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Dating Tips: What Are The Best Pick Up Lines?

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When dating, coming up with pick up lines isn’t always an easy thing to do. It can be extremely difficult to think of something when you’re trying to approach a woman, especially if you’re very nervous or jittery. You may be tempted to use a “canned” pick up line that you read on the Internet or heard from a friend, because it’s easier than coming up with something on your own when you’ve been put on the spot. However, those puick up lines rarely work and often serve to get you rejected by the girl you’re trying to ask out. Check out these great tips on the best pick up lines and how to successfully ask a girl out.

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Be In The Moment

The best pick up lines come naturally. They come from the heart and are sincere. They’re not canned statements that can be used on any girl – they’re intelligent statements about your surroundings, what is going on and who you’re with. Most women don’t respond to manufactured pick up lines when dating – and not to worry, a girl can smell a fake pick up line from across the room. Rest assured that any cheesy statements will get you rejected! Instead of using canned pick up lines when dating, be “in the moment” and talk to the girl you’re asking out about what is going on around you. Ask her a question, compliment her in a genuine and sincere way or tease her with a giant smile on your face. Avoid making a comment about her physical appearance, especially her body. Gorgeous women are told all the time that they are gorgeous – they want a guy to make an effort to get to know her and value her for her intelligence, not the way she looks.

Be Yourself

When dating, it is important (crucial, in fact) that you be yourself instead of trying to be someone else. Not only will trying to be someone you think girls will like make you feel uncomfortable and out of place, people are going to see it on you right away. If you’re not relaxed and “in your own skin,” you’re not going to look natural when you ask a girl out. You’re going to look nervous and cheesy, and it’s going to be completely obvious to the girl you’re talking to that you’re not being yourself. When talking to a woman, be honest about your hobbies, your work and your opinions about things. Don’t try to tell her what you think she wants to hear, because you’re most likely going to be wrong on that count. You should also make a point to ask her honest questions about her life, her interests and hobbies and her opinions about things. Listen to what she says and do your best to show her that you’re genuinely interested. Women want their voice to be heard and want a guy that will take and interest in what interests them!

Practice Makes Perfect

If you’re shy, dating definitely doesn’t come naturally to you. For shy guys, dating and talking to new people can be downright torturous. You can, however, learn how to get more comfortable with dating and meeting people. The best way to comfortable with meeting new people and talking to them is to get some practice at it. “Practicing” is actually a pretty simple concept, but the hard part comes when you have to actually get out of your comfort zone. Try going out and meeting people! Go to a bar, a bookstore, a fast food restaurant or the park – go anywhere where there are people and make a point to say hello to as many people as you can. Bonus points if you can actually strike up an interesting conversation with someone! When you practice meeting new people, you’ll be much more comfortable when asking a girl out. If you’re comfortable in new social situations, you’re not going to need pick up lines to meet women!

Have Confidence In Yourself

The best way to be successful in dating is to have self confidence. Being confident in yourself is something that shows through in the way you talk, the way you carry yourself and how you appear to other people. Women don’t generally gravitate towards men that are shy, that hang their head down and wait for someone to approach them. Women are attracted to men who are conversational, personable and who eminate self assurance and self confidence. Just be careful not to appear too cocky, because men who give off a “cocky vibe” will definitely not succeed in dating!

The 5 Hardest Ways To Get A One Night Stand

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Sex – sometimes you just want to have it with no strings attached. Truth is, sometimes women feel the exact same way.

In fact, there are just as many WOMEN out looking for a one night stand as MEN out looking for a one night stand. So why is it so damn tough to hook up? It’s because you’re looking in the wrong place!

So in this article, you’ll discover the 5 most popular places most men go to have a one night stand and why they’re the TOUGHEST places in the whole world to meet a girl.

Sports Bars/Watering Holes

You figure: Well, since it’s a bar, not a club, the people are more laid back and relaxed. The girls are more open to sex. And I feel comfortable here. This should be easy.

The reality: Bars are the TOUGHEST place to pick up ladies for a one night stand. Why?

  • Her friends are here, watching her. They’ll judge her if she goes home with a guy.
  • Other people see her here every week, and if she goes home with you, she’ll seem like a slut.
  • She probably just wants to hang out and grab a drink with a few friends, not get approached by some horny stranger.

So if you’re trying to meet women at a bar, for a one night stand, you’ve got your work cut out for you.

How can you increase your chances of having sex? Imagine you know her from high school, and approach her that way. No, don’t say it – just think it.

For example: You approach with a friendly energy, like you already know her. You jump into the conversation, instead of starting a new one. And you talk to her AND her friends, before you pull her away.

Dance Clubs

You figure: Girls say they go to clubs to “dance with their friends.” That’s got to be bullshit. The only reason a woman would get dressed up like that and get that drunk is if she wanted to meet guys.

The reality: Some girls – a lot of them – actually go to clubs to dance with their friends. I wouldn’t believe it either, if my girlfriend didn’t head out every couple of weeks to dance with her friends, then come home, alone, and still stone sober.

So what you didn’t realize is THOSE ladies don’t want to be bothered. The same way you wouldn’t want to be bothered if you were hanging out with your friends at a bar. However, there’s probably an obstacle you DIDN’T predict:

  • “The Club Scene” has it’s own rules and culture. If you’re not in it, you stick out like a sore thumb.
  • The hottest women in the clubs are ALL in “the club scene,” and know all the “club scene” people at that club. If YOU aren’t in “the scene,” she can’t go home with you. It’s MAJOR negative points to her credibility in “The Scene.”

So have you ever wondered how come the HOTTEST girls in any given club just blow guys off, left and right? It’s not necessarily because she’s a bitch. It’s because going home with someone who’s not in “the scene” would ruin her social life, for good.

How can you fix that? Become part of “the scene.” Then you can flirt with her and take her home because you’re part of the crowd. Honestly though, unless you already enjoy going out clubbing 5-7 nights a week, this “scene” probably isn’t for you.

Meeting Women Online

You figure: Lots of hot women don’t like bars and clubs, and with all the Match.com advertisements, there must be plenty of chicks online. I’ve got cool interests, this should be easy.

The reality: Ever been at a party with two guys for every girl? It’s tough as hell to meet those chicks, because everybody and their brother is fighting for their attention. In the same way YOU would get tons of attention, if you took a baking or cooking class with a bunch of women. Girls at male dominated parties all of the sudden have choice, selection and power.

Now, imagine if that party had 6 or 7 men for every single attractive woman. That’s exactly what the online dating ratio is like because commercials on TV suck in average men like you and me. But the women come at a much slower pace. And the hot ones leave, right away, when they see the creepy messages they get.

This means women who date online are:

  • Bombarded with messages. Want to see how many? Open a fake account using profile pictures from a hot friend of yours, or woman you know. See what messages you get from guys.
  • Drunk with power. Imagine if every time YOU logged into an internet dating website, there were 30 messages waiting for you.
  • These women are itching for a man to commit to a long, steady relationship – before – she has sex with him.

If you’re looking for a one night stand, close your computer. It won’t do you any good.

Strip Clubs

You figure: Ladies who work in strip clubs must be super sexy, and easy. They take their clothes off for money, for crying out loud!

The reality: Strippers have the most “game” out of any woman alive. Their jobs REQUIRE them to milk as much money out of you as possible. This doesn’t make them “evil” women – no, no. This makes them good at their profession.

This also means:

  • Any affection you get from a stripper is probably trying to get money from you. Lots of teasing, lots of flirting, and all of it leading to more expensive, private dances.
  • Most offers to come home with you aren’t on the “up and up” if you catch my drift.
  • Finally, strippers – like “club girls” – have their own sets of dating and sex rules. Many far too complicated to mention, here.

So if you want to date – or sleep with – a stripper, you’ve got your work cut out for you. A one night stand? You’re barking up one of the TOUGHEST trees out there, partner.

Giving Your Ex A Booty Call

You figure: You already had sex with your ex-girlfriend. She always said it was good. And since she’s still single, maybe she’d like to come over to bump uglies.

The reality: Your timing is probably not the best, because you’re somewhat “desperate” for sex. And she can smell that on you, coming from a mile away. So if you finally get the booty call, here’s what you can expect:

  • Lots of her trying to be “in the right” for your breakup.
  • Lots of blame games, bullshit and fighting.
  • Her pretending to be “disgusted” that you still want sex.

Let’s say you two DO hop in the sack. You’ll probably start to build a relationship again. Probably one that’s got SERIOUS flaws. And definitely not a one night stand.

The Easiest Place To Have A One Night Stand

It’s very simple: Anywhere you can meet a woman, during the day. Because when you meet women during the day, she’s not expecting there to be a sexual spark. When there is, she’s got less “shields” up against you. Mostly because this has never happened to her, before.

And she’ll be excited to try something new.

Date Ideas: Inexpensive Yet Impressive

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It’s difficult to come up with date ideas that don’t put a hurt on your wallet, especially in today’s economy. If you’ve checked out a news website, turned on the TV, or picked up a paper, you’re probably aware that the economy isn’t doing so great at the moment. Whether you’ve lost your job or are just trying to save some extra money, you shouldn’t let your dating world crumble just to pinch a few pennies. In fact, it’s possible to woo your significant other on a budget, as long as you’re willing to get creative and plan ahead. You may even find that your date is more impressed with your clever plans than he or she would be with a pricey restaurant dinner.

Planning Ahead

You can make up for what you’re financially lacking, if you’re willing to put some thought into your dating plans. If you’re looking to get out of the house, start combing the internet for ideas. You’d be surprised at how many discounted and free events there are out there. If you live near a major city, publications like Time Out (either on the web or in magazine form) can be a great reference point. If you don’t, there are plenty of other similar publications and websites out there that can help. Your local newspaper probably has a nightlife or upcoming events section.

You can also go straight to the source. Try searching the internet for nearby places of interest to see if they have any discounts or special events listed on their websites. Taking your partner to half price night at your local museum or zoo for a first date is a lot more interesting than dinner and a movie. If you and your significant other are sports fans, look to see if there’s a minor league team near you. Tickets are often much more affordable, and you can enjoy discovering a new team together.

Search bars and venues for free or cheap music performances by local acts. You can still enjoy the feel of catching live music without paying the big bucks for tickets to a major artist’s concert. Some bars and restaurants also host free tasting nights or have special brunch, lunch or dinner deals well worth investigating. Sign up for email newsletters from all of these places, and you’ll always be in the loop on their discounts and freebies.

Head Outdoors

Heading out into the great outdoors can be another low or no cost alternative to traditional date ideas. Go for a walk in your local park or take a picnic there. Better yet, find a nearby place for a hike and make a day of it. You’ll get to enjoy nature, each other’s company, and a little exercise. If you and your date are sporty types, meet up for a game of one-on-one basketball when it’s warm out or go ice skating when it’s cold (save even more if you both own your own skates).

If you’re a pair of do-gooders, try volunteering together. A lot of parks and/or beaches need people to help with seasonal gardening and clean up. If you’re not outdoorsy, try volunteering for another cause you both believe in. Animal lovers can spend an afternoon helping out at a shelter or pet adoption fair. If you’re both bookworms, consider volunteering to read stories to kids at your local library or hospital. Doing good while flirting and chatting with your partner will let your sweetie see you in a whole new light while putting you both in a great mood.

A Date Doesn’t Have To Be Expensive To Be Fun

As you can see, there are so many options out there for fun but affordable dates. A little research can save you big bucks and win you lots of points with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Plus, if all else fails, you can always fall back on an old dating standby—dinner at your place, cooked with love by you.

Dating Tips: Will My Rebound Relationship End Badly?

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A rebound relationship is common, and it can sometimes be a fun way to get over someone you’ve broken up with. The thing about these types of relationships though is that they rarely last, simply because the person just getting out of a previous relationship is “rebounding” and not ready for commitment again. However, there are a rebound relationship or two that actually last, so if you’re really into someone who just came from a break up, you may not want to give up hope yet. Here’s how to tell if they’re still hung up on their ex – and if their relationship with you will work out for the better.

Question:  Hey, I recently met this girl and we were getting pretty close but then she started talking about her ex-boyfriend who she broke up with because he moved away. She said she’s still in love with him and now I realized that I might just be filling the “gap” that he left behind. Is this kind of rebound relationship going to end badly if I pursue it?

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Why Some Rebound Relationships Don’t Work

Some people go into a rebound relationship with the attitude of simply engaging in casual dating or sex. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, especially if both parties understand that it is more of a casual hookup. However, if one person is going into it thinking that it is going to be the start of something really special, they can get let down pretty hard when they find out the person they are really into isn’t really into them. There are some ways to tell if the rebound relationship will work out or not before you become completely invested in it, so take some time to think the situation through before you really commit to it. If they’re the ones that have done the breaking up with their past partner, they may be ready to move on and start a new commitment with you. However, if they’re the ones that were broken up with, they may still be hung up on the “one that got away.”

Is She Trying To Keep In Contact With Him?

If she says she’s still in love with her ex-boyfriend, she may still be keeping in contact with him through phone, email or chat. This can be a huge indicator of whether or not your relationship with her will work out or not, because if she’s still communicating with him, she’s still hung up on him – and keeping in touch with him will not allow her to fully move on from him and committing herself to what she has with you. Talk to her and let her know that you enjoy spending time with her and want to pursue what you have with her, but you can’t do that while she is still talking to her ex. Let her know that continuing to talk to him is just going to hurt her, because she won’t be able to move on from him and it will keep her from finding happiness elsewhere. Let her know that it makes you uncomfortable and that you’d like her to stop talking to him so you and her can focus on your relationship together. Be wary though – she may insist that it is harmless and she’s going to do it anyway. She may even do it behind your back. Decide beforehand whether this is a deal breaker or not. If she refuses to stop talking to her ex, are you willing to walk away?

Time Will Make A Difference

If you haven’t been in the rebound relationship with her for very long, all she may need is time. It takes time to get over an ex, especially if he’s the one that initiated the break up. If the break up is fresh and you’re really into this girl, take a step back and allow her some time to collect herself and get over him. She may be worth the wait, and the wait probably won’t be very long if she’s already agreed that continuing to keep in touch with him is simply keeping her from moving on. However, if you and her have been dating for awhile now, and she’s still not able to move on from what she had with him, it may be a sign that she’s not going to get over him for a long time. If this is the case, you may want to consider moving on yourself and looking for someone who respects you enough to be  with you and you only mentally and emotionally.

Dating Tips: You Got Her Number – Now What?

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Scoring a girl’s phone number when dating can seem like a huge success – and it is. But the question is, what do you do after you get her number? The thought can definitely be nerve wracking because this is where you can really make or break the relationship. When you call her and what you say to her can make her blow you off completely or become super interested in you. So here’s the downlow on what to do after you get her number so you can get a second date – and maybe even more!

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What Are You Trying To Achieve With Her?

So you’ve chatted a super cute girl up at the bar and you’ve gotten her number – score! But now you’re just not quite sure what to do with it. You’re staring at it like it’s an alien that will take over your body if you touch it the wrong way and you can’t help but look at it every five seconds for fear that it will scamper off the counter and be lost forever. Many guys are so freaked out by what to say when they call a girl for the first time after getting her phone number that they don’t end up calling her at all – or they call so many days or weeks later that she barely remembers who he was. Before you call a girl, think about what you’re trying to achieve with her. Are you looking to date her and form a solid, long term relationship? Or are you looking for more of a casual friendship or a hook up? Thinking about what you really want first can help you set the stage for what to say next.

There’s Not A Right Time, But There Is A Wrong Time

The “right time” to call a girl after you score her phone number is pretty much whenever you feel the desire to talk to her or ask her out on a date. So really, there is no “right time.” The idea of waiting a certain number of days before you call her so you don’t seem desperate is an outdated myth that will only serve to make her think you’re not interested in her at all. So don’t worry about the “right” time to call her – instead, worry about the “wrong” time to make your move. Waiting too long to call her after you’ve gotten her number may make her think you’re not interested in her, or worse, she may have forgotten who you were by the time you get around to dialing her number. She won’t remember why she gave you her number and she’ll be more reluctant to set up a date with you if she does at all.

Keep It Simple

When calling a girl you just met, it’s definitely important to keep the conversation simple. Be honest, and let her know you really enjoyed talking with her when you met. Elaborating on how awesome, wonderful, sexy and hot she is will just make you seem creepy and stalker-ish. So keep the conversation short and simply let her know that you had a great time and you’d love to do it again. Be prepared with a date idea, but make sure it’s something casual like going out for a cup of coffee or grabbing a quick lunch together. This is especially true if you had a difficult time getting her number to begin with – suggesting a long, romantic dinner at the fancy restaurant downtown really isn’t going to get you anywhere here.

Texting Can Be Your Best Friend

In the age of technology, it’s important not to overlook texting as a mode of communication. Texts are wonderful ways to connect with a woman after getting her number and it won’t put either you or her on the spot. After meeting her and scoring her phone number, send her a short and sweet text the next day letting her know you enjoyed her company – and leave it at that. Chances are, she’ll text you back and let you know that she had fun too. You can also suggest going out on a date in a text, but again, make sure it’s a simple, short date like coffee or lunch. Don’t blow up her phone with tons of texts though – if you do, you’ll seem just as creepy and weird as if you called her a hundred times. Give her time to think about it and answer your text. Remember that she did give you her number and that means she liked you enough to do so. Play it cool and you’ll definitely score the opportunity to get to know her and let her get to know you.