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6 Sex Misconceptions – Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

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Sex includes many unspoken guidelines that supposedly dictate what can or can’t be done in or outside the bedroom. However, sex can get boring fast that way. There are many myths about sex – in fact, some of these “guidelines” for sex can definitely go to the wayside. Break these so-called guidelines and spice up your sex life tonight!

Myth #1 – Men Don’t Like Giving Oral Sex

It’s a common myth that men enjoy getting a blowjob, but they don’t exactly like to return the favor. This myth originates from the “I don’t feel so fresh” ads from long ago, where women got a bad rap for having a smell – of any kind – down there. The truth is, some guys don’t like going down on a girl – but most of them actually do. Women are terrified they don’t smell right, even if it’s just the natural scent of their bodies. Don’t worry about it and let your man blow your mind with his tongue.

Myth #2 – You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

Sex on the first date has long been a “faux pas.” You’re supposed to wait until at least the third date, right? This is an old rule that should definitely be broken – that is, if you have the opportunity to be on a date with someone who so totally rocks your world that you can’t wait to get your hands on his clothes and rip them off. In that case, why not? If you and your date are both consenting adults and have discussed safe sex, seriously – why not?

Myth #3 – Sex Should Be Serious

Yes, all the sex scenes in the movies make us feel as though our sex lives are nowhere near as enthralling, but come on – who hasn’t passed gas on accident while getting it on after burritos and margaritas for dinner? Come on! Sex is fun, and it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. If you accidentally make an idiot out of yourself, get stuck in a not-so-flattering sex position, or get interrupted by a call from the in-laws, laugh it off and go back to doing whatever you were doing before. Your mate will love your good sense of humor and the ability to roll with the punches.

Myth #4 – You Have To Have An Orgasm Every Time

Pretty much every woman has been in the situation where she’s not in the mood, but he can’t keep his hands off her. Many women will give in and give their guy some lovin’, but they’ll end up faking their orgasm so he thinks she’s satisfied. Hold up – it’s totally okay not to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your man. It’s okay to put out just for him, because he’ll get yours next time. What isn’t okay is letting your guy believe that whatever he did to give you the big “O” is what he needs to do every time…and the only person that suffers in that situation is you.

Myth #5 – If You’re Great In Bed, You’re Great With Everyone

A lot of people believe that if you’re really great in bed, you can rock anyone’s world. But everyone has a different idea of what great sex is and what it isn’t. Everyone likes something different between the sheets, and you can’t please everyone. Truth is, you can be really great at sex with one person and give them multiple orgasms in a single sex session, and the next person you sleep with, you can totally bomb out and wonder what the hell happened to your mad skills. If you’re in a relationship, focus on being the best for that person. If you’re single, just have fun!

Myth #6 – If He Cheated, He Doesn’t Care About You

Men have gotten a bad rap for being notorious cheaters. In fact, rumor has it that most men who cheat on their partners do it because they just don’t love them anymore. Right? Wrong! If your man cheats on you, chances are, he didn’t mean to. Ask him. He may have been drunk and in a compromising situation, where a woman was all over him and wouldn’t leave him alone. Or he may have thought he wanted something and then realized it was a very, very big mistake. Cheating is not the end of the road ladies, unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want. He may still love you and want to be with you – talk it through and ask him why. You might be surprised at what you hear.

7 Blowjob Tips That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A blowjob is heavenly for a guy – even if you suck at it (pun intended). If you’re feeling like your oral sex skills are sub-par, spicing up your routine a bit isn’t difficult. These seven tips will show you how to step up your game when it comes to giving your partner fellatio and you’ll learn how to give him a blowjob so good, he’ll go weak at the knees.

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Sex Positions For A Blowjob

You may think that sex positions are only good for intercourse, but finding the right one for a blowjob is key for his pleasure – and your comfort. Lots of girls absolutely hate giving their guy head simply because they can’t find a position that doesn’t put an instant cramp in their neck! The other thing to think about when finding the right position to give your man a blowjob is his viewpoint. You definitely want him to be able to see you do your thing – this is what is going to make him melt!

Try kneeling on a pillow while your partner sits in a chair, on the couch or on the edge of a bed. This will keep you from holding your head at an odd angle, making your neck sore.

Sloppy Wet

Don’t try to suck in all your spit when giving head – in fact, let the drool dribble out of your mouth, down your partner’s shaft and onto his legs. The sloppier the blowjob, the better. Keep a towel nearby for easy clean up afterwards, but while you’re going down on him, don’t worry about keeping it dry. It feels much, much better for him the wetter it is.

Use A Cock Ring

Sure, you can use a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator on a girl while you give her oral sex, but most people don’t know what sex toys can be used when going down on a guy. While most male sex toys are made for manual stimulation, a cock ring can be used during a blowjob to enhance the pleasurable sensations you’re giving your man.

Slip the cock ring over the head of his penis after he’s hard and slide it all the way down to the bottom of the shaft. This will help keep blood in the head of his penis, allowing him to stay rock hard during the blowjob and feel every little thing you’re doing. Don’t have a cock ring? Simply wrap your thumb and your forefinger around the base of the penis until the tips of your fingers are touching, forming a tight ring around his shaft.

Learn To Deep Throat

If you’ve never tried to deep throat your partner, you don’t know just how challenging this can be for a woman to do for her fella. The gag reflex is a powerful reflex and when it’s stimulated, it can be difficult not to gag or vomit. Every girl has a secret fear of trying to deep throat and ending up puking on her man’s lap. However, surprising your man with a deep throat maneuver during a blowjob will rock his world. Learning how to do it (without puking) will definitely up the “wow” factor when you give your guy head, so it’s well worth it to try.

In this case, practice makes perfect. Practice on a banana and breathe through your nose until you get the hang of it. Go slow and give yourself plenty of time to learn this difficult but worthwhile skill.

Let Him Come Where He Pleases

A lot of guys have a secret ejaculation fantasy – he may get really turned on by the idea by ejaculating on your face (also known as a “facial”) or on your breasts when he’s reached orgasm after a blowjob. So ask him what he’d like to do and let him do it! It might seem gross to you to let him ejaculate all over your face, but if you let him and act like you’re enjoying it (make it believable!) he’ll melt at the fact that you’ve let him try his secret oral sex fantasy.

Lick Around A Little First

Many women simply dive right in when they give a blowjob and start sucking fervently right away. While this isn’t necessarily a “no-no” (the guy’s still getting head, right?) but your man would definitely appreciate it if you slowed it down a bit when you’re just getting started. Men need foreplay to warm up too!

Tease him a little by nibbling on his lower stomach and his cut lines, before lightly running your tongue up and down his shaft while he watches. You can also rub your nipples and breasts over his shaft as you lick and kiss his tummy. He’ll be begging you to put his member in your mouth before you’re done.

Get Vocal

Don’t give him a quiet blowjob. Nothing is worse for a guy when his lady makes him feel like giving him head is a chore. Instead, get a little vocal and act like you’re enjoying it too. You don’t have to go all out and sound like a porn star giving a stellar performance, but you definitely don’t want to be entirely quiet. In between the lascivious sounds of you sucking him off, give him a deep moan or two that will make him feel like you’re getting off too. Better yet, rub your clitoris a little while going down on him to make him think that you’re so turned on by giving him a blowjob that you just couldn’t handle it anymore.

How To Deep Throat (Without Gagging)

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Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for a guy. In fact, it can even be more pleasurable than penetration and intercourse! The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move.

While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – and sometimes even vomit. The gag reflex, however, can be controlled with a little effort and some practice. Here’s how you can deep throat your lover without gagging.

Learn How To Breathe Through Your Nose

When giving a guy a blowjob, it’s important that you learn to breathe through your nose, even when you’re not deep throating. Even a small penis can block the airway from the mouth to the lungs, making it near impossible to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob. This is because your partner’s penis will go into your esophagus when you deep throat, blocking off the passage of air through the windpipe. Instead, learn how to breathe through your nose so the air can go directly from your nose to your lungs, completely bypassing your esophagus.

If you try to breathe through your mouth during a blowjob, you’re much more likely to gag or even vomit. Learning to breathe through your nose during a blowjob and while deep throating is an important skill to have in your oral sex tool belt.

Get Your Throat Parallel To His Penis

A big reason that the gag reflex gets stimulated during a blowjob is because the angle between the mouth and the throat isn’t set up to have a straight penis go in. You can actually overcome this easily by switching sex positions and getting your throat parallel to your lover’s penis.

Usually, the easiest way to do this is to lie on a bed on your back, with your head at the very edge of the bed. Scoot up so your head is basically hanging off the edge of the bed, which puts your mouth and throat in almost a straight line. This will make it much easier for your partner to insert his penis down your throat without rubbing so hard against the top of your throat (which is where the gag reflex is.)

Learn To Relax Your Throat Muscles

Relaxing your throat muscles is essential when it comes to giving your partner a good deep throat. Slowly insert your partner’s penis into your mouth, pushing past your gag reflex and down into your throat. When you feel the urge to gag, work on closing your eyes, breathing through your nose and relaxing your throat muscles.

This isn’t a technique that will come easily – it’s one that must take a lot of practice to really get the hang of it. Your partner probably won’t mind if you want to practice on him though!

Make Sure You’re In Control Of The Thrusting

While having your head hanging off the edge of the bed doesn’t exactly put you in a prime position to control your partner’s thrusting during oral sex, make sure that you at least have your hands on his hips and can guide him in and out of your mouth. If your partner is in complete control over his thrusting during fellatio, you’re much more likely to gag because you can’t control how deep he goes and when.

Trusting Your Partner

Since this type of oral sex can go wrong in so many ways (who wants a lap full of vomit?), it’s important to have a partner that you truly trust and can be open and honest with. Talk with your partner about the level of trust you’re putting in him to allow him to deep throat you, and make sure he agrees not to abuse it by going too hard or too fast without your explicit consent.

Having A Safe “Gesture”

While this type of oral sex is generally safe, you should still consider having a safe “gesture” that will let your partner know to stop immediately. You can’t use words while deep throating, so decide hand signal of some kind before you and your partner get busy. Use the safe “gesture” as though you would a safe word during bondage or kinky sex to let your lover know that you’re uncomfortable, in pain or want to stop for any reason. Make sure that you and your lover are on the same page about stopping whatever is going on immediately if the gesture is used.

My Girl Stopped Giving Me A Blowjob. What Do I Do?

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When it comes to oral sex, my girlfriend was the best. She used to give me a mind-blowing blowjob. Now, oral sex is nonexistent in our sex life. How do I get a blowjob back?

What She Said

A great way to receive is to make sure you’re giving. Have you also dropped the service of your girlfriend’s oral pleasure from the menu? If so, add it back immediately – for numerous reasons!

The Ebb And Flow Of Sex

The sexual heat in relationships often cools after a certain period of time. That’s not to say it’s dissipated, it’s just changed as you grow in intimate relationships. The blowjob is, needless to say, a great way to get to know one another! It’s often one of the early things couples try out together. You can’t blame a gal for wanting to get up close and personal with the goods!

Foreplay Is Key

How is your foreplay? Could it be that the warm-up has waned? A lot of people tend to go straight for the penetration when in long-term situations – whether it be due to time (maybe you have kids or are exhausted from a job that’s kicking your ass) or you know it’s a sure thing (it’s not like you have to worry about getting laid when you have a girlfriend), so why not cut to the chase.

Communicate With Her

Tell your girlfriend you want to revisit the excitement and romance of your early relationship and that you’d like to reintroduce some things into your sex life – for both of you. Be sure to add something for her that you’ve perhaps slacked on. In the end, a brief chat with some fun added incentives will most likely be all you’ll need to, umm, get the ball(s) rolling!

What He Said

Oral sex can disappear for many reasons. Maybe your girl doesn’t like giving a blowjob. Maybe she only does them in the beginning of the relationship. Maybe she’s stressed. Who cares why it happened? You just want to get your blowjob on.

Bring On The Foreplay

I recommend you engage in massive amounts of foreplay: kiss, lick, tease, massage and caress until she just can’t stand it anymore. Then go down on her and make her orgasm at least twice or until you get lockjaw, which ever comes first. Then say “that’s all you get for now” and walk away.

Okay, maybe not literally walkway, but I think you get the point. Make her orgasm until it fries her brain and then slam the breaks on and cuddle. She won’t know what hit her. It will fry her brain in a good way. This sexual interaction won’t follow the protocol her brain is used to.

Challenge Your Partner

Remember, the brain is a computer. If you hand it the same data as always, it will process it the same way it always has. So if you interrupt the pattern it’s used to, she’s bound to do something different. She’ll probably want to molest you. Don’t let her. Make her earn it. Make her feel challenged – women love a challenge (God only knows why. I personally hate challenges. I prefer to have things handed to me on a silver platter, but I digress). I don’t know why, but you can’t make sense of anything that bleeds for five days and doesn’t die (kidding. Sort of.)

If You Want It, Mean It!

I have a friend who’s a bartender and before he met his wife, he got, TONS of ass. Crazy, boyband ass. The kind of sheer volume of high quality booty that makes porn stars and Justin Timberlake jealous. How did he do it? He would find a girl at the bar he was working who was looking to be taken home. Then he’d get her naked, fool around, get her ready for sex, and then STOP. He’d say “You know what? I’ve been working all night and I’m really tired. I’m going to bed. Maybe we’ll pick this back up in the morning.” And then he would actually go to sleep.

The girls had no idea what to do. He really went to sleep. So eventually, once they figured out it wasn’t a joke, they did to. Guess what? The girls got up early and the second they saw my bartender’s morning wood, they were on it like Charlie Sheen on a coked out porn star.

Why do I bring this up? The key is simple: if you want this to work, you have to mean it. Give her oral sex and then REALLY TRULY STOP. You have to mean it. If you don’t, then it’s just a ploy to get her to give you head. If you do this and you really stop and she gets that you are serious, then you are on the way to getting so much head, you’ll need a Viagra prescription just to keep up with her.

Sex – What Guys REALLY Want (And What They’re Afraid To Tell You)

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When it comes to sex, every guy has their preferences. However, there are some things that pretty much every guy wants a woman to do. The thing is, there are so few guys that actually want to tell their lovers what they want! Ladies, while reading his mind is pretty much impossible, take these cues to find out what your guy likes – and then surprise him with his secret sex fantasy!

They Want A Girl Who Will Masturbate (In Front Of Him)

Some women feel that it’s the guys’ job to make her feel good. Most guys don’t have any problem providing their partner with a mind blowing orgasm, however, sometimes they wish that a girl would take charge of her own sexual pleasure. Ladies, it requires at least a little effort on your part to get yourself in the mood, so why not take it a little further?

A lot of guys (okay, most) would love to watch their girl masturbate, especially if she had no idea he was there watching. What is so hot about this is that during female masturbation, he gets to watch you touch yourself exactly how you like to be touched. There’s no guessing if it’s the right thing or it feels good. He gets to see first hand what really turns you on and it will turn him on like wild fire!

They Want To Watch – In The Mirror

Guys are visual creatures – that’s pretty much a given. A lot of men enjoy watching porn for that specific reason, but does that mean that they enjoy watching the other women because they’re hotter than you or because they turn him on more than you? Absolutely not! In fact, your guy would probably give his eye teeth to actually watch you and him getting it on!

Filming a naughty video together is great fun, but there’s always the risk that it will get out, especially if you and your man don’t work out in the end. Instead, surprise him by installing a full length mirror in your bedroom – the bigger, the better. Allow him to watch you getting it on – he’ll love getting to watch it in real time, as it’s happening and he’ll love getting to feel exactly what he’s seeing. Try lots of different sex positions so he can see you from every angle.

They Want A Girl Who Is Not Afraid To Get Dirty

Let’s face it – guys don’t want to get it on with a prude. If all you’re into is the missionary position, he’s probably not going to be that into you. Almost every guy wants to get busy with a girl who isn’t afraid to bring on the kink! Try out a little light bondage to get started, and then move into something a little naughtier.

Whether you’re indulging his secret sex fetish or coming to bed wearing nothing but tall, black stilettos and a rhinestone necklace, he’s going to love that you’re showing off your naughty girl side.

They Want A Girl To Take Control

Sometimes guys want to have the reigns, but other times they want the girls to be in control over what happens and when. They just want to lie back and relax, while you savor every inch of their body. Surprise him one night by tying him up (this is optional if he’s not into bondage) and having your way with him! Let him lie there and get a good look at you while you give him oral sex, then go for the woman-on-top or reverse cowgirl sex position, depending on what he likes to look at best – your breasts or your butt.

They Want A Girl Who Will Give A Blowjob – And Likes It

Sure, most girls will give a guy a blowjob. Some won’t. The true gem, however, is the girl who loves giving a guy a blowjob! Blowjobs are probably in the #1 spot on the list of “Sex Acts That Guys Can’t Live Without.” Think about this – how enjoyable is it when a guy goes down on you like it’s a chore and like he really doesn’t want to be down there? It kind of puts a damper on the whole thing, doesn’t it?

Give your guy a blowjob like you never have before. Act like you’re starving to death or it will be the end of the world if you don’t get him in your mouth right now. Make sure that he knows you’re really enjoying going down on him by making pleasure noises while you lick and suck him, and making eye contact with him. He’ll really appreciate your enthusiasm and he just very well might return the favor!

They Want Rough Sex

Every guy wants to pound a girl into orgasmic frenzy, but very few men will actually tell their partners that. This is usually because he’s afraid to hurt her.  If you enjoy rough sex, don’t be shy about it with your lover. Next time you have sex with your man, assume the doggy style position and tell him that you want it fast and you want it hard. He’ll happily oblige!

Sometimes rough sex can become unsafe, so it’s important to take a few precautions first. Decide beforehand on a safe word so that if it becomes too much, you can use the word to let your partner know that you want it to stop immediately. Don’t forget to use lots of lube!

They Want A Girl Who Has Confidence

Confidence is sexy! Unfortunately, lots of women – no matter how hot or how beautiful they are – are insecure about themselves and the way they look and have low self esteem. However, what your guy sees when he looks at you (especially when he looks at you naked) is not the same as what you see in the mirror. Let go of your insecurities and inhibitions and look at yourself the way your partner looks at you. See what he sees and show it off! Men love women who have the confidence to show their bodies off during sex, because men love naked women – period.