While sexting is a great way to get your partner turned on enough to rip your clothes off and jump your bones as soon as you walk in the door from work, getting started is no easy feat if you’re not sure how to break the ice. A racy text that talks about explicit sex isn’t something that you want to send if you haven’t gotten her to engage you in a sexy conversation first – in fact, it may very well offend her. Here’s how you can word the first “sexts” to get her thinking about more and open the door for racier conversation.
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How To Get Started
Sending your partner a text that explicitly details everything you want to do to her tonight (or what you want her to do to you) without building her curiosity will most likely backfire and only serve to offend her and put her off the whole idea for good. Easing into sexting the right way is one of the most important things you need to do, especially if you want to be able to use sexting in the future to revv your lover’s sex drive and send her into a horny frenzy before the two of you even touch each other.
While not all of your sexts have to be PG-13, it’s very important that the first ones you send are. Just like you would want to use foreplay in the bedroom to turn her on and get her warmed up for sex, you want to flirt with her a little through your texts to get her ready to talk about more.
How To Engage Her Curiosity
Start by sending her texts that spark her curiosity and make her wonder just what exactly is going through your head. Your first text should be something she’s going to have to respond to, simply because it makes her that curious! If you start out by describing exactly how you want her to give you a blowjob later, that leaves no room for her to think and wonder and let her imagination run wild – because you definitely want to let her imagination run wild.
Examples Of Great Curiosity Building Sexts
To get started, try some of these steamy but not too revealing sexting examples to get her wondering what you’re thinking about and engage you in sexting. These examples will get her mind going, which is exactly what you want to happen. If her mind isn’t involved, she’s not going to get turned on!
- “I can’t stop thinking about you….”
- “Do you remember that amazing night we had awhile back?
- “Tonight….”
- “I can’t wait to see you….”
- “I need to feel you….”
- “When I think of you, everything gets harder”
- “Do you know what I want to do?”
- “Do you know what would look good on you?”
- “Thinking of you is driving me crazy!”
Once your girl responds to the first text (which she will if you’ve piqued her interest), follow up by leading her in the direction you want to go – a subtle but steamy conversation that plays with her imagination and gets her mind thinking and fantasizing about YOU. This is how you can use sexting to turn your girl’s cell phone into an erotic novel – which is of course, way more effective for a woman than any other kind of stimulation. Women respond much better to anything that stimulates their brains and their imaginations – such as an erotic book – than they will to visual stimulation like pictures or videos.
- You say: “I can’t stop thinking about you….” She says: “Why?” You say: “Because you turn me on sooooo much!”
- You say: “Do you remember that amazing night we had awhile back?” She says: “Yes, why?” You say: “I’ve been wanting to do that again sooo bad.”
- You say: “Do you know what would look good on you?” She says: “No, what?” You say: “Nothing….”
As you can see from these examples, the “….” in the text is probably one of the most important parts of the text itself. It’s what allows her imagination to roam and fill in the blanks. She’ll wonder what you’re really thinking, because you made it appear as though your thoughts weren’t finished. After you build her interest in playing the sexting game, you can start making your sexts hotter by suggesting what you’d like to do to her later – whether you want to see her wearing her sexiest lingerie or you want to surprise her with oral sex by lifting up her skirt as soon as she gets home.