Women who truly enjoy sex often get labeled as nymphomaniacs, or “nymphos” for short. Just because a woman likes sex and enjoys having it, does that make her a “nympho?” What if she’s recently lost weight or had a big life change and has started to see herself in a more sexual way? Here’s what you want to know about sex and lots of it – as well as what’s safe and what’s not.
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
I’ve recently lost a lot of weight and rediscovered my sexuality. I may have awakened a nymphomaniac! I think about sex all the time. Is there something wrong with me?
–Jane, Georgia
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When Your Body Changes
If you’ve lost a lot of weight, or recently started working out or even just gained some self esteem about the way you look, it’s perfectly natural to start feeling more sexual. It’s to be expected – you’re starting to see yourself as more attractive and people are starting to feel more attracted to you. Not only have you become more physically attractive, your own confidence in yourself has made you doubly attractive. No wonder you’re feeling more sexual than you have before! Embrace this new feeling – it’s an incredible feeling and you should feel proud of yourself for making such a great life change!
How Much Is Too Much?
Most people enjoy sex and some people enjoy sex more often than others. There are no guidelines as to “how much is too much” when it comes to sex, but there are a few questions to ask yourself. Is your newfound sex drive interfering with your daily life? Do you find it hard to function if you haven’t had sex recently, or do you find it hard to focus because you’re thinking about having sex all the time? If you truly find that your sex drive and the need for sex and sexual satisfaction start overtaking your life – almost like drugs – it’s time to see a therapist or a counselor to talk about your feelings. If you just find that you enjoy sex and do it when you can, you’re probably just like everyone else on the planet – human!
Playing It Safe
If you have started to enjoy sex more and have started to have more sex, it’s important to play it safe. Don’t be promiscuous and make sure you’re well informed about sex and especially sexually transmitted diseases. Take the time to educate yourself about sex, sex toys, STD’s, various forms of sex and sexuality and everything sex related – going into it well informed can help you make safe and smart decisions that will help you enjoy the moment more instead of creating a moment that you’re likely to regret later. Get tested regularly if you have multiple sex partners, or find friends that you can have fun and experiment with who stay monogamous with you. It’s all about finding a balance between what is fun and sex and what is safe!
If you take the time to educate yourself, feel confident about body and lifestyle changes and play it safe and smart, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with liking sex, enjoying sex and having sex, even lots of it! Find a partner who enjoys sex as much as you do and have fun with it. Life is short and as long as you’re not ignoring the facts, it’s time for you to love yourself enough to do what you enjoy doing!