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How To Play With HIS Nipples

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Playing with a man’s nipples might seem like a very strange thing to do in the bedroom, but there are a lot of guys that love this. The nipple is a very common erogenous zone on the female and male body. Knowing how to properly kiss, touch and such on his nipples can be something that sets you apart from all of his past lovers. Much like other body parts, nipples come in different sizes and shapes. If your boyfriend or husband wants you to play with his nipples you need to know how to do it the right way. Here is a short guide to help you along.

Sensitivity In The Nipples

A man’s nipple is much like a woman’s. There are going to be varying degrees of sensitivity in his nipples that will affect the amount of pleasure and pain that he feels. When you are to use this during sex you need to know what kind of sensitivity he has and how you can use this to your advantage. Some guys are really into rough sex so making it hurt a little could be a turn on. When you are rubbing or sucking on his nipples, don’t be afraid to get a little rough. See how he reacts when you take this type of approach. Smaller nipples are going to be a little more sensitive than larger ones so make sure that you are careful if your guy has a smaller set.

Ask Him What He Likes

There is no greater way to find out what he likes than to actually ask what he likes. Asking your man how he likes his nipples to be played with might take a little of the mystery out of the equation, but you’re taking the shortest route to finding out what he likes and how you can really turn him. Ask him to get specific when he tells you. Guys might be a little nervous at first, but encourage him that you’re not going to judge what he likes. Some men find it a little effeminate to talk about getting their nipples played with, but creating a comfortable environment without judgment should bring him out of his shell. Taking the time to make him more comfortable with you and what he wants is going to bring you both closer together.

Nipple Biting

Biting can be a turn on but like everything in life, too much is never a good thing. If your guy wants you to bite on his nipples, make sure that you aren’t biting him to hard or it will not only send him running out of the room, it’s also going to give him a less than pleasurable experience. If you do decide that this something you’re going to do to him, gauge his expressions. Is he giving you looks of desire or does it look like you’re torturing him? Being able to tell when he’s really enjoying something is not very difficult. He will probably tell you when you’re not doing something right or will let out a shrill. Watch him while you bite and you will be able to get it just right.

Variety

Nobody likes the same moves over and over again. When you are playing with his nipples make sure that you are putting a lot of variety into it. Pull on his nipples for a little bit and then let go. Kiss him or give him oral sex and then come and suck on them. The last thing that you want to do is give monotony. Men who like to have their nipples played with are very open minded so keep this in the forefront of your process when you are trying to get him turned on. Once he is turned on you will be able to go much further with your nipple play.

Extremes

There are going to be guys out there that want you to go to the extreme with their nipples. Be careful with this. Some guys think that they want you to do things and then once they’re done they realize that it was a bad idea. If he says he wants it, make sure that you ease into any extremes. Playing with a guy’s nipples are one thing but biting hard, slapping or pinching hard can cause bleeding and damage to his body. Don’t go to the extreme unless your guy tells you it’s alright. It’s always good practice to have a safe word for when it’s too much for him to handle. 😉

Test It! – Discreet At-Home STD Testing Kit

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Ok, sometimes we come across something pretty cool that we want to share with you and this is pretty cool – at-home STD testing! No more embarrassing or expensive doctor visits… So take just a minute to share this post and help a good cause!

Test It Foundation, a Washington nonprofit organization, plans to run a crowd-funding campaign on Indiegogo.com to raise money to research and develop an easy, affordable, and discreet at-home STD testing kit. This technology was developed through Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory and is capable of diagnosing six major sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs). Test It! also plans to partner with health organizations that serve 3rd world and developing countries to distribute this product around the world.

At-Home STD Testing KitTest It’s home STD testing kit will work in the same way as a pregnancy test, using a urine sample that shows a clear reaction if STDs are present. The STD test kit is projected to cost under $50, significantly cheaper than alternatives. Once developed, the kit should be available in major drugstores, where it can be easily and discreetly purchased. “Our goals are to develop this technology so that it is available to the general public and can be purchased at a drugstore or supermarket and to distribute this technology to third-world and developing countries where healthcare is not readily available,” says information officer Jacob Randall. The kit will screen for HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis, bacterial vaginosis, and herpes.

Advantages Of The Test It! At-Home STD Testing Kits

  • Small, easy-to-use, perfect for privacy considerations – rapid diagnosis – reduced feedback time – Lower medical costs for the patient
  • Utilizes easily accessible biological samples (urine) -Lower clinical costs for both patient and health care provider.
  • Uses lateral flow technology (similar to home pregnancy tests) – Simple, Cost-Effective to build – Lower production costs for the manufacturer.

Potential Applications Of The Test It! At-Home STD Testing Kits

  • Use in the privacy of the home.
  • Point-of-care diagnostic testing
  • Save on Doctor visit costs

Many people avoid STD screening due to their embarrassment or the associated expenses. As a result, the incidence of some infections have grown exponentially because people who are unaware of their infection inadvertently infect their sexual partners.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the US reported over 1.6 million STD cases in 2009, and this number is likely only a fraction of the total, since many infections go unreported and undiagnosed. Estimates suggest there are 1.9 million new cases every year, costing the US healthcare system $16.4 billion. A simple and affordable home STD testing kit will provide a convenient way to obtain instant results and will allow every sexually active adult to test themselves regularly.

Test It Foundation plans to distribute these STD tests to developing countries and to make them available to people who cannot afford STD screening at little or no cost. Test It is going to run a crowd-funding campaign on its website, as well as on indiegogo.com starting the first week of December. Many great perks such as being one of the first to own the home STD testing kit, along with fun “Safe is Sexy” t-shirts and apparel will be available along with custom Swiss watches for those that participate in the crowd-funding campaign.

Test It Foundation can be reached at www.testit.org as well as on Facebook at Test It STD kit and on Twitter.

For more information contact
Jacob Randall
Information Officer
Test It Foundation.
info@testitstdkit.com or
360-907-2631

How To Seduce A Man In 1 Night

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Read this short guide to learn how to seduce a man in one night.

Seducing a man is not all that difficult if you know what you’re doing. Men are sex-hungry so getting him into bed isn’t going to be all that hard. However, if you really want the sex to be good, you need to follow a few steps. Men that are instantly given the opportunity to take you into the bedroom are more likely to give you the old wam, bam, thank you ma’am and leave. If you want to have great sex with a good emotional connection, you can do this by following these simple steps.

Decide If He’s The Right Guy To Seduce

Seducing a man is going to have consequences. If you’re going to use this opportunity to get him into bed you need to make sure that he’s worth it. Although women are known to get clingy, the same can be said about men. The last thing that you want is some guy that you have no connection with calling you 20 times a day.

Decide if you really want a relationship with him or if you just want a little fun. If you think that you could have something special, do not try to seduce him in a single night. A relationship is much more meaningful than one night of great sex and you could be missing out on a great thing.

Start Out In A Dark Place

If you’re going to seduce a man in one night you need to start out in an intimate setting. Dark bars with cool music are great for setting the scene. Try to find a place that isn’t that crowded or loud so you can have a good conversation. Many women find that going to overly crowded clubs only delays an emotional connection.

If you’re trying to seduce him you need to be able to talk to him. Low lighting and soft music is enough to get any guy in the mood, but being in a place where he can’t tear your clothes off is going to naturally set up sexual tension. He’s going to want to take you into the bathroom or right on the table, but he can’t. Use this strategy to set up the natural barriers.

Have A 2nd Place To Go To

The thing about seduction is that it’s hard to do it in one place. When you have a second location you will be building the connection between the two of you. Men and women feel much more comfortable with each other when they have experienced different things together.

Psychologically speaking, men are going to feel a bigger connection to you when they have been to 2 or 3 different places rather than a 3 hour conversation in a bar. The connection should have already be laid out by the first location. Now that attraction has been built, it’s time to show him your fun side. Pick a more crowded bar or a place that he has to get closer to you to talk.

Touch Him

There are a lot of signs that women can use to show a guy that she’s interested in a physical relationship, but touch him is going to be the one that gets the best response. Touching his arm while he talks or grabbing his hand on the street is something that guys know.

Don’t play games with him. The last thing that you want when you’re trying to seduce a man is a mixed signal. Make it clear that you want him and he will pick up on it very quickly. He wants you to want to be with him so touching will only reinforce what you actually want.

Go Back To His Place

Going back to his place is one of the best moves that you can make. There are a few reasons why you want to go back to his place over you own. The first is that you can leave if things don’t work out. The second is that you won’t have to push him out the door the next morning when you just want to sleep.

Making a calculated decision to sleep with him requires forethought and taking him back to your place could be a recipe for disaster. If he gets clingy and knows where you live you could have to deal with unexpected knocks on your door. Don’t fall into this trap. Always go back to his place and you’ll be in the clear.

What He Really Wants In Bed – How To Decode His Bedroom Behavior

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Men can be extremely cryptic with what they want in bed. Some men get very embarrassed talking about what they like when it comes to sex, while others will openly admit to being a freak. If you find that your boyfriend or husband is hard to read in the sack, there are a few things that you can take notice of to truly make him happy. Decoding bedroom behavior is not as hard as it sounds when you take a keen eye to what he does and how acts when you do certain things in the bedroom. Here is a short guide to help you along the way.

During Sex He Likes You On Top

When a guy likes a girl on top he’s most likely a submissive at heart. When the girl is on top she has control of the movements and the thrust of the penis. She is also in a dominant position over the man, making her seem like the person in charge.

If your guy really likes when you’re on top he secretly wants to be dominated.  This doesn’t mean that you have to break out the chains and whips, but being more aggressive and telling him to do what you like is really going to turn him on. Men that like to be dominated find it sexy for a girl to have confidence in the bedroom and order them around a little bit. Try this out the next time you have sex and you will see what a difference it makes in the way he responds to you.

During Sex He Likes To Be On Top

A guy that likes to be on top is going to be much more dominant than a guy that likes to be on the bottom. A guy that is on top is traditionally the more dominant figure in the relationship. He can control the situation, control how much you move and control the thrust of the penis.

If your guy likes to be on top he would probably like to add a little more to the mix. Consider using dirty talk during sex to make him feel more like a man. Guys that are dominant get very turned on when women fulfill their fantasy of being a powerful lover. Make the sex more passionate when he’s on top and you will find that he is much happier with your sex life.

He Insists On Doggy Style Sex Every Time

Here’s one that you need to watch out for. Doggy Style is a great sex position for women because it puts the penis at a very unique angle in their vagina. However, if the guy is always insisting on Doggy Style he might not be that into you. Doggy Style is an extremely impersonal sex position that doesn’t allow for much passion or intimacy.

If your guy is always trying to get you into this position you might need to reconsider the reason he is with you. There are a lot of positions where can enjoy the backward view and you shouldn’t be relegated to an object every time you have sex with your partner.

He Gets Offended When You Don’t Orgasm

This can be a real drag on the relationship. A guy that gets offended when you don’t reach climax with him can be annoying and lead to you faking your orgasms. You should never have to fake your orgasm with a partner in order to make him happy.

A guy that easily gets offended when you don’t orgasm with him has very little self-confidence. The reason that he gets offended is because the fact that you’re not reaching climax just reiterates his lack of self-esteem. Men like this have a very hard time understanding why you have not come with him. Reaching out and telling him that you are happy with your sex life is the best way to help him through his lack of confidence.

He Won’t Give You Oral Sex

There are a lot of reasons that a guy won’t give a girl oral sex.

The first reason is that the girl does not use proper hygiene on her vagina. While this might not be true for every woman that has tried to shove their husband’s face downtown, it can be said for a lot.

The second reason that a guy won’t give his girl oral sex is because he’s selfish. He simply wants to get off and does not care about the girl. The last reason is that he doesn’t think that she enjoys it when he does it. Notice I said when he does it and not a general statement of her not liking it by anybody. Tell him that you love when he gives you oral sex and you will get a lot more.

3 Sure-Fire Ways To Completely Win Him Over

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If you’re worried about FOREVER being stuck in the friend-zone worry no more! Because I’m going to share with you 3 sure-fire ways to completely win him over so he can start treating you like the Princess you are.

Whether you work together, have been friends since childhood, or just met at the bar, I guarantee that if you use these techniques on men they are going to look at you with different eyes. Sexy eyes.

So let’s get started!

Create Memories Together

While going out for a night of drinking can be fun, it can also be easily forgotten. The kind of memories I’m talking about are more like mini-adventures …spontaneous events that will stick out in his mind for the rest of his life. Something that will make YOU seem unique from all the other women in his life.

How do you do this? Do something crazy, something out of the blue. It could be something insane like going skinny-dipping somewhere forbidden, or something tamer like trying a new exotic restaurant. Be creative! The point is, if he has fun with you and you keep surprising him, he’s going to want to stick around because he won’t know what’s going to happen next. Speed dial here you come!

Be Mysterious

Guys love a challenge. And there’s no harder or more exciting challenge than when a women is mysterious.

Now I’m not saying you need to go all Batman / Bruce Wayne on him, but what I am saying is that women who are predictable just aren’t as exciting for most men to be around. If you do the same thing as every other woman, he’s going to treat you like every other woman.

The secret is to keep him from predicting your behavior. If you always keep him guessing he’s going to be all the more curious as to what you’re thinking about, and he’s going to try and spend all of his time figuring you out!

Make Him Feel Like A Man

Whether it’s mentally or physically men love to feel strong and powerful. It’s been ingrained into our DNA since the dawn of time. And there’s no better way for you to fuel that fire than to make him feel like your life is so much easier or safer when he’s around.

You see, men like to feel needed. They fantasize about rescuing a damsel in distress, and you can do it on a smaller scale. Don’t get me wrong, an independent woman is very sexy, but a guy likes to feel useful in the relationship. There’s a sense of pride a man gets when he does something a woman cannot. It might be reaching for something too high or simply opening a jar that’s too tight, but if you give men the impression that life is easier when he’s around, he’ll want to always be around.

And even if you could kick his ass PRETEND you feel safer when he’s around. This will boost his confidence which will satisfy the protector role he’s destined to fill. Stroking his ego by making him feel manly will make him feel a natural chemistry between you, so try it out!

Win Him Over

The whole point to a great relationship is being able to have fun together. In fact it’s being able to have MORE fun together than you have with anyone else. So if you aren’t creating scenarios for you and him to have fun together, there will be no chemistry for you and him to fall back on.

The best part about doing fun things and creating memories together is that they stick with him when you aren’t around. So not only will this make him smile and enjoy your times together, he’s going to be thinking about you constantly. Then EVERY time he’s sees you he’s going to feel more and more strongly about you.

Plus if you keep him guessing by doing things he doesn’t suspect his imagination is going to go WILD! A thing to remember about being mysterious around men is, don’t overdue it. Being vague to let his thoughts run wild is one thing, but teasing him and not answering any of his questions can be annoying. Offering unique questions and answers when you’re together WILL keep him interested.

When you combine dynamic questions with enthusiasm for his achievements you’re really going to stand out from every other woman he’s been around. Guys like to impress, so make him feel impressive. Just don’t act too impressed or he’ll want to show off to everyone else as well!

That’s it for today. Now go start practicing these techniques and having some fun!