She’s cool, she’s smart, she’s successful, but boy is she a dud when it comes to sex.
If you want to tell her that she’s bad in bed there are a few things that you have to consider beforehand. Think about how it would make you feel if somebody told you that you have sucky sex moves. It would probably hurt, right? Before you go through the embarrassment of telling her that she leaves a lot to be desired in the bedroom, you need a game plan. You need a way of indirectly telling her that there are a lot of improvements to be made when it comes to your sex life.
Here is that game plan to get your passion back and put her on the right path to sexual splendor.
Encouragement
When it comes to feedback about sex, encouragement is ALWAYS going to work better than discouragement.
When you are trying to tell your girlfriend or wife that they need to improve the sex moves, the best thing that you can do is not tell them. This way you can encourage the things that they are good at without having tell them that they stink in other aspects.
Maybe she’s really good at girl on top sex but just lies there in missionary. Tell her that you really love when she’s on top. She’s going to want to do it more because she knows that it turns you on. Of course, this isn’t going to fix the issues, but it allows her to focus on what she is good at to forgo the other sex positions she’s not good at. Consider using this the next time you have sex and work your way up to the other steps.
Give Gentle Guidance
No guy or girl wants to be given instructions on how to have sex, but sometimes you have to. When she is doing something that doesn’t feel good, tell her. You don’t have to be a jerk about it, but you can correct her with just a few words. Go faster, go harder, and other phrases can turn a girl into a sex machine.
You have to consider the fact that she may have been with a guy that really did get turned on by what she was doing. She might not know that you like sex harder or faster or more passionate. When this occurs, instructions are needed. She’s never going to know what you want or what you like until you tell her. Even if you don’t want to take charge, you might have to. You’ll thank yourself in the end and so will she.
Cater To Her Needs
It should never just be about you. Relationships and sex are a two way street.
If you expect her to always cater to what you need then you’re never going to have great sex. You need to find out what really turns her on. When she’s turned on enough she’s not going to care about the ramifications of embarrassment.
Cater to her needs instead of thinking about yourself and you will that she’s going to come out of her shell very quickly. You have to let her know that it’s okay to go wild and pleasing her the way that she wants to be pleased is the easiest way to do this.
Deal With Your Own Expectations About Sex
Porn, the media and other influences can easily put too many unreasonable expectation on women when it comes to sex.
Unless you’re actually dating a porn star there is not much of a reason to actually think that she’s going to act like one in the bedroom. Turn the questions inward and ask yourself if you have unrealistic expectations to what you need as a guy. Maybe you have unrealistic expectations to how you think your sex life should be. Not all guys are going to have these expectations, but outside influences are a definite concern that should be taken seriously.
Sexual Incompatibility
This is a tough one, but sexual incompatibility is something that you are going to have to diagnose yourself.
- Maybe you love having sex in the morning and she hates it.
- Maybe she’s just not that into sex.
- Maybe she has libido issues that aren’t going away.
- Maybe you like it rough and she likes it soft.
- Maybe there’s a size mismatch between your penis in her vagina.
Before you commit to a real relationship you should ask yourself if these sexual incompatibilities are going to be a real issue in the future. Sex is what separates friends from lovers. If you aren’t having great sex with your partner you might want to call it quits before it goes any further.