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4 Things Every Girl Must Learn From Porn Stars

By Kaylen Jackson

There are lots of things that porn stars do that you definitely don’t want to take with you into the bedroom, but does that also mean that there’s nothing we can learn from porn stars? Not at all. There are lots of sex tips that you can and probably should learn from porn stars that can make you a sex goddess and make your sex life super hot. Surprisingly, these tips aren’t super secret special techniques that porn stars know and the regular world doesn’t – in fact, they’re more like philosophies that porn stars have that can actually make your sex life sizzle.

Act Like You Want It!

The single most important thing that porn stars do in adult movies is they act like they want it everywhere, any way and all the time. Of course, much of it is acting but this is definitely a philosophy you can use in the bedroom – without going overboard of course. When giving your man a blowjob, really get into it. Act like it is the only thing you want to be doing right then and pleasing your man is your priority. Act like you’re going to starve to death or the world is going to fall apart if you don’t give him head and that going down on him is something you need to do! The same goes for sex – when he’s penetrating you, that’s all that exists at that moment and that’s all you want too! You may be acting a lot at first, but as you get into it and show him you want it, you’ll actually start to realize how much you actually do want it.

Don’t Worry About Your Bod

One thing that porn stars don’t worry about is how they look. They know they look good and they’re comfortable with themselves – but is this because they look better than everyone else? Not hardly! They just know something that girls who aren’t porn stars haven’t figured out yet – that guys don’t really care about their cellulite or whatever other insecurities they have about their bodies. When they’re having sex, the last thing your guy is thinking about is your thighs, except for the fact that he’s blissed out because they’re wrapped around them! So make like a porn star and forget all about your bodily insecurities so you can try those crazy sex positions that you haven’t tried yet because you’re afraid they’ll make your ass look big.

Dress Sexy

Porn stars know that above all else, men are visual creatures. They process information best when they actually see it, and they get turned on most when they see things that are sexy. This is why you often see porn stars keeping their push up bras or stilettos on during sex, because they know it adds that extra bit of visual flair that will really make a man melt. So instead of turning out the lights and getting totally naked when you and your man have sex, leave the light on or light a few candles to help illuminate the room so he can see what’s going on. You can also wear some sexy lingerie or just keep your chic work outfit on and let him lift up the skirt for an extra naughty touch. Dressing sexy also applies to what you wear outside of the bedroom, around the house or to work. Instead of putting on what is comfortable for you, think more about how you can dress to please your man. Sure, the cotton nightie is way more comfortable than the camisole set, but with the latter, sex is going to be on your partner’s mind the whole time you’re wearing it.

Introduce Dirty Talk

Men like to hear what’s going on in the bedroom as much as they like to see it. Porn stars are very vocal about what they want, what they like and how something feels – and that’s not at all a bad thing! Try incorporating some dirty talk into your sex routine to make it a little more steamy. If you’re fairly quiet during sex, you can simply start by making a few vocal sounds when your partner really does something to you that you like. Or, if you’re too shy to tell him what you want him to do to you, describe what you’re doing to him instead. Sometimes, dirty talk is simply a verbal play by play of what is going on and how much you or your partner like it. Get your partner into the dirty talk too by asking him what he wants to do to you!

5 Things Guys Really DON’T Want In Bed

By Kaylen Jackson

Sex tips tell you what to DO in the sack, but how do you find out mistakes to avoid? While men want to do a lot of different things in the bedroom, there are some things that just don’t strike his fancy and may very well turn him completely OFF. You don’t want to do that! Here are the things that your guy would really rather you leave OUT.

He Doesn’t Want To Try “Butt Stuff”

This applies to “butt stuff” on HIM. Most guys enjoy anal sex with women, but the street doesn’t go both ways. Although you can give him a totally fierce orgasm via prostate massage, he’s not likely going to be very receptive to it unless he’s very adventurous. Suggesting that you put a finger up his anus while giving him a blowjob might get you a strange look, or it may get you thrown out of the bedroom depending on how much the “butt stuff” freaks him out.

Some guys will politely turn you down, while others will be convinced that you’re trying to turn them gay and run for the hills. Read your man – if he likes a lot of naughty stuff, he might be into it. If he’s more of a “vanilla” guy, don’t even bother bringing it up.

Lingerie That Has Too Many Clasps, Buttons, Zippers, etc.

Does he love seeing you wear sexy lingerie? Hell yeah, he does! But he also wants to take it OFF. And if taking off whatever you’re wearing is more like diffusing a bomb than getting you undressed sexily, your man is going to become frustrated well before he ever gets to see you naked. Keep this in mind when choosing lingerie.

Garter belts are totally hot, but they’re also a pain in the ass to get on and off. If you want to go that route, just leave them on during sex and make sure he has full access to your breasts and nether regions. If you want to wear something sexy to bed, go for it. Just make sure your guy can actually get it off of you in a short amount of time. Because honestly, if you do the lingerie right, he’s going to want to rip it off you ASAP anyways.

Watching Porn With You

Lots of sex tips suggest watching porn with your partner to help you and him get aroused before sex. Yes, your guy watches porn. He likes it, he masturbates to it, but he doesn’t want to watch it with YOU. There could be many reasons why, such as he had a past girlfriend totally freak out on him about it or he just really enjoys you so much that he doesn’t want his attention drawn to other women (we’re going to pretend it’s the latter – it could be true).

Unless your guy suggests it or brings it up, leave it alone. Let the porn stay on his computer or under his bed and let him enjoy his solo time with it just like that – solo. But don’t be afraid to get your own porn stash going – if porn turns you on, why don’t you watch it the way he does? Solo?

Drunk Sex

Lots of great sex has been born from having a few drinks beforehand. But great sex does not come from being so totally sloshed you can’t get your underwear off. Yeah, we’ve all had our crazy nights and have woke up wondering what the hell happened (and from what you can remember, it was pretty damn fun) but that’s not something your guy wants to do all the time. In fact, being completely shitfaced during sex is probably something you want to save for one night stands, mistakes you’ll regret later, etc. and so on.

Another thing to note here is that if he drinks too much, it’s likely he’ll have “liquor dick” and won’t be able to get or maintain a good erection. So yeah, he doesn’t want drunk sex. Feel free to engage in having a few drinks beforehand to take the edge off and lower your inhibitions a little bit, but know when to put the drink down and head to the bedroom.

Kinky Sex That Goes Too Far

Many sex tips resources assume that all men like kinky sex and the kinkier the better. This is actually far from the truth. While most guys will enjoy the occasional bondage scenario (such as being handcuffed to the bed for a blowjob) or spanking their girl during doggy style, kinky sex that goes too far is actually going to scare you partner away. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but breaking out the cock cage, leather whip and dog collar will ensure that you’ll never see hide nor hair of your man again.

This is, of course, unless your man is super into kinky sex (which you would have already known if he is). If he’s just your average Joe, learn how to give an excellent blowjob instead. That will impress him far more than whipping out all the sex toys and kinky stuff in your nightstand drawer.

Why Your Attitude Is KEY When Giving A Blowjob

Blowjob tips aren’t all about how to suck and lick your partner. It’s also about your state of mind when going down on him. Here’s how to improve your blowjob skills.

The most important aspect of giving your lover an incredible blowjob is your attitude. If you have a bad attitude about it, the activity isn’t going to be enjoyable for either you or your partner. However, if you have a good attitude about the blowjob, it will really turn your lover on and get him into it.

Acting Like The Blowjob Is A Chore

Think about the situation in reverse – what if he were giving you oral sex? How would it make you feel if he acted like giving you oral sex were a chore? How would you like it if he acted like he’d rather be doing anything else than have his head between your legs? (You might already have a man that does this – if so, then you definitely have some perspective here.) It wouldn’t make you feel very sexy, would it? You wouldn’t feel desired, or that your lover cared at all about your pleasure. You would probably feel intensely rejected and you would take a huge blow to your ego.

When you act like sucking him off is a burden rather than something fun and enjoyable for you, it makes your partner feel exactly like that – unsexy, undesired and uncared about. This makes it very difficult for him to get lost in the pleasure, or really feel any pleasure at all. His mind will be preoccupied with trying to figure you out than being open to receiving intense pleasure and orgasms from oral sex. So no matter what your blowjob skill level is, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a good attitude about giving head.

How Do They Do It In Porn?

Take porn for example. Although porn is probably the worst place you could possibly go to learn blowjob techniques, there is one thing you could pick up from the porn stars and use in your own oral sex repertoire – and that’s how great their attitude is. Men love it when the girls in porn get excited about going down on them. They love it when a woman is enthusiastic about doing such a naughty, pleasurable and submissive activity.

You’ll notice that in almost every blowjob porn, the girl on the giving end is just plain ecstatic about sucking her man off! Now you most certainly do not have to go to the extremes that these women do – or else it will probably come off as fake anyways – mimicking their willingness and enthusiasm about giving a blowjob will make you really good at it. A great attitude is even more important than learning great blowjob skills.

Smile, And Act Like It’s FUN!

So with a great attitude, you can give your lover the best blowjob of his life – even if you’re not that skilled at different techniques and moves you can do. Just act like you get really turned on by the idea of going down on him and giving him the ultimate pleasure. Bonus points if it’s less of an “act” and you really do get into it. If you can learn to really enjoy giving your lover fellatio, the activity can be super meaningful and super pleasurable for both of you.

50 Shades Of Grey – The TRUTH About “Girl” Porn

50 Shades Of Grey is one of the best selling books of all time – and you’ve likely heard about the darker sexual plot. Is erotica about to become mainstream?

Scores of women, all over the world are obsessed with 50 Shades Of Grey – an S&M related erotic thriller. It’s given birth to an entirely new genre of literature: “girl porn.” But what does that mean, exactly? What does it mean to women? To men? More importantly, what does it mean to you?

Sorry, It’s Not “New”

The whole “girl porn” thing isn’t new. Books like “My secret garden” have told stories of female centered erotica for years, and the concept is as old as time itself. It’s just becoming more and more prevalent and mainstream. Why? Part of it is feminism, partly due to relaxing social attitudes towards sex and sexuality, but mostly it’s due to one thing: technology. It used to be if you were a woman and you wanted to get your girl porn on, you had to buy a book, and carry that book around wherever you wanted to go and read it.

Everyone likes a little naughty reading time, but nobody wants to really be outed as doing it. Enter smartphones. And tablets. Amazon and Apple sell the tablets simply to drive purchases of digital content through the mediums they rule with an iron fist. conspiracy theories aside, this allows you to buy as much girl porn as you can stand, read it wherever you like and no one will no about it.

You might be asking yourself “Tony, are you saying that woman on the subway who looked way too happy to be there was getting her girl porn on? Am I really to believe that she was reading 50 Shades Of Grey?” Yes grasshopper. She was and you should. The explosion that is 50 Shades of Grey is directly related to the explosion of iPads, Kindle Fires, iPhones, Android phones, android tablets, and the like.

Girls Like It Dirty!

Here’s another truth: women are dirty. They talk dirty and they want dirty things. Chris Rock has this joke: “your woman is nastier and dirtier and more sexual than you ever imagined. She’s dying to do it. But anything you mutter ain’t getting done.” Women have always been this sexual. They’ve always been into porn. They are just into a different kind of porn than men are. Don’t believe that women are pervs too? Two words: Magic Mike. Women losing their minds over have naked shirtless men who are ripped and in great shape. They eat that up. Literally.

Women have always been massively sensual creatures, but they’ve been bread to repress that. Times are changing. That repression is being peeled away layer by layer. Thanks to technology and the internet, women in particular have access to any kind of sex and relationship type they could possibly want, and access to any kind of girl porn they want. They know it’s out there, and that helps them know that it’s okay, whatever that it is.

The Domination Factor

50 Shades Of Grey also reveals and increasing desire for women to be submissive and dominated. Often the women who exhibit the strongest desire to be dominated in the bedroom are the ones who are most dominant outside of it. It may seem a bit screwy, but it’s not. It actually makes quite a bit of sense when you think about it.

There is so much pressure on women today, most of it put on women by themselves and other women. They are obligated to “have it all” whatever that means. They are earning more than ever, having more responsibilities than ever. There’s an ever increasing number of roles women are having to play and as they take many of the leadership and powerful roles that men have traditionally played, they begin to feel the same pressures.

With all the hats women wear today, it’s no wonder that they want to throw them all off (in addition to their clothes). Being submissive allows you to surrender control and not have to worry about anything. You can use it as an excuse to give into any number of secret sex related desires you’ve long held (orgies, swinging, anal sex, lesbianism, bondage, etc), and in your mind you’re totally in the clear because you were “forced” to do it, but really, that isn’t true at all.

You were simply creating a scenario where you could finally allow yourself to have the kind of pleasure you’ve long desired, but do it in a way that’s safe for your mind and body. And for a woman, that’s an incredibly appealing proposition. That’s what these girl porn books offer.

Things Never To Do In The Bedroom

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips aren’t always about what to do during sex, but also what NOT to do. Here’s what you need to steer clear of, or else!

Everyone talks so much about what to do in the bedroom, but what about what not to do? What are the deal breakers you need to know about?

What She Said:

When it comes to sex, anything goes and every person brings their own fetishes, fantasies and turn-ons into the bedroom (or closet, back seat of car, laundry room, couch etc.) If two consenting adults are ready and willing there is nothing that should ever be considered taboo.

The only thing that should never ever be done is faked enjoyment, desire or passion This goes for men and women. You can tell when your partner is faking it and not just an orgasm but faking the desire. Maybe he/she gets a little too into the sex, like over the top moans or facial expressions.

You can clearly tell they are trying too hard and that is a huge turn off! When you feel or see your partner check out or see that they are not even showing signs of excitement, its hard to have fun yourself. There is nothing wrong with not being in the mood and you can fake-it-till-you-make-it, but sometimes if you know for sure you are not going to get pleasure,how can you completely give it?

What He Said:

You should never surprise anyone in the bedroom. You can’t just think “Hmm….I bet she’d really like me to have anal sex with her right now” and then haul off and do it. Not only do you need lots of lube, that’s just not something you can try and find out the hard way if your partner is into that.

You shouldn’t be discussing much in the bedroom, either. Now is not the time to have long, drawn out in depth conversations about what you’re into or not into. Actually, you shouldn’t be talking about much of anything. The conversation should consist of things like “yes! Yes! Yes!” or “harder/faster” or “do this or that.” And of course dirty talk is always okay.

But you shouldn’t be talking about much else, because if you are, then you’re thinking, and if you’re thinking, you’re not feeling. The more in your head you are, the less in your body you are and that means less getting naughty.

Don’t do anything you see in porn either. Yes, I know, it looks hot. Sometimes it is hot. But they are highly trained professionals in peak physical condition and it’s still a lot for them to pull some of that stuff off. You are not a trained professional. Don’t try and be one.

And don’t for the sake of all that is good and holy, ever tape yourself having sex. I don’t care how hot you are. If I have learned nothing else from my friend in the porn industry, I have learned this: leave the fucking on film to the professionals. Even if you’re a professional model having sex with one or more other professional models, you won’t look anywhere near as good as they do screwing on film.

Why? They know their best angles. They have the right lighting that makes their bodies look amazing. They have Photoshop to take out any blemish, stretch mark, or anything else they don’t want you to see. They also know all the best angles and they will only show you those. They cut out the stuff that isn’t hot, or that makes them look like mere mortals copulating on film. They have an entire production team surrounding them to make them look amazing at all times.

You have none of this. You will not look as good as they do doing it, and you’ll probably beat yourself up about it. Not to mention that they have a job that consists of them having oral sex, intercourse and a host of other sex acts on tape for the world to see. You work in accounting and your wife is a middle school teacher. If that ever gets out, and there’s always a chance that it will, will you be able to keep your job or spot on the city council? No, not so much. If you’re into swinging, cool. If you’re sex prowess is legendary, great! But don’t ever, ever, put it on film.

And for God’s sake make sure your smart phones are in the other room. If you take naughty photos on your phone and your phone gets stolen, the first thing that’s going to happen is that who ever steals it is going to post your nude photos up on your facebook account (which, conveniently is already installed on your phone if you’re like most. And your phone always has internet access so hackers can get your photos off your phone even if you don’t lose it.