Certain sex toys come in certain colors, and if you’re only looking for clear or red (or whatever your chosen color is), you’re going to be limited in what you can get in that particular color. Instead, focus on a more important aspect – such as function or size – when shopping.

Brand

There are great brands out there, but not all the items produced by one brand are great. You may get a really fun, awesome dildo and swear up and down that you will only buy that brand ever again. The next thing you buy – such as a cock ring for example – may be a complete dud. Then again, it may not be.

However, by limiting yourself to one brand of sex toys only, you might miss something really great that has been that special item you’ve been looking for. Keep your mind open and look for items that meet other criteria, such as being easy to use or super discreet.

Price

Of course, most people shopping for sex toys need to stay within a budget. There are couples out there that can splurge on the $300 vibrator, but most people have an idea of what price range they need to be looking in. However, when you’re shopping strictly by price, you may run into trouble. Cheap sex toys aren’t always the best and the best ones aren’t always cheap. Then again, there are lots of inexpensive items that give a great orgasm – so price really isn’t a factor at all.

If you don’t have very much to spend, consider saving up for a little while longer so that you can have a broader range of items to pick from. If you’ve only got $20 to spend and are looking for stuff in that price range only, you may miss the awesome $21.95 toy that is everything you’ve wanted in a sex toy and more! Having a little bit more to spend when you start shopping allows you to check out a lot more items – whether you buy one that is at the bottom of your price range or the top.

What To Shop For

There are lots of things that are important when considering what types of items to look for, but some are much more significant than others. For example, size is pretty important – you don’t want to get something that is too small or too big for you. Here are some examples of things that may make or break your decision:

Size (Length & Width)

Size is probably one of the most important factors to consider when shopping for a vibrator or dildo. Think about what size you need – based on your previous sex toys and other partners’ penis size. Are you only able to accommodate a small vibrator, or do you need something that is a bit longer to reach your g-spot?

Take into account what size you are, and what size feels good to you. Purchase something that meets the basic length and width requirements and doesn’t go over or under them a lot. Your heart may be set on a pretty pink penis, but if it’s two inches too short, you’re going to be sorry.

Function

Need a vibrator that will massage your clitoris? You might not want to buy one that is designed for g-spot stimulation and vice versa. Before you buy, think about what exactly you’re wanting your new toy to do. Do you want something that will stimulate both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time? Take a look at a Rabbit vibrator or something similar. Are you a virgin and need something that doesn’t require penetration? Think about vibrating bullets.

Don’t go shopping for sex toys without thinking about what function you want it to have first – that’s how you get stuck with something that you don’t want!

Ease Of Use

You probably don’t want a vibrator that has a thousand different buttons and requires an astrophysicist’s degree to figure out. Sometimes, a vibrator with a simple on/off function works great, so don’t assume the more buttons and gadgets it has the better. Pick something that you know will be easy to use, especially when you’re in the throes of passion alone or with your partner.

Level Of Discretion

Some couples really need their sex toys to be discreet. If that’s the case, look for a small bullet vibe or travel vibrator – something small that can be easily hidden or taken with you in a purse, pocket or suitcase. People who need a certain level of discretion may want to stay away from purchasing traditional dildos, since most of them tend to be larger and penis shaped.

Regardless of what sex toys you use, make sure that they meet your needs and wants before making the purchase. If you don’t, you’ll end up spending a lot of money on something that isn’t very good or is simply “okay.” Once you find the right item, make it even more pleasurable and comfortable by using a lot of good, water based lubricant. Take care of it and make it last longer by cleaning it after each use, either with a special toy cleaner or hot, soapy water.

Can Lube Cause Yeast Infections?

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Lube does a lot of things, including relieving vaginal dryness and making sex more comfortable and pleasurable for both partners. Lube is recommended for almost every sexual activity, especially during vaginal penetration and anal sex. But are there any downsides to using lube during sex? Can using lube cause vaginal discomfort or yeast infections?

What Is A Yeast Infection?

A yeast infection is simply when the pH of the vagina has been thrown off – and this can happen any number of ways.

  • Sex. Sexual partners can actually pass yeast infections to one another during intercourse.
  • Getting sick. If your immune system is lowered, you can be more susceptible to the overgrowth of yeast in the vagina.
  • Stress. Stress lowers the immune system and women with chronic problems are often found to be exposed to constant stress.
  • Hormones, pregnancy and birth control. If the hormones in the body aren’t balanced properly, a yeast overgrowth can occur.
  • Antibiotics. They change the pH of the vagina too, eliminating all the natural bacteria that are found in the vagina (the ones that consume excess yeast).

There are also a number of things that can help a yeast infection form, or make it much worse once it has started.

  • Tight clothing
  • Polyester or synthetic fabrics that do not allow good ventilation
  • Lots of sex in a short period of time
  • Wiping from back to front
  • Sweating, especially in hot or muggy weather
  • Douching

Is Lube A Culprit?

Some brands do contain glycerin – in fact, quite a few of them do. Glycerine is a sugar based product, which can affect the growth of yeast in the vagina. Things with high sugar content that are inserted into or near the vagina can cause an infection – which is why you always see a disclaimer when reading about having sex with chocolate or candies. Lube can certainly make a previous infection worse, and in extremely sensitive individuals, using it may bring an infection on.

However, since there are so many different factors that can cause or contribute to the overgrowth of yeast in the vagina, it is much more likely that lube isn’t the only cause of a yeast infection (although it is possible). It is formulated specifically for the vagina and is designed to mimic natural lubrication as closely as possible. It is likely that the pH balance in the vagina was off to begin with and lube tipped the scales towards an infection, causing symptoms of vaginal discomfort, burning or itching.

Some brands of lube may cause more vaginal discomfort than others. For example, warming lubes that are designed to heat up have been known to cause intense sensations, sometimes to the point of pain and discomfort in women that are very sensitive. You may have had a reaction to a new lubricant without actually having a yeast infection.

How To Buy The Right Kind Of Lube

If you’re very sensitive to yeast infections and get them frequently, look for some that is made without glycerin. Astroglide makes a glycerin and paraben free formula, which is great for women with sensitive genitals. Parabens are also chemicals that can cause an uncomfortable reaction in some women, so consider purchasing a lube that is both glycerin and paraben free.

Do not use things that you get from home – that means no vegetable oils, olive oils, lotions or anything that isn’t made to be put inside the vagina. These kinds of oils (even baby oil) can clog the pores on the inside of the vaginal walls and make the environment a great host for all kinds of unwanted yeast and bacteria. Spare yourself the trouble and spend a few bucks on a great bottle of lubricant, available anywhere from sex toy stores to your local supermarket. You’ll thank yourself for it later.

Seeing The Doctor

If it seems like you’re doing everything right and you’re still having vaginal discomfort or yeast infection symptoms, even after using over the counter remedies, it may be time to make an appointment with your doctor. You could have an STD – or just a really nasty bacterial infection that requires the use of antibiotics to get rid of.

If you’re to embarrassed to see your doctor about a possible vaginal infection, find a doctor that you are comfortable seeing. Honestly, your doctor has seen just about everything from anal sex injuries to STD’s to really strange stuff that you probably don’t want to hear about. That’s what your doctor is there for – to talk to and to find solutions to keep your body healthy.

Will I Become Dependent On My Vibrator?

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Sex toys for women are among the most popular out there – especially when it comes to a vibrator. Many women use sex toys during masturbation and even during sex with their partners to enhance pleasurable sensations and give more orgasms. But will a woman get used to the vibrations and come to rely on them instead of being able to have an orgasm just with her hand or her partner’s touch?

Is it true that women who use vibrators for clitoral orgasm could become desensitized to getting it with their own hand or partners’ touch? I heard Dr.Drew say it on Love Line KROQ and it made me never want to buy a vibrator because I don’t want to risk my body being depended on it. Please, please help!

–YouTube Viewer

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What A Vibrator Does

A vibrator is a powerful way to achieve orgasm quickly and easily without having to do a lot of work to get there. Lots of women enjoy using vibrators during masturbation because the orgasms are great and it can be done quickly, without a lot of mess.

However, after using a vibrator for a long period of time (say several weeks or more), some women have reported being unable to reach orgasm without one and others reported that they could reach orgasm without a vibrator, but it was very difficult to do so. Does this mean that they are “addicted” to their vibrators and can’t reach climax without one?

Learning How To Orgasm

A vibrator is very intense – consider it a “power tool” that will help get the job done quickly and easily. This means that reaching orgasm without a vibrator should take longer than it does when you do use one. The problem here is not the sex toys – it’s that a lot of women haven’t learned how to have an orgasm without the aid of their “power tool” and automatically assume that they can’t, without taking the time or effort to really figure out how.

Instead of wondering why you’re not able to reach orgasm with your hands in the same amount of time it takes to do so with your vibrator, slow down and enjoy the masturbation process. The same goes if you’re with your lover and he’s performing oral sex on you or fingering you. It’s not going to go as fast as it does with your “power tools” and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

If It’s Causing A Problem

If you’re really struggling to reach climax with your lover or with your hands (without the aid of a vibrator) and you’ve given yourself plenty of extra time to actually get to the big “O”, you may want to consider trying to wean yourself off the power tools all together.

Try incorporating your solo sex toys into your sexual routine with your partner. Remember, sex toys aren’t just for masturbation alone – you can use them in addition to different sex positions, oral sex and manual stimulation to spice up your sex life. Doing this will help teach your brain that you can experience sexual pleasure with your partner as well, not just with a vibrator. This is because when you get used to doing something just one way (such as masturbating and reaching orgasm with a power tool only), the brain gets used to doing it only that way and will have a more difficult time adapting to doing it another way.

Other Things That Impact The Ability To Orgasm

If you’re having a difficult time reaching climax without the use of a vibrator, it may not be your sex toys‘ fault at all. In fact, there are many things that may cause a woman to become unable to climax for a short period of time. For example, you may be stressed, tired or sick. Also, some people don’t realize the fact that as men and women get older, they’re not as sensitive to sexual stimulation anymore.

If you used to be able to have an orgasm by just using your hand during masturbation when you were younger but you can’t orgasm without a vibrator now, it may be solely due to the changes your body has gone through as you’ve gotten older. Situations like that are actually a perfect time to introduce a vibrator into the mix because the body just isn’t as responsive as it once was. The most important thing with sex and masturbation is to find a balance and do what works for you!

Clitoris Pump – What Is The Female Version Of A Penis Pump?

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Sex toys come in every size, shape and color and sex toys for men have become just as popular as they are for women. A penis pump, for example, is one of the best selling male sex toys there is. A clitoris pump – the female version of a penis pump – is made to function the same way. What is a clitoris pump and how is it used? Here’s what you want to know:

What Function It Serves

Any pump – whether it be a penis pump or one for the clitoris and labia – is designed to force more blood into the genital tissue, enhancing the sensitivity of whatever has been pumped. After pumping, the shaft and head of the penis or the clitoris and labia are engorged with blood and can be much more receptive to any kind of stimulation.

Some men who experience erectile dysfunction may use a penis pump to achieve and maintain an erection, while other men simply use a penis pump to enhance sexual sensations during intercourse with a partner or during masturbation. Women who use a clitoris pump do so for many of the same reasons. Some women may have trouble achieving an orgasm, and a clitoris pump may help the genital tissue become more sensitive and make it easier for a woman to reach climax.

A clitoris pump may also be used by couples to increase friction during intercourse, as many men and women have reported after using a clitoris pump that the vagina looks and feels much tighter.

Different Types Of Pumps

Just as there are all kinds of different sex toys, there are also different styles of clitoris pumps as well. A simple pump will basically consist of a wide plastic mouth that is placed over the vulva, with a tube going to a soft hand bulb. Some clitoris pumps will have attachments on the inside designed for clitoral stimulation during use, while others will have a vibrating bullet attached to the mouth of the pump for even more sensations.

Some clitoris pumps are designed to cover the entire vulva (both the clitoris and the labia) while others are much smaller and are designed to be placed over the clitoris only. When the genital tissues have been pumped up, they usually go back to their normal size within a matter of seconds or minutes, depending on how long the pumping lasted in the first place.

Keeping Things Safe

As with any other types of sex toys, it’s important that you learn how to use the toy properly to get the best results – and to avoid doing damage to your delicate genital tissues in the process. Never, ever use an actual vacuum instead of a pump, regardless of whether you’re male or female. The suction on a vacuum is much, much more powerful than a penis pump or a clitoris pump and can actually cause the blood vessels and capillaries inside the genital tissue to break – giving you one nasty looking bruise.

In rare cases, people who have used vacuum hoses during masturbation have had to seek emergency medical assistance due to severe engorgement of the genitals. Choose your clitoris pump wisely and select the size that is right for you. Remember to keep it clean and dry when not in use and follow all directions on the packaging.

“Extreme Pumping”

Clitoris and labia pumping to the extreme is considered a form of BDSM and is featured in many fetish videos and porn. With extreme pumping, the clitoris and labia are suctioned and enlarged a great deal, to the point where the genitals appear very swollen and misshapen. This kind of activity can be dangerous, because it too can cause the blood vessels and capillaries to break and the skin to become stretched or bruised. There are lots of fun sexual activities that are fun and don’t hurt!

Trying A Clitoris Pump

If you’re thinking about trying a clitoris pump for yourself, make sure you get one from a reputable company. Go slow, using the suction for only a few seconds or minutes at a time. Gradually build up your tolerance to stronger and stronger suction, until you achieve the desired effect. Just make sure you’re not using too much suction or doing it for too long. Relax and have fun, but if you become uncomfortable at any time or are in any kind of pain, stop immediately!

Christian Sex Toys – WTF?

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Many people think sex toys are “dirty” or “wrong” and Christians shouldn’t use them. But there is actually nothing in the Bible says that married couples can’t enjoy sex with lubes, massage oils and even sex toys. The problem that most religious people have with shopping for sex toys in a traditional adult store is having to deal with all of the brazenly “adult” products, pictures and porn DVD’s. Is there a way that people of faith can enjoy sex more with their spouses without immersing themselves in the adult entertainment industry?

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Thou Shalt Not Use Sex Toys?

While many Christians and other religions believe that sex toys and lube are “dirty” or “wrong,” there is actually nothing in the Bible that suggests that married couples who are using sex toys together are doing anything wrong! There is nothing that says, “Thou shalt not use sex toys,” so the myth that Christians can’t enjoy these additions to their bedroom repertoire is just that – a myth.

More and more Christian sex toy stores are popping up all over the Internet (and some are even actual brick and concrete stores) that cater specifically to religious couples. Book 22 is a website that offers “intimacy products for married couples,” and The Pure Bed is an online “married couples intimacy store.” Those are just a few of these types of stores that are becoming available to this niche – a quick Internet search will reveal dozens of stores that offer similar products for Christians.

The Benefit Of Sex Toy Stores For Christians

Lots of religious married couples are interested in purchasing “marital aids” or “intimacy products” for the bedroom, but don’t want to be assaulted by the sights, sounds and smells of a traditional sex toy store. Most traditional stores like this feature nudity on posters and pictures, as well as on the DVD’s that usually line the walls. Some stores even play samples of their video products on a television in-store! While many people don’t mind seeing men and women in various compromising sex positions, this can be particularly uncomfortable for couples of faith who are simply looking for lube, massage oils, condoms or even just sensual lingerie.

Many Christians enjoy purchasing from these types of establishments because they can usually shop from the comfort of their own home, without putting their sexual desires on display for others to see. The products are shipped in discreet packaging and only the man and woman who are using the sex toys will know what was purchased and from where. Making Christians feel safe when shopping for intimacy products is the goal of most of these stores.

What You WILL Find In A Christian Sex Toy Store

If you’re thinking about purchasing sex toys from a Christian based outlet, you’ll find a lot of great items that are intimate and affordable without being crass or objectionable to religious consumers. You might find things like:

  • Lubes and flavored lubes
  • Vibrators (bullet and torpedo style vibrators are common, while dildos and penis shaped vibrators are usually not offered)
  • Massage oils
  • Intimate, sensual lingerie
  • Sex games
  • Condoms
  • Feather ticklers

What You WON’T Find In A Christian Sex Toy Store

While you will usually find the “tame” stuff at a store that caters to people of faith, don’t expect to find any of these items unless you’re looking in a traditional adult entertainment store:

  • Anal sex products of any kind
  • Pornography
  • BDSM products
  • Gay or lesbian products

Most Christians believe that sodomy is wrong based on biblical texts, so the sex toy stores that cater to this niche aren’t going to offer any type of anal beads, butt plugs or any type of anal sex product. The same goes for gay and lesbian products, since a large percentage of Christian couples believe that homosexuality is prohibited. Pornography usually isn’t available because most pornography features non-married sex, as well as activities such as anal sex that are objectionable.

Have Respect

In today’s society, everyone comes from a different walk of life. Each person has different beliefs and values, and it’s important to respect the beliefs and values of others while staying true to your own. Remember that trying to shove your personal beliefs down someone else’s throat is only going to end badly. Do what you’re comfortable doing and allow others do what they’re comfortable doing. Each person must decide for themselves what is okay for them and what isn’t, and this is part of what Christian sex toy stores are all about – allowing people to shop for what they want in an environment that feels comfortable and safe!