When dating, it can be easy to get stuck in the “friend zone” with a girl you’re actually romantically interested in. Things are going great, but before you know it, you’re more like best friends than a couple. Here’s how you can get out of the friend zone and start dating your love interest in a romantic way – it’s all about changing the current dynamics of the relationship. Sometimes it’s a little risky, but in the end, it will pay off!
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Date Other Women
Dating other women and creating a little “friendly competition” is a great way to break out of the friend zone. A woman who consideres you a really good friend may realize that she likes you as more than that once you start dating someone else. A fair number of women (in fact, a lot of them) tend to want what they “can’t” have. Before, she didn’t see a need to start dating you because you were available to her and gave her the emotional intimacy she wanted in a friendship type relationship. However, when you start dating someone else, she will miss that connection you two had and be a little jealous of the girl you’re dating, prompting her to make a move and ask you out.
Plan Something Crazy – Then Kiss Her
Take some time to plan a great date doing something amazing. Plan a trip to an amusement park, go ice skating or do something else super fun and a little crazy. Right when she’s having an awesome time and is filled with happy, positive emotions, you’re going to lean in and kiss her. Kissing her at the perfect moment is going to do one of two things. It will most likely turn into a great kiss and make her realize she has romantic feelings for you – or, she’ll simply let you know that she’s not interested in being more than friends with you. However, if you play your cards right and make your first move at the perfect time and place, she will be much more likely to accept your invitation for a romantic relationship. If you’ve been friends for a long time, you may be tempted to use this opportunity to tell her you love her. Avoid this at all costs! You don’t want to overwhelm her by confessing that you’re in love with her or have loved her for a long time. Instead, just leave it open ended. Establish that you both have romantic feelings for each other and then just continue having a great time! You can talk about being in love or being in a relationship later – much later.
Stop Confiding In Her
To get out of the friend zone, you must first figure out how you got there in the first place. The most common way that guys get stuck in a friendship type relationship rather than a romantic one is they start confiding their own problems in their love interests and offering a shoulder to cry on for her when she’s talking about her problems. This is a great way to build an intimate friendship, but women with “guy friends” like this will only ever see them as friends and not in a romantic way. What you need to do is stop confiding in her – when you go out with her, instead of having a “talk” or discussion, practice flirting and having a good time. Show her that you enjoy flirting with her and want to be romantic with her.
How To Downplay It If She’s Not Interested
If you find out she’s not interested in you that way, you may be scared that you’re going to lose the friendship. This is actually a huge reason that many guys won’t let a girl know they’re into them romantically – because they’re not only scared of rejection, but they’re also scared of losing any relationship they have with their girl at all. Whether she stays friends with you after she declines your offer for a romantic relationship isn’t up to her – it’s up to you. Just don’t let it get weird! Go back to doing the same things you were before and simply say, “You can’t blame a guy for trying.” Because you really can’t!