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How To Give Your Woman The Kind of Orgasm SHE Wants

Ok, after spending a good amount of time on foreplay, your woman is finally highly aroused. You decide that now is the time to get physical with her.

So, all you need to do is get into your favorite sex position and pound away. Before you know it, your woman will be achieving some “Earth-Shaking” orgasms, right?

Well, if you are happy to live in “Never Never” land, then go for it.

There is a lot more to intercourse than a few fancy sex positions and thrusting like a sledge hammer. Unfortunately, most men do not realize this, thus leaving themselves wondering why many women find it difficult to achieve any type of orgasm through intercourse.

Though it is never a good idea to approach sex as if it were a science project, it is important to understand that a little bit of logic can go a long way.

The Big “O” Decision

First you have to decide what orgasm you would like to help your woman achieve. Do you want to give her a g-spot, a-spot or clitoral orgasm?

In order to make the correct decision, you have to take the time to learn your partner’s sexual likes and dislikes. Would she actually enjoy receiving a g-spot orgasm? Some women find the feeling of g-spot stimulation to be a little uncomfortable, painful, or just outright annoying. On the other hand, some women see the g-spot as the ultimate form of ecstasy.

The a-spot also shares a love/hate relationship with many women. The reason for this is that the a-spot is situated between the cervix and the bladder. If stimulated correctly, some women can achieve very powerful orgasms. However, most women don’t enjoy having a penis pounding on their cervix wall, as it can be very painful.

So, before you take the plunge, make sure that you have learnt your woman well enough to know what her likes and dislikes are, otherwise you might find yourself pounding away for no good reason, and who knows, she might just fake the orgasms just to get it over with.

Sex positions play a very important role during intercourse, but only if used correctly. Yes, sex positions are fun and erotic, but they are also the foundation of allowing your partner to achieve certain types of orgasms. For example, not all sex positions are ideal for clitoral orgasms, just as not all sex positions are ideal for g-spot orgasms. The same applies for a-spot orgasms.

If you want to give your woman an a-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The a-spot lies deep within the vaginal canal between the cervix and the bladder.

Deep penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the a-spot.

The a-spot is best stimulated with pressure, not friction.

It would therefore make sense to find a sex position that allows for deep penetration without having to thrust too hard in order to reach the a-spot. The sex position must allow you to comfortably stimulate this area through gentle yet firm pressure.

If you want to give your woman a g-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The g-spot only lies a few inches on the upper wall of the vaginal canal.

Shallow penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

Like the a-spot, the g-spot is best stimulated with firm gentle pressure.

In order to stimulate the g-spot, you would need to use a sex position that allows you to easily angle your penis to thrust up against the g-spot while at the same time applying pressure to it as well.

If you want to give your woman a clitoral orgasm, you need to consider the following

The clitoris is actually quite a large organ than looks almost like a “wish bone”. The end of the clitoris is the only part that sticks out at the top of the vaginal entrance. However, most of this organ actually lies on each side of the vaginal canal near the entrance of the vagina.

At the moment it is agreed that most of the stimulation to the clitoris happens at the part sticking outside the vagina. Some experts argue that other parts of the clitoris can be stimulated as well.

Depth of penetration is not important. All that matters is that any part of the penis must rub against the clitoris.

Unlike the g-spot and a-spot, the clitoris is best stimulated by friction through rubbing, not pressure.

Therefore, the best way to help your woman achieve a clitoral orgasm would be by using any sex position that allows you to comfortably stimulate your woman’s clitoris by rubbing any part of your penis against it.

Let us summarize

In order to effectively give your woman powerful orgasms, you need to first know what type of orgasms she wants to receive.

Once you have figured that out, your next step is to find the best sex position that allows you to correctly angle your penis, as well as allow the correct depth of penetration of your penis in order to reach and stimulate that particular type of orgasm.

Finally! The Truth About Female Ejaculation…

By carlatara

Can a woman ejaculate? The answer is a definite, yes. With proper stimulation of the Gspot, women can ejaculate a fluid from ducts located around the urethra. It is located in the front wall of the vagina under the pubic bone.

This is a spongy area two inches or more inside the yoni (vagina) depending on the size of the yoni and the location of the clitoris. It is actually South Pole of the clitoris.

The First Documentation of Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation was documented in ancient China and India where the Goddess-spot massage was a common Tantric-sex technique. Tantric texts call the liquid produced amrita, or “sweet nectar.” It is a protein-based fluid, found to be chemically different from urine. It is believed to have great healing properties.

This knowledge is slowly coming to the awareness of non-Tantric people like Dr. Mitchell Levine, a gynecologist/obstetrician at the Women Care clinic, in Arlington, who declares that women do ejaculate. He believes that the hush-hush aura around the subject does not help women or men. He believes that is should become common knowledge.

Medicine Ignores Women’s Sexuality

Sexuality, and especially women’s sexuality, does not receive much attention in medical school. In fact, one female gynecologist approached for this story declined comment, admitting not to know enough about the subject.

Our in so many other ways advanced western culture is badly informed about human sensuality. Medical encyclopedias still do not mention female ejaculation. There is some information, however, on The Complete Guide to Women’s Health.

Don’t Make Something Out of Nothing

The quantity of amrita is not indicative of how much the woman enjoys her release. Therefore, please men don’t make it an issue. Some woman I’ve been working with say they experience intense pleasurable feeling of release and often ejaculate three to nine times or more during one session of sex, each ejaculatory orgasm giving them more pleasure than the previous one.

However, the experience of female ejaculation varies from woman to woman. Some dribble a small amount of fluid; others soak the sheets.

Some women get concerned that they’re urinating, and they need to be reassured that this is not the case. It is amrita they secrete, not urine. In fact amrita does not smell or taste like urine.

The G-Spot Itself

The G-spot itself has been a subject of controversy since its “discovery” in 1944 by gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg. The “G” in the gspot stands for Granfenberg. In the ’60s, sexologists Masters and Johnson announced that female orgasms occurred primarily through stimulation of the clitoris, not the vagina, where the Gspot is found.

The G Spot (Holt, Rinehart, and Winston), a 1982 book by Beverly Whipple, Alice Ladas, and John Perry, refuted this claim and provides ample evidence that the g spot exists. My colleague, Dr. Gary Schubach, wrote a very enlightening thesis on the g spot. You can find it at http://www.doctorg.com.

Some feminists fear that widespread knowledge about female ejaculation will burden women with one more “trick” they must master in bed to feel fully orgasmic. While this is a true concern, I think that withholding knowledge is not the right approach. Educating women about their birthright to full enjoyment of their bodies is a positive approach.

Tantric approaches do not put any pressure on performance neither for males nor for females. In Tantra what is most important is the deep heart to heart connection and caring between the lovers while they experience the pleasure in lovemaking. The goal is connection and deepening intimacy, not performance.

Why Men Fail Miserably at Giving Their Women Orgasms – Even After Applying the Right Techniques

By paultony

As men, we are put under a lot of pressure in terms of how we perform as lovers. The media ensure’s this by battering us with statistics on the huge percentages of women that find it difficult to achieve orgasms.

In addition to that, men also have to measure up against porn and main stream movie stars that always seem to effortlessly give their lovers mind blowing orgasms.

Lastly, to complicate this stressed out situation even more, you are also obliged to give your partner multiple orgasms, g-spot orgasms, a-spot orgasms, clitoral orgasms and blended orgasms.

Techniques Don’t Always Work

Though there are many great guides that teach us powerful techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse, many men are rudely surprised that these techniques don’t always work out like they are supposed to.

This stresses them out even more, and soon the whole episode turns into a nightmare.

Okay, before you give up on the cause of becoming a masterful lover, take a deep breath, relax, and clear your mind. You are about to learn that being a great lover is not just about technique.

Yes, technique does play an important part in helping your partner achieve powerful orgasms, but only if it is applied with the right approach and mindset.

So, what is the Right Approach and Mindset?

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself in the bedroom. Have fun. After all, who ever wanted something as enjoyable as sex to turn into a chore, or worse yet, a science project?

You are not the only one that gets affected with the stress that is induced by this type of pressure. Your partner will notice how stressed you are, and ultimately, it will affect her overall performance in bed as well.

The last thing you want is for your lover to be worried that she might let you down by not reaching an orgasm. She will feel obliged to do anything she can in order to make you happy, even if it means having to lie by faking an orgasm. Ultimately, you will learn nothing, and she will gain nothing.

Approach your love making sessions with a sense of humor. Learn to laugh at yourself and the situation if things don’t go as planned. This will keep the environment between you and your lover relaxed and fun. Most importantly, it will help to keep the doors of communication wide open.

Communicate Openly

Once you are able to communicate openly and in a relaxed manner with your partner, everything will start to make sense.

Having the right approach and mindset will also make the task of learning new techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse easier. You will have a better understanding of how to apply these techniques because of the relaxed manner in which you and your partner are able to communicate.

You will realize that every woman will have different wants and needs when it comes to sex. You will also realize that it takes time to truly learn your lover. Most importantly, you will realize that there really is no hurry, because both of you are having fun.

G-Spot Amplification: What Everybody Ought to Know About The “G-Shot”

By leejenkins

Do you know how to find the G-Spot? Despite the tales of mind-blowing, bone-jarring sexual escapades, millions of women have never experienced a G-spot orgasm through intercourse. It remains a frustration in spite of our bodies’ seemingly-perfect design to tap into that well of pleasure.

In fact, many people doubt that the G-spot exists (it does). Our instinctive tendency is to find a “quick fix.”

As our collective sexual frustration and our natural penchant for the speedy solution converge, a potential remedy has surfaced. Known as the “G-Shot”, this remedy promises to transform the “hard to hit” G-spot into a “can’t miss” target. Below, we’ll take a closer look at the controversial G-Shot.

We’ll describe how it works, the risks involved and whether it truly offers access to the mythical G-spot orgasm.

Understanding How The G-Shot Works

In its simplest form, the G-Shot makes a woman’s G-spot larger. In fact, the procedure is often called G-Spot Amplification®. It involves injecting a small amount of collagen into the area of the vaginal wall where the G-spot is located.

The collagen enlarges the G-spot, making it easier for men to stimulate the area. Ultimately, the increased stimulation can lead to stronger, longer-lasting orgasms.

The G-Shot is administered by a doctor and requires local anesthesia. Women who have undergone the procedure claim the entire process takes less than 30 minutes. However, even though the procedure is convenient, it’s important to note that there are risks involved.

Risks Associated With The G-Shot

While many women who have had the G-spot collagen injection claim that it makes achieving orgasms easier, the G-Shot is not without potential unpleasant side effects. For example, some have experienced bladder discomfort. Others have noticed blood present in their urine.

Still others report experiencing a feeling of constant sexual arousal. Other side effects that are associated with the G-Shot procedure include allergic reactions, urinary tract infections, off-putting vaginal discharges and pain during intercourse.

Though the G-Shot is routinely advertised as a “quick fix” solution for an inability to have dependable G-spot orgasms, there are significant risks. In fact, because the number of potential side effects is extensive, a woman is typically required to sign a consent form prior to having the procedure performed.

Doubt From The Medical Community

Adding to the controversy is the fact that many in the medical establishment scoff at the G-Shot’s effectiveness. Their misgivings are largely based upon the lack of clinical evidence supporting the procedure’s efficacy. While many women who have received the collagen injection contend that the shot has a positive effect on their ability to reach a G-spot orgasm, data is limited.

Lack of Clinical Evidence

First, the sample size of those surveyed lacks the breadth to have any significant implications. Second, there is no evidence that a double-blind study (an experiment in which some participants receive the collagen while other participants receive a placebo injection) was performed. Many doctors claim that the G-Shot’s effectiveness remains unproven.

Other Potential Drawbacks Of The G-Shot

There are other criticisms of the procedure. First, it’s expensive. Receiving the collagen injection into the vaginal wall costs approximately $1,800. Many people may initially consider $1,800 to be a small price to pay for sexual satisfaction. But, the inclination to pay that amount of money for what constitutes a natural, healthy sexual result implies a deeper problem:

Lack of sufficient sexual skills.

Another problem with the G-Shot is the need for ongoing treatments. The collagen injection enlarges the G-spot for approximately 4 months. After that time has passed, the collagen deposit is absorbed into the body. To experience the benefit of the G-Shot perpetually, a woman is required to have the procedure performed every 4 months. At $1,800 per injection, the price of sexual fulfillment (which arguably can be easily achieved by developing fundamental sexual skills) can be substantial.

Alternatives To The G-Shot

Many women (and their partners) are stunned to discover the high cost of the G-Shot injections. The need for ongoing treatments makes the procedure even less attractive. However, there are alternatives. Most sex therapists agree that enlarging the G-spot artificially by injecting the area with collagen is not only unnecessary for sexual ecstasy; it’s also unhealthy.

They argue that the body is meant to function sexually without the use of such injections. By developing sufficient sexual skills, most women can achieve powerful G-spot orgasms naturally.

Rather than relying upon a costly invasive procedure, men and women should instead devote time to improving their lovemaking abilities. Men should talk with their partners and identify where the G-spot is located. They should also know which sexual positions are most likely to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. Improving their dexterity and endurance should also be priorities.

Women should take the time to refine their own sexual performance in the bedroom. That includes learning to move their bodies in a way that allows men to hit their G-spot easily.

An Invasive Procedure Is Not The Answer

If a woman is not able to achieve a G-spot orgasm, she should communicate with her partner. Often, the issue lies in her partner’s lack of sexual prowess. That’s also where the solution should be found. That is, her partner can easily learn the ability to stimulate her G-spot.

An invasive procedure like the G-Shot isn’t necessary. Formidable sexual skills can be developed by any man. Once those skills are developed, he can help a woman achieve orgasms on demand.

G-Shot Versus Better Love Making Skills

Many people argue that receiving the G-Shot injection precludes either partner from having to spend time learning the necessary sexual skills. Specifically, a man doesn’t need to learn anything to satisfy the woman. But, that perspective poses 3 problems.

First, using the G-Shot as a means of achieving sexual fulfillment is inconsistent with our bodies’ natural ability to function sexually. In truth, every man and woman should develop sexual proficiency.

Second, relying upon the G-Shot injection could mean spending $1,800 every 4 months (that’s $5400 per year) into the foreseeable future. While that may seem like a workable solution at first, it may be prohibitively costly after a few treatments.

Third, if a couple decides to go their separate ways, neither will have developed the necessary sexual skills for future partners’ satisfaction.

Knowing The Risks And Costs

Making an informed decision requires having enough information. Unfortunately, much is unknown about the G-Shot. There has been no apparent double blind study conducted. Plus, the long-term side effects of undergoing repeated collagen treatments in the vaginal wall has not yet been determined.

The G-Shot injection is a “quick fix” solution to a problem that involves deeper symptoms. Some may liken it to a costly band-aid that forever needs to be replaced.

In the end, the choice is yours. Many people will continue to choose the G-Shot as a “quick fix” solution to their lack of sexual fulfillment (despite the ongoing expense and lack of information about long-term health impacts).

That said, developing the sexual skills you need to please every partner would make the G-Shot irrelevant. In truth, being able to find and hit your partner’s G-spot every time is a simple skill to develop. And it can pay off for the rest of your life.

Frustrated Girl Still Can’t Orgasm!

By loveandsex

For some women, it is extremely hard to have an orgasm. Many of the things that work for most women just don’t seem to cut it with others. If you’re one of the women who can’t seem to climax, it can be extremely frustrating.

The cause could be from having too much stress and tension to having an emotional block that just won’t let you go over the edge. It is important to really try and find the source of these issues and if need be, seek help from a sex therapist.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

For years I have been trying to have and orgasm, but nothing ever happens. No matter how much I try, I don’t seem to be able to do it!

Can you please help me what should I do? I have tried so many things. Please help.

–Jemma, Australia

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Taking care of the problem on your own

Before you go packing your bags to see the therapist, try doing a few things on your own to see if you can solve the dilemma. Try relaxing before sexual activity by doing stretching, yoga, or even meditating as this can help calm the mind and may make your body more receptive to climax. Masturbation with or without toys is often the key for a woman to learn how she likes to be touched to reach an orgasm, so it’s important to try masturbation if you haven’t yet.

Both masturbation and oral sex can actually be a very useful way of stimulating the clitoris, which can result in a very satisfying orgasm. Various lotions and lubricants can also be used to help reduce friction and some lotions can actually enhance sexual arousal and sensations to help you orgasm. There are also a number of herbal supplements that can help stimulate blood flow to improve feeling and sensitivity in the sexual organs to better help you reach your climax.

Getting professional help

If you have tried everything you can think of and still can’t reach an orgasm, you should seek help from a professional. A sex therapist is a better bet than your regular physician, although your physician can check you physically to make sure there’s not a problem that is keeping you from having an orgasm. Sex therapists have undergone training in the field of sexual complications and are better equipped to help you with an inability to climax.

Build trust with your sex therapist

If it is an emotional issue, make sure you build trust with your sex therapist so you can feel more at ease about disclosing intimate details. Your sex therapist can help you work through your emotional problems and help you learn to relieve tension so you can be more open to receiving an orgasm.

Relaxation is key

Relaxation is one of the prime keys to achieving orgasm. You have to be comfortable with yourself and your partner and you have to be comfortable with your partner enough to explore many different methods of reaching orgasm.

Foreplay is another important keystone because it helps to “warm up” the body in preparation for sexual activity. Try having extended foreplay to see if that helps to entice your body into opening up enough to reach climax.

Most of all, don’t be embarrassed to try new things that you might think are different. If you close yourself off from these options then you simply narrow your list of available methods of reaching an orgasm. If nothing seems to be working, then try something you might normally try.

Of course, if the issue is emotional then there might not be any method that works other than taking time to work through the issue with a sex therapist. If you are truly unsure of what to do, it’s time to consult the professionals.