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Touchless Orgasm – Real Or Fake?

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Are touchless orgasms real or are they just another way to fake an orgasmic experience with a sexual partner? Well, let’s really think about this. The power our minds have over our bodies is tremendous. The touchless orgasm has been touted, by those fortunate enough to experience such pure bliss, as the ultimate mind-body connection.

 The Definition Of “Touchless Orgasm”

What is a touchless orgasm exactly? Let’s talk about what it is NOT first. It is not to be confused with a woman’s inherent over-excitability. Plainly and simply, it is the very act of erotic storytelling, guiding a partner through a visually, sexually-stimulating state, until the highest state of sexual arousal is attained … the woman releases her mind and body, succumbing to the purely blissful height of sexual excitation culminating in the oh-so-desirable orgasm. Sometimes, as with physical foreplay and sexual intercourse, a woman’s orgasm remains elusive … just beyond reach.

Touchless Orgasm How-To

How would a sexual partner talk their partner into such a frenzied, heated, sexually-excited state so as to reach the ultimate touchless orgasm? Try following these tips:

First … Make sure you have a drink in hand … for both you and your partner. You will need the drink to wet your whistle because extended storytelling can cause a dry mouth. Your partner may need a glass of wine or perhaps some chamomile tea to promote a general state of physical relaxation.

Second … Find out what visuals and fantasies excite your partner to no end. This is the research phase, and if you want to be successful, it is an absolutely necessary step.

Third … More research. Know the diction, or word choice, and inflection, or tone of voice, to which your partner will most positively react. Some women like sex rough and tumble. If so, use hardcore words, like “fuck” and “cunt.” Other women like sex soft and romantic. If so, use sensual words, like “caress” and “pussy.” Sometimes, a combination of both sets of words proves most successful.

Fourth … Craft your general story idea before the main event. During verbal intercourse, it is easy to lose your train of thought and forget where you were going with the story. There are simply too many things stimulating all of your senses.

Fifth … Pay attention to your partner’s reactions. Adapt the story line, words, and visuals to what you see your partner feeling.

Are you a sensitive, visual sexual partner who can craft an erotic story molded specifically to your sexual partner? Would you like to inject a tremendous dose of excitement into a particular relationship with a woman whose sexual arousal you would like to send through the roof? Try the steps listed above. Let me know how it goes.

The C-Spot and G-Spot Orgasm Cocktail

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Women have two main sex zones: the clitoris and the g-spot or the Grafenberg spot. Most women come via clitoral stimulation. Not really surprising as it’s the one more accessible between the two. And if you’ve ever had a g-spot orgasm then you KNOW how earth-shattering THAT can be.

So why not aim for higher sexual heights with a ‘blended orgasm’?

What’s a Blended Orgasm?

As the name suggests, a blended orgasm is one where you climax via your clitoris (c-spot) AND Grafenberg spot (g-spot). As these pleasure zones are located in different places, the orgasm that you feel from one largely differs from the other. As a result, if you can stimulate both and climax from both simultaneously, then you can say you’ve hit the mother load of climaxes!

The Blended O… Solo

Before you run off to tell your man that you want a blended orgasm, take some time to figure out how to do this first on your own. This way, you can guide him better and can remove any possible awkwardness or frustration later together in bed.

The best way to try this is to close the curtains (or dim the lights), play some soft music, and then lie down. When you feel relaxed, start to stimulate your clitoris. No rush, just take your time.

When you’re finally wet and really aroused, leave off your c-spot for a while and go seek your g-spot. Insert your index finger inside and try to feel alongside the front wall of your vagina for a slightly rough and engorged nub. In general, you g-spot should feel like the upper side of your mouth. Don’t worry; when you’re close the g-spot you will definitely feel it because waves of arousal will hit you.

Note that as you stimulate your g-spot, you may feel this sudden urge urinate. Oftentimes, this is when things go wrong because women, thinking that they’ll embarrass themselves by peeing, will start to tense up and demand for the stimulation to stop. On the contrary, just keep on going and this feeling will soon come to pass.

Now as you feel yourself nearing your g-spot climax, use your other hand (or if your fingers are long enough and you can angle your hand properly, use the thumb on the same hand you’re suing to stimulate your g-spot) to go back and titillate your clitoris.

All I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

The Blended O… In Tandem

Now that you know how to bring yourself to a combi-orgasm, it’s time to bring your lover into the equation.

Lie down as comfortably as you can on the bed and ask your men to prop your hips with a small pillow. (This is to elevate your groin.) To warm you – and him – up, ask for some oral loving.

When you’re all hot and wet, tell him now’s the time to enter. As he thrusts, his penis should hit the gspot (thanks to your slightly elevated position). If this is not the case, then tilt your hips higher. If it helps, tell him to ‘drag’ you to the edge of the bed so that he’s standing as he thrusts. Continue until you’re just about to burst from a g-spot climax.

When you feel this is the case, then either ask him to finger your clitoris or do it yourself. (Nice visuals for him!)

AGAIN… all I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

Sex Positions for More Blended Oomph

Now that you guys have the Blended O basics covered, it’s time to experiment with new positions!

Try doggy-style. When you get on all fours, your behind is naturally slightly tilted already. As such, his penis is correctly angled to hit your g-spot like a marked bull’s eye! For the Blended O to occur, simply reach down and fondle your clitoris or better yet ask him to do it!

Try reverse woman-on-top. Women just love the woman-on-top position because we get to control the depth, speed, and even the roughness of intercourse. Well here’s another reason to love this position, it’s great for c-spot and g-spot stimulation especially when you do reverse woman-on-top (i.e., when you stride him the other way and you’re facing his feet).

As you ride his pole, reach down and make sure your c-spot does not feel neglected. Contract and relax your internal muscles to ensure increased friction between your genitals. Plus, it’s a nice treat for his penis!

And for the third time… all I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

Targeting Her Pleasure Buttons: How To Finger A Woman’s G-Spot

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From a man’s perspective, there are a lot of issues about sex which may bring you insecurities especially if you’re not so confident about your skills as a lover. Did she reach orgasm when during your first time together or was she faking it? When she has one of those ‘girl talks’ with her friends, do you think that she raves about your skills in bed or does she portray you as a lousy lover?

In order for you not to feel any insecurity in this department, the best that you can do is develop your skills as a lover. Remember to always be sensitive to a woman’s sexual needs, always take her pleasure into account instead of always looking for your own pleasure, take your time and learn new sexual tricks every now and then. This way, your wife or girlfriend will feel satisfied about the way that your sex life is going.

A Woman’s Pleasure Buttons: Differentiating the G-Spot from the Clitoris

For men, the erogenous zone is pretty much concentrated on the area below his waist and above his thighs. For women, however, there is a pretty wide area which can be considered as her pleasure zones. The breasts, her thighs, her waist, the back of her neck and even the not-so-erotic curves of her body can bring her pleasure when stimulated. And of course, there’s the center of all her pleasure zones which is her vagina.

Now, if you want to be a master lover, there are two aspects of a woman’s sexual organ that you need to learn the map for: the clitoris and the G-spot. Target these two pleasure buttons and you’ll surely be able to bring her multiple orgasms. To make the distinction between the two, here’s a crash course on the basic things that you should know about the clitoris and a woman’s G-spot.

First, the clitoris is the sole organ in the female body which is dedicated to physical pleasure. Think of the sensation that she feels down there as comparable to the pleasure that you feel when the head of your penis is being stimulated. The clitoris is a nerve-packed ending which is sensitive to the touch, and it is located just above the opening of her vagina.

Second, there’s the G-spot or the Gräfenberg spot. This is actually a bean-shaped tissue which has a spongy texture, located about a couple of inches back from the opening of her front vaginal wall.

Confused? Don’t worry, the G-spot is something that even women themselves find difficult to locate. But once you do manage to find it and bring her mind blowing orgasms by stimulating her G-spot, she’ll practically be under your sexual spell for life!

How to Bring Her Mind Blowing Orgasms by Fingering Her G-Spot

So how exactly should you stimulate her G-spot? Just as it is when you’re introducing a new sexual position to her, the best way to start stimulating the G-spot is by easing your way into it. Always start slow and be sensitive to her responses.

Don’t scrimp on the foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. The best way to go after her G-spot initially is by using your fingers. Once you’ve mastered the location of her G-spot, that is the time that you can target this particular pleasure button using your penis during penetration.

To do it, face your partner while she is lying on her back. Then, insert your index finger or your middle finger into her vagina as far back as it will go. Since the G-spot is located near her front vaginal wall, you should crook your finger along the top of the vagina. Do this gently until you feel an area which is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Watch for her reaction – you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot from the way that she will respond.

Don’t be afraid to communicate during the process of searching for her G-spot. Since she knows that it’s her ultimate pleasure that you’re after, she will surely cooperate.

The best way to make her reach an orgasm by fingering her G-spot is by using a firm tapping motion with your finger. Other women prefer G-spot stimulation during intercourse and the best position for this is when she’s on top or when you’re on a rear-entry position.

If you haven’t yet mastered the art of using a ‘helping hand’ to reach and stimulate her G-spot, don’t feel frustrated – try again and experiment. In due time, you are bound to reach that oh-so-elusive G-spot and use your finger to stimulate a woman’s ultimate pleasure button and bring her an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon.

Be A Better Lover: How To Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm During Sex

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If you’re in an intimate relationship with a woman, the one skill that you definitely should have is being a great lover. Sure, relationships are not merely based on sex – but the intimacy that you have does play a big part in how well you get along with each other, in and out of the bedroom.

So what does it take to be a better lover? Should you always sacrifice your own pleasure in order to give her a toe curling orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon? If she’s the type of a woman who’s wild or experimental in bed, how can you keep up and make sure that your skills as a lover will match hers? On the other hand, if she’s a bit timid – how can you make her open up so that you’ll have a better sex life overall?

Read on to find out exactly how you can be a better lover and learn about the techniques that will make your girlfriend orgasm during sex.

Understanding What Makes Women Orgasm In The First Place

The first thing that you need to learn about in order to be a better lover in your girlfriend’s eyes is to understand what makes women orgasm in the first place. Some women are lucky to have the ability to experience multiple orgasms. However, there are some who have difficulties achieving orgasm even once in their life.

Let’s say that it is your first time to have sex with a woman whom you plan building a long-term relationship with. Don’t get frustrated if you fail to give her the orgasm of her life the first time that you tangle the sheets together. Sometimes, there should be a deeper level of connection first between a man and a woman for the sex to be described as mind blowing.

To get a head start in playing the role of a great lover who’s capable of giving his girlfriend multiple orgasms, here are a few basic things that you need to master:

1. Learn about the art of foreplay.

There’s no doubt that a ‘quickie’ is a fun and exciting to have sex – but having a long winded foreplay is equally important and extremely pleasurable for most women. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication in their vaginas prior to intercourse. When you indulge in a long, luxurious foreplay, you will be able to show your girlfriend just how important it is for you to give her pleasure.

2. Learn about what turns her on.

Put her at ease, give her time to adjust to you and learn what turns her on. To be a masterful lover, you need to be attuned to a woman’s sexual needs and learning about what turns her on sexually is a great way to start.

At the end of the day, what it all boils down to is that as a lover, men should be sensitive enough to learn about a woman’s sexual needs instead of always taking their own pleasure into account first.

Tips On How To Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm During Sex

Now, whether your girlfriend is a cool cucumber or a hot performer in bed, there are techniques that you can learn in order to make her orgasm during sex. For this, it helps to go back to the basics and learn what the role of the clitoris is to a woman’s sexual pleasure.

For the most part, women have trouble reaching orgasm through penetration alone. If you want to give her that toe curling sensation during intercourse, then you can add some clitoral stimulation just when you’re on the verge of reaching climax yourself. Or you can encourage her to stimulate her clitoris. Not only is the image of her pleasuring herself extremely erotic for the both of you, but it is also bound to help her orgasm during intercourse.

Another important skill in bed that you should be good at is cunnilingus. Again, a lot of women fail to orgasm during penetration and this is when oral sex comes into play. Once you master the art of giving her some oral love, you’re bound to give her multiple orgasms no matter how many hours that you spend in bed.

One other thing that you can try is to experiment with different positions so that your girlfriend can reach orgasm during sex. Try doing the side-by-side position while she makes a circular motion with her vagina while your penis is fully inside her. Utter words of encouragement so that she can rub her clitoris against your erection or move her pelvis in a way that feels good for her.

All in all, sex should be an extremely pleasurable experience for the both of you – and once you have mastered the art of making your girlfriend orgasm during intercourse, your sex life will surely soar to great heights.

Send Her To A Cloud Of Pleasure: How To Hit The G-Spot During Sex

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Have you ever wondered what the buzz about a woman’s G-spot is all about? When it comes to the sexual pleasures that a man can bring to a woman, giving her a G-spot orgasm is probably like winning the lottery.

This is because the sensitivity of the nerve endings on a woman’s G-spot is comparable to the sensitivity of the penis head where all the sexual pleasure is centered. The problem is that the G-spot is something which is pretty difficult to locate. Read on to find out more about how you can hit the jackpot by targeting a woman’s ultimate pleasure zone: her G-spot.

All About The G-Spot

Let’s not go into the technical details of what the G-spot is all about. What matters is that a man should know how important it is to locate this seemingly elusive spot because it is considered to be the Holy Grail of a woman’s sexual pleasure.

So basically, your first goal in giving her a G-spot orgasm is to actually locate the G-spot. Whether you’re using your penis or your middle finger to reach the G-spot, it should be located about a couple of inches up her vaginal opening, inside the vaginal wall. When trying to stimulate the G-spot, you do need to take the time to prepare her with a lot of foreplay to make sure that she’s ready for it.

You can either use a stroking or a tapping motion once you come in contact with that rough, bean-shaped tissue on the vaginal wall. To make sure that she’s extracting the most pleasure out of your G-spot stimulation, communication is the key.

Ask her if you’re going for the right spot or if you’re stroking her the right way. If she’s not the type to go all chatty in bed, just be sensitive enough to watch how her pupils dilate and how her body reacts when you reach down there.

A Variety of Positions Which Target The G-Spot During Sex

As mentioned earlier, there are a couple of ways for you to stimulate the G-spot. You can either do a manual stimulation and bring her to a G-spot orgasm using your fingers – or, you can target the G-spot during intercourse with your penis. The second option is more of a challenge because the G-spot is pretty difficult to locate manually in the first place.

However, if your goal is to send your partner to a mind-blowing orgasm during sex by targeting your G-spot, there are suitable sexual positions that you can do for this. Take a look at the following list of sex positions that you can experiment with:

1. Woman On Top Position

Since you are targeting the woman’s G-spot anyway, why not allow her to take charge? With the woman on top position, she can control the speed, depth and intensity of the penetration. She can also stimulate her own clitoris while targeting the G-spot at the same time.

Since you’ll be the one lying on your back in this position, the best way to target her G-spot and make her have a mind blowing orgasm is by tilting your pelvis in such a way that this ultimate pleasure zone will be stimulated. Again, remember to indulge in a long-winded foreplay before getting into the woman on top position so that she can be prepared for the best G-spot orgasm, as well as the ride of her life!

2. Rear Entry Position

There’s definitely something about the rear entry or doggy style position which feels primal and sexy, especially from a man’s point of view. When you take a woman from behind, it feels as if you’re living a sexual fantasy of primitive proportions.

At the same time, the rear entry position is as good a position as any to target her G-spot. While you’re on the doggy style position, you can place your legs outside of her as you put more of your weight forward. This way, your penis will be on a downward angle as it is buried deep inside her vagina – it’s a surefire way to target her G-spot and give her a toe curling orgasm.

3. Other G-Spot Targeting Positions

You can also try the sex position wherein you will kneel or stand, while her legs is placed on your shoulders. This is a position where you can look at each other’s eyes and touch other parts of each other’s body while stimulating the G-spot at the same time.

Try out these sex positions and you’ll have her experiencing a G-spot orgasm in no time at all!