Believe it or not, many women have never had an orgasm, even if they’ve been sexually active with one or more partners before you. If you’re dating a girl who hasn’t had an orgasm, naturally you want to be the one that will give her the first one! Here’s the 3 best tips on how to give your girl her first orgasm and rock her world!
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Don’t Put Pressure On Her
The more pressure you put on your girlfriend to have an orgasm, the more locked up and tense she’s going to get. This will actually prevent her from not only enjoying what you’re doing to her, but also cause her to not have an orgasm no matter how hard you try. Simply let your girlfriend know that tonight is all about her. Encourage her to tell you what she wants to do, and avoid asking her if she’s close or if she’s about to have an orgasm. Doing so will make her feel pressured to come, and she won’t be able to. Just let her focus on the pleasure you’re giving her and let whatever happens happen.
Make Sure She Is Relaxed
If a woman is thinking about her to-do list or stressing about work or the kids, she’s not going to be able to have an orgasm regardless of what you do to please her. She needs to both physically and mentally relax before having sex, so she can work out what happened during the day and start putting it to rest. Take some time before having sex to make sure she is relaxed and in the right mindset. A glass of wine, a massage or a hot bath are all ways to give your girlfriend a few minutes to melt away the stress from the day and get ready for a night of pleasure. Ask your partner how she likes to relax. She may want to have a conversation with you over a drink or a nice meal, or she may want to watch a movie first. Let her do what she likes to do to de-stress so she’ll be ready to receive pleasure when you start.
Use Oral Sex
Don’t assume that penetration is what is going to get your girlfriend off after years of never having had an orgasm. The likelihood of getting your girlfriend to have her first orgasm with oral sex or fingering is much higher than if you try to give her an orgasm through intercourse alone. When going down on your partner, start slow. Rushing and going to fast at first can actually be painful for a woman because her clitoris and vagina is so sensitive. Go slow and give her some time to warm up and start anticipating your next move. The same goes for fingering. Use lots of lube and start soft and slow, working your way into a rhythm based on your girlfriend’s body language. Don’t be afraid to use both fingering and oral sex, as well as caressing her nipples at the same time. Many times, all a woman needs is a little extra stimulation in another area to send her over the edge of orgasm and into bliss.