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How To Give A Female Orgasm – Even If Your Penis Is Too Small

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Maybe it’s the culture of pornography that led men to believe they can only please women if they have a foot-long member to wield. Maybe it’s the bragging that they often hear from friends, or it’s the way the media has always depicted the ideal man, virile and hung as a horse. Whatever made a lot of men insecure about their penis size, this line of thinking has got to stop. In the first place, so many women are blissfully happy with partners who are just average in size.

By average, we mean in the 5-6 inch margin. But this too could put men who have penis sizes lower than five inches feel insecure. So, let’s clarify the main point: size is only an issue to men who don’t know how to properly please women. If a woman thought the sex was unsatisfactory, believe me, it’s not your size, it’s your skills.

Angle Your Thrusts

The angle of thrusting matters, especially if your penis is small. You should know that a woman’s g-spot is located near the entrance of her vagina on the upper part. The doggy position can let you touch that spot in a more intense manner, but you can also do this using the missionary position. Just put a pillow or two beneath the woman’s thighs so her hips are slightly elevated.

Touch Her Clitoris

In the end, you should realize that a woman could reach climax easily when her clitoris is stimulated during penetration. The clitoris may be small, but it’s the core of a woman’s pleasure. Adding the sensation of clitoral fondling into the mix while you’re having sex will push her over the edge. In fact, no matter what stage of sex you’re on, you should not quit touching her clitoris one way or another. Even if it’s just thrusting and grinding so that your pubic region presses on her mound during sex. This action will lead to indirect clitoral stimulation, which makes all the difference in terms of her pleasure.

You should never let your penis size bother you. In reality, you are probably the only one bothered by it. If a woman has had many lovers in the past, it’s just normal that she compares you, size-wise, but the thing is, if you’re skilled enough in sex, your penis size will never be an issue. If you need an analogy, think of how women feel about other women with big breasts. They feel insecure about their bodies just like men with below average penis sizes, but in the end, sex skills are more important than size.

What Are Multiple Orgasms And How Can I Give Them?

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Have you ever wondered if the phenomenon called multiple orgasms really does exist? Ask a woman who has experienced it and you will know that this really happens. Some women may not be able to describe to you exactly what they felt, but if they tell you it’s a prolonged version of an orgasm, it’s definitely a variant of what we know as multiple orgasms.

Multiple orgasms can be classified into two: multiple orgasms in a series, and stacking orgasms.

Multiple Orgasms In A Series

When a woman has one orgasm and doesn’t take too long to build another one, she is experiencing a series of orgasm. This is what happens when a woman is extremely excited. She doesn’t feel tired after the first orgasm. In fact, that she has already climaxed once makes it extremely easy for her to climax again. This often occurs during sex when the man continues to thrust in his penis even after the woman has had her first orgasm.

Stacking Multiple Orgasms

An orgasm that seems to go on forever is called a stacking orgasm. The orgasms are so close together that the woman feels like she’s having one orgasm that goes beyond what she’s used to.

A lot of women become extremely emotional when they feel this phenomenon of stacking orgasms, and more often than not, they burst into tears. The feeling overwhelms them and overflows as an emotional outburst.

How to Give Multiple Orgasms

Any man can give multiple orgasms if he can…

Prolong the sex. This means holding back his own orgasm and continue thrusting even when he’s almost at his limit. A man usually slows down to be able to control his own orgasm, but slowing down could destroy the momentum needed to give multiple orgasms. What you can do is to wear another layer of condom on top of the first one, or choose a condom brand that’s thicker than your usual. This will kill the sensation somewhat and allow you to continue thrusting without losing it.

Fondle her clitoris during penetration. It’s no secret that the clitoris, like the penis, reacts to stimulation during sex. This means the clitoris expands, tightens and becomes rigid. Fondling the clitoris the right way at this point will make a woman feel great. Moreover, she will be able to experience multiple orgasms if her clitoris is continuously touched during penetration.

Stimulate the woman emotionally. A multiple orgasm is a result of physical and emotional stimulation. To create extreme emotional connection with a girl during sex, you have to tell her what she wants to hear. If you’ve been dating her for a time, saying “I love you” will often do the trick. Flattery will also work, if said in a sincere manner. Tell her she is beautiful, or sexy, or that she is a goddess.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

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When you crook your forefinger upward and move it forward and backward like you’re calling someone to come nearer, that’s called the “come hither movement.” Such a movement is not considered polite among strangers, or even acquaintances, but it’s perfectly acceptable to call over someone who happens to be your lover using this gesture.

There is another use for the come hither gesture, and this has something to do with finding the g spot and giving a woman mind boggling orgasms.

What is the come hither g spot orgasm? When fingering a girl, you use the come hither movement to detect the part of her vaginal portal that feels slightly different from the rest of the tissues around your fingers. That part is her g-spot and it can become quite ridged when she’s aroused.

Men who have trouble finding the g spot might have forgotten the most important factor to finding the g spot. A girl must be completely into it, and super excited, for the g-spot to be engorged with blood. Some experts say that the g-spot is the tail of the clitoris, which means that you can find it quickly if you stimulate the front end of the clitoris first.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

  1. First, practice the come hither motion on your own. Position your hand in front of you with your palm facing upward. Then, crook your forefinger in the shape of a hook. Do the same with your middle finger. Use both fingers to create the come hither gesture. If you wish, you can let your ring finger join in (if you intend to finger your girl using three fingers).
  2. When you’re in bed with your girl, you can start stimulating her by eating her out. This is the fastest way to induce lubrication. Make sure you stimulate the outer part of her vaginal portal, and especially her clitoris, so that she will be fully aroused and ready for fingering.
  3. When she’s wet enough, insert your forefinger and let it slide in and out for a few minutes. Do this gently to prevent hurting her with the friction. Make sure your finger goes deeper every time you slide it in.
  4. When she’s used to the motion of your forefinger, get your middle finger working. Slide both fingers in and out for a few minutes before trying the come hither motion.
  5. Let your tongue play with her clitoris as you gently push both fingers deep inside her vagina and slowly do the come hither movement while inside. The sensation this induces may feel odd to most girls, and a lot of women will probably stop you (because the sensation is akin to that of wanting to pee). When this happens, distract her by wetting and licking her clitoris more seriously while you repeat the movement.

The combination of cunnilingus and come hither movement inside her vagina will induce a powerful orgasm she won’t be able to forget.

How To Have More Orgasms In Your Relationship

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Becoming more aware of your sexuality inside your relationship is both good and bad. Good because you’re learning more about each other. By the time you took a breather and got around to spending a night without so much as touching each other, you realize that sex has become monotonous, uneventful and even boring. But, of course, you will never be able to tell your partner that without offending her to the extreme. What you can do is to suggest new things that will mix things up so that you can have better orgasms together.

Sex Toys

Sex toys are made of plastic or rubber, and they can range in variety from odd-looking buttons to colourful beads. They’re readily available online or by mail order. You can choose the best ones with your partner and try them one by one. Experimenting with sex toys is always fun, considering you can bring your pleasure to a completely new level.

If you’re not comfortable with having a threesome, but you want to try having an extra hand during sex, you can always try sex toys. A sybian for example can help your partner get off while performing blowjob on you. The sensations brought on by these sex toys may seem strange at first, but with skilful handling and a bit of imagination, you can use these to improve your sex life.

Fantasize

If you have never discussed fantasies with your partner, now is the time to do so. But you have to make sure you don’t take these fantasies seriously. If she fantasizes about being taken inside the office and it just so happened that she works as a secretary, don’t immediately assume that she wants to sleep with her boss. Fantasies are scenarios we think up with our partners in mind.

You have to be careful when describing situations, though. You don’t want to mention any particular person while coming up with kinky fantasies to try if you don’t want your girlfriend to feel jealous or paranoid over the girl you’re fantasizing about. Mentioning porn stars or letting her choose from your fetish porn collection is safe.

Being more kinky inside your relationship is a sign that you’re growing as a couple. It also means the trust between you and your partner is growing. Soon, you might even consider letting her wear a strap on and doing you for a change. Losing your inhibitions with your partner can be a fun way to get to know each other sexually. Finding out what your partner likes, and what kinky sex and  fantasies she’s keeping from you, can be the trigger to a more orgasmic sex life.

How To Achieve Simultaneous Orgasm

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Simultaneous orgasm is sometimes considered the “holy grail” of sex, because it can be difficult to achieve but absolutely amazing when you do. Having an orgasm together during sex will bring you and your partner closer together physically (and make you hotter for each other) as well as deepen and strengthen the emotional bond you have with each other as well. While many people think that simultaneous orgasm just happens and if it does, you’re lucky, there are actually quite a few things you can do to help you and your partner reach orgasm together. Here’s how.

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Recognize The Opportunity

A lot of times, couples fail to have an orgasm at the same time because they don’t realize that the opportunity is there. He may not know that she is close to orgasm, especially if it has taken a while for her to get there, or she may not realize that he’s close too. They may miss having an orgasm together by just minutes or seconds, and often they may have their orgasms just one right after the other. Instead of focusing so much on trying to make a simultaneous orgasm happen, focus more on recognizing the signs that she’s close so you can release when she does. When a woman is close to having an orgasm, her muscles will bunch up, her breathing will get faster and her chest will get flushed. When you realize that she is about to go over the edge, allow yourself to “catch up” with her so you can go over the edge too.

Match Her Pace

It can take a lot longer for a woman to reach orgasm through intercourse than a man, so it’s important that if you want to achieve a simultaneous orgasm that you match your partner’s pace and keep your orgasm at bay until she reaches the brink. Go slower and let her be on top. Having her on top allows her to control the pace herself, as well as helping her to control her orgasm. This also takes the control away from you, allowing you to concentrate more on holding out and keeping yourself from ejaculating too quickly. If you struggle with having enough stamina to keep up with your partner, use foreplay techniques to get her warmed up before you even begin having intercourse. Get her close to orgasm through oral sex, or if your partner is able to have multiple orgasms, give her the first orgasm through oral sex and she will be much closer to her second or third orgasms when you start having sex.

Communicate With Her

Another huge reason why couples struggle to have simultaneous orgasms is that they don’t communicate with each other when having sex. You or your partner may feel too shy to announce that you’re close to having an orgasm, so your partner doesn’t know when they need to hold out or when they need to speed up. Work on communicating what you’re feeling during sex with your partner, even if all you’re doing is breathing the words “I’m close” in their ear. You could even come up with a “code word” for being close to orgasm if you or your partner just aren’t comfortable with any other forms of communication. In fact, it doesn’t even have to be a word, it could be a simple action such as biting their ear or pinching their butt when you’re about to have an orgasm. If you and your partner work on communicating during sex, you’ll be able to respond appropriately to where your partner is sexually and hold back if you need to or speed up your orgasm if they’re close.

Seize The Opportunity

In addition to recognizing the opportunity to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, you need to seize the opportunity too! You may figure out that she’s about to have an orgasm, but you may not end up taking the initiative to bring yourself closer to orgasm as well. Instead, when you realize that she is about to have an orgasm, tighten your muscles and bring yourself to orgasm as well. However, if your partner likes to express herself when she has an orgasm with loud noises or moaning, you may end up ejaculating anyways without even trying because you’re so turned on by her! If you see the opportunity to have an orgasm at the same time as your partner, take it! You and your partner will both love having an orgasm together and your sex lives will become that much more satisfying for both you and her.