You can’t have penetrative sex without using at least one sex position. And some people say you can’t have really good sex without using at least two or three sex positions.
So what does this mean for a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation? On the face of it, it doesn’t seem to mean much.
After all, what difference does a second or third sex position make when you come two minutes into the first one? However, the truth is that sex positions can be a premature ejaculator’s greatest tool when they’re used correctly.
What Difference Does the Position Make?
Here’s how.
Let’s name 4 sex positions.
- Missionary position (you on top, as she lies under you).
- Spoons (you both lying on your sides, with you behind her).
- Cowgirl (her on top, facing you).
- Reverse missionary (she lies totally flat on her belly, you kneel—with one knee on either side of her body—above her)
You need to perform these in the order shown above next time you have sex, or, if you can’t complete them all in one session, over the course of several sexual encounters.
Setting the Sexual Stimulation Scale
Now we need to set up a stimulation scale in your mind. Make 0 mean absolutely no sexual stimulation. Make 5 mean fairly sexually stimulated. Make 7 very sexually stimulated. 8 should be close to coming. 9 should be right on the edge, just before the point of no return and 10 should be climaxing.
You’re going to perform each position for as long as it takes you to reach a 7 or 8 on the stimulation scale. While performing each position you should ask yourself the following questions (either silently, or as a discussion with your partner).
1. How tight does this feel on my penis?
2. How intense is the stimulation on my penis?
3. How quickly is it building up the stimulation?
4. How long does it take for me to go from 0 to 8 on the stimulation scale while in this position?
5. How easy is it for me to bring myself back down the stimulation while in this position by altering my thrust speed, depth and angle?
Determining Which Sex Positions Give You Control
By asking yourself the questions above, you’ll be able to determine exactly which sex positions afford you the most control of your stimulation levels and which afford you the least.
Based on this information, you can then rank them from the most intense to the least intense and then, you guessed it, use them in this order during your subsequent sexual encounters. Don’t worry about it getting samey. You can still mix it up a bit.
The important thing is that you now know which positions are a big no-no when you’re already on the edge of coming. That’s a very, very useful piece of knowledge to have when you have premature ejaculation. It will allow you to add up to 10 minutes onto your sexual performance.