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Clitoris 101: 3 Things Men Need to Know about the Clitoris

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Would you like to be a master lover and bring your partner earth shattering orgasms in bed? It doesn’t even matter whether you have an average, below average or above average-sized penis. As long as you’re familiar with the female parts which are located down south, you will be able to keep women begging for more – because you’re that good in bed.

Why it’s Worth it to Pay Attention to the Clit

 

For men, the answer to the question about which part of the body can be considered as their most erogenous zone, the answer is easy: the penis. All the sexual sensations are concentrated to that area below the hips and above the legs. In the area of oral sex, as long as a woman agrees to go down on you, you’re bound to experience an orgasm no matter how long or short a time she’s willing to spend on giving you some oral love.

For women, however, the answer is a bit more complicated. First, when it comes to her erogenous zones, there are her breasts and her vagina that you can focus on. Second, the vagina, unlike the penis, can be considered as an unchartered territory for most men. This is because the vagina is composed of different parts: the inner and outer labia or lips, the clitoris, and the G-spot which is located about a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening.

But one thing’s for sure: if you want to give that special woman in your life an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon, you can go for either the clitoris or the G-spot. Here, let us try to focus on learning about the clitoris.

The Top 3 Things that Men should Know about the Clitoris

Take a look at the top three things that men should know about the clitoris:

1. The ‘anatomy’ of a clitoris

Simply put, the clitoris is that tiny bud located just above the opening of her vagina, right at the top of her inner labia. Experts say that this is the only human organ which is solely dedicated for sexual pleasure. So just imagine just how mind blowing her orgasm will be if you target this spot.

The clitoris is as packed with sensitive nerve endings as the head of your penis and it becomes engorged when a woman is aroused. Don’t go heading immediately after her clit when you have sex, however. The clitoris can be extremely sensitive so she needs to be prepared to take it in, so to speak.

Another crucial information about the clitoris that every man should know about is this: most women do require clitoral stimulation – whether it’s orally or though penetration – in order to achieve an orgasm.

So if you seriously want to improve your skills as a lover, now is as good a time as any to learn everything that there is to know about the anatomy of a clitoris.

2. How to play with the clitoris

Before heading down south, remember that women need more than physical stimulation to be totally into the sexual act. Turn her on by using flirting glances, compliment her with your words and most importantly – never skip the foreplay. If you manage to get her as aroused as she can be before her clothes come off, the more intense things will be later on.

Now, there are two ways for you to stimulate her clitoris. You can either use your tongue and mouth, or your fingers. When deciding to use the latter, start by caressing her legs while working your way towards her inner thighs. Then, touch her outer vaginal lips before making contact with the area just above her clitoris, since direct stimulation might be painful for her.

The second method, you are probably already familiar with: cunnilingus. Using your mouth and your tongue, you can bring her to a mind blowing orgasm by eating her out. Enough said.

3. How to bring sexual fulfillment through clitoral stimulation

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the fact that vaginal intercourse alone is about as exciting for a woman as a bumpy ride on a beat up car. If you want to take her to new sexual heights, never take the clit for granted. Try to communicate or learn her body language so that you’ll know when to go faster or harder, when to stop or not stop.

Through clitoral stimulation, you will be able to send that special woman in your life to greater sexual heights and give her the best ‘ride’ of her life.

How To Give Multiple Orgasms Like A Porn Star

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Multiple orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of sex for women – if you can give her more than one, you’re golden. Porn stars are often looked at as “sex gurus” – and in a way, they are. They do it A LOT more than the average person. Adult films are known for featuring some of the hottest women on earth, but they aren’t just about showcasing women who look good on camera.

The people who are able to make a career in the adult industry are all known being abso-freaking-lutely AMAZING in bed. The top porn stars in the world are better at giving their partners incredibly intense orgasms than just about anybody out there.

Can You Have A Porn Star Sex Life?

Now, just because you might never be receiving an award at the AVN, doesn’t mean you can’t have the sex life of a porn star. Here are several very powerful ways to give your partner multiple orgasms BEFORE you penetrate her, using only your fingers.

So how do you give your partner incredible, body-shaking orgasms with nothing but your fingers? Simple, just keep reading, and take notes.

Women can have many kinds of orgasms, but today we are going to focus on two kinds: Clitoral, and G-spot orgasms. First, you are going to learn how to make her cum by each one individually, and then I’m going to show you how to combine them for something so explosive, she very well may pop your ear drums from screaming so loudly.

Clitoral Orgasms

Doctors and other sex education experts have all agreed that a woman’s clitoris was designed solely for sexual pleasure. So being able to stimulate it properly is a great way to make her shake and moan for more.

In order to locate her clitoris, take your middle finger and starting at the opening of her vagina, slowly work your way up a bit, until you feel something that feels like a tiny knot. This, my friend is her clit, and all of the thousands of amazing nerve endings in it will thank you for finding it.

Now, start to slowly make small circles with your finger on her clit (either clock-wise or counter clock-wise, it’s up to you). Once you have a nice comfortable and even pace, you’ll very quickly notice her body shaking and her breathing pattern changing. Keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing. Too many men change up their technique, and this absolutely ruins the experience for women.

You should also keep in mind that the lighter you touch her clitoris, the better. Since she is so sensitive there, touching her any harder then you would touch your laptops track pad, could very easily hurt her and ruin the experience. Just this one simple technique alone can give just about any woman multiple orgasms, very quickly.

G-Spot Orgasms

First of all, the G-spot isn’t actually a “spot,” it’s actually an entire area located approximately 2 inches inside the vagina on the upper vaginal wall (on her stomach side, instead of the anus side).

So while your partner is lying on her back, insert your middle finger in to her vagina, with your palm facing upwards. Stroke your finger along her upper vaginal wall until you find something that feels like a ribbed surface, similar to the inside of your mouth, right behind your top row of front teeth.

Congratulations, you’ve now done something that most men will never do. You’ve found the G-spot! And now that you know where it is, it’s time to learn how to simulate it properly.

With her laying on her back, and you kneeling in front of her, with your middle and ring or pointer fingers touching her G-spot, you are going to want to use a “come over here” motion.

One thing you need to watch out for is the amount of pressure you use when fingering your partner. Most men are very strong, and don’t realize just how much they are using. Remember to be gentle when you are stimulating a woman’s G-spot, because it’s hard for us to enjoy what you’re doing, if is uncomfortable.

How To Tell If She’s Digging It

Okay, so how do you know that you’re woman is really enjoying it? Well asides from the moaning, screaming, body shaking, and her digging her mails in to you; you should pay close attention to her breathing patterns.

If her breathing seems a little erratic, and almost as if she’s panting, then that’s a great clue that you are doing a good job; but you can do even better.

The Ultimate Fingering Orgasm

If you can perfect those two techniques, you will be able to do what 95% of men cannot do – give her a blended orgasm.

If you think about it, combining both techniques should be pretty straightforward right? While your partner is lying on her back, you would use your dominant hand to stimulate her G-spot while simultaneously using your other hand to make those tiny circles on her clitoris.

Well, like most of life’s greatest pleasures, this is a bit trickier then you would think.

Since you are using both of your hands to perform different tasks, the brain has a very difficult time processing both things at the same time. If you have ever tried to play the drums, you should know exactly what I’m talking about.

Practice Makes Perfect

The only way to get this technique down perfectly is to practice, practice, practice. I highly recommend waiting until you are alone in your house to do this. Start by using a pillow as if it was a woman. Lay it down flat on either your bed or couch and imagine that it is your partner’s body.

Start with the clitoris technique for a few minutes, and then switch to the G-spot one. Once you feel comfortable enough, try to do them both at the same time. Most people will find this very frustration at first, but don’t worry. Star very slowly, and then gradually speed up a little.

If you practice this for 10-15 minutes a day, you should have no time mastering it within a couple of days (a week at the most). And then think about how amazing of a feeling it will be to know that you are one of the few people alive with the ability to give virtually any woman you want simultaneous multiple orgasms BEFORE penetration?

How To Have A Blended Orgasm – Your Step By Step Guide

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While having one orgasm (or more) is good, having a blended orgasm is absolutely fantastic. Women have the unique capability of having both a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, and when they do, it will just about blow the roof right off. If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, there are a few simple steps you can follow to learn how to not only give yourself a blended orgasm during masturbation, but also to help your man give you a blended orgasm through sex and oral sex. Here is your step by step guide to mastering the blended orgasm!

Masturbate First Before Trying With Your Guy

If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, you’re likely not going to have one if you try it for the first time when you’re with your guy. Instead, grab your favorite sex toy and head to the bedroom for a little bit of solo fun. To have a blended orgasm, you need to be relaxed and completely in the moment – which is not likely if you’re feeling pressure from your guy to have a huge orgasm.

Start By Stimulating Your Clitoris

Start masturbating by gently touching your clitoris, either with your fingers or your favorite sex toy. Use a dab of lube here if you like, although some women enjoy touching their clitoris without lube. Do this for a short while until you notice that you are fully aroused and stimulated.

Switch To Stimulating Your G-Spot

Switch from stimulating your clitoris to stimulating your g-spot. You can use your fingers for this if you’ve reached your g-spot before that way, but you’re probably going to have more luck with a sex toy that is designed for g-spot stimulation. If you’ve never found your g-spot before, this is a good time to try doing so. Once you find your g-spot, stimulate it gently with your favorite strokes until you’re very, very aroused.

Stimulate Both, Switching Back And Forth

Once you’ve reached a state of complete and total arousal, start switching back and forth between stimulating your clitoris and stimulating your g-spot. You’re probably going to be using two hands while you’re masturbating, and if you’ve never done so before, it’s important that you’re alone and comfortable and not self conscious at all. If your guy is with you or watching you the first time you do this, it’s very likely you’re not going to be able to get relaxed enough to achieve orgasm at all, let alone a blended orgasm.

Stimulate Both Your G-Spot And Your Clitoris At Once

When you feel like you’ve almost reached the point of no return by switching back and forth between stimulating your g-spot and stimulating your clitoris, start stimulating them both at once. Again, this is going to be a two handed adventure. At this point, you can go as hard or as soft as you like to reach orgasm, depending on what feels good at the time. Starting off with firm pressure is not the way to go when you first get going, because you need plenty of time to warm up and become aroused. However, once you’re really into it, firm pressure (especially against your g-spot) might be just what you need to push yourself over the edge. In fact, many women report experiencing female ejaculation when they masturbate this way and have a blended orgasm.

The Right Sex Positions For A Blended Orgasm

While having a blended orgasm is possible in many different sex positions, there are a few that will make having this type of orgasm easier. Doggy style is a great sex position for a blended orgasm, because it allows his penis to stimulate your g-spot from behind while you are able to reach down and touch your clitoris yourself. Woman on top is also another good position for a blended orgasm because women can control the depth of penetration and grind up against his groin for clitoral stimulation.

Having A Blended Orgasm During Oral Sex

Many women report that the best types of blended orgasms are through oral sex. Try this after you have acheived a blended orgasm on your own through masturbation. Have your man go down on you and slowly lick your clitoris first, before slipping his fingers in your vagina and stimulating your g-spot with the “come hither” motion. You can have him repeat the steps above and switch back and forth from stimulating your clitoris with his tongue to stimulating your g-spot with his fingers. Of course, you’ll be in absolute heaven when he starts doing both at once!

3 Ways To Dole Out Screaming Orgasms

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Some women fake an orgasm for various reasons, the most common of which is her concern for your ego. But the female orgasm, especially the screaming variant, is not a myth, and your girl knows this well enough. So, how are you going to get her there? Read on for some tips.

Get To Know Her Hot Spots

Some women are big fans of lengthy foreplay only because their hot buttons get stimulated if the foreplay is long. This means not all of her erogenous zones are near or around her pubic region. Get your hands all over her and take note of her reaction every time your hand fondles a particular spot. Take note of that spot because you may need to touch or kiss it again during penetration, and you’re about to climax while she’s barely there.

You have to make sure you push the right buttons, and the way to do that is by leisurely exploring her body. It’s not always true that women who have their orgasm during foreplay are too tired for penetration. Women are multi-orgasmic, unlike men. In fact, the truth is that women are more eager to go for the next round if the first one was fantastic.

Get Her In The Mood

Speaking of hot buttons, the second way to giving a woman a screaming orgasm is to get her in the mood for hot sex. Some women are so hot before the actual penetration that they can climax with minimal prodding. And guess what, if you get her in a state of bliss before the actual sex, through making out or verbal seduction, her orgasms during sex will be much stronger.

Cold sex means just that. She lies there while you do your thing and take your pleasure. She isn’t in the mood and she thinks she’s doing you a favour by simply letting you have your way. That won’t do at all. Set the mood or the fire won’t catch. Fondle her on her hot spots and whisper sexy things (or the things you want to do to her) in her ear. By doing this, you get her psychologically and emotionally prepared to orgasm.

Get The Skills

One factor to giving your girl a screaming orgasm is your skill. Her mood will hold up if she knows she can expect the best skills in love making from you. This particularly applies if you’ve been dating for a while and the woman can tell when you’re getting in your groove, making both of you hot enough to climax together. Some guys are great at kissing but cannot hold their own when it comes to sex. Don’t be one of those guys. Get the skills you need to make a woman scream in bed as she nears orgasm, and during her second or third one.

How To Give An Orgasm To A Girl Who Doesn’t Like Clitoral Stimulation

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All the women you asked (or went out with) told you that the clitoris is the magic button that you need to knead and fondle if you want any girl to have an orgasm. But what if the woman you’re dating now doesn’t like clitoral stimulation? You must think something’s wrong with her brain but it’s a fact that a lot of ladies out there are too “clitorally sensitive“ to like the sensation of clitoral stimulation. For these women, they feel more pain than pleasure when the clitoris is rubbed, touched or licked.

So, what can you do? Here are some suggestions…

Stimulate Her Nipples During Penetration

The purpose of clitoral stimulation during penetration is to give a woman another variation of sexual pleasure on top of the sensation of being entered. But the clitoris is not the only place that’s susceptible to touching during sex.

There’s another part of her body that’s within reach during sex, her nipples. You can touch or lick her nipples while she’s on top, or you can touch them when you’re in doggy mode or missionary. Remember that a woman likes it when you lick her nipples during foreplay and she might even have a short orgasm called a “nip-gasm” (a burst of sensation during nipple stimulation) if you do it right. That sensation, when added to the sensation she feels while you’re penetrating her will send her reeling.

Watch Her Masturbate

Female masturbation is very different for a woman that doesn’t like clitoral stimulation as compared to masturbation for a woman who depends on clitoral stimulation to climax. Face the mirror while you’re penetrating her from behind and watch how she touches herself down there. Moreover, learn from what you observe. Some women dislike touching the clitoris directly because of sensitivity issues, but they may touch other parts.

Some women would gently pinch the cheeks of the outer lips (labia majora) inward to rub against each other in a rhythmic manner. This is a logical way to stimulate the clitoris without touching it directly. Some women may press their whole palm on the mound or just below the abdomen when penetration starts to induce indirect clitoral pressure. Or she may use a dildo or vibrator to access her g-spot instead of her clitoris. Observe her and get a clue. Then, on your next round, you can do it for her.

Remember that not all women are into clitoral stimulation. Although, the majority of women like it, there may be some women who don’t. The thing is, it’s not something you can just ask outright over dinner. You have to tread lightly during foreplay and observe her reaction when your fingers find their way to her clitoris. The good old formula of “touch her clitoris” may work most of the time, but you need a plan B just in case the girl is not into that.