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3 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Brushing Up On Their Skills On How To Give A Handjob

Whether it’s the cramps, the fact that you feel unattractive because you’re still trying to lose the baby weight, you’re PMS’ing or you just plain are not in the mood, there will come a time when you’ll say no to your man’s request to have sex.

If you don’t feel like it, why deny him the pleasure of experiencing sexual relief? If you don’t want to tangle the sheets with him through penetrative sex, you have a perfectly suitable pair of hands to help him relieve the ache.

Besides, even if you are not in the mood, learning how to give a handjob is an essential skill that every woman should learn if she wants to be great in bed. Whether it’s the main event or part of your foreplay, there are a few mistakes that a lot of women make when it comes to giving men handjobs.

Read on to find out what blunders in bed you should not commit when giving him some ‘manual’ love.

Mistake #1: Looking Bored While Doing It

Remember that men are visual creatures. If your goal is to get him to have an orgasm through a handjob, make sure that you are feeling it as well. Despite the fact that it will only be your hands which will do the participating in the major event, don’t look bored while doing it.

Watch how aroused he is getting with your hand’s ministrations. Who knows, you might get aroused by the act of giving him a handjob that you may want to join in the fun later on.

Mistake #2: Not Being Creative Enough On Where To Do It

If you want to be the girlfriend that your man will never forget, you should learn how to surprise him by being game in giving him handjobs in unusual places. The risk of being caught while giving him a handjob while in a semi-public place will add to the thrill, and will definitely amp up the level of sexual excitement for him.

Mistake #3: Focusing All Your Attention To The Shaft

Surprisingly enough, a man’s penis has several sensitive areas that you should not ignore while giving him a handjob. Make sure that you will pay equal attention to his balls, the scrotum, the head of the shaft, the glans and the corona.

Be sensitive to his responses and if you’re both game, you can watch him masturbate himself beforehand. This can be extremely arousing for both of you, and it will give you an idea about the strokes and pace that he likes – tricks that you can use to help him reach an orgasm the next time that you give him a handjob.

Remember that sex involves more than just penetration. There are a lot of pleasures that you both can enjoy in between the act itself, and learning how to give him a handjob is one of them.

Now that you know about the top mistakes that women make on how to give a handjob, visit our site to get a step-by-step guide on how to literally handle him and give him an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

Will Daily Masturbation Affect Puberty?

By loveandsex

Many teenagers have this very question – is masturbation wrong? Does it affect puberty? Will masturbating daily – or masturbating at all – cause health problems? What is the truth when it comes to masturbation?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Is daily masturbation going to halt, alter or harm my progress through puberty? If so, how drastic is it and how long would I have had to been masturbating daily for it to have an effect?

–Anonymous

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Old Wives Tales

You might have heard that masturbation can make you go blind. Or it might give you hairy palms, or even make you need glasses. There’s not one bit of truth to any of these claims – in fact, there are no medical problems that are caused by masturbation, even daily masturbation. In fact, masturbation is healthy for both men and women of all ages, especially those going through puberty. The extra hormones produced by your body during puberty cause you to want to satisfy your new sexual needs and urges, and it’s completely natural to do so. Masturbation is a healthy and not to mention safe way to satisfy those desires without worrying about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Unfortunately, sex ed in this country is at a low – many adults are afraid to talk to their children about sex and masturbation, so children and teenagers growing up thinking masturbation is wrong and they’re “dirty” for doing it. Grow up people! Masturbation is healthy, safe and a natural way to satisfy those new desires that come with puberty.

How Much Is Too Much?

That said, it is possible that a person – teenager, adult, man or woman – can masturbate too much. Medically speaking, not so much. But what about when it starts interfering with your daily life? What happens if you’re making time in your day for masturbation (instead of just letting it happen naturally and satisfying the desire when it comes along and is convenient) or you’re masturbating 3 or 4 times a day? That’s when it starts crossing the line – and it’s not just masturbation. It can be anything, including television, books, video games or chat rooms. If you find that your daily life is being interrupted by these things – masturbation included – it might be a borderline obsession or addiction that you need to keep in check. Don’t be afraid to talk to a doctor or counselor if you find that you’re masturbating too much – with therapy, they can help you to find other outlets for your stress and extra sexual desires so you don’t feel the need to masturbate so much that it interferes with your daily life.

All in all, masturbation has no bearing on personal growth, puberty or your body at all medically and can, in fact, be healthy for you. We live in the era of the Internet, so don’t be afraid to Google masturbation and find out some good facts for yourself. Look them up on credible websites and keep an eye out for anything that sounds fishy – such as masturbation causing you to have leprosy. Even though the sex ed in this country is lacking, that doesn’t mean you can’t take the initiative to educate yourself! Be safe, smart and informed!

Hand Job Tips – A Few Tid Bits On How To Work Your Man’s “Bits”

By chickinheels

Ask most men and they will admit that YES, they have experienced a bad hand job or a bad blow job and of course – everyone has likely had the odd lack-lustre sexual experience. I remember prior to having any sexual expertise under my belt, I referred to a friend who literally wrote me out her ‘tips’ on a piece of paper. Years and experiences later I know realize how valuable those pointers were. Since I believe in continuous learning, I figured I’d share my ‘style’ and perhaps it will contain some little tips for you to put on paper – or better yet, into practice!

Giving A Hand Job

Let us begin with the hand job. Simple as it may sound, being good at this technique means paying a LOT of attention to the reactions he gives you. Of course, every man is different and may like things done in certain ways. My input here carries the weight of having had some experience and some excellent feedback!!

First off, do NOT assume it’s a pull toy – the preferred motion is stroking ‘towards’ his body. From what I know most guys want to experience the same sort of movement from your hands or mouth as they would as if you were having intercourse. Of course there is the standard back and forth jerking that most people know. Now, learn to master that with JUST the right amount of grip (I say imagine holding a peeled banana – lightly enough so you don’t smush it at all but firm enough that you’ll have some banana residue on your hands afterwards).

Once that step has been established it’s time to add the ‘twist’. Imagine grasping your forearm and massaging in a twisting motion, this should be a good indication of the tension you are looking for. If your delivery of the twist contains too much grip it could cause your man to wince in pain instead of pleasure. So, if this is your first attempt at the twist then gradually work your grip – pay CLOSE attention to his response – when he looks to be in ecstasy – THAT’S your sweet spot – this is the grip you want – make a mental note.

Taking It To The Next Level

To take this step to the next level work the back and forth motion with a slight twist and you’ve got a move that will make men drool. Advanced hand jobbers can apply the second hand to this motion – starting in the middle of the shaft and working the hands in a twisting motion base to tip and back to the middle again..(imagine every so lightly wringing out a wet cloth, similar idea here). If he’s not in love, he will be lol! All of these moves are enhanced with the use of lube or saliva as well!

With all of these ‘moves’ I suggest starting slow and gradually building up speed – keep in mind this is not a race though, nor do most people desire these motions to be delivered with super speed. In other words, guys and girls tend to like a ramp up to speed when it comes to being digitally pleasured. Ask for feedback ‘is that good?’ ‘do you want it faster or slower?’ – knowing what your partner enjoys is vital!! Plus, say it in a sexy voice and that just adds to the allure.

What About Blow Jobs?

Regarding blow jobs, from what I’ve heard one of the biggest complaints that men have about receiving a bad blow job (sounds like an oxymoron but it does exist lol!) is that some women suck too hard. When giving a blow job use finesse, keep it wet and loose and ALWAYS bring in the tongue play. Never get into Hoover mode – save that for the hickeys alone! Always remember, soft and wet, take it in, continue to work your hands at the base creating continuous motion.

To drive him over the edge, work your tongue just under the tip, this is one of the most sensitive areas for men guaranteed to drive him wild! One of my signature moves is slow slippery circles of my tongue just under the tip. Most guys love the idea of a woman being able to take him into her mouth deeply. Relax your mouth and once in a while go as far down as you can. Whether you reach the baseline or not, the attempt will be greatly appreciated!! Another no-no would be the use of teeth when giving a blow job. It takes a skilled woman to know how to successfully and ‘ever-so-feather-lightly’ use her teeth when giving a blow job. If you do cross that line be on guard for any and every flinch!

Most guys also LOVE a good lick job. Incorporate this with your blow job skills and you’re away to the races! Lick his shaft and tip as if you were licking an ice cream cone. Up and down, all around the sides – he will be quivering with excitement!

Getting Into The “Nether” Regions

Anyone giving tips regarding how to give a good hand job or blow job would be remiss if they left out the added bonus of working your man’s testicles, or ‘boys’ as I like to call them.. Now, if there is one thing you need to know about the ‘boys’ it’s that they are extremely sensitive so whatever attention you give to them needs to be done with that in mind. A feather light touch goes a long way when it comes to the ‘boys’. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn’t love to have some attention paid to them though.

Be it a caress or a slippery lick, if it’s gentle, it’s good! I do however, have a move – that when executed correctly can be very intense for your fella. When giving a blow job or hand job I use my other hand to gently pull my thumb down the middle of the scrotum between the testicles and hold it there. This causes the skin on the shaft to pull down creating even more intensity at the tip while tightening up the skin around the ‘boys’ thus making them even more sensitized. A little side note here, if your guy ‘manscapes’ (a.k.a. shaves) his ‘boys’ then you know he likely desires you to venture down there for some extended play.

Hopefully this gives you some ideas on how to work your man. It’s a good place to start anyway.. never forget though, pay attention to the reactions you get, ask what they like and be attentive. Communication is key to the best sex life you can have!

Can Masturbation Help Prevent Getting Erections At The Wrong Time?

By loveandsex

It’s every guy’s worst nightmare – having an erection at the wrong time, whether you’re in class, at the office or on a casual date with a girl you really like.

Having an erection at the wrong time can be embarrassing and it can be even more embarrassing and frustrating trying to hide it. Can masturbating often or at the right times help prevent unwanted erections?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Do you know if it is a common occurrence for a guy to masturbate not so much for the direct pleasure (although it is nice) but to not have any “urges”? I often masturbate so I won’t get them at the “wrong” times. Is that a common occurrence?

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Erections are a natural thing!

An erection for a man is his body’s way of letting him know that there’s tension there,sexual or not, that needs to be relieved. It signals arousal but there are times where a man can get an erection and he’s not thinking about sex nor is he aroused at all.

An erection is simply when extra blood flows to the penis, making it stiffer instead of more relaxed. This can happen often and it is known for happening at some of the most inopportune times.

Masturbating to relieve tension.

Almost every man (if not every man) masturbates at some time or another. Many men masturbate often, especially if they’re not sexually active, while some masturbate less.

However often a man needs to masturbate is generally considered healthy, with the exception of often forgoing sexual intercourse with your partner in lieu of masturbation or masturbating to the point of physical harm.

Masturbating helps to relieve tension and yes, it can help to prevent erections at the wrong time.

When to masturbate?

Many men masturbate in the mornings before a day at the office so they can put the focus on their work, while others prefer to masturbate less often. If you want to use masturbation as a means to prevent unwanted erections, try going without masturbation for a few days and note when your erections seem to happen.

Do they happen at a certain time or when you see a certain person? Learn your triggers. There may be more than a few and sometimes it can be hard to figure out what the triggers are, but it’s helpful to have at least a little background knowledge on when you seem to get unwanted erections before you use masturbation as a tool to prevent them.

Use your triggers to prevent unwanted erections.

Once you figure out roughly when and why you’re having these erections, you can use masturbation to help prevent them.

If you find that the majority of your erections happen in the afternoon, perhaps you can go home on your lunch break and relieve some of the tension.

If you find that your unwanted erections seem to happen before a big date or in the evenings, try masturbating right when you get home from work or before the date to help keep your penis from becoming erect when you’re trying to focus on other things.

Regular masturbation for men, and women, is healthy and helps keep the body and sexual organs healthy. Masturbation and the resulting orgasms can be a source of stress relief for both men and women and can help men from becoming erect when they least expect it or want to be erect.

If you have a sexual partner, you can also use regular sexual intercourse or other types of sex to relieve tension in the same way.

Going Solo… Self Empowerment Through Masturbation

By mayasilverman

The dirty word of the sexual world, masturbation conjures up images of old men, nuns, and cucumbers. But much like reality TV, we all indulge in it, but no one likes to admit how much they enjoy it,

People often assume that Tantra, Tantric Sex, Erotic and Sensual Massage all require a partner.

A partner is good, however anyone can reap the benefits, and by going solo you are in a unique position to really explore yourself, discover what turns you on , and to nurture yourself in any way that your mind, body and soul desire.

So dim the lights, put on the music, get the oils out, and give yourself a hand. It’s time to celebrate a bit of quality ME time:

Masturbation and Empowerment

For the ladies out there – the majority of women self-love lying down on their backs, however why not add some variety and intrigue ? Stand up, do it before a luxurious candle lit bath, out doors (if you have privacy), any place that feels harmonious, relaxed and safe.

Create a sensual and inviting mood. You are loving yourself so don’t hold back on preparation. You are taking the time to honor yourself and this takes as much time, preparation and focus as if with a lover.

Let Go of Old Limiting Beliefs

Some women aren’t comfortable touching and pleasing themselves and the thought of self loving creates resistance. Why not let go your old beliefs, pain, and frustration. Use this time to honor your self, your femininity, your body. Give yourself all the love, attention and pleasure that you really want.

Put on some comfortable yet inviting clothing, breathe deeply and slowly to relax your mind and body. A more relaxed mind and body equals stronger more pleasurable and intense orgasms. So always take the time to unwind, de-stress and shut out the world.

Tease, Explore and Arouse

Tease, explore and gently arouse and awaken your female goddess by touching and stroking your body avoiding the intimate areas for at least 20–30 minutes. Stroke your legs, inner thighs, hands, feet, lightly brush over your breasts. Feel your sexual energy pulsating throughout your whole body, increasing in intensity the more attention and focus you lavish on your self.

When you feel your whole body tingling, apply soft sensual touchs to the breasts, gently stoke your yoni, lips, clitoris (but don’t apply to much pressure directly on the head at this point). Explore how each area feels to your touch, explore the texture and sensations of each area, gently insert one finger into the yoni, about 2 inches within, and move in and out.

Finding Your G-Spot

The majority of nerve endings in the vagina or yoni are located near the opening. Your slow, shallow thrusts will create pulses of sexual energy and pleasure.

Now insert the finger(s) a bit deeper. Explore inside. Feel the heat and pressure on your fingers, feel your yoni tighten around your fingers as you become more aroused. You will find the G-Spot on the inner wall of the vagina.

Massage this soft raised area by placing the palm up and curling the fingers slightly applying what ever movement works best for you. Use your other hand to caress your breasts, stoke your stomach, thighs, and abdomen.

Don’t Forget the Men…

For the men out there – start by setting and creating a Sensual Environment. Lie or sit on a comfortable surface, the bed, bath, standing up, or anywhere else you fancy. Most men don’t take the time to nurture themselves and their bodies, so use this time to explore yourself, really feel the sensations and emotions that come up.

Feelings and sensations are all part of you, and your sexual soul, so express them freely and let go of any frustrations, hurts, irritations. Allow yourself to receive pure unadulterated pleasure.

Masturbation is not only a great way to love and pleasure yourself, but it also facilities relaxation, deeper and more intense orgasms, and more sexual energy and attraction.