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Are You Making This Critical Sex Mistake? (Orgasm Tips)

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Making this critical sex mistake can easily wreck the sex life of you and your partner. There are so many guys that think they know exactly what their partners want and how they want it, but find out halfway through a two-year relationship that they have no idea what turns on their wife or girlfriend.

If you don’t know that there are different kinds of orgasms your girl can have then you’re in for a rude awakening. The g-spot, the clitoris, and deep spot are the 3 most common places for women to have orgasms.

No woman is the same, which means that you must cater to her needs with the type of orgasm that you give her. If you’re making this critical sex mistake, here are 3 orgasm tips to help you energize your sex life and give her exactly what she wants.

Orgasm Tip #1: Get It Right With Clitoral Stimulation

Clitoral stimulation is one of the most often misunderstood aspects of bringing a woman to orgasm with men. Guys tend to overwork the clitoris throughout intercourse to the point that they can make the woman sore. The clitoris is made up of thousands of nerve endings and once a woman reaches orgasm the sensitivity can be too much to take. If the woman reaches orgasm before the guy, it can even be uncomfortable to have sex.

Make sure that your fingers are lubricated with spit or lube before you touch her clitoris. If you are rubbing it during sex, start slow and gauge her breaths or moaning based on how hard your rub it and the frequency to which you move your fingers. Too much stimulation and you will make her uncomfortable. Too little and she’ll be wondering what you’re doing. Get it right and she will never leave you.

Orgasm Tip #2: Finding The G-Spot

There are a ton of guys that swear they know where the g-spot is, but ask their wives or girlfriends and they will tell you that their partners get it wrong 100% of the time. The g-spot orgasm can be the most intensive orgasm that a woman has so it’s important to know what you’re doing. Finding it can be the difference between making her reach climax within a few minutes and never giving her an orgasm.

Finding the g-spot is not difficult if you know her anatomy. The g-spot is located about 2 inches inside her vagina. Enter your finger palm-side up and motion to “come here” with your index and middle finger. You should feel something spongy on the inside and you will feel her start to grind with her pelvis. Once you find the g-spot she should start to get very wet very quickly so be ready for this.

The missionary position is excellent for hitting her g-spot during sex. Bend your body back a little so your penis is going in at a steeper angle to rub the tip against her g-spot. If you’re having trouble hitting her g-spot during sex, ask her to help you get the angle right. She should be more than willing to give you some advice.

Orgasm #3: Going With The Deep Spot

While the g-spot gets all the recognition, the deep spot is really that can separate you from the pack. There aren’t too many guys that know about the deep spot and this can help you make your mark on any girl. The thing that you have to watch out for is the cervix. When you are trying to give her an orgasm, brushing against the cervix can quickly kill the mood.

Use your middle finger for the deep spot. You probably won’t be able to reach this with any other fingers, but luckily, you won’t have to. Your middle finger is going to be more than enough to get the job done. Use some lube when you are trying to reach the deep spot so you do not irritate the inside of her vagina. Insert your finger as far as it will go and then bend your finger back and forth with light pressure.

She should respond very quickly when you are doing it correctly. If you aren’t doing it correctly you might need some help. Guys with smaller hands might find this technique a little difficult, but with the right amount of practice you will get it. Hitting the deep spot during sex should not be that difficult unless you have a penis that is less than 5 inches long. Simply go in as far as you can go and start grind upward in small movements.

How To Seduce A Man In 1 Night

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Read this short guide to learn how to seduce a man in one night.

Seducing a man is not all that difficult if you know what you’re doing. Men are sex-hungry so getting him into bed isn’t going to be all that hard. However, if you really want the sex to be good, you need to follow a few steps. Men that are instantly given the opportunity to take you into the bedroom are more likely to give you the old wam, bam, thank you ma’am and leave. If you want to have great sex with a good emotional connection, you can do this by following these simple steps.

Decide If He’s The Right Guy To Seduce

Seducing a man is going to have consequences. If you’re going to use this opportunity to get him into bed you need to make sure that he’s worth it. Although women are known to get clingy, the same can be said about men. The last thing that you want is some guy that you have no connection with calling you 20 times a day.

Decide if you really want a relationship with him or if you just want a little fun. If you think that you could have something special, do not try to seduce him in a single night. A relationship is much more meaningful than one night of great sex and you could be missing out on a great thing.

Start Out In A Dark Place

If you’re going to seduce a man in one night you need to start out in an intimate setting. Dark bars with cool music are great for setting the scene. Try to find a place that isn’t that crowded or loud so you can have a good conversation. Many women find that going to overly crowded clubs only delays an emotional connection.

If you’re trying to seduce him you need to be able to talk to him. Low lighting and soft music is enough to get any guy in the mood, but being in a place where he can’t tear your clothes off is going to naturally set up sexual tension. He’s going to want to take you into the bathroom or right on the table, but he can’t. Use this strategy to set up the natural barriers.

Have A 2nd Place To Go To

The thing about seduction is that it’s hard to do it in one place. When you have a second location you will be building the connection between the two of you. Men and women feel much more comfortable with each other when they have experienced different things together.

Psychologically speaking, men are going to feel a bigger connection to you when they have been to 2 or 3 different places rather than a 3 hour conversation in a bar. The connection should have already be laid out by the first location. Now that attraction has been built, it’s time to show him your fun side. Pick a more crowded bar or a place that he has to get closer to you to talk.

Touch Him

There are a lot of signs that women can use to show a guy that she’s interested in a physical relationship, but touch him is going to be the one that gets the best response. Touching his arm while he talks or grabbing his hand on the street is something that guys know.

Don’t play games with him. The last thing that you want when you’re trying to seduce a man is a mixed signal. Make it clear that you want him and he will pick up on it very quickly. He wants you to want to be with him so touching will only reinforce what you actually want.

Go Back To His Place

Going back to his place is one of the best moves that you can make. There are a few reasons why you want to go back to his place over you own. The first is that you can leave if things don’t work out. The second is that you won’t have to push him out the door the next morning when you just want to sleep.

Making a calculated decision to sleep with him requires forethought and taking him back to your place could be a recipe for disaster. If he gets clingy and knows where you live you could have to deal with unexpected knocks on your door. Don’t fall into this trap. Always go back to his place and you’ll be in the clear.

What He Really Wants In Bed – How To Decode His Bedroom Behavior

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Men can be extremely cryptic with what they want in bed. Some men get very embarrassed talking about what they like when it comes to sex, while others will openly admit to being a freak. If you find that your boyfriend or husband is hard to read in the sack, there are a few things that you can take notice of to truly make him happy. Decoding bedroom behavior is not as hard as it sounds when you take a keen eye to what he does and how acts when you do certain things in the bedroom. Here is a short guide to help you along the way.

During Sex He Likes You On Top

When a guy likes a girl on top he’s most likely a submissive at heart. When the girl is on top she has control of the movements and the thrust of the penis. She is also in a dominant position over the man, making her seem like the person in charge.

If your guy really likes when you’re on top he secretly wants to be dominated.  This doesn’t mean that you have to break out the chains and whips, but being more aggressive and telling him to do what you like is really going to turn him on. Men that like to be dominated find it sexy for a girl to have confidence in the bedroom and order them around a little bit. Try this out the next time you have sex and you will see what a difference it makes in the way he responds to you.

During Sex He Likes To Be On Top

A guy that likes to be on top is going to be much more dominant than a guy that likes to be on the bottom. A guy that is on top is traditionally the more dominant figure in the relationship. He can control the situation, control how much you move and control the thrust of the penis.

If your guy likes to be on top he would probably like to add a little more to the mix. Consider using dirty talk during sex to make him feel more like a man. Guys that are dominant get very turned on when women fulfill their fantasy of being a powerful lover. Make the sex more passionate when he’s on top and you will find that he is much happier with your sex life.

He Insists On Doggy Style Sex Every Time

Here’s one that you need to watch out for. Doggy Style is a great sex position for women because it puts the penis at a very unique angle in their vagina. However, if the guy is always insisting on Doggy Style he might not be that into you. Doggy Style is an extremely impersonal sex position that doesn’t allow for much passion or intimacy.

If your guy is always trying to get you into this position you might need to reconsider the reason he is with you. There are a lot of positions where can enjoy the backward view and you shouldn’t be relegated to an object every time you have sex with your partner.

He Gets Offended When You Don’t Orgasm

This can be a real drag on the relationship. A guy that gets offended when you don’t reach climax with him can be annoying and lead to you faking your orgasms. You should never have to fake your orgasm with a partner in order to make him happy.

A guy that easily gets offended when you don’t orgasm with him has very little self-confidence. The reason that he gets offended is because the fact that you’re not reaching climax just reiterates his lack of self-esteem. Men like this have a very hard time understanding why you have not come with him. Reaching out and telling him that you are happy with your sex life is the best way to help him through his lack of confidence.

He Won’t Give You Oral Sex

There are a lot of reasons that a guy won’t give a girl oral sex.

The first reason is that the girl does not use proper hygiene on her vagina. While this might not be true for every woman that has tried to shove their husband’s face downtown, it can be said for a lot.

The second reason that a guy won’t give his girl oral sex is because he’s selfish. He simply wants to get off and does not care about the girl. The last reason is that he doesn’t think that she enjoys it when he does it. Notice I said when he does it and not a general statement of her not liking it by anybody. Tell him that you love when he gives you oral sex and you will get a lot more.

How To Convince Your Girl to Make A Sex Video

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How to get her to make a sex video for you? This is a question that almost every guy on the planet has pondered at point or another during a relationship. Homemade porn can be a huge turn on for guys and girls, but getting your girlfriend, wife or “friend” to make a porno with or for you can be like pulling teeth if you don’t approach her the right way.

There are a lot of girls that will find this extremely hot, but for others, there are many issues that you’re going to have to discuss before hand. Making sure that your girl feels comfortable is only the beginning.

Here is a short guide on how to get her to make a sex video for you.

Address The Issue Head On

The first thing that you have to do when you are bringing this up with your girl is addressing the issue head on. How is she supposed to know that a homemade sex video is something that you would enjoy? Yes, this would turn on most guys, but you should bring it up with your girl so that she knows it’s something that you would like to explore with her. She might have even thought about this at one point or another herself so you need to discuss it honestly. Many women fantasize about seeing themselves on video with their lover so keep this mind if you’re afraid of rejection.

Deal With Digital Age Concerns

We live in a digital age. With everything from cell phones to tablets to the innovation inside our desktop computers, almost every girl is going to have the same concern. “What if it gets on the Internet?”

This is going to come up and you need to be prepared when you are trying to get her to make a sex video for you. Whether you are just trying to get her to masturbate for you on camera or you want to be in the video yourself, the concern is legitimate and you have to reassure your girl that it’s only going to be for private use.

Don’t even joke about putting her sex video on the Internet or she is going to lock up and you will never your have your fantasy fulfilled.

Talk About What Will Be On The Video

If there is anything that a girl is going to be more concerned with than having the video hit the net, it’s what’s going to be on the video. Some girls are going to have to work their way up to the total package. She may want to start off with a handjob or a blowjob before she puts intercourse on digital record.

Talk to your girl before you even hit that record button and she will be much more open about everything. Don’t pressure her into going all the way the first time. She might be testing you to make sure that you’re responsible enough to have a video of her performing sexual acts.

Get The Right Equipment

One of the biggest problems with making a homemade sex video is the fact that people don’t have the right equipment. While cellphone cameras are becoming more and more advanced, it’s kind of hard to get crystal clear images when you’re holding a 4-inch device in your hand.

If she’s going to make a sex video she’s going to want to the look as good as she can with the right angles. She going to want the video to reflect her in the best way possible and you can’t really do that if you’re holding a phone in your hand during the entire process. Consider using the webcam from your computer over a cell phone camera or buy a real camera with a tripod for stability. If you’re going to do it, do it right!

Give Every Copy Of Your Sex Video To Her

It’s so easy for people to share information nowadays that you shouldn’t even trust yourself with a copy of your girlfriend having sex on video. Make the video and then burn it to a DVD. After you have burned it to a physical disc, delete every digital copy that you have the video. This is going to put her at ease and could possibly lead to future videos. Having the footage on a physical disc can squash any concerns that the video will make it to the Internet, coworkers, friends or even an unsuspecting family member.

3 Sure-Fire Ways To Completely Win Him Over

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If you’re worried about FOREVER being stuck in the friend-zone worry no more! Because I’m going to share with you 3 sure-fire ways to completely win him over so he can start treating you like the Princess you are.

Whether you work together, have been friends since childhood, or just met at the bar, I guarantee that if you use these techniques on men they are going to look at you with different eyes. Sexy eyes.

So let’s get started!

Create Memories Together

While going out for a night of drinking can be fun, it can also be easily forgotten. The kind of memories I’m talking about are more like mini-adventures …spontaneous events that will stick out in his mind for the rest of his life. Something that will make YOU seem unique from all the other women in his life.

How do you do this? Do something crazy, something out of the blue. It could be something insane like going skinny-dipping somewhere forbidden, or something tamer like trying a new exotic restaurant. Be creative! The point is, if he has fun with you and you keep surprising him, he’s going to want to stick around because he won’t know what’s going to happen next. Speed dial here you come!

Be Mysterious

Guys love a challenge. And there’s no harder or more exciting challenge than when a women is mysterious.

Now I’m not saying you need to go all Batman / Bruce Wayne on him, but what I am saying is that women who are predictable just aren’t as exciting for most men to be around. If you do the same thing as every other woman, he’s going to treat you like every other woman.

The secret is to keep him from predicting your behavior. If you always keep him guessing he’s going to be all the more curious as to what you’re thinking about, and he’s going to try and spend all of his time figuring you out!

Make Him Feel Like A Man

Whether it’s mentally or physically men love to feel strong and powerful. It’s been ingrained into our DNA since the dawn of time. And there’s no better way for you to fuel that fire than to make him feel like your life is so much easier or safer when he’s around.

You see, men like to feel needed. They fantasize about rescuing a damsel in distress, and you can do it on a smaller scale. Don’t get me wrong, an independent woman is very sexy, but a guy likes to feel useful in the relationship. There’s a sense of pride a man gets when he does something a woman cannot. It might be reaching for something too high or simply opening a jar that’s too tight, but if you give men the impression that life is easier when he’s around, he’ll want to always be around.

And even if you could kick his ass PRETEND you feel safer when he’s around. This will boost his confidence which will satisfy the protector role he’s destined to fill. Stroking his ego by making him feel manly will make him feel a natural chemistry between you, so try it out!

Win Him Over

The whole point to a great relationship is being able to have fun together. In fact it’s being able to have MORE fun together than you have with anyone else. So if you aren’t creating scenarios for you and him to have fun together, there will be no chemistry for you and him to fall back on.

The best part about doing fun things and creating memories together is that they stick with him when you aren’t around. So not only will this make him smile and enjoy your times together, he’s going to be thinking about you constantly. Then EVERY time he’s sees you he’s going to feel more and more strongly about you.

Plus if you keep him guessing by doing things he doesn’t suspect his imagination is going to go WILD! A thing to remember about being mysterious around men is, don’t overdue it. Being vague to let his thoughts run wild is one thing, but teasing him and not answering any of his questions can be annoying. Offering unique questions and answers when you’re together WILL keep him interested.

When you combine dynamic questions with enthusiasm for his achievements you’re really going to stand out from every other woman he’s been around. Guys like to impress, so make him feel impressive. Just don’t act too impressed or he’ll want to show off to everyone else as well!

That’s it for today. Now go start practicing these techniques and having some fun!