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How To Get Her To Make A Dirty Video For You

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Porn is great but homemade porn is better. However, it can be difficult to get your girlfriend or wife to agree to get naked on camera. It’s not impossible though – tons of women make XXX films for their guys – Want your girl to make a naughty film for your viewing pleasure? Check out these tips to convince your girl to do it.

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Women Naturally Want To Make Their Man Happy

All women have the drive to please their man – it’s hardwired into their DNA. Instead of baking pies a la June Cleaver, you’d rather a racy movie starring your gorgeous lady. How do you tell her? Just tell her! Let her know that making a homemade porn with her (or videotaping her masturbating by herself) is something that you’d really like to do and it really turns you on. If she knows how much you want to see her on film, she’ll most likely be up for it if it will make you that happy.

It Doesn’t Have To Be Full On Porn

If your girlfriend or wife has never done anything sexy on camera before, they may feel a little shy or apprehensive about the whole idea. Don’t assume that for it to turn you on that it has to be full on porn – quite the opposite. Even just a soft core film with limited nudity, or even no nudity at all, can be enough to get you going. It’s also a great way to slowly introduce her to the idea so that later on, you can make a XXX film.

Have her do something sexy on film with her clothes on, such as giving you a blowjob in a low cut shirt. It’s sexy, reminds you of her and she doesn’t have to show anything of hers to the camera. She can also do an erotic dance while wearing a sexy dress or some of her favorite lingerie. Light some candles and turn out the lights – the soft lighting will make her feel more comfortable and won’t transfer as many of her imperfections onto film.

Tell Her You’d Rather Masturbate To Her

Guys are going to masturbate – it’s a fact of life and most women know and accept this. They also know that men are visual creatures and need something sexy in front of their eyeballs to get off. This is the part that girls hate – they don’t want their partner watching and masturbating to other naked women. Your woman may not say anything about it, but it’s pretty much guaranteed that porn featuring other girls grates on her nerves.

Use this to your advantage and tell your partner that you’d much rather be watching her than some naked chick you’ve never met and don’t care about at all. This single phrase will probably be the most convincing thing you can do to get her to make a dirty video for you. She’ll appreciate that you’d rather be watching HER while you touch your penis than another girl and will do her best to make that happen.

Give Her Some Ideas

You don’t want to insist that your girlfriend make a video of her vagina up close and personal to start off with.  It will probably freak her out and turn her off to the idea of making an adult movie for you all together. Instead. start small and work your way up. Give her some ideas of sexy things she can do on camera that will turn you on, that don’t involve her doing things featured in Hustler.

You can also get some ideas by watching soft core porn together. When you watch it with her, point out things that you think are hot and that you’d love to see her doing. Something along the lines of “She just doesn’t do that right, I bet you could do it better” or “I’d love to see you try that.”

Don’t be afraid to play around with the camera a little and have fun with it. Turn it on and forget about it, doing things that you normally do together. Take a short video, watch it together and then delete it immediately. Get her comfortable with the idea of having the video camera around.

Help Her Feel Sexy

She may agree to try videotaping herself doing sexy things for you, but you’re not going to get very far if you don’t make her FEEL sexy while doing it. Here are some easy ways to make her feel super hot, which will help her open up and let her inner vixen out.

  • Buy her sexy lingerie. Shop online together or visit a store with her in tow. Make SURE you choose something together and that she’s tried on. Don’t bring home something that doesn’t fit her – especially if it’s too small.
  • Candles or dimmer switches are amazing at hiding skin imperfections. Meaning that if you use soft lighting, she’ll feel like she looks better and you will both actually look a lot better on film.
  • Give her encouragement when she does something. If she’s dancing or moving around in some way, tell her how hot it is when she does. Get vocal – if you just sit there quietly, she’ll think she’s doing something wrong.

Assure Her That You’re Trustworthy

She might be afraid that if she makes a sexy video for you of herself, that she’ll be the next YouTube or Facebook star the moment you guys break up. This is a legitimate fear – one that you have to ease before she’ll ever step in front of the camera. If you’re with a new girl, don’t expect that she’s going to make a movie for you right away.

Take some time to build a trusting relationship with your partner so she knows you’re not going to sell out on her. Reassure her that this video is for your personal pleasure only and that if you break up with her, you will respect her enough to delete it immediately in front of her. Also, promise not to make any copies – and don’t.

Also, you can offer to make her a video in exchange for one of her if she’s still apprehensive that you might distribute the video in some way or show it to your friends. This way, she feels like she has a little leverage, or an “insurance policy” so to speak. However, this means you both have to trust each other with this kind of thing. If you don’t feel like your relationship is ready for this level of trust, put the homemade porn idea to bed until your relationship progresses.

Crazy Things Women Do For Adult Films

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Porn actresses have great bodies and have squeaky clean anal sex – but how do they get it? Are their vaginas just naturally the perfect shade of pink, with tiny, delicate looking labia? Truth is, women in the porn industry do a lot to their bodies to get them looking just right, especially for close ups. Check out the intense things porn stars do to get ready for the camera.

Anal Bleaching

Yes, you heard that right. Many adult film actresses have been known to have their anuses bleached, particularly right before a big anal sex or analingus scene. This is so the puckered skin around the anus appears lighter and less “brown,” making the anus look cleaner and more appealing on camera. Women can have this done at salons who offer this service, or a special cream can be purchased and applied in the privacy of the home. Anal bleaching is relatively safe, however, creams and bleaches should not be used if the anal area is inflamed or irritated in any way.

Brazilian Waxing

Women that you see in porn flicks are almost always perfectly smooth and hairless down there. If you’ve ever shaved your pubic region before, you know that you rarely – if ever – get a shave that close. The truth is, most porn stars get their privates waxed. This is called a Brazilian wax and usually involves taking off all the hair in the groin area, in between and around the labia and around the anus. This gives a silky smooth appearance, but can be quite painful.

Nipple Tinting

While photo and video editing software can be used to give the nipples that “rosy pink flush” that looks so great on film after the fact, many actresses in porn still use lip and cheek tints to give their nipples a more pink appearance in the flesh. This makes it look as though the woman is much more aroused than she really is. For this same reason, ice is often used on the nipples in between takes to make them pucker up and stand erect.

Labia Tinting

Lip and cheek tints can also be used on the labia area to make them look more pink and flushed, as though the woman is incredibly turned on and her genitals are swollen with arousal. Special tints for the vaginal area also exist, but are generally more expensive. If you’ve ever wondered why a porn star’s labia are so pink and fresh looking, it’s most likely because they’ve applied some kind of labia tint before the camera started rolling.

Enemas And Laxatives

Those anal sex scenes can be tough, because unless it’s a fetish video, fecal matter is a “no-no” on set. Most porn actresses will give themselves an enema beforehand, rinsing their colons completely clear of any matter whatsoever. Others will use laxatives to clean themselves out so they don’t have any accidents on screen. This gives couples engaging in anal sex on their own think that it’s going to be a perfectly clean activity – when in reality, if the woman hasn’t prepared herself beforehand, it can actually get pretty messy.

Extreme Dieting

Many girls in the adult film industry will end up dieting to the extreme just to make their bodies appear thinner on screen, but extreme dieting is also used when an anal sex scene is to be filmed, in conjunction with enemas or laxatives. Women in porn have been known to starve themselves up to twenty four hours to prepare for a scene, just to make sure that the anal play ends up squeaky clean. On the other hand, women in “golden shower” fetish videos will take in an excess of liquids to make sure she has enough urine for the many different takes that will be filmed.

Labiaplasty And Breast Augmentation

It’s pretty obvious that a large number of women in the adult film industry have gotten a boob job. You can tell by the way their breasts barely move as they’re getting pounded on screen, and the way the skin of their breasts look stretched tight over their too large implants. However, you might not be able to tell that many women in the industry have also gotten labiaplasties.

These surgeries involve shortening the labia so they look smaller and more dainty, giving the vagina an overall tinier and tighter appearance. This gives the illusion and creates the misconception that vaginas should look perfect to be considered attractive, when in reality, vaginas are all shapes, sizes and colors!

Porn: How To Make Your Own (And Make It Great)

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Making a porn flick with your lover sounds really hot, but it can lack a lot of luster when you play it back after the fact. You may not look the way you want to, the angle of the camera may not flatter you or things that you thought would translate well on screen don’t. If you want to do a porn with your partner, there are a few technical things to keep in mind when you’re making the movie. Here’s how you can be sure your amateur porn looks as hot as it was doing it!

Watch A Few Porn Videos Together

Sit down with your partner and watch a few adult movies together. Figure out what you like and what you don’t like. Decide what looks hot and looks like you might want to try, and decide what you want to keep off screen. For example, don’t videotape your first time engaging in anal sex. That just won’t go well. Figure out what you want to do first, next and then how you want to finish up. Don’t be afraid to write it down. Professionals have a script and a storyboard, why can’t you?

Consider Hiring A Trusted Friend

One of the best things about real porn is that the camera goes in and out, focusing on different aspects of what the couple on screen is doing and grabbing those awesome close ups. You just aren’t going to achieve that with a standing tripod. If you want one camera angle, or don’t have anyone that you feel close enough with to ask this favor, a tripod will be fine.

However, if you want a film that turns out really great, consider hiring a close friend that you trust (perhaps even one with some knowledge of video cameras and filming techniques) to film you and your lover getting down. The finished product will most likely turn out much, much better and you’ll get views of you and your partner that you’ve never had before.

Invest In A Good Camera

No, the video camera on your cell phone isn’t going to work this time. If you don’t already have a good video camera, it may be time to invest in one before you start filming an amateur porn. It may be a pricey investment, however, you’ll be very glad you spent the money when you view the end result. Poor quality video cameras tend to be grainy or pixelated, making it difficult for you to see what’s really going on in the movie. When detail is important, a good camera is essential. Why would you want to tape a homemade porn when you’re not going to be able to see saliva on your partner’s penis as you give him a blowjob or vice versa when he’s giving you oral sex?

Make Sure You Have The Right Lighting

Lighting plays a very important part in any movie, and porn is no exception. Porn lighting can be tricky though, because you want enough light to make sure the camera picks up on everything, but you don’t want the fluorescent kind that highlights your every flaw. You can rent some lighting setups from your local rental agency, or you can purchase a few cheap floodlights from a hardware or home building store.

Buy An Outfit (Or Two)

Don’t wear your old, ratty pajamas when you shoot a homemade porn. Instead, spend a few extra bucks and get something nice for both you and your partner to wear. Lingerie, of course, looks great on camera, but it’s very important that you find something that flatters your body type. If you can fit into a garter belt and a pair of stockings without a muffin top hanging out, good for you. Go for it! However, if you’re a little bigger, you’ll want to buy something that flatters you.

Not so fond of your stomach? Try a baby doll top with sheer, filmy organza that flutters over your stomach and rests on your hips. Don’t like your arms but think your legs are bangin? Splurge on a minidress with tight long sleeves that rests just below where your butt and your legs meet. High heels or stilettos are a must for women, simply because no matter what you’re wearing, they’ll make your legs look fantastic.

Grooming

Grooming before shooting a porn is important, because you want to look your best. Of course, hair and makeup is a must but what about body makeup? Find a color of concealer or foundation that matches your body’s skin tone and use it to cover up blemishes on your legs and arms. You’d be surprised at how a bruise that you didn’t even know you had shows up on film after the fact.

You’ll also want to trim or shave your pubic hair, legs and armpits. Men may want to trim or shave their chest hair, depending on what you want to look like on film.

Use Editing Software

So your video is filmed and you’re ready to make the finished product. Consider purchasing or downloading video editing software to help you in the process. With editing software, you really can turn something mediocre into something fabulous. Just being able to cut out the scenes that you’re not happy with is well worth it right there, not counting the countless other cool features that can give your video that “wow” factor.

Above all, make sure that you’re filming a porn with someone that you trust and don’t allow copies to be made that aren’t expressly agreed upon by both of you. Remember to have fun and if you and your partner split, make sure the tape and any copies (digital or otherwise) are destroyed. Next time you and your lover want to heat things up, throw in your homemade porn and watch you and your lover get it on!

Why Women Do (Or Don’t) Watch Porn

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Porn isn’t just for guys – ladies enjoy it too! A lot of girls really enjoy watching porn, either with their partners as a form of foreplay or without their partners to arouse them before and during masturbation. However, there are many ladies that just can’t stand the idea of adult movies. Here’s the downlow on why girls do (or don’t) like naughty flicks.

Why Women Want To Watch Porn

There are many reasons a woman might want to enjoy porn, although it’s not exactly the majority of a woman’s preferred way to get turned on or masturbate. However, if a girl is eyeballing a dirty flick, she might be doing it to:

Masturbate

Believe it or not, guys aren’t the only ones who want to check out a skin flick before or during masturbation. While many girls prefer reading erotic novels, some of them do, in fact, enjoy visual stimulation before “clicking their own mouse.”

Get Turned On Before Sex

Some girls have a difficult time becoming really aroused before having sex with their lovers. A woman may look at porn either with or without her partner before sex to give herself time to get warmed up before getting busy. If watched with your partner before getting it on, porn can become an integral part of foreplay.

Get Sex Advice

While porn probably isn’t the best place to get sex advice and “how to” tips from, many ladies look at it for that very reason nonetheless. You can learn many things from an adult movie, from how to give a blowjob (porn style, of course) and different sex positions that you and your lover might be interested in trying. If you’re watching porn to understand sex better, however, remember that it is a movie and it is acting. You’d be better off snagging a video that is specifically made to teach sex techniques.

Just See What It’s All About

A lot of girls are curious just to see what the big fuss is all about. Pretty much every guy watches porn  (and they even make a big deal out of having it and hiding it), so a girl may check out a naughty flick just to see what’s up.

Indulge In Taboo Fantasies

Everyone has different sex fantasies, and some ladies may have a sex fantasy that is a little more taboo than what she or her partner is willing to actually do. Porn can be a great way to indulge in taboo or secret sex fantasies that you aren’t ready to try yet. Fetish videos are popular ways to indulge in a fetish that you want to keep hidden, like a diaper fetish or other uncommon fetishes. Skin flicks are also a great way to experience a sex fantasy for the first time without jumping right in with both feet.

See What Her Man Is Watching Behind Her Back

Girls will often catch their guy watching or looking at porn, or they may stumble across it unexpectedly while their partner is at work. She may throw it away or delete it, but chances are, she’s going to take a look at it first. Why? She wants to see exactly what is getting her lover off behind her back.

Why Women Don’t Want To Watch Porn

The far majority of girls actually choose not to look at adult movies, but probably not for reasons you might think. If a woman absolutely hates naughty films or would rather read an erotic novel than check out a skin flick, here’s why:

The Male Actors Aren’t Physically Attractive

A big penis isn’t all that a woman is interested in. Most adult movie actors are chosen for their penis size, not for their facial features or even the attractiveness of the rest of her body. While physical looks aren’t always what attract a woman to a guy, eye candy is important when you’re watching a skin flick. However, the porn industry mostly caters to guys in this respect, because many of the females featured in adult films are good looking with hot bodies. Not so much with the guys in nudie films.

They Deem It Disrespectful

The far majority of girls that choose not to look at porn do so because they feel like it’s disrespectful towards the female gender. Many adult movies do feature girls in compromising sex positions and doing compromising things, but not all of them. Some adult films – especially the less “hardcore” ones – will actually convey a woman in a very positive way.

The Plot…Wait, What Plot?

For a woman to become turned on, she usually has to be engaged mentally as well as physically. This is often the problem with adult movies, because while many adult film producers struggle to give a film at least some kind of plot, they generally don’t do a good job of it. Pizza delivery boy or dishwasher repairman sex? Most girls aren’t going to find that attractive, let alone believable.

It Just Doesn’t Do It For Her

Since females generally need mental stimulation to get turned on, the visual stimulation offered in skin flicks may just not do it for a girl. Why would she want to check out a sub-par porn when she can read an erotic novel and let her imagination take off – turning her on much, much more than a simple movie ever could.

She’s Insecure About Her Body

Ladies that don’t have high self esteem or are insecure about their bodies may not want to watch adult films and they may even get upset when their partner watches it. Adult movie actresses are often very glamorized in skin flicks, with the right lighting, lingerie and makeup to make them look their best. Porn actresses will often have had plastic surgery of some kind, especially breast augmentation or liposuction or tummy tucks. This can be very intimidating for a real woman to watch, even if she looks gorgeous.

She Has An Ample Supply Of Erotic Novels

Most girls just aren’t going to get off by watching a nudie film. It’s as simple as that. A woman that has an ample supply of erotic novels is probably not going to need to look at a skin flick at all.

How To Make Porn With Your Girlfriend – And Have Her Love It

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Porn is something just about every guy enjoys. While most men watch their porn in secret, they secretly want to make a porn with themselves and their girlfriend or wife. If you want to make an adult movie with your significant other but aren’t sure how to bring the topic up, you need to make it fun, and make her feel great about herself and how she’ll look on film. Check out these tips to get your girl to do a movie with you – and even get into it herself!

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Introducing Porn Into Your Relationship

If you’ve never introduced a porn into your relationship to watch with your significant other, now is the time to do it. Rather than jumping feet first into asking your girl to do a porn with you, try to find something you and she can watch and enjoy together first. Grab a skin flick that showcases something you know she really enjoys – for example, if she really loves oral sex, make sure to get a video that has a lot of that particular activity in it. Talk to your partner about what she likes and doesn’t like before you go out and buy anything, so you can make sure you’re getting something she won’t be offended by.

Bringing The Subject Up

Dragging out the camera and tripod one night before you get busy is not the way to bring up the subject of making a porn. Instead, make sure to bring up how hot you’d think she’d be on film and how you’d love to make a tape of you both making love. Telling your love how much the idea of watching you both making love on camera turns you on (without putting too much pressure on) is the best way to get your lady to warm up to the idea. Don’t suggest doing something she’s never tried before for the first time on camera – for example, if she’s never tried anal sex, being recorded the first time isn’t going to make your partner love it. In fact, she’ll probably hate it and never do it again!

Don’t Push Too Hard

If your sweetheart isn’t receptive to the idea of having sex with you on film, don’t push the issue too far. It may be tempting to try to “convince” your lover that it’s a great idea, but if she’s already said no and you keep pushing the issue, she’s not going to appreciate you for it. This may lead to fighting and arguing, or it may turn your sweetheart off the idea altogether. If she doesn’t want to do it, let it go and think about bringing it up another time.

Making Her Feel Good About It

Making your significant other feel good about being on camera is one of the biggest obstacles you face when making an adult movie with them. Buy a new outfit for your woman to wear (something she feels great in) and give her time to do hair and makeup before the camera starts rolling. Tell your girlfriend or wife how sexy you think she looks and continue to offer a compliment here and there while you are filming. Self esteem (next to the fear of the movie getting out) is most likely your woman’s biggest issue with being a “porn star.”

Making It Fun

You don’t have to start out with having sex on film right away. Why not experiment a little with a digital camera or even your webcam and take fun pictures of you and your girl kissing, or even giving a blowjob with all (or most) of your clothes on? Starting off slowly and taking baby steps rather than starting out being fully naked in a porn film might help your partner warm up to the idea rather than shunning it completely.

The Trust Issue

Besides being self concious, your girl is probably afraid that the porn will get out somehow and someone she doesn’t want to see it will end up getting a peek. Assure your partner that you’re going to delete the video right after, and make a point to delete it together. Don’t break your woman’s trust by secretly uploading it onto your computer or letting your friends watch it – even if you are just trying to prove that your girl is smokin’ hot and great in bed. Let her know that she can trust you completely with a sexy videotape and that you’re not going to compromise her integrity by allowing a thing like that to get out. Don’t just say it – show your woman you mean it!