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Q&A: Are There Side Effects To Masturbation – Good Or Bad?

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Masturbation is an absolutely normal, healthy part of your sex life whether you’re a guy or a girl. But pretty much everything has side effects, right? Does masturbation have any potential side effects, both good and bad? What can you expect from masturbation and what is the best way to handle it?

Question: Are there any side effects to masturbation? Is it true that if you masturbate on a daily basis, when you have sex with your girlfriend you won’t be as aroused or you won’t crave the sex as much? Can it affect penis size or growth?

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Penis Size And Growth

Masturbation – even frequent masturbation – won’t affect your penis size or penis growth. Masturbation won’t affect puberty at all, so you don’t have to worry about masturbation stunting your growth or causing weight gain. If you masturbate often without proper lubricant, you might end up a little raw or sore, but there are no growth side effects from masturbation at all. Masturbation definitely won’t give you hairy palms or make you go blind either. Masturbation, if not in excess, is normal and healthy for both men and women.

Using Masturbation To Decrease Need For Sex

Many men, both teenagers and adults, have a very prominent sex drive. They enjoy sex and want it often. If they are sexually active, they’re usually very excited and it can cause a man to climax very quickly or even prematurely before sex. Masturbation can be used to “calm” a man down before sex, allowing him to slow down and enjoy it more. His body won’t be in such an extreme state of desire that he is completely focused on sex. Men who have very active sex drives may find that masturbation helps them to lead a more normal, satisfying life. Other men, however, may have the opposite effect from masturbation. They may find that masturbation satisfies their need for sexual pleasure so thoroughly that they aren’t able to climax or even become erect when having sex with their partners. Experiment with masturbation before sex and see how it affects you. You may find that you don’t need to masturbate at all if you’re with someone with whom you have sex with regularly, or you may find that you need to masturbate often in addition to having sex to truly satisfy your needs and make your sex life more enjoyable.

Are You Addicted To Masturbation?

Masturbation – just like sex, drugs, cigarettes, food and alcohol – can be addicting. If you find yourself masturbating very often, daily or even more than once a day, you may be addicted to masturbation. Ask yourself a few questions. Do you find that you’re masturbating out of habit, without even thinking about it? Do you find that masturbating is interfering with your life? Are you turning down dates or going home after school or work instead of hanging out with your friends so you can masturbate? Masturbation can be addicting and it is possible to break the addiction and have good, healthy masturbation instead. Consider talking to a sex therapist or a counselor if you find that you may be addicted to masturbation.

Q&A: I Feel No Relief When Masturbating – Am I Doing It Wrong?

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Masturbation for women is a little different and much more involved than it is for a guy. Women, however, require a bit more mental, emotional and physical stimulation to reach orgasm, especially if they’re newer to masturbation. Here’s what you can do if masturbation isn’t satisfying your sexual needs.

Question: Hey Jenn, I’m going to ask you, since you’re a girl. When I do “that” by myself, a lot of times it’s not that great and leaves me still horny as hell! Am I doing something wrong?

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Relaxing Before Masturbation

Women can’t have an orgasm when they’re stressed or thinking about work or the kids. This is one of the biggest problems that women have with masturbation. It’s so difficult to calm their mind down and get it off the “to do” list and in the mood that they either don’t masturbate at all or have trouble doing it and reaching orgasm. If you want to have a great masturbation session and feel satisfied afterwards, it’s essential that you relax before masturbating. Draw a bath, have a glass of wine if you’re of age, or do something else that you find relaxing and refreshing. Read a steamy romance novel or even an erotic novel to get your mind off of everyday stresses and start thinking about pleasure.

Start With Your Clitoris

If you’re new to masturbation, the easiest way to masturbate is to head straight for your clitoris. You don’t have to insert a dildo or other toy into your vagina to acheive orgasm. Once you get the hang of things, you may want to add g-spot stimulation to your masturbation but until then, you’ll have the most success by simply focusing on your clitoris. Use lots of lube to prevent discomfort, and use a vibrator if you like. Just explore the area until you find out what feels good – and then keep doing it. Don’t focus on going harder or faster, unless that’s what you like. If you want, go slow. Just remember to stay relaxed and keep your mind from wandering off into stressful territory. Another issue that women have when masturbating is not allowing themselves enough time to explore themselves. Instead, they focus on having a “quickie” instead of relaxing and letting the pleasure take over. Many times when women are so focused on the end result, they can’t get there at all.

Let Go When The Orgasm Comes

A lot of women have trouble letting go when orgasm approaches. When you’re about to have an orgasm, your muscles will tighten up and your breath will catch in your throat. Sometimes at this stage, women simply freak out, tense up and stop breathing and as a result, their bodies start to come down from the brink of orgasm instead of jump off the edge. When your body reaches the point of orgasm, it’s important to remember to breathe deeply and relax your muscles. Don’t focus so much on the orgasm itself, relax and just focus on the pleasure. Continue to do what feels good and the orgasm will come – no pun intended. You might even get multiple orgasms!

Q&A: Can Ejaculation Cause Blindness?

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Many stories have been told about sex, masturbation and ejaculation to try to scare people into not having sex or not masturbating. Several years ago, masturbation was believed to be wrong for a man (and enjoying sexual pleasure was believed to be wrong for women) and that ejaculation would cause blindness. Can it?

Question: Can ejaculation cause blindness? This is something that I heard from various sources (people I know and people I talked to on the Internet) but I don’t know if there has actually been proven cases about this. Is it true or is this something that people made up?

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Ejaculation Does Not Cause Blindness

Ejaculation – during sex or masturbation – never has and never will cause a man to go blind. This is what is known as a sex myth, and there are many of them. Other sex myths about masturbation and ejaculation are that it will cause a man to grow hairy palms. Going blind or growing hair on your palms is not something that will happen from simply ejaculating during sex or masturbation. There are no special or “rare” cases of this happening – it won’t happen, ever. It never did. If these sex myths were true, just about every guy in the world would be blind or have hair on his palms.

Where These Myths Come From

Generally, sex myths like this come from the last hundred years or so, when many religious and philisophical organizations decided it was bad or morally wrong to masturbate and shouldn’t be done. Rumors were spread that bad things would happen if you masturbated or ejaculated, such as going blind or growing hair on your palms. People who went blind were often looked down upon, almost as though they were proof that this affliction existed. Young boys and men were afraid to masturbate or ejaculate, because they were afraid horrible things would happen to them. Rumors and sex myths such as these were a form of control, a way for religious and philisophical organizations to force people to do what they believed was right.

What To Do When Someone Tells You A Sex Myth

If someone you know, or someone on the Internet tells you something you know is false, just dismiss it. Although the vast majority of civilization has realized that masturbation and ejaculation won’t in fact cause blindness or hair to grow on the palms, some people are still suggesting this is true to try to continue to force people to adhere to their own belief system. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation and ejaculation – in fact, it’s a normal and healthy way to discover and enjoy your sexuality. A man’s body was designed to ejaculate, as a form of sexual release and to help make babies. Sometimes, if a man does not ejaculate after sexual tension has built up, this can cause some discomfort or pain. Masturbation is an excellent way to relieve sexual tension without the consequences that sex can bring, such as sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

Q&A: Ladies – Masturbation And Your Period

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When teenagers and women begin masturbating, with it comes lots of questions. If you’ve begun having your monthly cycle or have been having your cycle and it suddenly stops in conjunction with regular masturbation, you may be wondering if masturbation is to blame for the disappearance of your period. Is this something that can happen, or is something else going on? Here’s what you want to know about masturbation and your period.

Question: If you masturbate, does it stop you from getting your period? If so, for how long?

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Masturbating During Your Period

There is nothing wrong with masturbating during your period. It may be a little messy depending on how you like to masturbate, but many women enjoy masturbating during their monthly cycle and simply do so in the bath or shower. Masturbating during your period is also not harmful to your body at all and the stimulation can actually help loosen some of the tissue that is being shed so your body doesn’t have to work so hard to expel it. Many women report that having orgasms during their period help to lessen the pain of menstural cramps. Choosing to masturbate or abstaining from masturbationg during your period is simply a matter of preference.

Can Masturbation Stop Your Period

If your period has suddenly stopped, you may be wondering what is going on. If you masturbate regularly or have recently masturbated, it may seem logical to link masturbation to the change in your menstrual flow. Generally, the period doesn’t stop during or right after masturbation. In fact, masturbation often increases the flow of a woman’s period. But if you’re expecting your period and it doesn’t come, you might think that masturbation is to blame. You may also feel that masturbation could be to blame if your periods become irregular, or they suddenly become lighter or heavier than usual. The truth is that masturbation can’t stop your period – regardless of what you do or how you do it. It also can’t make your menstrual flow become irregular or give you a lighter menstrual flow.

Seeing Your Doctor

If you’ve stopped your period, or you’ve had a noticeable change in your menstruation, you need to think about some of the things that could possibly be the culprit here because it’s not masturbation. One of the biggest things that causes a monthly cycle to cease is pregnancy. Pregnancy can sometimes cause a cycle to become irregular, or simply just lighter than usual, although this is rare. Other things that could affect the flow of your period are hormonal changes and eating disorders such as anorexia. It is important to see your doctor if you’ve experienced a significant change in your menstrual flow, including a menstrual flow that suddenly becomes irregular or stops completely. There may be an underlying cause that you don’t yet know about that needs to be taken care of. There is no way to know what has caused the change in your monthly cycle unless you discuss the changes with your doctor.

Q&A: Is It Normal To Masturbate?

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Questions about masturbation, especially for boys that are just beginning to go through puberty, are common. Is masturbation normal? Is masturbation wrong, or can it cause blindness or hairy palms? What is the liquid that comes out of the penis at the end of masturbation? Here’s what you want to know about masturbation, and more.

Question: Is it normal for a 14 year old boy to masturbate, and at the end of masturbation a transparent liquid comes out? What is it? Is it sperm?

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The Safest Safe Sex There Is

Masturbation, for both men and women, is perfectly normal and actually a healthy part of going through puberty and a component of a healthy sex life when you get older. Not long ago, boys were taught to believe that masturbation was wrong and that it would be harmful to them if they did masturbate. Some old wives’ tales suggested that boys could grow hair on their palms or even go blind if they masturbated, and everyone would know they had been masturbating. They were taught that masturbation was something that was shameful. Masturbation, however, is actually the safest sex there is. Masturbating is safer than having sex with a condom and even safer than having sex with a condom and with a partner who is taking birth control. You can’t get pregnant from masturbation and you can’t contract any sexually transmitted diseases. It’s the best way to pleasure yourself without worrying about the consequences of sex with someone else.

Masturbation And Ejaculation

When a man masturbates and reaches climax, a fluid comes out of the end of the penis called semen. Semen is a fluid that contains millions of sperm and when it comes into contact with a woman’s vagina, can get her pregnant. Semen can range in color and consistency based on your age, your health and your diet. A younger boy may have clear, thin semen, while an older man may have  thicker, more white colored semen. A poor diet filled with fatty foods can change the color and texture of your semen, while a diet full of fiber, fruits and vegetables will keep your semen and sperm healthy. Proper exercise can also help keep your semen healthy – if you suspect there’s something up with the color or texture of your semen, make an appointment to see your medical doctor.

Considerations To Take Before Masturbating

While masturbation is extremely safe, there are some considerations you want to take before masturbating just to make sure everything goes smoothly. Wash your hands before and after masturbating to keep things clean, and use a good, water or silicone based lubricant for the least amount of friction.  Find a quiet place to masturbate alone where you won’t be disturbed, and lock the door if you need to. Bring in a magazine or a book that arouses you. Many sex toys for men are available to aid with masturbation and can increase pleasure and the power of climax. Male masturbators, including masturbation sleeves, can be used in conjunction with lube to make masturbation even better. Masturbation is healthy for both men and women, and can be a great way to relieve sexual frustration, especially during puberty.