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Is A Penis All It’s Really Cracked Up To Be?

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A penis is the be all and end all for a woman’s pleasure, right? Wrong! In fact, here’s why the penis is actually the MOST inadequate tool for a female orgasm!

Aaah, The Penis

Monuments have been built for it, product lines have mushroomed for the promise of making it larger, longer and harder – it’s the thing every man wishes 3 extra inches of. The Penis. Every self-respecting guy is expected to get it up, those unable to do so are left feeling psychologically and physically incapacitated – an old fart with a limp tool.

But, what if I told you that the penis is the most inefficient tool used during sex?! What if you find out it’s not the winning ticket to Orgasmville?

Truth Is, Penis Size DOESN’T Matter!

Women of experience know they can have an amazing time regardless of girth, length or color. Contrary to popular belief, the secret to a great encounter doesn’t hang on that thing dangling between your legs.

Besides dart in and out, what can a schlong do, really?

So What Does A Penis Really Do?

Come to think of it, tremendous muscular control is required to simply nod it up and down. One has to rock the pelvis and hips just to swing, push or bat it around. It takes only two forms, flaccid and firm. The first looks wrinkled, spiritless and docile. The second is merely hard, worthy of the name ‘hotrod’ because it’s just that – a rod – maneuvering only in straight line motions, curved at best.

Then, it has the nasty habit of failing guys when they need an erection the most. But sometimes, it awakens when it’s not supposed to, (forcing its bearer to remain seated longer than he planned to.) And it would certainly douse your enthusiasm when you realize that what hardens it is plain old blood.

And yet, men treat it as if it’s the best thing, placing undue prominence on something that’s not even a close third to the real machineries of sexual warfare. So stop peddling the thing as if it’s all that. Stop glorifying the penis, get out of the cult!

You Do Not Need A Huge Cock To Give Her Great Sex

Enough with the SIZE issue. Too many otherwise rational men needlessly lose sleep and hair over it. Do you really think your equipment can be huge enough so your woman’s vagina can’t contain it? I don’t think so! Babies come out of those things! It can expand when it needs to. And do you really think bigger is better? Deeper is better?

Definitely not! A huge cock stabbing a petite vagina only results in an irritated woman and a painful experience. Put yourself in her high-heeled shoes. Women don’t love gagging on those life-threatening logs during a blowjob and they’re not psyched to have it up their backdoors either.

Penile size should instead commensurate vaginal capacity. In this sense, to be average is best. Besides, guys who think they’re small are actually oftentimes average. And those with genuinely diminutive members need not fret, though one may be hung like a mosquito, one can be a better lover than any clueless 12-inch guy.

Another Issue – Getting It Up?

Definitely a touchy subject for the elderly and those with performance anxiety. Zero erections create that feeling of uselessness and unwelcomed termination. As if the limpness declares, “Not tonight buddy! Go watch the Weather Channel.”

This reflects the: SEX = PENETRATION = PENIS paradigm. And if indeed you think this way, it is indeed over. But if you get a sexual reprogramming, widen your horizons and think: SEX = PLEASURE = FUN, then you’re up for something else – even when you don’t have a hard-on. For many are the possibilities.

Ironically, worrying about it chases the erection away. When you worry and pressure yourself, you always lose, always. As one cannot will or worry a penis to life. Instead, focus on other stuff. Be mindful, for example, of the tingling sensations given by your partner – as she touches and kisses your body. In time, that which you don’t chase will come. That’s a paradox in action.

Are Your Friends Ruining Your Sex Life?

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Sex tips from your friends can actually be wreaking havoc on your sex life. Watch out for these three bogus sex tips – they’re likely not true.

Where did you learn about sex? Health class? Your dad? But where did you learn about having sex? A lot of your early knowledge of intercourse probably came from your buddies, especially the ones who claimed to be getting some. Bad news, friend, they were just as clueless as you were.

They too were relying on information from dudes who claimed to be having a bunch of sex and weren’t. Unfortunately for women everywhere, a lot of this locker room talk has no merit, yet sticks in the sexual psyche of the American male. Here are some things your buddies have bragged about, and shouldn’t have.

They Equate Penis Size With Sexual Prowess

Men seem to think that the bigger the penis the better. Guess what guys, size doesn’t matter – much. There are so many ways to pleasure a woman, and penetration is actually the least effective. Only 25% of women orgasm during intercourse. That doesn’t mean that 75% of men have tiny, unsatisfying penises, it just means that it’s difficult for women to cum during sex. So most of a woman’s climaxing happens during what you consider “foreplay,” which happens before your penis even touches her.

They Went Down On A Girl For Like, “Two Hours”

This one even he may actually believe. When a man realizes a woman is going to let him stick his penis in her, every second leading up to that desirous act feels like an hour. It’s not. Most men also think that performing oral sex on a woman is just something you do to get her wet enough to handle your impressive member. Not true.

What you consider foreplay is, to her, part of the sexual experience as a whole. Instead of rushing through it so you can get to the “actual sex part,” keep yourself tuned into her responses. Pleasing her can be pleasing yourself. And remember, women aren’t one-hit-and-quit like men when it comes to orgasms. So if you start the orgasm train early, she will definitely be impressed.

They Brag About How Long They Can Last

Let’s put this to bed once and for all. Gentlemen, women do not want a man who can penetrate her continuously over the course of several hours. The genital area is home to some extremely delicate tissue, and the body can only produce so much lubrication. This is not to say that women don’t like sexual acts that last over the course of several hours.

For a woman, sex begins the minute the decision is made to have the sex. This kissing, the caressing, and the dirty talk are as important to her as the penetration itself. If you allow yourself to be a part of that, you may be surprised at how intense the sexual experience can be for the both of you!

3 Sex Tips For Men With A Big Penis

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A big penis doesn’t guarantee you’re a sex master. In fact, without good planning and techniques, you can actually hurt your partner with your big penis. Don’t assume that because you’ve got it going on down there that you’re going to be able to rock every woman’s world. Check out these great sex tips for guys who are exceptionally well endowed.

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Focus On Foreplay

Foreplay is probably the number one thing that guys with a big penis forget about. A lot of well endowed men think that just because they are…well, well endowed that they can please their female partners with their penises alone. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! In fact, without enough foreplay to get a woman really wet and aroused, a big penis could definitely hurt her.

To accommodate a large penis, a woman has to be aroused and well lubricated. If she’s not aroused, she’s not only going to be somewhat dry down there, it’s also going to be more difficult for her to stretch to take in every inch of you. A woman’s vagina doubles in length when she is aroused, so it’s extremely important to use foreplay before intercourse to make sure she is ready to take you in.

Take Your Time Teasing Her

Don’t rush through foreplay. Take your time and go slow. Play with her – lick her clitoris or rub it gently with your thumb while kissing her deeply. Then back off and just kiss her neck or breasts. Have fun with it! The point is to get her really turned on and excited for what is to come. You want to get her to the point where she’s practically begging you to enter her – this way, she gasps at your penis size in pleasure, not in pain!

Also, remember to use lots and lots of good, water based lubricant. Even if you’ve gotten her so aroused that she’s practically dripping wet, you still want to make sure that you have lube on hand. If intercourse takes longer than expected or you just want to draw it out and enjoy yourself, things can get pretty dry down there, even if she was soaking wet to start with. Having lube on hand will keep things going smoothly for the duration.

Size Is Not Enough

Most men with a big penis think that they don’t need any technique – that their penis is long enough to reach her g-spot and all he has to do is stick it in. They think that sex tips and techniques are just for guys who don’t have large enough penises to pleasure their partners. This couldn’t be farther than the truth! Whether a man is big or small down there, he still needs to learn techniques to please a woman if he has any hope of giving her an orgasm at all.

Do some research of your own and read up on how women like to be touched. Learn where their hot spots are and how to stimulate them to bring her to climax. You may be able to do this with your penis, or you may want to give her an orgasm through oral sex and then get yours during the actual intercourse.

The point here is that what guys think is good for a woman is probably not even close to what she actually likes. It’s easy to make mistakes and turn a woman off completely – so don’t assume that just because you have a big penis that you have what it takes to make a woman’s wildest dreams come true. Take some time to learn exactly what to do and how to do it – then you’ll have her climbing the walls in ecstasy.

Communicate With Her

Another mistake that a lot of men make – whether they have a big penis or not – is that they fail to communicate with their partners or even pay attention to a woman’s non-verbal cues. They think they’re doing what she likes and keep doing it, all while ignoring her body language and vocal cues that tell you that what you’re doing just isn’t doing it for her.

Talk to your lover and ask her what she likes and what she doesn’t like. She may just be bold enough to tell you. If not, pay attention to her body language when you’re having sex with her. If your big penis is hurting her in any way, she’s likely going to be trying to shy or scoot away from you. If this happens, add lube and switch your technique. Experiment until you find things that work and remember that it’s all about having fun!

What Is A Micropenis And Do I Have One?

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Penis size is something just about every guy worries about. In fact, most guys are obsessed with their penis size and worried that their genitals too small. Some men may be convinced that they have a micropenis – that is, a clinical condition where the genitals are much smaller than average. But what really makes a small penis a micropenis, and could you have one?

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What Is A Micropenis?

A micropenis is a term that is usually used to describe a very small, or abnormally small penis. The average length of an adult man’s genitals when erect is about 5-6” and a micropenis is any shaft that is less than about 2.8” when erect. So basically, a micropenis is a penile shaft that is significantly smaller than the smallest average size.

What Causes It To Be That Small?

There are a few things that cause this condition, including abnormal testicular development in the womb and testosterone and other hormone deficiencies. If you do have a micropenis, it’s likely that you’re not going to discover this until you’re an adult – all these measurements are for an adult male, because the genitals are normally much smaller in boys.

How To REALLY Measure Your Penis

If you want to find out if your small genitals actually fall into the “micropenis” category, you’ll want to measure it correctly. Remember that most guys who have smaller genitals still don’t fit into the category of having a micropenis – because their genitals are small, but not less than 3″ or so. Here’s the real way to measure your penis:

  • Get your shaft as erect as you can. Make sure you’re really turned on and you’ve maximized your penis size.
  • Have a rule or tape measure on hand.
  • Place one end of the measuring device at the very base of your shaft, up against your groin.
  • Stretch out the tape measure or lay the ruler on your shaft and note where the tip of your penis is. This is your penis length.

If you do have small genitals, or even a micropenis, remember that it’s not all about length when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually and giving her an orgasm. It’s really the width that comes into play during intercourse, so even if you have a short shaft, if it is still fairly thick, you’re good to go.

Can A Micropenis Be Enlarged?

If you have very small genitals, you’re probably going to want look into some type of penis enlargement therapy to help you get a bigger member. Don’t take matters into your own hands though, especially if you’re considering a treatment that is invasive or risky. Consult your doctor beforehand about your options.

He or she can let you know what is available out there to help you get a larger erection, from natural ways like using a penis pump or possibly through surgical intervention. Your doctor can inform you about the risks involved with any type of enlargement therapy and suggest alternatives if some options aren’t right for you.

Don’t try to enlarge your genitals on your own with creams, pills or penis pumps because you may end up doing more harm than good. While creams, pills and pumps may be part of your treatment plan, having your doctor’s okay first will give you the confidence to know that you’re being safe and smart so you don’t end up hurting yourself.

Common Treatments For A Micropenis

Testosterone Therapy

Usually, testosterone therapy is tried first since it is considered the safest and least invasive way to treat extremely small genitals. A man on testosterone therapy to increase his size may take hormone supplements or use hormone creams, and this type of medication can be prescribed to infants in rare cases where the problem is noticed at a much younger age.

Testosterone therapy can also be used during puberty to help increase size, before the window for actual, true penis growth closes.

Surgical Procedures

Surgical procedures to enlarge the genitals are very rarely used, because it’s a risky treatment option and the length of the shaft doesn’t increase that much. A man undergoing surgical lengthening of the penile shaft may only gain a few centimeters, or an inch or so at most.

Penile implants may be an option if you’re just going for raw length, but there are caveats to any surgical procedure you might be considering. Talk with your doctor (or several doctors) about the right options for you – before you have anyone come near your genitals with a scalpel!

Can You Have Sex With A Micropenis?

The better question here is can a man lead a fully satisfying sex life with a micropenis, and the answer is yes! Actual vaginal penetration and intercourse can be difficult, especially if the shaft is really short. However, there are lots of ways you can experience satisfying, fulfilling sex with your partner without vaginal intercourse:

  • Give and receive oral sex
  • Finger her and allow her to give you a handjob
  • Bring sex toys in the bedroom and use them on each other
  • Try different sex positions – you may not be able to have intercourse in the missionary position (especially if you or your partner are bigger around the middle), but you may be able to have intercourse just fine in the doggy style position. Experiment and have fun!

Learning To Accept Yourself

If you have a micropenis – or just very small genitals – it’s easy to be down on yourself or wonder if you’re ever going to meet a woman who wants to be with you – or who can be sexually satisfied by you. Don’t worry so much about what women may think. Learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are and how you were made. If you have self confidence – and know how to please a woman orally or with sex toys – she’s not going to care about your size.

Penis Size – What About Vagina Size? Do Girls Have A Size Too?

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Sex is something every guy obsesses over – and the biggest obsession of all is how big their penis is. Guys know they’re not all the same down there, but is it the same for girls? Do women have a certain “vagina size” too? Are some women bigger down there than others? Here’s the lowdown on how what’s in a girl’s pants can be different from one woman to the next and how to handle it when it comes to having sex.

Question: My cousin masturbated with a toothbrush and she couldn’t get it all in – she only got 4 inches. It was like a wall was blocking it and when she pushed it. It didnt hurt but it wasnt pleasant either (this happened to me too). I’ve heard girls have a “size” too. Does this mean she’s extra small or is it that she’s a virgin?

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If She’s A Virgin

If a woman is a virgin and has never had sex before, and even if she’s never inserted anything into her vagina before at all (including tampons or sex toys), her vagina is definitely going to be smaller than if she had participated in intercourse. Most virgins have a flap of skin inside the vaginal canal called the hymen, which will break when enough force is put behind penetration. Sometimes the hymen can break unexpectedly for no reason, such as during activities like horseback riding.

When something penetrates the vaginal canal and pushes up against the hymen, the hymen will resist and make it more difficult to push the object in. This will most often cause discomfort and even pain in some cases. If the hymen is broken, it can also cause light to moderate bleeding.

Once The Hymen Is Broken, Are All Vaginas The Same Size?

Just like penis size differs from man to man, the vagina size (both outside and in) can differ greatly from girl to girl. Just like no two people are the same and everyone is different in their height, weight, hair color and body type, their genitals are going to be different as well.

The vagina lays flat when there is nothing in it, and expands when a penis or object (such as a vibrator) is inserted inside. Some women are designed to accommodate objects that are thicker in width, while other women’s bodies can stretch to accommodate an object that is longer. However, this can change as a woman gets used to thicker and thicker (or longer and longer) objects.

For example, a woman who has had sex with a man that has a very big penis will be able to tolerate a larger object such as a large dildo or other sex toy, while a woman that has only been penetrated with small objects would not be able to tolerate something very large. Just remember that once stretched, not always stretched – the vagina can go back to its original shape over time.

When A Woman Has A Baby

A prime example of vagina size changing is when a woman gives birth. A baby is very large in comparison to how large a vagina is, but the vaginal canal and opening is made to stretch to accommodate a baby when it is born naturally.

While the vagina may tear or be cut when a woman gives birth, it generally goes back to the way it was before the baby was born, in both width and length.

How Genetics Come Into Play

How high the cervix is up inside a woman’s body is entirely dependent on genetics. This refers to the length of the vaginal canal, because the cervix is where the vagina stops and the uterus begins. Just like some women are shorter and taller than one another, their vaginas can be shorter or longer depending on the genes they were born with.

Sex Before Marriage?

Many religions suggest waiting until marriage to have sex and while that can be the right choice for many individuals, it does prevent the couple from figuring out whether their sexual anatomy is compatible with one another. For example, a woman may find out on her honeymoon right after they get married that her husband’s penis is eight inches long and her vagina will only fit four or five inches.

If you and your partner don’t fit together physically, it makes it nearly impossible to have a satisfying sex life. If you and your partner decide to take your genitals out for a “test drive” to see if you are sexually compatible, remember to make safe sex your priority.

How To Tighten The Vagina

Many women desire to tighten their vaginal canals to give their partner (and themselves) more pleasure during sex. Many women want to reduce the gap between their partner’s penis size and their vagina, creating a tighter fit and more friction during intercourse. Exercises that help tighten these muscles – called the PC muscles – are called kegel exercises and are performed by squeezing your PC muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine. Repeat the squeezing over and over to strengthen the muscles and make the vagina tighter.

How To Stretch The Vagina

Experiment with sex toys of different sizes, starting small and working your way up. This is especially true if you’re new to sex, have never experienced a large penis size or just have a very small vagina. You can work with your vaginal muscles to stretch them out and make it more comfortable for you to be penetrated by larger and larger objects.

Remember when using sex toys or even while having sex to always use lube, especially if you’re experimenting with an object that is larger than you’ve ever tried using before. Lube will make everything go much smoother!