Fingering can be hotter than it was in high school when you hadn’t yet reached third or fourth base. Here’s how to make using your hands sexier and more adult!
What other kinky things are fingers good for? If you and your wife are both up for something a bit more out-there, try turning up the kinky knob on your relationship and trying out a few new tricks. Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission and sadomasochism are all designed to lead to increased pleasure for both parties. If you or your wife might get off on the exchange of power or pain, why not take a stroll down a few new pathways?
BDSM
Whether you bind her wrists to give you the upper hand or simply to immobilize hers, bondage is a great way to use your hands to make her very conscious of what her hands can and can’t do. Add a blindfold, and she won’t have any idea what amazing new move is coming her way!
BDSM requires lots of discussion and decision making to reach informed consent. The use of a safe word is very important if you will be playing with any kind of bondage or pain play.
When it comes to pain play, your hands are really your best asset. There are lots of little devices you can buy, but if you are just getting to know her responses, you want the hands-on experience that comes from using your own skin. An over-the-knee bare hand spanking can be an incredible bonding experience, and depending on how much force is used, can be anything from energizing and stimulating to excruciatingly painful.
Walk the line carefully. You can also use the same technique to give a light “spank” to her vulva. Be very gentle here, in the facing-her-feet or spooning position, unless she asks you to go harder!
The other great thing your fingers can do to start off playing with pain is tweaking her nipples. What can easily be pleasurable with a gently touch can quickly turn to pain – sometimes, that delicious kind of pain – when it comes to pinching and twisting those sensitive little nubs.
Exhibitionism
In my opinion, that best kind of kink that comes from learning new hand tricks is a little bit of exhibitionism. If you can get her off without either of you having to get naked, it opens up a whole world of possibilities – literally!
With a skirt and skimpy (or no) panties, you have all the access you need to finger her under the dinner table, in a movie theatre, in the back seat of the car, in the bathroom, while she’s sitting on your lap at the club, in an elevator, or just about anywhere else you’ve ever dreamed of getting busy. Time to make a date!