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3 Must Have Sex Toys For Erectile Dysfunction!

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Erectile dysfunction doesn’t have to ruin your sex life. If you have problems getting and keeping an erection during sex or even during masturbation, you may feel like you’re never going to have great sex (or any sex) ever again. Nothing could be further from the truth! There are several things that can help you get a rock hard erection – and make it last long enough to give your girl wicked orgasms. Check out these three must-own sex toys that will help you last longer in bed!

A Cock Ring

A cock ring is an absolute must have sex toy if you experience erectile dysfunction at all. You definitely want one if ED is something you struggle with often, but don’t be afraid to get your hands on a decent cock ring even if you’ve only had one or two fluke ED episodes. You want to have it on hand in case you’re with a girl and it happens again, but you really don’t want to make a big deal about it. If you have a cock ring, you can put it on before your erection goes away and it will keep the blood trapped in the penis and keep it erect.

Soft jelly cock rings are most likely your best bet, because the metal ones can be difficult to get off. If your penis swells up when you have a metal cock ring on, you may not be able to get it off – and you’d have to go to the emergency room! You can also use a vibrating cock ring if your partner has trouble reaching orgasm through sexual intercourse alone.

A Penis Pump

If you have trouble getting an erection at all, a penis pump is going to be your best friend. A good penis pump will help pump the blood into your penis, making it erect. However, you will want to use a penis pump in conjunction with a cock ring, or the blood will just flow back out of the penis. Once you’ve used the pump, slip the cock ring on and it will keep your erection in place!

Never, ever use a vacuum cleaner as a penis pump! You could seriously hurt yourself this way. Always use a penis pump that has been manufactured with quality materials by a reputable company. If there is too much suction (like with a vacuum cleaner) you could cause the small blood vessels in the penis to break, causing bruising. This can be painful! Stick to making your purchase from a reputable company that has great feedback.

A Prostate Massager

Guys that don’t like anal play might freak out a little bit here, but try – just try – to keep an open mind. If erectile dysfunction really causes problems in your life and in your relationships, you might be a little more willing to try prostate massage. Some people refer to the prostate as the “male g-spot” and for good reason – this gland, when stimulated, can turn a man on, give him a rock hard erection and give him an orgasm in very quick succession. If you’ve never tried prostate stimulation but continue to struggle with ED, you may want to give it a go.

When selecting any anal toy, you want to start small and work your way up. You don’t want to grab the largest thing you see thinking that bigger is better – because when it comes to any type of anal sex, bigger is definitely NOT always better. A teeny tiny butt plug can actually do the job pretty well, and it’s a perfect way to get started.

As you become more experienced with prostate stimulation, you can graduate to larger toys – but you can stay small if you want to. The idea here is to use prostate stimulation as a way to achieve and maintain an erection, so go with what does the job the best. And of course, remember to use lube! You never, ever want to try to insert an anal toy (no matter how small it is) without adequate lube. At best it just won’t go in and at worst it will be very, very painful!

When To See The Doctor

If you’ve tried sex toys for erectile dysfunction and still struggle with it, it may be time to make an appointment with your doctor. ED can also be treated with medications and other types of therapy, and your doctor is the best person to recommend what is right for you. Talk with your doctor about possible underlying causes and what your options are!

Premature Ejaculation: How To Increase Your Stamina

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Do you have problems with premature ejaculation? Barring medial issues, this is easier to correct than you think. A few tweaks in how you approach sex should help you last longer.

Harness Your Inner “Sting”

Outside of easy listening and pirate shirts, Sting is perhaps best known for his practice of Tantric sex. Tantra is a movement that was born in India several thousand years ago and incorporates meditation into sex. While this may not entirely appeal to the average man, you can at least borrow some techniques.

As in any physical activity, sexual stamina improves when you concentrate on your breath. Make sure you take slow, steady breaths that go all the way into your belly instead of your chest. This will aid in keeping you relaxed in an extremely excitable situation. It will also allow for you to clear your head so you can tune in to every sensation. Once you can enjoy the sexual experience as a whole, you’ll be rushing less for the goal. Sure, going through the Yankees roster in your head also works, but do you want to be thinking about Randy Johnson while you’re getting it on with a woman?

Take A Few Time Outs

Just because the penis is in, doesn’t mean it has to stay there until you blow. Yes, this is infinitely easier said than done, but if you’re getting your Zen on Sting-style, you should be able to do it. Take that time to kiss, eat her out, or tease her clitoris with the head of your penis.

While you’re out, incorporate the Squeeze Technique to stave off premature ejaculation. Before that inevitable Point of No Return, pull out and squeeze the head of the penis. This forces blood from the genitals, which will relieve a bit of the pressure. This technique can be repeated as needed.

Don’t Make It All About Your Penis

To you, sex is all about the part where you get to put your penis in her vagina. Get that out of your brain. Sex is about the entire experience. Spend some time really exploring her body, getting to know all the spots that drive her wild. Go down on her a couple of times. She can cum many times, so there’s nothing wrong with giving her a couple of orgasms before you even get in there.

If you do orgasm before she does, it’s not over. This may seem obvious to some, but it bears repeating. After your orgasm, you want to roll over and fade into the euphoria, but she is still frustrated. Your penis is not hard anymore, but you have your hands, your tongue, and your creativity to help finish her off. If you ever want to have sex with this woman again, you better make sure you’re both happy.

Relax And Have Fun With It

Learning how to last longer in bed doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it can take quite a few tries as well as lots of patience to finally get to the point where you don’t blow your load as soon as you see a hot naked girl (okay, you probably last a little longer than that). So relax and have fun with it! Enjoy having sex with your lover, even if you do orgasm first. If you either make sure she has an orgasm before or after you do (as long as you’re making sure she has an orgasm), she’s not going to care “when” you have your orgasm.

There are very few girls out there who say, “Sure you satisfied me but you didn’t orgasm exactly when I did.” Blow her mind with oral sex and then worry about you. Even if you only last a couple minutes, she’s still going to be blissed out because you took care of her first!

Tantric Sex Techniques To Make You Last Longer In Bed

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Tantric sex can teach men how to delay their orgasm and last longer in bed – here are 2 techniques to use during masturbation to help increase your stamina.

According to studies, around 75% of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? For one, it’s because he or she does not know how to properly sexually stimulate her so she never really reaches sexual tension enough to come. Another reason is this: he comes too fast.

Frankly, clinical premature ejaculation is not the issue here. Women simply take longer than men to climax. Period. So how do we bridge this gap? Well, why not engage in exercises that will help you last longer in bed? This way, you’re giving her all the time she needs to get all revved up for a glorious climax.

Exercise One: Pressing The Prostate Point (PPP)

Okay, here’s a bit of a male anatomy lesson. Between your testicles and anus is something called the perineum. There’s a soft spot there through which you can apply pressure to your prostate. Now for most men, prostate stimulation reduces the likelihood of reaching orgasm involuntarily. This is because it washes out from the prostate gland the fluid that is necessary for ejaculation.

If you push hard enough on your prostate point right before orgasm, it actually blocks the emission phase (or ejaculation phase). This exercise prevents seminal fluid from entering the urethral canal when your orgasmic spasms start. Even if you have orgasmic contractions, the semen remains inside your body and is re-absorbed. This is also known as having a Dry Orgasm and no, nit’s not painful!

  1. Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
  2. Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
  3. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
  4. Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
  5. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
  6. Locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. However, this time, try to continue stroking yourself as you do this.
  7. 7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

Exercise Two: Root Lock

Inside your body, at the base of your penis is the muscle called pubococcygeus. People fondly call it PC for short. This exercise teaches you to use your PC muscles to delay ejaculation.

To perform a Root Lock, hold your breath momentarily and push your pelvic muscles out like straining to empty your bowels. Some claim they prefer pushing ‘in’ rather than out but that’s all up to you really.

  1. Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
  2. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
  3. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
  4. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
  5. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
  6. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away. But this time, contract your anal muscles inward and upward while pulling your stomach toward your spine. Which works better for you, in or out?
  7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

By now, you should be realizing that tension in whatever way, shape of form, is your ‘enemy.’ So each time you make love to her, and you feel that you’re reaching a sexual peak that can easily lead you to orgasm, delay your orgasm and wait for her will you?

Ejaculation By Command Review

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Ejaculation By Command exists to help the 20-40% of men who climax too early during sex. A quick orgasm means several things – sex doesn’t last as long and it isn’t as enjoyable, you can’t connect intimately with your partner if you’re only having sex for a few minutes and you certainly can’t give your partner great orgasms if you don’t last long enough in bed. Ejaculation By Command promises to fix all that – it will teach you how to control your orgasm so you can climax when you WANT to!

The Good

A complete guide on what premature ejaculation is, the myths surrounding PE and how you can overcome it for good. Men who really want to figure out what PE is and learn how to get rid of it completely will appreciate the thoroughness of Ejaculation By Command. There’s really no stone left unturned here, whether it’s discussing the basics or talking about techniques. An audio supplement to the guide makes for easy listening for those who have difficulty reading or simply want to listen rather than read!

The Bad

The wealth of information contained in this guide may intimidate some men, but it’s worth wading through because truly understanding PE is part of getting rid of it forever. These are NOT “overnight” techniques that will cure you immediately – although there is a companion guide that gives you several techniques you can use in a pinch. However, learning a few tricks isn’t going to help you in the long run – which is why while the Ejaculation By Command guide is lengthy, it’s totally worth it.

The Bottom Line

Ejaculation By Command is an excellent, thorough guide for men that want to learn how to control their orgasm and last longer in bed. The information is plentiful and may take awhile to go through, but it’s well worth the read!

The Full Ejaculation By Command Review

Premature ejaculation can be overcome if you first understand it. Why does it happen? Who does it happen to? Can it really be cured, or will you have to live with it forever? Lloyd Lester, author of Ejaculation By Command, answers these all important questions and more.

Men who truly want to learn how to overcome premature ejaculation will really enjoy this approach, because it covers all the bases from beginning to end. He also points out common misconceptions about premature ejaculation. Debunking the myths surrounding PE is another important step in truly getting past it.

Techniques For Controlling Orgasm

After a lengthy introduction, Lloyd to jumps right into sex techniques, which is what most men with PE are chomping at the bit to learn. You may be tempted to skip the intro, but the beginning chapters are packed with information that is essential in understanding PE. However, once you get to the really good stuff, there’s no shortage of exercises for men who want to train their body to perform better, from PC muscle exercises to exercises with a partner.

Ejaculation By Command offers plenty of pictures and easy to read diagrams to help men visually see the different phases of orgasm and how they can learn to control themselves during the stages of climax. As you read through the chapters in Ejaculation By Command, you’ll learn how to relax your mind and body so you can please your partner before you orgasm.

Why This Guide Is So Much Better Than Others Out There

There are numerous guides out there claiming to teach men how to control their orgasm and get rid of PE forever. Problem is, many of them fail to actually deliver on this claim. Ejaculation By Command is one of the best guides out there – simply because Lloyd favors STEP BY STEP instruction to teach you how to become the master of your own orgasm, instead of letting your climax control you.

After reading Ejaculation By Command in its entirety, men who actually plan on implementing the steps that Lloyd outlines (and any man who suffers from PE should) will have plenty to do! From exercises that will strengthen your body and improve the control you have over your climax to changing your diet to improve your sexual stamina, you’ll find everything you need in this book to say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

With Ejaculation By Command, you’ll also get several bonus guides that will help you improve your sex life once you’re able to last long enough to actually have great sex!

Emergency Tactics To Last Longer

If you suffer from PE, you’re definitely going to want to read the entire Ejaculation By Command guide – but sometimes men want a quick fix, especially if they plan on getting laid tonight. This bonus guide offers several tactics that you can use tonight to last longer!

Raunchy Sex Secrets: Transforming Your Life In Wickedly Sensuous Ways

This guide is a little basic, and the suggestions aren’t as raunchy as the title suggests. Those looking for the really dirty stuff aren’t going to find it in here. The suggestions, however, are still great and more inexperienced folks will enjoy trying out some different things.

Female Orgasm Secrets: How To Give Women Insanely Powerful Orgasms

Learn the basics of female orgasms and how they work, as well as specific techniques you can use to give her incredible, earth shattering orgasms. A perfect follow up guide for men that have read and employed the techniques in Ejaculation By Command and want to focus on their partner’s pleasure.

Top 10 Sex Positions

Learn 10 new sex positions, from the sensually sweet to the dirty and dominating. Illustrated with excellent photography featuring gorgeous girls Eva Angelina and Madelyn Marie. Fun to look at, even more fun to try on your own!

101 Romantic Ideas by Michael Webb

You’re never going to get laid unless you can seduce your partner with a touch (or more) of romance. Michael Webb has long been touted as the “Oprah Love Expert” and when you get Ejaculation By Command, you also get 101 Romantic Ideas. You can use them to make your lover swoon before ever getting into bed with them and showing off your new lovemaking skills.

With Ejaculation By Command, you’ll also get access to three great videos on how to give sensational oral sex as well as videos on the g-spot and orgasms. There’s really no comparison here – this is one of the best products to help a man who doesn’t last long enough in bed learn to control his ejaculation as well as improve his oral sex skills and learn to spice up his sex life so sex is never boring again!

Ejaculation Guru Review

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Ejaculation Guru is step-by-step guide that teaches men how to last longer in bed. From sex positions to breathing techniques and more, it includes everything a man with even the most severe case of premature ejaculation needs to know to be able to last over half an hour or more in bed.

The Good

The strategies work. The techniques inside are based on the very things author, Jack Grave, used to go from lasting less than 10 seconds in bed to over 35 minutes. The methods Jack recommends vary widely, but are all well explained and easy to carry out. Some of them even produce instant results to help you last longer, but none of these techniques involve needing to buy any “extras” like pills, creams, special condoms or any gadgets. It’s all 100% natural.

The Bad

The author takes a while before he actually gets to talking about the strategies. The opening section includes some advice on goal setting and “personal development” stuff that isn’t totally necessary if you just want to get straight to the point and start learning some of the techniques and secrets, but ultimately you can just skip that section if you’re not interested.

The Bottom Line

If you’re a man struggling with premature ejaculation or feel like you should be lasting longer in bed then this guide will solve that problem. You’ll learn that premature ejaculation isn’t caused by your genes, what your woman does in bed, bad luck or anything else, but instead by you doing a few negative things during sex that cause premature ejaculation without you even realizing it. And author Jack Grave walks you through exactly what changes to make so lasting long in bed becomes natural and permanent.

The Full Ejaculation Guru Review

Ejaculation Guru does a great job of explaining all the strategies and methods for lasting longer in bed. The earlier stages of the guide are more conceptual to give you a deeper understanding of why premature ejaculation happens and this helps you to get the most out of the techniques explained later in book.

Why Premature Ejaculation Happens

In an early section of the guide Jack explains that one of the ways that premature ejaculation happens is when a man’s arousal levels rise beyond his control. This means that one of the ways to end premature ejaculation is to become aware of your arousal levels and learn to stop them from going out of control. And he gives several interesting methods of doing this with your mind. He also maintains that lasting long in bed is not about taking the pleasure out of sex, but rather learning to control it so you can enjoy the satisfaction of long lasting pleasurable sex.

Ejaculation Guru then details some of the important mindsets needed to last longer in bed. This is a really important section, because he blows out some of the common myths about premature ejaculation and what women really think about it and also gives you some powerful methods for getting rid of anxiety, nerves and worry, which happen to be huge contributors to premature ejaculation.

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation

The place where it really picks up momentum is in the main and largest section of the guide, which is on the physical approaches to ending premature ejaculation. In this section Jack discusses several simple physical changes men should make to what they do during sex to last longer.

For example, Jack points out that a man’s heart-rate is intimately linked with how long he lasts in bed. Many men who don’t last very long in bed often have very high heart rates during sex. Of course during sex almost no-one takes the time to think about their heart-rate, but what Jack does is provide a few easy ways you can reduce your heart-rate to help you last longer. And one of the techniques he recommends for doing this is to take slow deep breaths while having sex. Although you’ll have to fight your instincts to breathe quick shallow breaths Jack explains how taking slow deep breaths during sex helps significantly in lasting longer.

In Ejaculation Guru, Jack covers many different techniques for lasting longer, ranging from very simple to slightly more complex and also recommends making some changes to your masturbation habits. Without going into too much detail he advises you to take more time while masturbating, because his research shows that how long you masturbate for conditions how long your body will last during sex.

All in all, Jack offers many great strategies for lasting longer, including both psychological and physical strategies, meaning you’ve got a wide selection of methods to choose from. It doesn’t take more than the application of two or three of his strategies to last measurably longer in bed and with a just a little bit of commitment the goal of lasting over 30 minutes is more than achievable with this material.

As part of Ejaculation Guru package, Jack also offers the following free bonuses…

Bonus #1 – Last Longer During Foreplay

This works really well in combination with the main Ejaculation Guru guide and it’s targeted to any man who feels like they don’t get the full enjoyment out of foreplay because they don’t last long enough. Although a lot of the information inside Ejaculation Guru can be used in itself to help a man last longer during foreplay, this bonus guide provides a good supplement of specific information that regular advice on lasting longer during sex doesn’t cover.

Bonus #2 – Multiple Orgasm Oral Sex: The Guide

This includes all the essentials every man must know about oral sex. Inside Jack explains several ways to give a woman incredible oral sex and get her to experience intense orgasms. The methods he discusses are surprisingly simple to carry out, but are very effective at giving her pleasure. If you’ve ever wanted to know what to do to give a woman incredible pleasure through oral sex then this will help you achieve exactly that.