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What Men Really Think About Your Breasts

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Breasts are one of the most common places on a woman’s body to feel self-conscious about. Just like everything in life, some women are born with amazing breasts while others are lucky are fill an A cup. If you have ever wondered what men really think of your breasts, there are a few things that you must consider. Most women believe that men are not attracted to women unless they have at least a B cup, but this is simply not true.

Here are a few examples of what men really think about your breasts and why you should accept yourself for who you are.

What Men Think About Breast Implants

In a way, men feel like breast implants are a form of cheating. While they may look great while a woman is in clothing, once the shirt comes off it can be another story. Breast implants can be very deceiving and as the woman ages, they can start to look worn under the skin. When a woman stretches in certain ways, you can even see the imprint of the implant on the sides of her breast.

Although many new procedures have come out to minimize scarring, there are still scars associated with breast implant surgery. There are men who love breast implants though. If you are considering them, make sure that you know the ramifications of the surgery.

What Men Think About Smaller Breasts

There is a perception that women worry about the size of their breasts the way that men worry about the size of their penis. While this is definitely true during puberty, women with smaller breasts must learn how to feel comfortable with not having a larger size.

The truth is that there are men who love smaller breasts. Some men believe that more than a handful is a waste. And some women just look better with smaller breasts. If you have smaller breasts, you might feel inadequate compared to other women in the media, but know that guys are very realistic with the image of a woman and size of her breasts in comparison to her body shape.

What Men Think About Larger Breasts

Larger breasts are something that every woman thinks every man wants. This is not true. There is a forward look to the future where men and women think about how the breasts are going to sag. If you are worried about having sagging breasts, there are a few things that you can do.

Working out, toning with weights and doing push-ups are just a couple of the exercises that have been proven to help breast sag. This is a great alternative than having to go under the knife. Many women who have larger size consider an augmentation. If you are concerned about this, and many women are, talk to your doctor about getting a procedure done to prevent sag.

Separating Fantasy And Reality

There are a lot of misconceptions between men and women and what each of them think the other wants in a partner. While men may fantasize about having the perfect woman with the perfect body, everybody knows that this is not a reality. Men are much more attracted to women that they have an emotional fulfillment to than a physical. As men mature, they start to see the blessing of a fun, confident, smart woman over some girl that can’t spell. While the media tries to portray men as breast-hungry it’s not the truth.

Men will forgo a relationship with a girl that doesn’t fulfill their emotional and intellectual need over a woman that is portrayed as perfect. When you are meeting men you will notice that they are much more interested in how you speak, what you think and the kind of wife or girlfriend you will be over what you look like once your shirt is off.

How Does Weight Gain Affect Your Relationship?

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People change. So do bodies. Some weight gain is natural, but when the pendulum swings too far one way and the scale is screaming for mercy, then things are a bit past the natural stage. Your partner has gained weight. Maybe you both have.

Does weight gain affect a relationship? We have your answer.

Here’s What “She Said” About Weight Gain

Just like dramatic weight lose can affect a relationship, so can weight gain.

When a guy starts to put on weight it can have a huge impact on a relationship.

A few pounds like 10-20 not such a big impact but more than that 30+ is a huge turn off.

A little weight gain is normal in relationships, you eat out more, you get comfy you get spoiled with having a dinner partner and drinker, that bottle of wine can’t finish itself!  But guys need to be careful about a little weight and a lot of weight.  Mostly because when guys put on weight it goes straight to their belly and face.  On average it doesn’t normally spread out evenly and it can be a turn off and unhealthy.

When a man puts on too much weight it affects his stamina in the bedroom and his endurance – two things that can rock a woman’s world!  And an even worse side effect of weight gain is it makes his dick smaller!  Mostly because now there is more fat hanging over it.  Hows that for a visual?

Women are not completely off the hook either…

When a woman puts on just a little weight it can affect a relationship.  Women have a window of about 5-10 pounds before it can be apparent and I know most guys will say “I love you at any weight”. Which may be true but how many women feel sexy about themselves when they put on weight? Very few.

Too many pounds can zap a woman of her sexual confidence and make her feel less sexy and less willing to have sex.  Maybe it leads her to keeping a shirt on or the lights off.  Maybe there are positions she doesn’t want to do because she doesn’t want her guy to see anything on her body shake or look flabby.

A little softness in both sexes is ok.

Women can be more curvy and guys can fill out but in relationships you should try to be the best and healthiest for your partner!

It can be tough when one person has sort of let them self go especially if the other partner is staying in shape!  But all doesn’t have to be lost!  If you are a couple you can do couple things that involve working out together, walking together or sharing a gym membership.  Keep yourself looking good and keep yourself healthy so you can be the best for yourself and your partner.

Here’s What “He Said” About Weight Gain

Does weight gain affect your relationship? Yes, hell yes.

I don’t know why it’s so taboo to admit this.

Yes, I get it. A relationship is supposed to be about to becoming one, soul mates uniting against the tides of time, in sickness and in health, through thick and thin for the rest of our lives, until the end of time, blah blah blah.

When do we start admitting that the most important thing is for our partner to be fuckable?

Sure, you may not be a supermodel and he may not look like a shirtless vampire or male porn star, but you should want to fuck your partner and they should feel the same about you.  A shift in appearance is one way that weight gain affects a relationship.

I think the general rule of thumb is that you should always look hot for your woman or man. You should always do the things that made you want to fuck the shit out of them and vice versa. Everyone knows that weight gain undeniably affects a relationship, but no one wants to say that. Apparently that’s too difficult.

Maybe it’s eaiser to just quietly work out like crazy. Maybe that’s more politically correct than having an honest discussion about how your weight (or your partners) gain has affected your relationship and put added stress on your relationship and your hips and shoulders and neck and back.

Somehow women think that guys have more wiggle room in the weight gain realm.

I’m not sure why this attitude is prevalent, but it’s increasingly untrue. Seems like everywhere you go, buff shirtless ripped dudes are everywhere, just begging you to do laundry on their stomach. Men are feeling increasingly like the relationship will suffer if they gain weight as well.

Insecurity! It used to be for women only! Thanks

Sex Dilemma: She Sucks In Bed – But How Do You Break It To Her?

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She’s cool, she’s smart, she’s successful, but boy is she a dud when it comes to sex.

If you want to tell her that she’s bad in bed there are a few things that you have to consider beforehand. Think about how it would make you feel if somebody told you that you have sucky sex moves. It would probably hurt, right? Before you go through the embarrassment of telling her that she leaves a lot to be desired in the bedroom, you need a game plan. You need a way of indirectly telling her that there are a lot of improvements to be made when it comes to your sex life.

Here is that game plan to get your passion back and put her on the right path to sexual splendor.

Encouragement

When it comes to feedback about sex, encouragement is ALWAYS going to work better than discouragement.

When you are trying to tell your girlfriend or wife that they need to improve the sex moves, the best thing that you can do is not tell them. This way you can encourage the things that they are good at without having tell them that they stink in other aspects.

Maybe she’s really good at girl on top sex but just lies there in missionary. Tell her that you really love when she’s on top. She’s going to want to do it more because she knows that it turns you on. Of course, this isn’t going to fix the issues, but it allows her to focus on what she is good at to forgo the other sex positions she’s not good at. Consider using this the next time you have sex and work your way up to the other steps.

Give Gentle Guidance

No guy or girl wants to be given instructions on how to have sex, but sometimes you have to. When she is doing something that doesn’t feel good, tell her. You don’t have to be a jerk about it, but you can correct her with just a few words. Go faster, go harder, and other phrases can turn a girl into a sex machine.

You have to consider the fact that she may have been with a guy that really did get turned on by what she was doing. She might not know that you like sex harder or faster or more passionate. When this occurs, instructions are needed. She’s never going to know what you want or what you like until you tell her. Even if you don’t want to take charge, you might have to. You’ll thank yourself in the end and so will she.

Cater To Her Needs

It should never just be about you. Relationships and sex are a two way street.

If you expect her to always cater to what you need then you’re never going to have great sex. You need to find out what really turns her on. When she’s turned on enough she’s not going to care about the ramifications of embarrassment.

Cater to her needs instead of thinking about yourself and you will that she’s going to come out of her shell very quickly. You have to let her know that it’s okay to go wild and pleasing her the way that she wants to be pleased is the easiest way to do this.

Deal With Your Own Expectations About Sex

Porn, the media and other influences can easily put too many unreasonable expectation on women when it comes to sex.

Unless you’re actually dating a porn star there is not much of a reason to actually think that she’s going to act like one in the bedroom. Turn the questions inward and ask yourself if you have unrealistic expectations to what you need as a guy. Maybe you have unrealistic expectations to how you think your sex life should be. Not all guys are going to have these expectations, but outside influences are a definite concern that should be taken seriously.

Sexual Incompatibility

This is a tough one, but sexual incompatibility is something that you are going to have to diagnose yourself.

  • Maybe you love having sex in the morning and she hates it.
  • Maybe she’s just not that into sex.
  • Maybe she has libido issues that aren’t going away.
  • Maybe you like it rough and she likes it soft.
  • Maybe there’s a size mismatch between your penis in her vagina.

Before you commit to a real relationship you should ask yourself if these sexual incompatibilities are going to be a real issue in the future. Sex is what separates friends from lovers. If you aren’t having great sex with your partner you might want to call it quits before it goes any further.

Best Places To NEVER Have Sex In Public

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The idea of sex in public is so hot because its forbidden! It’s naughty and illegal in most places. Now I am all for spur of the moment sex and know sometimes it can be hard to keep your pants on and your legs off a guy’s shoulders.

But, be careful! Its all fun and games until you get arrested or embarrassed.

If you are thinking of spicing up your sex life by taking it into the public arena, take a moment and take note of these places where you should always avoid public sex!

What “She Said” About Sex In Public

Here are my top 6 places to never have sex in public.

I know the list might be upsetting to some, but do not fear, there are a million other places that are not so public and not so illegal to do the deed. Never under-estimate a big back seat of a car or well shaded bush or even a slow-moving elevator. Just be prepared to get out, zip up wipe off and run!

1) In A Church

Maybe you are not a religious person but you know who is? 80 year old women and they do not look kindly on kinky going down on church grounds.

Plus even if you aren’t religious there is still some sort of bad karma that has to come out of coming in a church.

2) In A Plane WHEN ONE OF YOU IS THE PILOT

This is just not safe. A few things i have learned in my years is to never have sex while handling heavy machinery especially if that machinery is thousands of feet up in the air!

3) Near An Elementary School/Playground

This is just creepy. Not only could you scar children for life, I also would question why a couple would get turned on over the laughter of children? If anything when I hear children, the last thing I think about is having sex.

4) Near Law Enforcement Of ANY Kind

Do not even consider doing it near a cop, near a cop car, nor near a cop station. The same goes for getting it on at a court house! You are just asking to be caught.

5) Your Marriage Bed With Your Secret Lover

OK, this really isn’t a public place but it’s still needs to be mentioned for all the morons out there.

Aside from the fact that you are having an affair, this is a huge no-no! Have you ever seen a lifetime movie or any movie? The cheater always gets caught by the wife/husband and a lot of the time it happens at their house! If you are going to cheat stop being so cheap and get a hotel. Or nut up and get a divorce first!

6) In A Porta Potty

It’s movable sewage room! I do not care how horny you are, no one is ever that horny. Seriously, if this is your only option then you need to stop working at a carnival.

What “He Said” About Sex In Public

I’m not a fan of sex in public – PERIOD. But, here are my top 2 places you should never, ever have sex in public.

1) The Beach

Yes, it’s hot. But there’s this thing, called the internet. If it’s night, you have some cover, so to speak, but if you’re having sex on a beach in broad day light, do you really think it’s a good idea to have sex in public here, really?

You have nothing to hide behind, so there’s nothing to prevent someone from posting pictures and or video of you and your lover all over the internet, Tumblr, on free or pay porn sites, or wherever. And that shit can have a life of it’s own and someone you know may eventually wind up coming across it.

Sure it’s hot if they swing and you swing and you wind up hooking up, but if it’s the fat dude at the gym, or the crusty old lady who runs your school’s PTA, then that shit is going to get weird. Fast.

2) ANYWHERE (For Certain Professionals)

If you’re joe the plumber and you and your lover decide to have public sex, and you get busted by the cops, who cares? But if you’re a doctor, or a lawyer, or a cop or an elected official, and you hook up in public and you get caught, you’re loosing your license not to mention your job.

If you have a job that requires a certain licensing or high level of public interaction or a certain level of standing in the community, there’s never a good place for you to have sex in public.

You just can’t afford to risk it.

5 Tips For Awesome One-Night Stands

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If you are looking to have a little fun without the drama of a relationship, a one-night stand could be the answer to your sexual rut. One-night stands can be a lot of fun if they are handled properly. When they are not handled properly both parties involved can feel used and cheap, affecting self-esteem and self-image.

Almost all men and women have had a one-night stand during their lives, but the effects of a romp in the sheets without commitment must be taken carefully. If you would like to avoid the hassles of dealing with a bad one-night stand there are some very basic rules to follow. Here are a few tips to help you out.

Keep The Drinking To A Minimum

A one-night stand can be a lot of fun, but both parties must have clear consent without the influence of substance. One of the biggest reasons that so many people wind up with a bad one-night stand on their conscious is because of alcohol. If you are going out with some friends, try to keep your mind clear. Alcohol has a way of making situations seem better than they are. It can make people seem much more interesting, physically attractive, and compatible with you. But as the alcohol starts to wear off, you will probably regret sleeping with them. Monitor your drinking and make sound decisions.

Always Have Protection

It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a girl, always having protection easily available is a must for casual sex. Just think to yourself, if this guy or girl is willing to have sex with me within hours of meeting, who else have they been with? This isn’t to say that exploration makes you a slut or a man-whore, but you have to keep your bases covered. STDs are running rampant nowadays and it’s very important to make sure that you protect yourself and your partner. Birth control is not a substitute for condoms. While your primary concern may be with pregnancy, the threat of STDs is real.

Keep Your Home Clean

If you’re going to bring a guy or a girl back to your place the last thing that you want is for them to see your dirty underwear or last week’s dishes in the sink. A person’s home is reflective of their personality and their health. Make sure that you pick up a little bit before you go out for the night. When a person enters your home they will take notice of how you keep it. While you might be the most hygienic person on the planet, dirt and grime around your home can easily turn a guy or a girl off. Sweep, mop, dust and wipe to have a great one-night stand.

You Have To Get Up Early

It doesn’t matter if you have the day off, a great rule to follow is that you always have to get up early. Laying this foundation before sex is essential to soothing the awkwardness in the morning. If you want to have a great one-night stand without the expectation of a relationship afterward, make a clean exit. Set your alarm and get out of the house as soon as possible. You don’t want to linger around or have the other person lingering around your home in the morning. Make up a story if you have to and actually leave your own home if you need to get the person out of your house. Drive around the block once and then come back to your house if you need to. The more time that this person spends with you is more time for mixed signals or awkwardness.

Don’t Dismiss A Real Connection

There are plenty of real relationships that have begun with one-night stands. Whether you are against this as a genuine way of starting off with your soul mate or not, it’s unfair to dismiss a real connection just because you had sex on the first date. If you really think that you see yourself with this person then contact her or him again. Women are known to get a little clingy after they have a one-night stand, but there is a difference between wanting to see this person again and latching on for dear life. If you have a genuine interest in spending more time with your one-nighter, go for it. You never know. They may feel the same way. Just make sure that you aren’t trying to keep it strictly physical if you decide to go down this path.