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Hand Job Tips – A Few Tid Bits On How To Work Your Man’s “Bits”

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Ask most men and they will admit that YES, they have experienced a bad hand job or a bad blow job and of course – everyone has likely had the odd lack-lustre sexual experience. I remember prior to having any sexual expertise under my belt, I referred to a friend who literally wrote me out her ‘tips’ on a piece of paper. Years and experiences later I know realize how valuable those pointers were. Since I believe in continuous learning, I figured I’d share my ‘style’ and perhaps it will contain some little tips for you to put on paper – or better yet, into practice!

Giving A Hand Job

Let us begin with the hand job. Simple as it may sound, being good at this technique means paying a LOT of attention to the reactions he gives you. Of course, every man is different and may like things done in certain ways. My input here carries the weight of having had some experience and some excellent feedback!!

First off, do NOT assume it’s a pull toy – the preferred motion is stroking ‘towards’ his body. From what I know most guys want to experience the same sort of movement from your hands or mouth as they would as if you were having intercourse. Of course there is the standard back and forth jerking that most people know. Now, learn to master that with JUST the right amount of grip (I say imagine holding a peeled banana – lightly enough so you don’t smush it at all but firm enough that you’ll have some banana residue on your hands afterwards).

Once that step has been established it’s time to add the ‘twist’. Imagine grasping your forearm and massaging in a twisting motion, this should be a good indication of the tension you are looking for. If your delivery of the twist contains too much grip it could cause your man to wince in pain instead of pleasure. So, if this is your first attempt at the twist then gradually work your grip – pay CLOSE attention to his response – when he looks to be in ecstasy – THAT’S your sweet spot – this is the grip you want – make a mental note.

Taking It To The Next Level

To take this step to the next level work the back and forth motion with a slight twist and you’ve got a move that will make men drool. Advanced hand jobbers can apply the second hand to this motion – starting in the middle of the shaft and working the hands in a twisting motion base to tip and back to the middle again..(imagine every so lightly wringing out a wet cloth, similar idea here). If he’s not in love, he will be lol! All of these moves are enhanced with the use of lube or saliva as well!

With all of these ‘moves’ I suggest starting slow and gradually building up speed – keep in mind this is not a race though, nor do most people desire these motions to be delivered with super speed. In other words, guys and girls tend to like a ramp up to speed when it comes to being digitally pleasured. Ask for feedback ‘is that good?’ ‘do you want it faster or slower?’ – knowing what your partner enjoys is vital!! Plus, say it in a sexy voice and that just adds to the allure.

What About Blow Jobs?

Regarding blow jobs, from what I’ve heard one of the biggest complaints that men have about receiving a bad blow job (sounds like an oxymoron but it does exist lol!) is that some women suck too hard. When giving a blow job use finesse, keep it wet and loose and ALWAYS bring in the tongue play. Never get into Hoover mode – save that for the hickeys alone! Always remember, soft and wet, take it in, continue to work your hands at the base creating continuous motion.

To drive him over the edge, work your tongue just under the tip, this is one of the most sensitive areas for men guaranteed to drive him wild! One of my signature moves is slow slippery circles of my tongue just under the tip. Most guys love the idea of a woman being able to take him into her mouth deeply. Relax your mouth and once in a while go as far down as you can. Whether you reach the baseline or not, the attempt will be greatly appreciated!! Another no-no would be the use of teeth when giving a blow job. It takes a skilled woman to know how to successfully and ‘ever-so-feather-lightly’ use her teeth when giving a blow job. If you do cross that line be on guard for any and every flinch!

Most guys also LOVE a good lick job. Incorporate this with your blow job skills and you’re away to the races! Lick his shaft and tip as if you were licking an ice cream cone. Up and down, all around the sides – he will be quivering with excitement!

Getting Into The “Nether” Regions

Anyone giving tips regarding how to give a good hand job or blow job would be remiss if they left out the added bonus of working your man’s testicles, or ‘boys’ as I like to call them.. Now, if there is one thing you need to know about the ‘boys’ it’s that they are extremely sensitive so whatever attention you give to them needs to be done with that in mind. A feather light touch goes a long way when it comes to the ‘boys’. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn’t love to have some attention paid to them though.

Be it a caress or a slippery lick, if it’s gentle, it’s good! I do however, have a move – that when executed correctly can be very intense for your fella. When giving a blow job or hand job I use my other hand to gently pull my thumb down the middle of the scrotum between the testicles and hold it there. This causes the skin on the shaft to pull down creating even more intensity at the tip while tightening up the skin around the ‘boys’ thus making them even more sensitized. A little side note here, if your guy ‘manscapes’ (a.k.a. shaves) his ‘boys’ then you know he likely desires you to venture down there for some extended play.

Hopefully this gives you some ideas on how to work your man. It’s a good place to start anyway.. never forget though, pay attention to the reactions you get, ask what they like and be attentive. Communication is key to the best sex life you can have!

Be A Better Lover: How To Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm During Sex

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If you’re in an intimate relationship with a woman, the one skill that you definitely should have is being a great lover. Sure, relationships are not merely based on sex – but the intimacy that you have does play a big part in how well you get along with each other, in and out of the bedroom.

So what does it take to be a better lover? Should you always sacrifice your own pleasure in order to give her a toe curling orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon? If she’s the type of a woman who’s wild or experimental in bed, how can you keep up and make sure that your skills as a lover will match hers? On the other hand, if she’s a bit timid – how can you make her open up so that you’ll have a better sex life overall?

Read on to find out exactly how you can be a better lover and learn about the techniques that will make your girlfriend orgasm during sex.

Understanding What Makes Women Orgasm In The First Place

The first thing that you need to learn about in order to be a better lover in your girlfriend’s eyes is to understand what makes women orgasm in the first place. Some women are lucky to have the ability to experience multiple orgasms. However, there are some who have difficulties achieving orgasm even once in their life.

Let’s say that it is your first time to have sex with a woman whom you plan building a long-term relationship with. Don’t get frustrated if you fail to give her the orgasm of her life the first time that you tangle the sheets together. Sometimes, there should be a deeper level of connection first between a man and a woman for the sex to be described as mind blowing.

To get a head start in playing the role of a great lover who’s capable of giving his girlfriend multiple orgasms, here are a few basic things that you need to master:

1. Learn about the art of foreplay.

There’s no doubt that a ‘quickie’ is a fun and exciting to have sex – but having a long winded foreplay is equally important and extremely pleasurable for most women. This is especially true for women who have problems producing natural lubrication in their vaginas prior to intercourse. When you indulge in a long, luxurious foreplay, you will be able to show your girlfriend just how important it is for you to give her pleasure.

2. Learn about what turns her on.

Put her at ease, give her time to adjust to you and learn what turns her on. To be a masterful lover, you need to be attuned to a woman’s sexual needs and learning about what turns her on sexually is a great way to start.

At the end of the day, what it all boils down to is that as a lover, men should be sensitive enough to learn about a woman’s sexual needs instead of always taking their own pleasure into account first.

Tips On How To Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm During Sex

Now, whether your girlfriend is a cool cucumber or a hot performer in bed, there are techniques that you can learn in order to make her orgasm during sex. For this, it helps to go back to the basics and learn what the role of the clitoris is to a woman’s sexual pleasure.

For the most part, women have trouble reaching orgasm through penetration alone. If you want to give her that toe curling sensation during intercourse, then you can add some clitoral stimulation just when you’re on the verge of reaching climax yourself. Or you can encourage her to stimulate her clitoris. Not only is the image of her pleasuring herself extremely erotic for the both of you, but it is also bound to help her orgasm during intercourse.

Another important skill in bed that you should be good at is cunnilingus. Again, a lot of women fail to orgasm during penetration and this is when oral sex comes into play. Once you master the art of giving her some oral love, you’re bound to give her multiple orgasms no matter how many hours that you spend in bed.

One other thing that you can try is to experiment with different positions so that your girlfriend can reach orgasm during sex. Try doing the side-by-side position while she makes a circular motion with her vagina while your penis is fully inside her. Utter words of encouragement so that she can rub her clitoris against your erection or move her pelvis in a way that feels good for her.

All in all, sex should be an extremely pleasurable experience for the both of you – and once you have mastered the art of making your girlfriend orgasm during intercourse, your sex life will surely soar to great heights.

Send Her To A Cloud Of Pleasure: How To Hit The G-Spot During Sex

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Have you ever wondered what the buzz about a woman’s G-spot is all about? When it comes to the sexual pleasures that a man can bring to a woman, giving her a G-spot orgasm is probably like winning the lottery.

This is because the sensitivity of the nerve endings on a woman’s G-spot is comparable to the sensitivity of the penis head where all the sexual pleasure is centered. The problem is that the G-spot is something which is pretty difficult to locate. Read on to find out more about how you can hit the jackpot by targeting a woman’s ultimate pleasure zone: her G-spot.

All About The G-Spot

Let’s not go into the technical details of what the G-spot is all about. What matters is that a man should know how important it is to locate this seemingly elusive spot because it is considered to be the Holy Grail of a woman’s sexual pleasure.

So basically, your first goal in giving her a G-spot orgasm is to actually locate the G-spot. Whether you’re using your penis or your middle finger to reach the G-spot, it should be located about a couple of inches up her vaginal opening, inside the vaginal wall. When trying to stimulate the G-spot, you do need to take the time to prepare her with a lot of foreplay to make sure that she’s ready for it.

You can either use a stroking or a tapping motion once you come in contact with that rough, bean-shaped tissue on the vaginal wall. To make sure that she’s extracting the most pleasure out of your G-spot stimulation, communication is the key.

Ask her if you’re going for the right spot or if you’re stroking her the right way. If she’s not the type to go all chatty in bed, just be sensitive enough to watch how her pupils dilate and how her body reacts when you reach down there.

A Variety of Positions Which Target The G-Spot During Sex

As mentioned earlier, there are a couple of ways for you to stimulate the G-spot. You can either do a manual stimulation and bring her to a G-spot orgasm using your fingers – or, you can target the G-spot during intercourse with your penis. The second option is more of a challenge because the G-spot is pretty difficult to locate manually in the first place.

However, if your goal is to send your partner to a mind-blowing orgasm during sex by targeting your G-spot, there are suitable sexual positions that you can do for this. Take a look at the following list of sex positions that you can experiment with:

1. Woman On Top Position

Since you are targeting the woman’s G-spot anyway, why not allow her to take charge? With the woman on top position, she can control the speed, depth and intensity of the penetration. She can also stimulate her own clitoris while targeting the G-spot at the same time.

Since you’ll be the one lying on your back in this position, the best way to target her G-spot and make her have a mind blowing orgasm is by tilting your pelvis in such a way that this ultimate pleasure zone will be stimulated. Again, remember to indulge in a long-winded foreplay before getting into the woman on top position so that she can be prepared for the best G-spot orgasm, as well as the ride of her life!

2. Rear Entry Position

There’s definitely something about the rear entry or doggy style position which feels primal and sexy, especially from a man’s point of view. When you take a woman from behind, it feels as if you’re living a sexual fantasy of primitive proportions.

At the same time, the rear entry position is as good a position as any to target her G-spot. While you’re on the doggy style position, you can place your legs outside of her as you put more of your weight forward. This way, your penis will be on a downward angle as it is buried deep inside her vagina – it’s a surefire way to target her G-spot and give her a toe curling orgasm.

3. Other G-Spot Targeting Positions

You can also try the sex position wherein you will kneel or stand, while her legs is placed on your shoulders. This is a position where you can look at each other’s eyes and touch other parts of each other’s body while stimulating the G-spot at the same time.

Try out these sex positions and you’ll have her experiencing a G-spot orgasm in no time at all!

How To Turn Your Sex Life From Good To Great!

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Toe-curling, mind-blowing, earth shattering – can you use these phrases to describe your sex life? For a couple who is just starting out in a relationship, the sexual chemistry should still be sizzling hot during the first few months that you have been together. But over time, the familiarity that you have with each other may lead your sex life to become routine, stale – or in other words, boring – and nobody wants to have that!

So if you want to convert your sex life from being good to great, you need to exert some effort in order to keep the fire burning.

Discover New Places to Have Sex

If the only thing that you see when you get naked is the four walls of your bedroom, then you’re not being adventurous enough when it comes to the places that you’re having sex. Sure, there’s the typical getting it on in your shower, bathtub or at the back of your car – but there are some other, newer venues that you can use to ramp up your sex life.

For example, check out all the other rooms in your house and see where else you could have sex. Surprise your husband or boyfriend by making a delectable ‘feast’ out of him while you’re sneaking in the kitchen to have some midnight snack.

The stairs, the roomy coat closet, the garage – these little nooks and crannies in your house are great quick sex setting potentials. And the possibility of someone finding you out adds to the steamy sexual exploration.
If you haven’t already done so, you can surprise your significant other by making a random visit at his office to bring over some lunch – and a short but steamy booty call at his desk, computer chair or even on the floor.

On his exercise bench, in the great outdoors, on a moving train, on the golf course or the hood of a car – just let your imagination run wild and you’ll surely come up with inventive places where you can have great sex!

More Tips on How You can Have Great Sex

Now that you’ve already been oriented on how you can up the ante in your sex life by discovering new places where you can get it on, what other things should you remember so that your sessions in the sack can be sizzling hot once again? Here are a few tips worth remembering:

1. Always live in the present

If they feel that their partners are not satisfied with their sex lives anymore, men usually have a performance anxiety. Was it good for her? Will I come too soon? Did she just fake having an orgasm so that my ego won’t get hurt?

If you obsess over these details even before you have sex and all you’re thinking about is pursuing an orgasm, the results will be pretty bad. Live in the moment, forget about your sex-oriented goals and just allow things to steam up and great sex will happen.

2. Live out your sexual fantasies

One of the best ways to vamp up your sessions in the sack with your significant other is by living out your sexual fantasies. Not only will you both have a novel experience when you live out your deepest, darkest sexual fantasies, but it provides additional benefits as well.

First, putting yourself literally in another person’s shoes – whether it’s a nurse, a prissy schoolteacher or a French maid – will allow you to let go of your inhibitions. Second, sexual fantasies will connect you and your lover on a deeper, more intimate level.

3. Take a cue from porn stars

Now, this isn’t about imitating the body bending tricks that adult stars use while having exaggerated sex in their movies – although it’s recommended that you try them out from time to time.

The cue that you should take from them is their enthusiasm about getting it on. The way that they’re having guilt-free sex and how they’re not conscious about their bodies at all is exactly the attitude that you should take in your own bedroom. This way, you can take charge of your own sex life and turn it from being ‘blah’ to earth shattering.

3 Reasons Why Men Need To Become Better Lovers

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“Was it good for her?” This is just one of the many questions which most men are hesitant to voice out after a session in the sack. Unless you’ve had rave reviews about how much of a stud you are in bed from the women you slept with in the past, it is but natural to have these insecurities.

The Top Three Reasons Why Men Need to Become a Better Lover

To start right off, let us take a look at the top three reasons why men need to become a better lover:

1. Do away with boredom in the bedroom.

Let’s say that you and your girlfriend have been going out for quite some time now. The longer that you and a woman have been together, the more comfortable you will be with seeing each other’s bodies in your birthday suit. This comfort factor can be the bane of your intimate relationship, because that’s when boredom in the bedroom occurs.
If you don’t want that special woman in your life to leave you because your sex life is not something to rave about anymore, then you should do your part in making sure that your skills as a lover is improved.

Basically, the best way to revitalize your sex life is to relive the ‘newness’ of your relationship. You can become a better lover by determining which aspect of your sex life needs improvement.
You may need to refresh your knowledge of different sex positions because the missionary and woman-on-top variations have suddenly grown old. If there’s even a doubt in your mind that she is faking her orgasms, the best way to prevent her from not doing it again is to be adept with your oral loving skills.

Or, you might just need to change the pace of your lovemaking. It could be that you’re lacking in foreplay – or you’re not giving her enough of a rush by indulging in quickies. No matter which aspects of your sex life it is that can do with an improvement, find ways to work on them so that you can be a better lover.

2. Stop suffering from humiliating experiences from women.

If you think that humiliation in the eyes of one woman that you’ve had bad sex with is the only embarrassment that you’ll suffer from if you are a bad lover, think again. For example, if you’ve slept with a woman who’s working in the same building as yours and you had really bad sex during that one time that you’ve gathered the courage to ask her out.

Word about how bad you are in the sack could leak, until it reaches such a point that you cannot ride the elevator anymore without getting odd glances from women who might have heard about your lack of skill in bed.
This is just one of the worst case scenarios that you can experience if you don’t become proactive enough in bettering your skills as a lover.

3. Be a ‘master lover’ in your own right.

Now, this is the exact opposite of the previous entry. Once your skills in bed are improved, you can become a master lover in your own right. You can make women have orgasm two, three, four or even five times a night! You can make them return the favor because you’re so good at giving her some oral love. You can have sex anytime you want to.

It doesn’t even matter whether you have a below average, average or above average-sized penis. Knowing what turns women on and how to use her multiple erogenous zones at your disposal is the best way to become a better lover than you already are.

A Final Word about Becoming a Better Lover

The possibilities that you can learn about how to be a better lover is practically endless. Kissing, foreplay, oral sex, stimulating her clitoris and G-spot – these are just some areas of your lovemaking skills that you can improve on.

At the end of the day, it’s important to acknowledge that there is always room for improvement when it comes to your lovemaking skills – so bring out those “How to be a Better Lover” guide books, brush up on your techniques and be the best lover that you can be!