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7 Blowjob Tips That Will Leave Him Reeling

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Oral sex is one of the greatest sexual gifts you can give a guy, because they absolutely love it. Some men even prefer oral sex to any other type of sex, including anal sex and vaginal intercourse! If you’re going to give your man head, you’re definitely going to want to make it special. Here’s how to give your man a blowjob that he’ll never forget.

Go Super Slow

A lot of women try to rush through a blowjob, or just go fast because they think that the faster they suck on their partner’s penis, the quicker he’s going to reach orgasm. This is actually quite far from the truth – lots of men actually enjoy slower blowjobs. They love the feeling of your mouth on their member, and they want to feel every movement. Suck on your partner’s member slowly, while covering your teeth with your lips. Swirl your tongue over the head of his member and don’t think that you can go too slow. If you’re really showing your lover that you’re savoring the blowjob, he’ll never want you to stop.

Flick Your Tongue Over His Urethra

As you’re licking the head of your lover’s penis, slowly flick your tongue over the tip of the penis on the urethra. If your guy seems really into the blowjob, you can also try lightly poking your tongue down into his urethra. There are tons of sensitive nerve endings around the opening of his member, so slowly licking and sucking in that area will definitely send shivers down his spine.

Hold The Base Of His Penis Tightly

Once you’ve given him an erection, take your thumb and your forefinger and tightly grasp the base of his penis. This acts like a cock ring and keeps the blood in the shaft during oral sex. This will help keep him rock hard and feeling every single thing you’re doing, even the lightest sweeps of your tongue. It will also help you steady his shaft and help you give a more coordinated blowjob. You’re also going to

Rub His Penis Underneath A Sheet

Before you get started, you may want to tease him a little bit first and get him hard and ready for what is to come. You can really get him turned on by having him lie naked on the bed underneath a sheet. Make sure your sheets are nice and soft, with either a high thread count or made from soft t-shirt material. Lightly stroke his member with your hand over the fabric and his genitals underneath it.

He’ll love the naughty feel of your hand over the sheet and you’ll really enjoy feeling his shaft get harder and harder under the fabric. Switch between soft and hard strokes, and don’t forget to let your hand wander over his thighs and scrotum too. You can also switch from rubbing him with your hand over the sheet to slipping your hand underneath and touching the skin of his genitals. Make this foreplay last until he can’t stand it anymore, and then slip the sheet back to give your man head.

Learn To Deep Throat

Men love deep throating – there’s just no doubt about it. They absolutely adore the feeling of their penis in your hot, wet mouth and when you deep throat, your man gets to feel your whole mouth and throat tightly enclosing his member. If you have trouble gagging while deep throating, practice a little each time you give your guy oral sex. Even if you can only deep throat one thrust before bringing his member out of your throat, you can make progress. Remember to breathe through your nose and relax your throat muscles. Focus on thinking about not gagging and know that practice makes perfect!

Switch Between A Blowjob And A Handjob

You can tease and titillate your partner by switching between giving him oral sex and a handjob. This requires your hands to be wet also, so either make sure you’re producing lots of saliva or use a flavored lube to make sure things are smooth and slick. When switching, bring your hand up and make it an extension of your mouth.

Then, as you move your hand up and down, slowly take your mouth off the head of your partner’s penis and just keep moving your hand. This gives you a break too (and allows you to go down on him longer without getting as tired) and when you’re ready to switch back to giving him a blowjob, just move your hand and go for it!

Suck The Head Of His Penis

When you sense that your lover is really into what you’re doing, stop and suck the head of his penis firmly. This is usually a good move to do right before you start giving him a handjob, after you’ve brought your hand up and are stroking his shaft or holding the base of his shaft tightly. You can also flick the tip of your tongue firmly over the head of his member and after all the teasing you’ve already been doing, this sultry move is likely to make his legs start shaking!

How to Give a Blowjob: A Crash Course On Giving Men Great Head

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If there’s one skill that every man would like a woman to have, that is none other than knowing how to give a BJ or a blowjob. One of the most common mistakes that women make is thinking that all the work should be done by the man in the relationship.

However, if you want to have a great sex life, you should do your part and learn about the techniques in bed that will give him the utmost sexual pleasure. So what exactly does it take to give a man great head?

Below is a crash course on how to give a man great head which will lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

Step 1: Be In A Comfortable Position

Just like penetrative sex, there are a multitude of positions that you can try while learning how to give a BJ to your guy. You can either have him lie down in bed, have him standing up or make him sit on a comfortable couch.

Let’s say that you choose the last position. What you can do here is kneel in between his legs so that you can gain easy access to all ‘the goods’. Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, you would not want to have things over too soon – so make sure that you’re in a comfortable position while going down on him.

Step 2: Start Giving Him Head By Slowly Licking Him

It doesn’t matter if he’s already hard or not. The best way to start giving him head is by using your tongue in one long, slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up. Do this on as many sides of his penis as you can, then when you feel that he’s all worked up, that is the time that you can slowly take him into your mouth.

Step 3: Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers

As you slowly take his penis deep into your mouth, make sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft.  Use an up and down motion with your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth.

Showing him that you are really into it will be a huge turn on, so stare into his eyes and watch his reaction.  Finally, marvel in your sexual prowess at your being able to give him the ultimate pleasure in bed – and use every tool at your disposal to give him a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!

Tips

Don’t forget to gently tug at, lick or even swallow one of his balls into your mouth if you want to make giving head an extra pleasurable experience for him.

Warnings

The worst way to receive a blowjob is for a man to actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your lips covered. The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw. If you need to, cover your teeth with your lips.

Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!

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Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs:

  • Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
  • Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
  • Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
  • Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

First, let’s talk about why you are not pleasing him through oral sex…

Three Mistakes that MOST Women Make Consistently and the One Killer Mistake that ALL Women Make When Giving Head

Mistake #1: Awkwardness and Feeling Tired After Just Several Minutes of Giving Head

Most women can start a blowjob right but never finish because of tongue muscle cramps and jaw locking. When these happen, men feel the tension (and more often than not, sharp teeth!) and get turned off.

Mistake #2: Seeing Blowjob as a Tedious Chore

You CAN learn to enjoy blowjob just by being adventurous and playful. If you can see blowjob as a way to express your sexuality, you will never have to feel tired or bored while giving head.

Mistake #3: Lack of Knowledge of the “Hot Spots: on the Penis and the Whole Gonad Area

There are specific areas on a man’s penis which increase the likelihood of orgasm, but a lot of women miss these completely.

And, finally, here’s the most common mistake that lead to annoyance, discomfort and relationship tension….

Mistake #4: Some Women Do NOT Develop a Fail-ProofSystem to Make Him Climax through Oral sex

To really learn the skills to make him climax through blowjob, you must develop a system to vary, combine and intensify the pleasurable sensations men feel while being blown… and they let their men confuse them even more with barely thought out instructions on where to lick, when to suck harder and when to speed up…

If no consistency is achieved, what results is a hit-and-miss blowjob style that only works at certain times. This lack of consistency makes women feel more inferior about their blowjob skills.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on…

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so loaded with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

Check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

  • Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
  • Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
  • Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
  • Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
  • The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
  • Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
  • Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s guide is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

Still not sure? Read Our Review of Blow His Mind Tonight.

Killer Blowjob Tips Every Woman NEEDS To Know!

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Blowjob tips are essential if you want to give your man great head. THESE blowjob tips are ones you definitely don’t want to miss out on!

Start Out By Being Confident!

For a lot of women, oral sex is really intimidating. It can be very overwhelming having your man in your mouth. A lot of women immediately start preparing for the worst and worrying that something is going to go wrong. So many women worry that their gag reflexes are going to come into play or that they just aren’t going to be good enough. It’s time you put the worries behind you.

You can give your man amazing oral sex and you can do just that tonight. All you need is a little boost of confidence and some great knowledge. The more you know about oral sex, the more your nerves will be at ease and the calmer you will feel. If you really want to get your man going in the bedroom tonight, you need to learn these incredible blowjob tips tonight!

Start Off Slow

Just like with sex, you never dive right in a blowjob; you always start off slow with foreplay and gradually increase stimulation. The same goes for oral sex and it should be treated in the same manner. You don’t want to just take your man in all at once and then start bobbing up and down on him. This isn’t going to feel good for him because it is going to be way too much stimulation all at once. Instead, try easing him into it and easing yourself into it. Lick his penis with your tongue and trace it all over. This will ease him into feeling the warmth of your mouth and it will get the party started. Then, use your hand to stroke him a little until he is rock hard and your mouth is will salivated. Then, he can enter you and the fun can begin.

Use Everything In Your Arsenal

Just because these are blowjob tips, it doesn’t mean that you are only limited to just using your mouth. In fact, it is advised that you don’t. If you really want to maximize oral sex for your man and give him an out of this world orgasm, you have to use more than your mouth. Try doing this: use your strong hand on the shaft of his penis and stroke it up and down, use your other hand to stimulate his testicles by rubbing them and then finally, use your mouth on the tip of his penis. By following this, you are ensuring that no part of his pleasure zone is going untouched. He will feel so many different sensations and pleasure, he will easily explode.

Be Vocal!

This may sound impossible since you are going to have a penis in your mouth, making it difficult for you to speak but we aren’t talking about being vocal in the sense of dirty talking. Rather, it is a good idea for you to make some sexy moaning while you are going down on him. Your man could be feeling all of this pleasure but if all he hears is complete silence, something isn’t going to seem right to him. Men want women to enjoy giving oral sex. The more you are enjoying what you are doing to him, the more he will enjoy it.

Therefore, some sexy moans to let him know that you are really loving having him in your mouth will definitely set him off. Not only do they signal to him that you are loving it, but they also serve a bonus purpose. With your lips wrapped around his penis, and your mouth humming, you are going to send vibrations from your mouth to his penis and then throughout his entire body. This added bit of stimulation will more than likely be something he hasn’t experienced in this way before and it will feel amazing. If you really want to send chills all throughout his body, this is how you do it.

The Grand Finale

After giving him amazing stimulation and making him feel like a king, you want to finish off the main event in the right way. A lot of women can ruin oral sex in this moment and this is something that you don’t want to do. When your man is about to come, you have three choices and only one of them is the one you want to make. You can either stroke him to finish, allowing him to ejaculate on himself, you can let him ejaculate in your mouth and then spit, or you can let him ejaculate semen in your mouth and swallow.

Now, what choice do you think is the right one to make? Of course, swallowing is the sexy way to end off a killer blow job and it is a huge turn on for him. If you run to the bathroom to spit, you might as well never give him oral sex again because you are showing him that you are disgusted by it. You wouldn’t appreciate it if your man ran to the bathroom after going down on you, so don’t do the same to him. Finish off this amazing stimulation the right way and you will give him an experience he won’t soon forget.

10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Women)

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Oral sex is something every guy craves, but a lot of girls aren’t good at it. They try to imitate what they see porn stars do in adult films, but that’s actually not the best way to give a guy a blowjob. It’s all for the cameras – but here’s the REAL way to be great at oral sex. If you follow these ten easy tips, you’ll have him begging you for more!

Go Slow At First

Yes, guys like a lot of sucking and they like it fast, but not always when you’re first starting to give him head. Instead of licking your partner’s penis like there’s no tomorrow to get his erection going, start slow and let his erection build in your mouth. Slowly suck him and roll his soft penis around in your mouth as he’s getting hard. He’ll love the feeling of having his entire penis in your mouth as he’s becoming aroused!

Learn To Deep Throat

Guys love a deep throat blowjob, but girls often don’t like to give them because taking a penis so deep into their throats make them gag or vomit. If you gag now while deep throating, you can learn to do it well with practice. Learn to breathe through your nose while you’re performing oral sex and relax your throat. Take a little bit more each time until you can deep throat your partner with ease.

Give Him A Handjob

If you can’t take him really deep into your throat, it’s not the end of the world. You can still give a great blowjob to your guy by giving him a handjob with it! Use your hand as an extension of your mouth and grasp the base of his penis while you suck on the head of it. Move your hand up and down as you move your mouth up and down, and don’t be afraid to let your saliva drip a little and function as a lube to make things go more smoothly. Gently tug on his scrotum or hold it gently to give your man even more pleasurable sensations.

Don’t Use Your Teeth

Teeth hurt during a blowjob and that’s all there is too it! Every once in awhile, a guy will enjoy teeth gently scraping against his penis, but odds are your man doesn’t want your chompers anywhere near his shaft. Keep your teeth out of his way by wrapping your lips over them while giving oral sex, so you don’t accidentally scrape or bite him during the blowjob.

Try Different Sex Positions

As opposed to letting him lie there and receive oral sex, try using some different sex positions to spice it up. Let him stand while you kneel on a pillow to give him head, or let him stand over you and lower his penis into your mouth as you’re lying down. Be creative and try all kinds of different sex positions – he’ll love how adventurous you are with just oral sex so much that he’ll be begging you for sex all the time!

Surprise Him With It

Give your man oral sex the next time he least expects it. Next time you are driving a long distance, surprise him with a blowjob in the car (which will probably lead to some amazing car sex!) or sneak off to the bathroom at a party to give him an impromptu blowjob. He will absolutely go wild over oral sex that happens anytime, anywhere!

Give Just A Blowjob

Instead of expecting sex after giving your man head, or expecting him to return the favor, give him a blowjob just for the sake of giving him a blowjob. Make sure he has an orgasm, and leave it at that! Let him know that you just wanted to go down on him – because you enjoy it so much. He’ll be thrilled that you like to give him head just because. Don’t be surprised if he asks for a blowjob next time “just because” he wants one!

Be Enthusiastic And Make Noise

No guy wants quiet oral sex, nor does he want to feel like giving him head is a chore for you and that you don’t enjoy it. Instead, show some enthusiasm while you’re giving him fellatio and let him know how much you enjoy it by giving him a moan or groan here and there. He’ll also love hearing the wet sucking noises, so make sure there are plenty of those too!

Give Him A Show

Men are essentially visual creatures and even though a blowjob will feel great if he can’t see what is going on, he’ll like it much better if he can. If you’re lying in the bed, prop his head up on a few pillows so he can look down and see what you’re doing. Better yet, have him sit on the couch or in a chair and kneel while you do it, giving him a full visual. Make sure to make eye contact with him every now and then while you’re sucking on him – it will drive him absolutely insane!

Let Him Grab Your Head

Most women don’t like it when a man grabs their head during oral sex, and for good reason. It can be uncomfortable, especially if he grabs your hair, and it can make you gag or vomit if he pushes your head too far down on his penis. However, men really enjoy this so if you have a partner you trust completely, try this the next time you give your partner head. He will love the way it feels to be in control like that, but make sure you both communicate about a sound or gesture that means “stop.” If this is going to work, he’s going to need to stop immediately if you give him the signal.