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Sex Toys 101 – Vibrators Unleashed!

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Sex toys and vibrators are among the most taboo sex topics – who uses sex toys and vibrators? Where can you get them? Can couples use them, or are they just for solo play? What kind of vibrators can you get? Here’s what you need to know when it comes to sex toys and vibrators – and more!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’d really like to try using a vibrator – how do I know which one is the right one for me?

–Lisa, Texas

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Vibrator Myths

There are a lot of myths surrounding sex toys and vibrators. First of all, vibrators won’t replace men! Many men are afraid that a vibrator will give a woman such intense sexual pleasure that she won’t desire actual sex anymore, but that’s simply not true! There’s nothing that replaces the closeness and intimacy of sex with your partner, not even the best and most expensive vibrator. Vibrators aren’t just for solo use either – couples can have a lot of fun with vibrators by sharing their pleasure with each other through toys. Vibrators aren’t all expensive and big either – they come in all shapes, sizes and prices to fit your needs best. Experiment with different types of sex toys and vibrators to find out which ones you like best!

G-Spot Vibrators

G-Spot vibrators are some of the most popular vibrators available. They’re curved and when used properly, they can help you reach the ultimate G-Spot stimulation! They’re fun to use with a partner or just by yourself and can be incorporated into many different types of sex play. Many G-Spot vibrators come equipped with clitoral stimulators that can help give you dual pleasure.

Clitoral Vibrators

Clitoral vibrators are also popular, because many women can only achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation. They can be used with or without a partner, and there are many types of clitoral vibrators that can be used during sex to provide heightened pleasure. Many are available in waterproof versions and most of them can fit almost any budget.

Discreet Vibrators

Many women prefer to use smaller, discreet vibrators that can’t easily be distinguished from another item. They often fit in a purse or a pocketbook and can be disguised as a lighter, a tube of lipstick or other types of every day items. They’re economical and contrary to popular belief, the right discreet vibrator can pack quite a punch.

Finger Vibrators

Finger vibrators are exactly what they sound like – vibrators that fit right onto your finger! While many couples use finger vibrators together, they’re great for female masturbation because they work well with the way a woman naturally masturbates. Some finger vibrators can be expensive, but many can be found at a good price.

Remote, Bullet and Egg Vibrators

Remote vibrators are best shared with a partner, although it can be equally fun to use a remote vibrator by yourself. It can be really fun to put your pleasure in someone else’s hands! Not all vibrators are big and bulky – bullet and egg vibrators are small and shaped like bullets or eggs, providing comfort, versatility and intense pleasure.

If you’re interested in buying a vibrator for use by yourself or with your partner, there are a multitude of websites that offer the widest variety of vibrators so you can find the one you’re looking for. Just remember, have fun and experiment with different vibrators! You might find that you like more than one!

The Lube Review – What Everyone Ought to Know About Sexual Lubricants

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There are hundreds of  different types of lubricants out there – some made for sexual use and others that just happen to work well for sex but might also be good on a slice of bread. Here’s the down and dirty on what you need to know about lube – what is not lube, what kind of real lube you should get, what you should use it for and why!

Dear Dan And Jennifer,

I’ve heard a lot about lubes and I’m wondering about them – I wonder what is the best kind of lube to use and which lubes I should stay away from? Do I really need lube? What’s the real story about lube?

–Jessica, Rhode Island

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Water Based Lubricant

Water based lubricant is by far the most popular lube on the market. It’s sold almost everywhere – even your local grocery store sells water based lube! Why is water based lubricant so popular? First of all, this type of lube doesn’t break down condoms. That’s the most important factor – oil based lubricants can weaken latex condoms and make them less effective and nearly useless. Unless you want babies or sexually transmitted diseases, you’re better off using a good, water based lubricant. The other bonuses that come with water based lube is that it washes off easily and it doesn’t stain sheets or clothing!

What Is Not Lube?

Lotion isn’t lube, unless you’re giving a genital massage, and neither is saliva or even just plain water. While you might be tempted to just use something you have around the house in the heat of the moment, but you’re much better off if you plan ahead of time and get yourself a good lubricant that will work well for what you need. Oil based lubricants can work well for men during masturbation or massage, but oil based lubricants are bad news for women during sex and even masturbation with a toy. Oil breeds bacteria very easily and keeps it there, and is difficult to wash off. If you’re choosing a lubricant to use for sex, use the ones made specifically for sex! You’ll find that almost all of them are water based lubricants.

Silicone Based Lubricants

Silicone based lubricants are great for those who have glycerin allergies, or for those who want to use lubrication under water such as in the shower or hot tub. Silicone based lube won’t break down a condom, but won’t wash away in the same way that a water based lubricant will. If you’re planning some sexy fun in the water, think about trying a silicone based lube. The only downside? Like oil based lubricants, it’s difficult to get off afterwards.

Do I Need Lube?

In short – yes! While your partner might be incredibly “wet,” even so, a little lubricant goes a long way. It can help reduce friction, help keep a condom on and safe, and help heighten you and your partner’s pleasure. Have a good bottle of your favorite lubricant ready and you’re bound to have a more enjoyable experience.

Have Fun With Your Lube!

Don’t be afraid to experiment with different types of lube, including different consistencies, different textures, different flavors and different additives. There are numbing lubricants – which should never be used for anal sex – and even lubricants that can increase sensitivity and heighten pleasure. There are many different types of lubricants available online, including lubes in convenient pump dispensers for mess-free fun.

What You Need To Know About Anal Sex Toys

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Anal sex is becoming more and more popular among couples as people take the time to learn about anal sex and how it can be stimulating, satisfying and safe!

The most important thing to consider when using sex toys for anal sex is safety – having anal sex is nothing like having vaginal sex because you have to be a lot more careful. Here’s what you need to know about anal sex and the most popular anal sex toys.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I’d like to have anal sex using toys – are there toys built just for anal sex? What is the best toy to use?

–Sarah, Idaho

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Before You Begin

Before you begin anal sex, make sure you have what you need on hand, such as plenty of lubricant. Don’t use a numbing lubricant during anal sex, because you could inhibit pain receptors that play an important factor in letting you know if something goes wrong. Anal sex should be introduced slowly and be very aware that anal tissue is more sensitive than vaginal or oral tissue and can tear easily. Remember that the anal cavity is not self lubricating like a vagina is – make sure to use lots and lots of lubricant during anal sex whether you’re having anal sex with your partner or using an anal sex toy.

Which Toys Are Safest?

The safest anal sex toys are those that are designed for anal sex only. Most of these toys have a wide enough base to prevent the toy from “getting lost” in the anal cavity, and this is an important feature to have on an anal sex toy. Many vaginal sex toys don’t have wide bases because a woman’s body prevents toys or other things from getting lost – they can always come out. This isn’t true of the anal cavity though and if something goes too far in, you might need a doctor’s help in getting it out. Make sure your anal toys have a wide base to prevent the toy from slipping to far in the anus. Another benefit of the wide base is that they fit nicely into strap on harnesses, allowing more freedom of sex play both vaginally and anally.

Curved Anal Toys

Anal toys can be fun for both men and women, and men actually have an inner pleasure spot within their anal cavity, similar to a woman’s g-spot. This is called the prostate gland, and you can use a curved anal toy to better stimulate a man’s prostate for increased pleasure and more satisfying anal sex.

Remember The Most Important Thing

The most important thing about having anal sex and using anal sex toys is not only to go slow and only go with what you’re comfortable with, but to have fun! If something is painful, or if you’re just not comfortable with something, find another toy or try another sex activity that works to satisfy both you and your partner. If you like anal sex and enjoy using toys for anal sex, make sure to get the ones that are manufactured specifically for that purpose. If anal sex or anal sex toys just aren’t your thing, there are thousands of different ways to pleasure yourself and your partner that doesn’t involve the backdoor at all. If, however, you really enjoy that backdoor action, keep it safe and keep it fun!

Sex Toys – Let Adults Enjoy the Right to Buy and Sell Them

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There are many threats facing our nation today: global warming, the economy, terrorism, health care, etc.

But none of these stack up against the greatest threat facing us today: the proliferation of sex toys. At least it was a problem in the state of Texas until a Federal Appeals court overturned a statewide ban on sex toys.

At issue, the distribution of sex toys and other adult items for couples and singles at “Tupperware” like parties. The law made it illegal based on the idea that such sales were deemed “obscene devices”. A person caught doing this could spend up to two years in jail.

Thankfully the courts saw this rule coming into conflict with the right to privacy (the 14th Amendment for you and I) and struck it down.

Thank God it got shot down because I know it would be a strange sight seeing men and women on the street corners trying to sell hummingbirds and G-spot wands to couples in need of a fix. This means the only two states left to overturn such a ruling and join the rest of the country in the 21st century are Alabama and Mississippi.

Laws like this one hurts those who are hosting and distributing marital aides and sex toys to couples and singles looking for extra fun in the bedroom. Meanwhile, there are those who feel you (a consenting adult) shouldn’t have these items for fear of perversion and abnormal behavior in the bedroom.

The truth about sex toys

Truth is sex toys only pose the simple threat of adding spice into the life a single person or a couple. Sex toys offer variety into the bedroom; God forbid if we add some flavor into the bedroom.

With growing frustration in the bedroom, couples breaking up over a lack of variety what crime is committed if couples want to make their relationship stronger?

Let’s break it down for you, sex toys or marital aides will help ensure relationships and relieve stress. Any time we can relieve stress in this world of ours is a very good thing. Sex toys don’t diminish you as a person or single you out as inferior in the bedroom.

Benefits for men and for women

Men sometimes feel having one (or using one) threaten ones manhood. But it takes a real man to admit he alone may not be the only thing to bring your partner their pleasure. Using a sex toy heightens the experience and can bring pleasure and enjoyment in the long run (not to mention rest from the wear and tear of your member).

For women, it is a chance to get in touch with your body. It is sad there are women out there who never had an orgasm until late in life. These tools are good aides to help women find the right points and areas to achieve orgasm.

Why there is an issue with sex toys

Single people are stigmatized (especially women) for buying such items because to some it signals you don’t need a man (or women), you’re inferior in the bedroom, or you have “issues” you don’t want your mother to know about.

Enough with the myths, fact is there is no shame for men or women to own or use a sex toy. What better safe sex you can have than with yourself; you can make your own sex play fun and pleasurable by taking these aides and have a good time. If others can’t see you’re not deviant in doing so then get them a vibrator too. Sounds like they could use one badly.

Alternatives to sex toy parties

Those who are in the Christian community who feel uncomfortable coming to a pleasure party or an adult bookstore/gift shop there is Book22.com. It is a great site geared for Christians couples (if you’re wondering about the name of the site look up Song of Solomon—22nd book in the Bible). It is a safe place to explore options to bring enjoyment in the most sanctified bedroom.

Its still early to find out if the Texas Attorney General’s office will have the case tried again, but I hope the good people of the Lone Star state leave it rest. Sex toys are both a pleasure and purposeful items, which can benefit all in the pursuit of a better bedroom.

Lead the way Texas and maybe in a few years Alabama and Mississippi  join you to once and for all put these arcane laws to rest and really give the power to the people (with a few extra batteries to boot).

Sex Toys for Boys?

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When most people think about sex toys, they usually think about vibrators and other such toys – for women.

But what about the guys? Are there no sex toys for men?

Sure there are.

But aren’t sex toys just for women and gay guys?

Huh? Where have you been?

Times are changing, and women demand that their men look, smell, and dress like civilized people, not farm animals. Suddenly it’s OK for men to have and share a sensitive persona, it’s not just about the neanderthal tough guy perspective. Nothing wrong with true strength of character and solid, unflinching self confidence, but the woman in your life expects to be loved and treaded with loving care, as an object of your affection.

More men are “getting their hair done” in fine salons than ever before, and more are enjoying regular manicures and pedicures. It’s a matter of appreciating that how you look and how you smell is indeed important, and looking and smelling nice doesn’t make you “gay”.

Well, along with everything else, men can also enjoy sex toys with their partners. Yes, there ARE sex toys for straight men, not just big, arched, phallic vibrators and butt plugs.

One of the most well known and appreciated sex toys for men is the cock ring.  Cock rings work by providing resistance against the man’s erection, thus partially restricting the blood flow in the penis to prolong pleasure, make his erection harder, and help to prevent premature ejaculation.

How many types of cock rings are there?

Surprisingly, cock rings come in many shapes and sizes.

Many are the simple and unyielding metallic or even plastic variety. Some are rubber and stretch a little or a lot.

And there is also more extreme, elaborate, fancy cock rings, complete with built in vibrating ability, such as the Hot G Vibe vibrating cock ring.

Since we like to think outside the box, let’s talk a little more about this last one…

Hot G Vibe – Vibrating Cock Rings

The Hot G Vibe cock ring is very unique among cock rings. In addition to being a cock ring, it’s also a vibrator.

And unlike many other cock rings, this one can be worn during actual penetration. Whether or not you’re comfortable with that, is another story.

Also a first among cock rings, the Hot G Vibe does not need to be worn at the base of the penis. It can be placed anywhere along the penis. Because of this “feature”, you can actually use multiple vibrating cock rings at one time. I can just see every guy thinking – I wonder how many I can fit on mine!

And of course to touch on the taboo topic of masturbation and self pleasuring, the Hot G Vibe cock rings can be work without a woman. Yes, it’s true… you can enjoy full vibrating action by yourself. You don’t even have to tell anyone about it, just like nobody knows how often you masturbate.

For any man who hasn’t ever ventured into male sex toys, perhaps it’s time you tried it. Who knows, you may like it.

And you can always start easy, maybe with a regular cock ring. And if you’re ready to go all out, try something more adventurous like the Hot G Vibe vibrating cock ring.