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Earning Your Red Wings – Should You Perform Oral Sex During Menstruation?

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be performed while a woman is on her period, but most guys avoid this. But is oral sex while she’s bleeding really all that bad?

Why Some Guys Don’t Do It (And Why Some Women Won’t Allow It)

Oral sex doesn’t have to be avoided during a woman’s cycle, although many folks aren’t terribly fond of it during this time of the month. Men and women alike are sensitized to how a woman tastes, smells and feels add to that the natural changes that occur during menstruation, and everything (good and bad) is magnified. However, if she uses a tampon, you can easily give her excellent orgasms during this time of the month provided that she’s interested. Some women’s libido goes through the roof at this time, whereas other women want nothing to do with sex when they are bleeding. But for those that are so inclined, there are a few ways to make it easier on both of you.

How To Make Oral Sex During Her Period Work

  • Before you get going, have your female partner put in a new tampon and then clean off the surrounding area with a wet washcloth. She can even tuck the string in so you don’t have any idea it’s even there.
  • As you would if you were performing cunnilingus without a tampon in, focus on rhythm and pressure throughout the event.
  • If you don’t want to lick down in her vagina area, that’s perfectly acceptable. You can give her just as much pleasure by licking around her clitoris.
  • You won’t be able to use your fingers completely as the tampon is in the way, but don’t worry too much about this. You can use your fingers to tease the outside of her vagina and her anal area.

Orgasm Time!

Most women will happily have an orgasm using the same techniques as you would during any other time of her cycle, it’s really just a matter of preference for both partners. As well, it should show that a woman can have a great orgasm without penetration or any sort of push-pull technique; that her clitoral network is really where the action is at, and that with proper clitoral manipulation, she’ll orgasm, and orgasm well.

A Note About Safe Sex

If you are practicing safe sex with your partner, you may want to avoid performing oral sex during your partner’s menstrual cycle, even when using a dental dam and tampon. The risk for STD or HIV transmission is much higher when there is blood present, and dental dams have a tendency to move around a lot during normal use, unless you’re holding them in place the whole time (which prevents you from using your hands and fingers to pleasure your partner).

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, safe sex

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques That Will Drive Her WILD!

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be good at a beginner’s level, but it can be INCREDIBLE if you use these super hot advanced oral sex tips and tricks.

When you’ve mastered all of the “beginner” oral sex tips, it’s time to create your own routines, learn even more tricks, and improvise as needed. Here are some ideas to get you started, but feel free to adapt them to your own needs, wants and desires.

The Tease

This is a fun routine where no fingers are used at all. Only your tongue coaxes the climax out of your partner. It won’t be a full, heavy climax like when you play with her g-spot, but it will be exquisite nonetheless, and leave her panting for more.

  • Do not use your fingers inside of her at any time. Instead, use your hands to move her around or underneath you, and to position her at a different angle so that you can play with her vulva unpredictably and in ways you normally couldn’t if your hands were inside of her.
  • Use her legs so she can push against you; try having her in a partial split, or with one or both legs up around your shoulders. These positions also open her up more so that you can penetrate her vagina with your tongue.
  • Tease is the name of this routine, and for good reason: you want to keep most of your licking along the surface of her vulva, teasing out her clitoris and only occasionally touching it directly with a light flick.

Prolonged Pleasure

Multiple orgasms, and/or Tantric sex are mentioned in many Eastern sexual practice texts. Their premise sounds simple: men are trained to postpone their sexual release, while a woman’s pleasure is at the forefront of the experience. Both partners are encouraged to get to the brink of orgasm but then stop with the idea that when they do fall over the edge, it will be an incredible, connecting release like no other.

As women can have multiple orgasms in ways that men are rarely able to emulate, the differentiation between the pre-orgasm phase and orgasm phase aren’t important with this routine. Instead, the focus is on giving her the ultimate pleasure, so that she can ride out an even longer climax when it does occur. Therefore, your focus here should be to keep her in the pre-orgasm phase as long as possible without actually pushing her over the edge into release.

  • Use whichever routine or techniques you enjoy to bring your partner to the pre-orgasm phase. For some playful fun, you may want to introduce a bit of light bondage if she’s up for it, because it’ll make your work easier to keep her from making herself cum. Many women find this process so exquisite that they don’t want to wait to orgasm and will take matters into their own hands. Having said that, don’t tie her up if she’s not willing, and create some sort of ‘safe word’ so that she can yell it out in the heat of the moment so you know she needs to be released immediately. Try for some words that neither of you would accidentally say during a lovemaking session.
  • When you notice that she’s in the pre-orgasm phase, pull back on whatever it is you are doing. Stop pressing so firmly, don’t lick as heartily, or stop altogether. See if moving back still propels her forward. If it does, stop completely for several seconds before starting again, even more lightly than before.

Fingering

To engage in fingering, you’ll want to lie next to each other on your backs with your arm across her abdomen. Put your hand by her vulva; if it hurts or you find the position uncomfortable, move so that your arm is supported by her body. This way you can manipulate her manually without fear of getting tired or having a sore hand, plus it allows you to give her the kind of stimulation she requires to orgasm.

The process of finger play has several aspects to it:

  • Where the two of you lie next to each other, your hand rests on her pubic bone and you fingers drop down to play with her. One finger parts her lips and traces the outlines of her labia and thighs.
  • The same finger then plays with her vagina lightly using the “come here” stroke.
  • Move your whole hand in unison, making small, circular movements that apply pressure to both the g-spot and clitoris.
  • Take your hand out of her vagina, and lay your palm flat against her vulva. Let her press up against you and use her tension to arouse herself. If your hand is getting sore, this is a great technique to give it a bit of a break and let her do some of the work, which isn’t rude, but rather, just what her body needs to build towards climax.

As you lie next to her, change it up between these three techniques, using each one as you feel she wants or needs it. If you like, and if you want a different angle to play with, have her roll over onto her belly while you play with her that way.

Whatever you choose to do, do it slowly and carefully. Build up to a climax like a good story builds to a grand finale.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, female orgasm, fingering, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

6 Beginner’s Oral Sex Techniques

By loveandsex

Oral sex is so much fun to learn! Check out these easy to do oral sex tips for men that haven’t had a lot of experience in the art of cunnilingus.

Start with the most basic of tongue manipulations, and keep any extra combinations to a minimum so as to examine her sexual response and learn more about what she likes, and how to do it repeatedly.

1. The First Touch

This should take no more than a minute.

Tongue: One flat-tongued, soft lick from the bottom of her vagina to the top above her clitoris.

Hands: Both underneath her body, softly yet firmly holding onto her bum. Her legs should be parted only enough to allow you access.

Finger: Nothing at this time.

2. Build A Rhythm

This should take between two and five minutes.

Tongue: Start with about five soft-tongued licks that only cover half of her vulva, and then follow with three to five long tongue laps. Gear your attention primarily to her labia and frenulum; only the long tongue laps should reach her clitoris.

Hands: Take one hand away from her bottom to place a finger inside of her. With the other hand, grasp both of her butt cheeks firmly but not painfully you want to give her the tension she needs for what’s coming up, but you don’t want her to be self-conscious about what you’re doing, either.

Fingers: Take your index finger and put it only partially inside the entrance to her vagina.

3. Build Tension

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Establish a rhythm where you lick her from bottom to top without actually touching the clitoris – five times – then lick her clitoris once horizontally.

Hands: Keep supporting her buttocks.

Fingers: Leave your finger where it was before and use it to feel where she’s at along her arousal process. Is she clenching? Is she lubricated? Allow your other fingers to gently touch other nearby areas, such as her perineum or anal area.

4. Intensify Your Moves

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Continue with the vertical and horizontal tongue stroke rhythm. Occasionally do a “tongue press,” where you take your tongue, hold it flat and firm, and push it up against her clitoris for five seconds.

Hands: Continue holding her buttocks, and see if you can gently play a bit with her perineum using your thumb.

Fingers: Put another finger inside her vagina. Push both fingers up toward her g-spot, and feel around for it.

5. Moving Into The Pre-Orgasm Phase

This usually lasts between three to five minutes.

Tongue: Use the tongue press on her clitoris. Make sure the pressure is firm, and slow things down even more than before. Let her push back against you to show you what she likes and works for her.

Hands: Make sure that the hand beneath her has the right angle and that you have her firmly in your grasp. The arm leading to the fingers inside of her should feel her inner thigh muscles pushing against them, as if she wants to close her legs.

Fingers: Keep your fingers partially inside of her with your palm facing up, and use your thumb to push against her frenulum. The pressure needs to stay constant inside of her along the g-spot, but right now your focus should be on the frenulum thumb touch.

6. Give Her The Big Orgasm!

This usually lasts around one minute or less.

Tongue: Stay in contact with her clitoris using the firm tongue press. She’ll push against you and try to close your legs, but hold on and keep doing what you’re doing. When the contractions are finished (you’ll feel them with the fingers inside of her) lick her clitoris only once, and very, very gently. She should pull back when you do, which means she’s had an orgasm and now needs a bit of time to recoup.

Hands: Her pelvic muscles should clench your fingers. Feel them so you know where she’s at, and keep the pressure on her frenulum the entire time.

Fingers: Use the hand underneath her to keep yourself in close contact with her; as she orgasms it may prove difficult, so firm pressure is needed.

Keep a close eye as to where she’s at along the orgasmic process, and cater your movements accordingly. Start lightly and offer more firm support with your tongue as you go along. If need be, get a vibrator to help with the g-spot so you can concentrate on the licking.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm

Ladies – What To Do With Your Pubic Hair Before Oral Sex

By loveandsex

Oral sex is super pleasurable – but not if your man is wading through a forest to get there. Take care of your pubes first with these simple suggestions.

You no doubt know that showering is an important part of cunnilingus. It does two things – it makes you feel fresher and more comfortable with your body and it helps a man to enjoy your light, natural scent without feeling overpowered. Some couples more comfortable with each other may elect not to shower directly beforehand while others may consider it a rigorous part of the routine. Whichever you and your partner decide on is up to you – just make sure it is something that will make you both interested in and receptive to cunnilingus.

Discussing Pubic Hair Before Oral Sex

An overgrown forest is probably not the best venue for a cunnilingus session. Not to say that the vulva has to be completely bare either. This is another aspect of cunnilingus that must be discussed with your partner beforehand if you’re both going to enjoy it. If you feel that being too bare and exposed with very little or no pubic hair on your vulva is uncomfortable, you will not be receptive to cunnilingus and may be too preoccupied worrying about your lack of hair to enjoy it.

Similarly, a man that is choking on massive amounts of pubic hair will not find cunnilingus enjoyable either. One thing that is important to note here is that an overgrowth of pubic hair will actually impede a woman’s ability to feel a warm, wet tongue on her vulva to the fullest extent. A good trim (or shave if you desire) is an excellent way to open up your vulva so that you can experience more of your partner’s efforts during cunnilingus.

Trimming Instead Of Shaving

If you are apprehensive about shaving your pubic hair, you can certainly try trimming it closely to the skin. Surprisingly, a good tool to use for this job is a man’s electric shaver. You can experiment with different lengths to find which one suits you best. You may find that pubic hair closely shorn to the skin is more comfortable and may give you a light, airy and clean feeling.

Something for you to remember – many women shave their pubic hair for the same reason they shave their armpits. Sweat sticks to thick, long hair and will begin to collect bacteria. Unfortunately, when this happens, a pungent and sometimes unpleasant odor will arise. For many women, keeping their pubic hair under control has become part of the daily beauty routine, as with the underarms.

Shaving Instead Of Trimming

For those who would like to shave, there are many options.  You can shave all your pubic hair off, or you can leave a small patch (sometimes called a “landing strip”) on the mons pubis. Shaving can sometimes be uncomfortable when it grows back, just like with shaving any other part of the body. Shaving bumps can occur and it can be itchy when growing back. Shaving, if done properly, however, can become a simple job. Here are some great tips if you choose to shave:

  • Soak in a warm bath for a few minutes before shaving to soften the hairs.
  • Conditioner can also be used on the hair to soften it – leave it on for several minutes.
  • Trim any long hair with scissors (or an electric shaver) before starting
  • Use disposable safety razors – never use a straight blade!
  • Use your hands to manipulate skin to stretch it out before shaving it (this will also keep important parts like the clitoris or your labia out of the way)
  • Use hypoallergenic, unscented soaps, shaving creams and lotions. It will cut down on irritation later.
  • Don’t use powder unless it’s cornstarch – studies show that talc leads to cervical cancer.
  • Use a mirror – a hand mirror works well. It’s easier if you can see what you’re doing!
  • Over-the-counter cortisone cream can help razor burn should it arise.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: cunnilingus, oral sex, shaving

Oral Sex Troubleshooting & What To Do If Things Aren’t Going Well

By loveandsex

Oral sex doesn’t always go as planned. Sometimes she won’t respond well to your technique – so here’s what to do to troubleshoot oral sex.

Have you ever had a situation with a woman where you had no idea what to do, or worse, you knew what was wrong but needed a nice way to say it? This is the article for you then, where you’ll get feedback on several tricky yet manageable situations and questions you know, the kind that you want to ask about, but were afraid to.

“She Doesn’t Seem To Enjoy My Oral Technique”

It could be that you’ve noticed her not as engaged as she usually is while in the heat of the moment, or maybe she isn’t as excited about you going down on her lately as she used to be. There could be a few reasons why she’s acting a bit different:

  • You’re so concerned about your technique and pleasing her, that her anxiousness is rubbing off on her and she’s not able to get in the mood
  • You’ve lost the fun quotient and are a bit robotic or mechanical, and she’s getting a bit bored with the lack of variety.

Really though, it doesn’t matter what the reason is because the answer is the same: if she gets even a whiff of you not being 100% enthusiastic or into cunnilingus with her, she’ll have a hard time enjoying it.

So how to remedy this? Put your concerns or fears out of your head for a bit, and focus on the aspects of oral sex that are a total turn on for you. Most women will go crazy with that knowledge, and be able to open up and enjoy themselves more fully. So flash her a winner of a smile with a tweak of naughty to it, and then just go to it. It’s highly unlikely that with that attitude, you’ll get any complaints.

“She Has Lots of Pubic Hair?”

Some gents are quite fond of the 70’s look, but others would much rather see what they are doing, or they find the trimmed and/or baby smooth look a real turn on. Doesn’t matter really what matters is how you deal with it.

If it’s the first time that you’re going down on her, it may just be that she hasn’t had time to do any shaving yet. Give her some warning next time and see if she takes care of things without you having to say anything on the matter.

If your hints don’t get the job done, it’s time for the next step: subtlety. If the two of you ever watch porn together, try casually mentioning how hot you find the barely there hair on the ladies. Or, don’t trim your pubic hair. When she’s done going down on you next time, apologize for not keeping things neat and tidy, and then say with a naughty smile, “I will if you will!”

If neither of those tactics work and you really need her to perform some maintenance, your only other option is to talk to her about it directly. “I think you’re amazing, and I love going down on you. I find it difficult to see what I’m doing though, and I’d really like to give you the most amazing orgasm ever! Is there any way that we could trim things up together? I’m totally willing to help.”

“It’s Taking Too Long”

The length of time it will take to get your partner off depends on her as long as it takes. There’s really no way to predict how long, other than to use your past experiences with this woman as an indicator as to what might happen in the future.

Some women, it takes a while to get to where they need to be, both mentally and physically. Others can build the necessary tension in a few minutes, and can fly towards orgasm straight-on without a lot of coaching or encouragement. And for different women it’ll change based on their mood, cycle, past experiences, stress levels, diet, medications, and even alcohol. (Alcohol, while in small amounts can help her relax, but too much and it’ll take her much longer to climax, if at all)

Another factor that needs to be taken into account as to how long a session will last, is how much foreplay time she received prior to oral sex. The more time you spend prepping her, the less time it’ll take for her get to the finish line.

Also, the better you know your partner, the easier time you’ll have of figuring out what’s ‘normal’ for her, and how long it should take to make her orgasm.

“She Doesn’t Smell Fresh”

She may have looked irresistible when two of you went out dancing before your night of bliss, but once those beads of sweat have cooled? They aren’t anywhere near as appealing.

The easiest answer is to suggest getting her out of her clothes and hopping into the shower together. Take the sensuality one step further by lathering her up yourself, making sure not to get any soap inside of her or else she’ll be dry and may complain about itching and burning later. Icky.

If you don’t have the opportunity to take a shower together, flavored dental dams work really well to mask offensive odors in a pinch, as do some flavored lubes. Worst case scenario? Grab a warm cloth and gently wipe her down yourself, making sure to let the heat of the water soften up her vulva while you kiss and stroke her skin elsewhere.

“I Think She’s Addicted To Her Vibrator and Can’t Have an Orgasm With Me”

There is such a thing as too much, as you probably well know from your own masturbation experiences. When someone gets used to a certain method, feeling, or approach, it can be incredibly difficult to respond without it. Less variety in this case isn’t a good thing, so you may need a bit of time to, literally, retrain your partner’s clitoris to accept different, softer kinds of fondling.

If your gal isn’t willing to let go of her vibrator for a while and try playing without one (it may take her longer to have an orgasm, but in time she’ll reprogram her body to react in the same way), try it her way instead. Buy a long handled vibrator, so you can use it in tandem with your hands and mouth. See if you can alternate movements or change things up a bit with the extra ‘hand’, and watch carefully how she responds. It may take a bit of time for her to relearn how to orgasm by someone else’s hand, but eventually she’ll find the pleasure completely worthwhile.

“When She Has an Orgasm, She Pees. Ick!”

What you think is pee is probably just a tiny bit of liquid that women squirt during orgasm. It’s extremely rare for a woman to pee during orgasm same thing for a man so assume that it’s really her body’s signal that she’s had an amazing orgasm. G-spot orgasms can also create a much larger amount of fluid, but again, it’s not urine.

If the liquid really grosses you out or you’re convinced it is pee, there are a few things you can do. First, go to the bathroom before you start your next oral episode, and then ask your partner if she needs to go too. It’ll prompt her to empty her bladder just in case, without you having to say it. Also, make sure that there’s a towel handy for quick and easy clean up after you’ll want one too for your orgasm anyway, so it’s not out of the ordinary. Dental dams provide a separation between her fluids and your mouth too, and if it’s only a small amount you’ll likely not even notice.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

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