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Sex Tip: Choosing The Best Lubricant For The Job

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Sexual lubricants are great products to use during all kinds of sex, including anal sex, vaginal sex and even masturbation for both men and women. Why do we like lube so much? It makes sex feel great and helps you last longer than if you’re relying on your body’s own lubricants or – eek! – saliva to do the job for you. Here’s the lowdown on the different kinds of lube on the market and how to use them.

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Why Do You Need Lube?

If you haven’t used lube before, you definitely need to try it! Chances are, you’ll never go back to having sex without it. Sexual lubricant makes sex feel better, because it reduces the amount of friction during sex. Sex feels smoother, slicker and lasts longer than if you’re just using saliva or not using anything at all.

Water Based Lubricants

Water based lubes are by far the best lubes out there. They’re simply made of water and glycerine and are extremely cost effective. They’re easy to use and easy to clean – in fact, you can clean up water based lube with just water, no soap required! It doesn’t stain your clothes or your sheets, but it will wear out quickly since it’s a thinner style lube that closely mimics a woman’s natural lubricant. You can’t use water based lube in the water, because it will rinse off quickly, but other than that, water based lube is definitely your go-to lube. Keep it by your bedside and use as necessary. Many lubes even come with a convenient pump that makes using it a breeze.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone based lubes are a little thicker and are much better to use in the water because they don’t rinse off as easily. You can still clean up silicone lubricant easily with soap and water (and maybe a little elbow grease) but it’s great if you’re having sex or masturbating in the shower or pool. It also lasts longer than water based lubricant, so it’s a little better for those marathon sex sessions. Silicone based lube is safe for most sex toys, but it cannot be used with toys made from silicone! If you have a silicone toy, you’re better off using water based lube. Silicone lube isn’t recommended for frequent vaginal use because although the vagina is self cleaning, it’s difficult to get the silicone based lube out.

Oil And Petroleum Based Lubes

Oil and petroleum based lubes are the hardest to clean and are very thick. They can stain your clothes and sheets and can’t be used with latex at all. If you use latex condoms or have a latex sex toy, oil or petroleum based lubricant will begin to break down the latex. Not so bad if you’re just using a sex toy, but if you’re using a condom to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, oil or petroleum lube can make the condom completely ineffective. Water or silicone based lubes are definitely better choices all around! If you must use an oil based lube, use it only for male masturbation. Women can use it during masturbation too (if the toys aren’t latex) but it is extremely hard to clean the vagina afterwards.

Flavored And Scented Lubes

Flavored or scented lubricants can be both silicone or water based (most likely water based) and are excellent to use for oral sex or just simply if you want a lube that smells and tastes good. There’s no difference between the effectiveness of a flavored or scented lube and a plain one, so it’s definitely a personal choice. There are many different flavors on the market, including yummy ones like strawberry or strawberry-kiwi.

Warming Lubes

Warming lubes can also be silicone or water based, but are most likely water based. A component within the formula of the lube makes the lube warm up during sex, and continue to get warmer during intercourse or masturbation. Warming lubes are great to have on hand if you want something a little different during sex, however, some people aren’t fond of just how warm and tingly warming lubricants can get when using them. If a warming lube is too hot for you, try diluting it with some regular lube for just a little extra kick.

Numbing And Desensitizing Lubes

There are numbing and desensitizing lubes and creams available on the market, but they do not come recommended. These are most often used for anal sex, since anal sex (especially the first time) can be quite painful. Numbing lubes will ease the pain of anal sex or even first time vaginal sex, but being pain free doesn’t necessarily mean there isn’t something wrong going on. You may not be able to feel the pain if your anus or lower colon tears, but tears can still happen and land you right in the emergency room. To put it bluntly, you need to be able to feel pain during anal sex so you can stop if something gets to painful or you feel like something might be wrong. Anuses aren’t made to accomodate large objects such as toys or penises (although they can) and the result can be a tear or even a bowel perforation. Don’t use numbing or desensitizing lube during anal sex because if you start to feel a lot of pain, it’s time to stop.

All Natural And Sensitive Skin Lubricants

An uncommon yet growing category of sexual lubricants are ones that are made for people with very sensitive skin. These lubes can be made with all natural ingredients and without dyes and perfumes that can be potentially irritating. If you have very sensitive skin and are using “free & clear” detergents and soaps in your home, consider using an all natural or sensitive skin lube during sex too.

Sex Furniture – The Tantra Sex Chair Review

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If you’ve been looking for sex furniture and sex toys that help you hold your position during sex, take a look at the Tantra Sex Chair. This gorgeous chair looks great in any room and will help you achieve the wildest, most intimate sex you’ve ever had. You can use the Tantra Sex Chair for so many things! Here’s why we like this amazing piece of furniture.

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Looks Fabulous

Have you ever had a sex swing, sex toy or some unearthly contraption that you hide when you’rsee not using it because it just looks so tacky? Meet the Tantra Sex Chair. This piece of furniture is actually a fabulous work of art that looks great in any bedroom, living room or den. It actually looks like a thin, curved chaise lounge. It comes in a variety of textures and colors that will complement any decor, so you don’t have to find somewhere to put it every time company comes over. Classy, yet deviously dirty when you turn the lights out!

American Made Engineered Leather

For those who oppose products made from animals, such as real leather or suede, the Tantra Sex Chair is actually made out of a wonderfully soft and pliable engineered leather. Engineered leather is not only better for animals and the environment, it is also easier to clean! Simply take a soft, damp cloth and wipe the Tantra Sex Chair down when you want to keep it clean. The Tantra Sex Chair is also American made, manufactured right in the heart of Arizona. You can be sure that the addition to your furniture collection was not made in a sweatshop across the globe! If you have questions about your Tantra Sex Chair, you’ll always be able to reach an easy to talk to representative that will be more than happy to help.

Helps Support The Body In Kama Sutra Sex Positions

Sure, the Tantra Sex Chair looks great and it’s environmentally friendly and American made, but does it really do what it says it’s going to do? Will it really make sex that much better for you and your partner? Yes, and much, much more. The gently curved design of the Tantra Sex Chair enables you and your partner get into virtually any position that you can come up with, and it was specially made to enhance the sex positions found in the well known sex tome The Kama Sutra. Many of the positions in the Kama Sutra book can be difficult to get into and stay in, let alone create enough friction between you and your partner to allow for pleasure. Not everyone is flexible enough to get into some of those positions, however, the Tantra Sex Chair will put an end to your sex position frustrations. Use this amazing chair to put a twist into man on top or woman on tip, or try sitting up face to face with your partner. The Tantra Sex Chair will also help support you and your partner’s bodies when performing oral sex on each other, or even while going solo! Your imagination is the only thing limiting you when you’re using the Tantra Sex Chair to spice up your sex life.

Check out The Tantra Chair for yourself. Be sure to mention Offer Code “Dan & Jennifer” and you’ll get $100 off the Tantra Chair, or $200 off the new Tantra Chair Capetown Edition.

Your First Time… With A New Vibrator – Sex Toys 101

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If you’re new to using a vibrator, you’re not alone. As society becomes more and more accepting of masturbation, more and more people are starting to explore masturbation for themselves.

But getting your first vibrator and using it for the first time doesn’t have to be confusing. Here are some great tips on what to do when you get your first vibrator.

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6 Smart Rules For Using A Vibrator

1. Never insert any vibrator to the point where it cannot be controlled or removed. You may feel tempted to go a little deeper, but if you end up getting the vibrator lodged too far inside your vagina, you’re going to need assistance having it removed. This can result in a very painful and possibly damaging situation.

2. Always clean your vibrator after every use. Unwashed vibrators are excellent breeding grounds for all kinds of bacteria. Inserting a dirty vibrator in your vagina can easily give you a nasty bacterial infection that would require a doctor’s care to get rid of. Plus, clean, smooth and great smelling toys always feel so much better!

3. To make clean up easier, you can place a condom over the vibrator before use. If you often take your vibrator with you on the go, washing your vibrator with soap and water or toy cleaner may not always be a feasible option for you. Slip a condom over your vibrator before using and when you’re finished, simply take the condom off and throw it away!

4. Use only compatible water based lubes with your sex toy. Some sexual lubricants cause different types of vibrators’ material to break down and degrade. Not fun if you’ve spent a lot of money on the perfect vibrator! A good rule of thumb to remember is that water based lube works well with everything.

5. If it hurts, stop! While that seems simple enough to remember, such is not always the case. Many women compare themselves to women in adult movies, or that’s the only form of sex education they got and as a result they end up hurting themselves. Often, the way women use vibrators and dildos in adult movies is grossly exaggerated. Don’t feel like you have to make it hurt to make it good.

6. Do not use your vibrator on broken or irritated skin. You could possibly get an infection or at best, make your irritated skin feel even more uncomfortable and painful.

Additional Tips

  • Inspect your vibrator upon arrival. Look for tears, holes and other defects in the toy. Plug it in or charge it’s batteries and make sure it turns on and off, and that all the buttons work. If the toy has to be returned for any reason, it’s better that you find out before you use it.
  • Learn how to use it. Take some time just playing with the vibrator to see how it works and what it does. Learn how to work the vibrator first before you take it in the bedroom. Then you can experiment with the best techniques and positions for pleasure.
  • Wash your vibrator before using it for the first time. Manufacturing companies and packing plants aren’t very clean places for your vibrator to have hung out in before you bought it.
  • Use lube. It just feels better. Besides, vibrators aren’t self lubricating.
  • Get comfortable. Using your vibrator is about taking charge of your own pleasure.

Q&A: How Is A Vibrator Different From A Dildo?

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There are so many different sex toys on the market today that it can be difficult to not only tell the difference between them and what they can be used for, but also which one you’ll like the best. Is there a difference between a vibrator and a dildo, or are they actually the same thing? Here’s how you can tell.

Question: How is a vibrator different than a dildo? Some of my friends say it is the same thing.

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What Is A Dildo?

Typically, a dildo is used for insertion only. The most common type of dildos are the ones that are molded to look like real penises, but any sex toy that is used for insertion in either the vagina or the anus is a considered a dildo. Dildos can come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors and textures and range from the very small and discreet to the very large and kinky. Anal dildos have a wide, flared base at the bottom to prevent the toy from going too far inside the anal cavity, and some dildos have attachments for both anal and vaginal insertion at the same time. There are double dildos for use by two people, or dildos with strap on attachments that can be worn hands free.

What Is A Vibrator?

Dildos can also be vibrators, but not all vibrators are considered dildos. Vibrating dildos are used for insertion, but other types of vibrators exist as well. Clitoral vibrators are among the most popular type of vibrators for women, and are made to simply be placed on the clitoris. These types of vibrators are typically small, but some of them can be quite large, especially wand vibrators that are also sold as back and shoulder massagers. Other vibrators include anal vibrators and vibrating beads, bullets and ben-wa balls. G-spot vibrators are also popular for women, as they’re made for insertion into the vagina but include a special curve that allows them to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

How To Choose The Best Toy For You

There are so many different sex toys to choose from, it is sometimes hard to figure out which one you’ll like best. First, decide whether you want a toy that vibrates or not. If you don’t want anything that vibrates, you’re going to be looking mostly at dildos and can simply decide which size and texture you’d like to try. If you do want some type of vibrating toy, decide whether you want one for clitoral stimulation, vaginal insertion or both. Many vibrators come with clitoral vibrating attachements, giving you both types of pleasure at once. If you’re looking for clitoral stimulation only, try a small vibrating bullet or even a strap-on vibrator that you can wear both during sex and under your clothes that can give you hands free vibration. If you’re looking for both clitoral vibration and vaginal vibration or simply vaginal vibration, look for a Rabbit vibrator or a slim and sleek, easy to use vibrator. You may want to have more than one sex toy in your dresser drawer, because you may be in the mood for something a little different now and then!

Q&A: Long Distance Sex Toys – a.k.a. Teledildonics

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With long distance relationships, one of the toughest obstacles is feeling physically intimate with your partner. Fortunately, with the advance of webcams and voice chat, you can feel like you’re in the same room as your partner! Here’s the newest technology for long distance sex toys, also known as teledildonics.

Question: Hey Dan and Jenn! Firstly, thanks for answering my last question. I’m in a long distance relationship at the moment – I’m in Denmark and my boyfriend is in Turkey. Our relationship is great and we fulfill our needs over webcam often, but I was wondering if there was any remote control sex toys that could work over that distance? I could send it to him and give him control over my sexual pleasure! I love your show and you both have always been very helpful to me, so thanks and have a wonderful day!

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Advances In Sex Toy Technology

While remote control vibrators have been around for awhile, teledildonics hasn’t. Remote control vibrators are usually battery powered, and the remote has a very short receiving distance. These types of vibrators are great for spicing up sex play in the bedroom (or another room) with your partner but have no real application for long distance relationships. Teledildonics, on the other hand, allow partners over long distances to control each other’s sex toys over the Internet. Imagine being able to give your partner an orgasm from thousands of miles away!

Teledildonic Sex Toys For Her

In the future, we will see more options available for teledildonic sex toys, but right now the best toy out there for her is an Internet enabled rabbit vibrator. The rabbit vibrator is one of the most popular vibrators available for women, allowing for penetration, g-spot stimulation and clitoral tickling all in one. The Internet enabled rabbit allows your partner to control your vibrator from wherever he is. He can choose when to tickle your clit, when to stimulate your g-spot and how hard or fast he wants it to go. With this teledildonic sex toy, your orgasm is completely in the hands of your partner! This is an excellent option for couples in long distance relationships or those where one or both partners are away on business often.

Teledildonic Sex Toys For Him

The Real Touch teledildonic masturbator is one of the most revolutionary male masturbators available on the market. This device is designed to be used in conjunction with adult videos, and uses USB technology to sync the motions of the Real Touch with what the adult video star is doing onscreen. The Real Touch offers gentle heat to simulate natural body heat and a lubricant dispenser to mimic the way a woman’s vagina will lubricate itself during sex. While the Real Touch device can be somewhat difficult to clean as it cannot be submerged in water or placed in your dishwasher, many men will enjoy the ability to masturbate completely hands free. This is an excellent teledildonic sex toy for long distance relationships, but it can also be used by any man who wants a revolutionary masturbatory experience.