If there’s a girl you aren’t able to give an orgasm to, you’re not alone. Unfortuately, being in the same boat with tons of other guys doesn’t exactly make being unable to pleasure a certain girl any less frustrating. So what gives? Is there really something wrong with you, or is it time to accept what happened and move on? Could she have even contributed to the problem?
Question: I recently went through a fairly rough break-up but often find myself thinking about my ex. We were together for almost two years and in this time I could never make her orgasm (a first for me). I am quite well endowed and very fit and have never had trouble making others girls climax, but my inadequacies with her have really effected my confidence. What can I do to get over my insecurities and be comfortable with my inability to pleasure her?
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Moving On
If there’s a certain girl you can’t give an orgasm to – but have no problems with any other girls – there’s not much you can do about it. Sometimes it hit or miss, and if you’ve been lucky so far, you’ve simply come upon your dues. It’s time to move on, especially if you and this particular girl aren’t together any more and have broken up. You may want to brood over what happened and try to figure out why you weren’t able to give her an orgasm, but it’s really not going to do you much good. Many times, there is no why and things like that just happen. Sometimes two people are sexually incompatible, no matter how many other girls you were sexually compatible with. Realize that it’s time to move on and get back in the game.
Brushing Up On Your Orgasm Skills
That said, it never hurts to brush up on your orgasm skills. You may think you know all there is to know about female orgasms, but you’d be surprised at how much you probably don’t know about giving a woman a climax. Take the Orgasm Quiz and assess your orgasm skills. You’ll get the Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips after you take the quiz, which are free and include twenty five great tips on how to please a woman. Learning new tricks and techniques to use in the bedroom is a great way to make sure you know what you’re doing and can try to give every girl you’re with a mind blowing orgasm.
Was It Her?
While you may be content to blame yourself and commit yourself to learning every female orgasm secret known to man, you need to realize that part of the reason you were unable to give your partner an orgasm could be because of her hang ups, not yours. Don’t be so fast to completely blame her, but realize that it takes a lot on the woman’s part to have an orgasm. She must be relaxed, stress free and open to having an orgasm. If she was stressing about a test or work the next day, or going through some particularly stressful situations, she may have been unable to reach climax regardless of how great your bedroom skills were.