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Top 10 First Date Ideas – Where To Go & What To Do

Coming up with original first date ideas isn’t easy. You’re looking for something that isn’t cliche, something sweet and fun with just a hint of romance and sexual tension. You want everything to be perfect! Dinner and a movie is played out, so here are some amazing and unique first date ideas that you can use to “wow” your date and get a second date before the first one is even over!

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Take A Ride At The Amusement Park

Who doesn’t love the nostalgic feeling of eating cotton candy and riding the rides at an amusement park? This is an excellent opportunity for flirting like you’re both teenagers again. Bonus points if you win her a stuffed animal from one of the carnival games.

Have A Lunch Date

Dinner is cliche, but having a lunch date isn’t! It’s a casual way to get to know someone, without the pressures that an intimate, romantic dinner on a first date can bring. If there’s chemistry there, you can take a longer lunch or extend the date – but if there’s none, a quick lunch is a great excuse to keep it short and sweet.

Learning Something New Together

Taking a class with someone you’re interested in is a great first date idea. Learning something new together is a great way to bond emotionally and to discover the chemistry between you two.

The Beach Or Lake

A romantic walk on a moonlit beach is every girl’s fantasy, but make sure to keep your eyes on her and not on the other eye candy that might be strolling around on the sand. This is a great way to turn a simple date into something much, much more.

Pool, Golf, Or Game Of Your Choice

A little friendly, flirty competition may be exactly what you need to secure a second date. Don’t forget to make a wager – loser takes the winner out for dinner next time.

Wine Tasting

Going wine tasting gives you a legitimate reason to have a few drinks to help your first date nerves! It’s also a great way to experience and taste new wines and cheeses and is a great date for two people who truly enjoy wine. Bonus points for finding a special new wine that becomes “our wine.”

Take Her Bowling

Bowling is great way to check out just how competitive he is! Whether you are any good at it or not, it is a laid back activity that gives you a chance to have a laugh together and relax. It’s great for a bit of flirting and he can use his manly skills to show you just how it’s done.

Head Out For A Bike Ride

Free, fun activities are great first date ideas in the credit crunch and enjoying the outdoors is one of the best. Unlike going for a long walk, a bike ride means you don’t have the pressure of having to find constant conversation. Take a picnic and stop for some nice leisurely breaks together when you want to talk and get to know each other.

Go For Dessert

When money is tight, there should always still be room for dessert, so why not make it the highlight of the night? It is a bit more fun and quirky than going for dinner, it makes for a cheap first date, and there is less pressure to find enough conversation to fill three courses. It’s also super romantic and sexy because you can feed each other small bites of the most decadent pies and cakes!

Roller Skating Or Ice Skating

Roller skating or ice skating makes for an excellent first date, especially if one of you is better than the other at the activity. “Teach” your partner how to roller or ice skate, or let them teach you! This is a romantic way to bond and you’ll probably end up in each other’s arms (and on the ground) more than once!

Go Scuba Diving Or Snorkeling

Scuba diving or snorkeling is a completely unique first date idea. If you live nearby an ocean or beach, explore the fish, coral reefs and marine life together. You won’t have the pressure of making a ton of conversation (because you’ll be underwater most of the time), but there will be plenty of time to connect with each other before the swim and after. You’ll also get to check out each other in your bathing suits! Bring a picnic lunch or dinner just in case everything goes well – besides, you’ll both be hungry after the swim!

Best Dating Tips Of 2010

By loveandsex

Dating is intimidating, to say the least. Learning how to date successfully takes more than just asking a girl or guy out. In fact, many men and women have given up on the “dating game” all together simply because it can be extremely difficult to snag a date – and often, the repeated rejection hurts. If you’re having trouble getting a date, it’s most likely not because you’re “undateable.” In fact, quite the opposite!

Dating doesn’t come naturally – most successful daters have been doing it for awhile and have learned from their mistakes. If you want to be good at it, you have to not only learn the correct techniques to use (what to say and when to say it), but you also have to practice! Practice, of course, makes perfect. It’s not about pick up lines or how “suave” you are or even how good looking you are.

Getting a date is much more about being real and connecting with someone with whom you have chemistry. Finding this person, however, can be the hard part. Here are our top dating tips of the past year – use them to create a new year’s dating plan!

Dating Tips: How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone

By loveandsex

When dating, it can be easy to get stuck in the “friend zone” with a girl you’re actually romantically interested in. Things are going great, but before you know it, you’re more like best friends than a couple. Here’s how you can get out of the friend zone and start dating your love interest in a romantic way – it’s all about changing the current dynamics of the relationship. Sometimes it’s a little risky, but in the end, it will pay off!

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Date Other Women

Dating other women and creating a little “friendly competition” is a great way to break out of the friend zone. A woman who consideres you a really good friend may realize that she likes you as more than that once you start dating someone else. A fair number of women (in fact, a lot of them) tend to want what they “can’t” have. Before, she didn’t see a need to start dating you because you were available to her and gave her the emotional intimacy she wanted in a friendship type relationship. However, when you start dating someone else, she will miss that connection you two had and be a little jealous of the girl you’re dating, prompting her to make a move and ask you out.

Plan Something Crazy – Then Kiss Her

Take some time to plan a great date doing something amazing. Plan a trip to an amusement park, go ice skating or do something else super fun and a little crazy. Right when she’s having an awesome time and is filled with happy, positive emotions, you’re going to lean in and kiss her. Kissing her at the perfect moment is going to do one of two things. It will most likely turn into a great kiss and make her realize she has romantic feelings for you – or, she’ll simply let you know that she’s not interested in being more than friends with you. However, if you play your cards right and make your first move at the perfect time and place, she will be much more likely to accept your invitation for a romantic relationship. If you’ve been friends for a long time, you may be tempted to use this opportunity to tell her you love her. Avoid this at all costs! You don’t want to overwhelm her by confessing that you’re in love with her or have loved her for a long time. Instead, just leave it open ended. Establish that you both have romantic feelings for each other and then just continue having a great time! You can talk about being in love or being in a relationship later – much later.

Stop Confiding In Her

To get out of the friend zone, you must first figure out how you got there in the first place. The most common way that guys get stuck in a friendship type relationship rather than a romantic one is they start confiding their own problems in their love interests and offering a shoulder to cry on for her when she’s talking about her problems. This is a great way to build an intimate friendship, but women with “guy friends” like this will only ever see them as friends and not in a romantic way. What you need to do is stop confiding in her – when you go out with her, instead of having a “talk” or discussion, practice flirting and having a good time. Show her that you enjoy flirting with her and want to be romantic with her.

How To Downplay It If She’s Not Interested

If you find out she’s not interested in you that way, you may be scared that you’re going to lose the friendship. This is actually a huge reason that many guys won’t let a girl know they’re into them romantically – because they’re not only scared of rejection, but they’re also scared of losing any relationship they have with their girl at all. Whether she stays friends with you after she declines your offer for a romantic relationship isn’t up to her – it’s up to you. Just don’t let it get weird! Go back to doing the same things you were before and simply say, “You can’t blame a guy for trying.” Because you really can’t!

5 Great First Date Ideas To Get Laid

By vindicarlo

A first date is always super special. The romance, the excitement and meeting a new woman for the very first time. For most men – and maybe you – the ultimate first date ends in a good night kiss, where you sweep her off her feet. The kind of good night kiss that makes her invite you to come in to her place and spend the night.

The real question is, how would you make it happen? How can you get a woman to invite you in after your very first date? The answer is so simple, it’s obvious: Go on a great first date.

In this article, you’ll discover five great first dates you can take any beautiful woman on so you can get laid. They’re proven winners for me and thousands of other men from around the world. And they’re fun first dates she’s NEVER been on, ever before. So you’ll “wow” her, no problem.

Check Out Her Toy Collection

Girls are silly, emotional creatures. And these silly, playful emotions are what makes her so fun when having sex. So go on a first date that gets her juices flowing. And make her laugh and smile more than any other man she knows.

Taking her to Toys R Us – or any toy store – for a first date lets you both play with stuff, hands on. So you’re sharing an activity (something most women complain men don’t do ENOUGH.) Plus, she’ll let her guard down around you. And you’ll be able to start flirting with her on a deeper, more sexual level.

Here are some great, fun activities you two can do, together, on your Toys R Us date:

Build your fantasy castle with Legos (some Toys R Us have block pits, others don’t. If the local store in your town doesn’t, do it in her mind – ask her what her ideal Lego castle palace would look like)
Ask her what her favorite childhood toy was, and why (you can always buy it for her later on in your relationship – earning you HUGE brownie points)
Throw the bouncy balls back and forth (you can even carry one with you, to bonk her with, when she’s not looking)
Generally – if it makes her laugh and smile, you’re doing something right. And it’s impossible to go wrong, when you’re surrounded by toys.

How To Use Whipped Cream On A First Date

Take your date to a cooking or baking class, where you two can make something together. Then, once you’ve finished making the food, eat it together. If she is creative and/or has tons of other guys chasing her, you’ll stand out head and shoulders above the rest. Not to mention, you’ll start to build “long term potential” so you’ll have less “resistance” when you two start to get intimate, later on in the night.

Where can you find these great cooking dates? Try sites like www.Groupon.com. They’ll hook you up with great deals and huge discounts.

Here are a few tips to make your cooking and dinner date even more fun:

Have a dessert date, instead of a dinner one (the food is lighter, so she won’t feel full and unsexy later, when she goes to take off her clothes)
Not to mention chocolate is a gigantic aphrodisiac (guaranteeing your woman is “in the mood” once the sun sets)
Paint her with food – whipped cream, chocolate sauce or tomato sauce on her nose. (Teasing like this gives you “bad boy” sex appeal without being a jerk – keep it off her clothes, though)
Compliment her on how well she’s doing. Giving her approval now will make her feel special and loved, making her willing to give compliments, praise and sex, to you.

If You’re Going To Do Dinner, Do This Instead

Take your date to a restaurant with a “theme.” This includes places like Ninja restaurant, the Rainforest Cafe and THOUSANDS of other, smaller bars and cafes. You’re looking for a place with a warm, friendly atmosphere. In a big city, look for places the “locals” hang out. Ideally, places with lots of character.

Piano bars are great for this. As are some diners, some cafes and any SPECIALTY coffee shop or bar. In smaller towns, this is a much harder option to find, however, you two can make a trip to the big city, together, and treat this dinner like a mini vacation. (Save traveling together for a second or third date, though)

Once you’re at a nice local place that’s “off the beaten path,” here’s how to make the most of your first date:

When you order, ask the server what he or she recommends. Go with one of the answers, no matter what it is. (This shows you’re open to new experiences and adventures – very attractive to women. Also, you’re able to lead others and make quick decisions. Little things like this COUNT)
Order her something you think she’ll like, for dessert. (Women like a man who leads, so here’s exactly what you should say, “My friend came here and said X DESSERT was great. You’ve got to try it, so I’ll order us one.” Say this right before your waiter comes over, then give him or her your order)
After dinner, include an activity that lets you two just sit around and talk. Sitting in a park, watching the stars and finding some place to just people watch are all great ideas. (You want to let her settle and digest, plus special “mood” and “bonding” chemicals come out right after dinner, when you sit down and relax)

Shop For Cars, Clothes & Houses

Window shopping is the be-all, end-all way to impress a woman you just met. It’s the ultimate fantasy: You take a woman to the most expensive stores you can find, or on a walk around one of the really fancy neighborhoods. And you ask her what she’d like to own. You make her imagine owning it. Then you both feel like you’ve just lived “the good life” together, making her emotional bond to you super strong.

Here are the keys to some bad ass window shopping dates:

Start the date like this, “I like to walk around and look at all the high quality stuff wealthy people can buy. It motivates me to make something of myself and keep on going, even when the times get tough.” (You’re showing her your motivation and your passion for life. This is a MASSIVE turn on, for her)
Go for the big, BIG ticket items – Window shopping clothes and jewelry is cool, but if she’s into cars, go check out Ferraris and Aston Martins, instead. (And if she’s a clothes girl, find the nicest places in town. Bigger prices mean bigger fantasies)
Have fun! Relax! And remember to ask: “Which one of these do you like best?” Followed by: “Why?”

Get Messy Together

This first date idea isn’t for the faint of heart. Or for the timid. Or for most women.

But if she is an adventurous, tough girl on your hands, try inviting her to a paintball match. (You’ll want to run it by her, beforehand) The adrenaline, the teamwork and the physical movement together will a) make her have tons of fun and b) get her emotions and hormones charged up for sex, later.

Plus – It’s impossible not to be flirty with someone when they just shot a paintball at your face.

Here are the key tips to great paintball dating:

Go for two or three games – no more, no less. You want one game on her team, one game on the other. And you want it to end before either of you get bored. Short and sweet is best of all.
When you are on her team, stay close and protect her. When you’re on the other, make sure to target her out. This way, you’re protecting her and pushing her buttons – both highly emotionally intense for a woman.
Again, always have fun! (So for this date, you’ll want to run it by her in advance. For most others, you can surprise her with it)

5 Awkward Ways To Flirt With A Woman

By vindicarlo

Have you ever felt “awkward” flirting with a girl you like? Maybe you felt like you said the wrong thing at the wrong time – or maybe, you couldn’t think of anything to say, at all!

Bad news is, you’ll probably be in that situation AGAIN, if it’s happened to you, once. Trust me, I’m an expert on these kind situations. Until ten years ago, every single second of my life was a strange situation. That’s why I discovered 5 things I could do to use my quirkiness when flirting with women I liked.

And in this article, you’ll discover 5 tips to flirt with a woman YOU like. You’ll discover how to turn your mind going “blank” into a real asset, and you’ll become miles more attractive to the women you like, without doing any extra work, yourself.

Let me show you exactly what I mean.

Send Her A Stuffed Animal

No, not after you’ve started dating. That’s way too smooth. Instead, you’re going to send her a stuffed animal after your very first date. Or maybe before your first date!

Here’s exactly, step by step, the tricks to making this flirt work:

Somehow talk about how she wants a puppy or kitten (Hint: Every single girl alive has some sort of desire for a puppy or a kitten, even if it’s just for the future)
Get her to name it.
Buy a stuffed puppy or kitten.
Give it a collar with X name.
Give it to her, next time you hang out.

You’ll earn MASSIVE flirting points. Here’s why it works: Not only did you remember exactly what she said (you used her name, to prove you were listening) but also, you took time out for romance.

If this doesn’t melt your woman’s heart, her heart is made of ice.

Have A Friend Tell Her You Like Her

Welcome to the fourth grade again. Please take a seat.

So you want to be a little quirky and still be good at flirting with women, huh? This is about as weird as it gets: Making your friend ask the girl you like whether she likes you or not.

The trick here is the timing. And if you get this right, you can practically guarantee she’s going to fall in love with you.

Wait until the answer is “Yes.” This usually means waiting until after you two have sex a few times.
REMEMBER: There’s no reason to stop flirting with your partner, after sex.
Have your friend ask a funny, but easy question. “My friend wants to know if you think he’s cute” comes to mind.
When he asks, be right there, standing on the other side of the room.

She’ll look at you, you’ll look back, and she’ll laugh hysterically. And you’ve successfully turned a VERY odd technique into a very successful way to flirt with a lady.

Now, you’re going to start to get a little more devious….

Make Fun Of Her

What’s the most strange way to flirt with a girl? Ruthlessly making fun of her, of course! We used to do it when we were children – in adults, it’s commonly known as “Jersey Shore Syndrome” and It’s one of the BEST things you can do to tease and flirt with a lady you just met.

Here are the three things you MUST keep in mind, to successfully make fun of someone you like:

Don’t pull your punches. Make sure you really make it silly. If she’s reading a comic book, say, “I can see you’ve got great taste in literature.”
Do it all serious. Straight face. Eye contact. Just a HINT of a smile. You really want her to buy it.
Play the waiting game. She’s gonna try to test you, by taking a few seconds to laugh, herself. Count to three in your head and then you can start to smile.

She’ll smile along with you, then laugh along with you, and most of the time, a joke like this will get you a laugh and a pat on the arm. You know what it means when she laughs AND touches you, right? It means she’s flirting with you! Mission accomplished.

Dress Up And Play Pretend Together

Imagine walking up to a woman and asking her, “Would you like to play dolls with me?” That’s the definition of a weird moment. Yet, playing pretend and acting out fantasies with a woman you’re dating is a sure-fire way to win her heart.

So what’s the difference? And how do you make role-playing an “adult” game? Here are the secrets:

Don’t ask her to play along. Just start fantasizing with her. For example, if you both see a great travel poster or advertisement, turn to her and say: “Baby, I’m so glad you’re here on vacation with me in ”
She’ll either play along, or not quite get it yet. If she doesn’t play along, just keep with it. You want to treat her like she’s missing out on an inside joke.
When she picks it up, keep on role playing together. You do this by acting like you’re somewhere else, together. So simply describe what you see, feel and feel like.

Want to know a dirty trick? A trick to make your role playing make her fall in a whole ‘nother level of love for you? Role play as if you two are “old lovers,” finally meeting after a long time apart. So pretend you were childhood sweethearts who lost each other, but finally got back together.

You can do this by simply acting “as if.” Imagine what you would do if you were on a vacation with a long lost lover of your own, then simply act it out.

Women can’t get enough of this stuff. And the men she knows don’t do it, EVER.

Let Her Win – And Embarrass Her For It!

Not only should you let her win at pool, or whatever other game you two are playing together, you should let her win – and make sure she knows it!

Because there’s nothing crazier than saying, “Yeah, you won because I let you win” unless it’s actually the truth.

Here’s how to pull this flirting move off:

Pick a game where skill – not luck – is what you need to win. Pool comes to mind, because it’s physical, you can tease her by messing with her balls, etc.
Make sure you’re better than her at the game.
Win until the very last ball. Hopefully, by now, you’ll have a few ball lead, and then…
Blow it all. Jokingly miss shots until she wins the game!

Here’s the kicker: When she wins, you don’t want to say, “I let you win.” Instead, you want to say, “Baby, you won! Look how good you did.” And laugh and flirt together over it. Because if you do this right, you’ll be laughing together from the very first second you start missing shots until she – FINALLY – wins the game.

It’s a great way to bond and a fun means of flirting. If she doesn’t play punch you after this, she doesn’t have a funny bone in her body.