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Dirty Talk: The 5 Hottest Words To Say During Sex (For Him)

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Dirty talk is a big part of sex. There’s no describing the level of arousal that a kinky phrase or two can put you in. Some of us do it consciously to goad a girl deeper into ecstasy, while some do it unconsciously. If you’re engaged in hot sex with a girl, here are some of the hottest phrases to tell her.

“My Bitch”

There’s a certain finesse that should accompany this phrase. Say it like you would ‘my darling’ or ‘princess.’ There are many girls out there who get excited just hearing this phrase during sex.

Women who are usually stubborn and with a lot of ‘girl power’ outside the bedroom like this dirty talk phrase in the sexual context, most likely because the term ‘bitch’ indicates surrendering (or losing) control because of extreme pleasure. These girls are also the ones who won’t take offense at the term, especially when said in the most adoring tone.

“Mistress”

What excites women is the notion that they’re doing something extremely evil during sex, not unlike the quintessential dominatrix characters who like BDSM in popular movies. Use this dirty talk when you’re encouraging your girl to do what she wants with your body, take the lead and stay on top during intercourse.

“So Good”

Not many guys understand that girls need more than just the occasional grunts of pleasure from their partners. This phrase sounds sexy coming from a guy who’s tensed up and about to have an orgasm. This phrase affirms that she’s giving you pleasure, which is gratifying especially when she’s going down on you.

“You’re Beautiful”

Believe it or not, this phrase can actually be considered dirty talk. Inside the bedroom, this phrase is like napalm. Use it while you’re on top of her or when she’s facing you; and before she enters her orgasmic phase. A girl becomes conscious of how she looks while having sex, and telling her she’s pretty even if her face is scrounged up in pleasure can boost her arousal.

If you’re torn between ‘you’re beautiful’ and ‘you’re sexy,” choose the former. Sexy is something that a woman is insecure about. What she knows as ‘sexy’ may have something to do with the type of woman that would fit inside a size 2 dress. The word ‘beautiful,’ on the other hand, has a certain ring to it that makes a woman feel all giddy and aroused.

“Want More? I’ll Give You More”

This isn’t just a passé line from a Britney Spears song, it’s something that tells a girl you’re not going to cut her pleasure short anytime soon. Remember, women can have multiple orgasms, which means they’re ready to go again as soon as they finish their first orgasm. Telling her this means she can expect you to last all night, or at least longer than you usually do.

When you decide to try dirty talk, mind your tone. Don’t try talking dirty when you’re pissed off, as it will come out differently. Your objective is to make her hot, not to embarrass or humiliate her during sex.

Make Your Sex Life More Passionate And Wild

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Sexual satisfaction through orgasm is what every woman expects when she goes to bed with a man. However, over half of the women who have sex with men end up disappointed. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship is based on love or not, women are often trapped inside relationships wherein they need to deal with unsatisfying sex, for the long term.

It’s not enough to tell a woman you love her. Everything in your relationship must reflect how you adore her. Sex is one of the best ways to convey your feelings, which simply means that the same old boring methods are not acceptable.

If you want to please a woman and make her orgasmic dreams come true, learn the skills that will turn you into the man she would want to make love with every single day. To do this, you must find ways to solve the two most common problems involved in pleasing women: how to make a girl wild with desire (so that she craves sex with you all the time), and how to give her the most satisfying orgasms every time you have sex.

Be A Little Rough

If you’ve always been the polite partner (you never demand anything during sex, and you assume she likes everything you’re doing), change your bedroom behaviour for one night and find out if she likes it. I’m not saying you should buy all the leather S&M uniforms you can find. Begin gently so that you can introduce her to your other methods of making love; and also, so that you don’t shock her too much.

You can have a little BDSM without going overboard, at least during the first few times you try to pull off your “bad boy” routine. You can start with tapping her butt when you’re in doggy mode. Time your taps according to your thrusts, and be a little rougher (i.e. moderate spanking) if she responds in a positive manner.

Dirty Talk

You should also try talking dirty. If you’re not sure if your girlfriend will appreciate you dropping F bombs or saying the B word while you’re in bed, try the romantic way of dirty talk first. Begin by expressing how you feel. Tell her that you feel her warmth and you like how wet she is.

Be a little more graphic when describing how you’re penetrating her. Better yet, make her watch your movements using a mirror or by engaging in a position that allows her to see the actual penetration, as you whisper erotic things in her ear.

You can make a woman climax just by igniting her imagination. Dirty talk, or erotic talk, can give a woman some material to masturbate on when you’re not around. Words spoken and images created during the act are extremely erotic for women. You can bet that she will be fantasizing about your last sexual adventure in the future if you turn her on enough. By doing this, she will crave sex with you more.

5 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying To Dirty Talk

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Okay, so you’ve agreed to give talking dirty a go with your partner. You may be a little nervous, but you love them so much and only want to make them happy. Besides, your sex life could really use a boost. However, many people make grave mistakes when learning how to dirty talk and these mistakes will end up causing more problems than you originally bargained for. Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong!

Mistake 1: Emulating The Dirty Talk In Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason. Many of these lines are not only cheesy, but they can be crass and derogatory towards women and sometimes even men. Also remember that these lines are scripted, and very, very fake. Your partner will definitely be able to tell that you’re not sincere at all in your dirty talk if you use lines from a porn movie. Avoid copying what you hear the porn stars say in the bedroom and you’ll be on your way to successful dirty talk.

Mistake 2: Making The Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that sometimes talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “Your cock is so huge,” when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. It’s actually going to make him feel much more self conscious about his smaller size. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more “grape” than “grapefruit” in size will more than likely backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly it makes you cum or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you. Instead of exaggerating what they’re insecure about, talk about how much you love it. They’ll feel great about their body if they know it makes you really, really hot.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations In Their Heads

When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. a threesome, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life. Reserve your dirty talk for things that you and your partner can actually make happen. Tell her that you want to bend her over the washing machine and do her from behind or tell him that you want to give him road head the next time you guys have a long drive in the car.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk As The Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant, just like the same sex positions day after day after day. Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Ok, I’ve heard that so many times. Please shut up already!” Instead, try your best to find new and different ways of telling your partner that they turn you on or what you want to do to them when you get them alone. If you’re having trouble thinking of something new to say, try using your surroundings as an inspiration. Going grocery shopping? Tell her how hot it would make you if you bought a very smooth, large cucumber and used it at home! Dirty talk won’t get boring if you use your imagination.

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It’s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes dirty talk can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up. There’s actually a lot to learn! It’s not just the words you say, it’s how you say them. If your dirty talk isn’t appearing to turn your partner on, ask them why. Keep open communication about what they like and what they don’t like. If they’re not into something in particular, it doesn’t mean they’re turned off by dirty talk all together. It just means that that particular phrase didn’t do that much for them. Find something else to say instead!

Q&A: Sex Tip – How To Get Her To Be On Top

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One of the most challenging things in the bedroom is finding new sex positions to be in that you and your partner both enjoy. If you are really into a certain sex position but your partner doesn’t seem to want to try it, here are some great ways to get her to be more interested in it so you both can enjoy fun and exciting sex!

Question: My girlfriend and I are happy and in love and everything is going great. We have sex almost everyday. It’s wonderful! But she doesn’t like to change up the sex position. She knows that I like when she’s on top because we talk about it and when we “talk dirty” via phone/text she always says she’s going to get on top of me, but when we get in bed, it seems like she doesn’t want to. Do you think she wants me to throw her around and put her on top of me and stuff? I’ve thought about trying that, but I don’t want to throw her into a situation she doesn’t want to be in.

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Trying Other Positions

So maybe your partner doesn’t want to try being on top right now, but perhaps she’ll be interested in trying some other positions that give her a little more control without giving her all the control. If your partner is very shy, especially with sex, she may be apprehensive about having all the control when it comes to having sex. Some great sex positions to warm her up to being on top are the lotus position or the spoon position. In the lotus position, you and your partner are both sitting up, with her sitting on your lap facing you. This allows her to be “on top” but then again, so are you! In the spoon position, you will enter your partner from behind while you are both lying down as though you were spooning. Although you are in control here, she can actually control the depth and speed of your penetration.

Help Her Get On Top

Your partner may want you to take the initiative to get her on top. She may be too shy to get out of her missionary position comfort zone herself, but she may like it once she gets there. During sex, gently roll over so she ends up being on top for a few minutes. If she seems to really like it, stay there! If not, roll her back over so you’re on top again. You can increase the time she spends on top as you do this more often during sex, and eventually she will be on top for the majority of the time during sex! Another thing you can do is go down on her first and get her really, really turned on. She will be more receptive to new things when she’s losing control and in the throes of passion. Help her to relax before sex with a hot bath or a glass of wine, and if she’s in a more relaxed state of mind, she’ll be more receptive to your advances.

Encourage Her!

Let her know how much you like it when she’s on top. Encourage her when she is and let her know how great she is doing. Give her the right body language too, such as making noises during sex when she is pleasing you or grabbing her harder and holding her tighter. She may be afraid of being on top because she’s afraid she won’t please you! Just let her know how great she’s doing and how much you like it and she’ll be more inclined to do what really turns you on.

Who Doesn’t Want Better Sex?

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Sex is the most gratifying thing that a man and a woman can share. It’s supposed to be filled with excitement. Everyone has an idea of what great sex is, but there are times when sex isn’t as great as you want it to be. Maybe it’s because your partner is not in the mood and she was sort of just going with the flow because you wanted it so bad. Maybe it’s because you’re always thinking of ways to pleasure your girl but you end up failing every time. There are so many things that affect your performance in the bedroom. Read on to discover what these factors are and how you can make sex better for you and your girl.

Prepare Your Room

Lack of preparation will kill the mood.

Before you even go out on a date with the girl you want to have sex with, have a plan in mind. This will help you prepare for the eventuality that she will come back with you to your place. No girl will find pleasure in making love inside a pig sty so make sure you tidy up, buy some condoms, arrange the bed and clear the clutter. Ironically, doing these things will help you become more spontaneous. Imagine not having to worry about where you can go after your date.

Preparing your room, and yourself, for the inevitable will help with escalating from the normal date to a full-blown hook up.

Try Something Different

Great sex is almost always defined as “something different.”

To a woman, this means you should surprise her by doing something else other than the usual man-on-top position. Learn some kinky sex positions, or put a mirror near the bed. If you’ve never tried sex while still wearing clothes, this is the best time to try. You never know; you might even discover a hidden wild side just by trying something kinky like bringing out a sex toy or asking the girl to roleplay with you.

Dirty Talk

Verbal seduction is a great way to improve sex.

Dirty talking has always been a “feature” of kinky sex, but believe me, I know a lot of men who won’t go there because they think it’s disrespectful to women. However, if your girl enjoys it, you should try it out.

How do you know she’s into that? One way to know for sure whether the girl likes it or not is to ask her leading questions such as, “do you like it when I do this to you” and watching for signs that she likes it when you talk that way. A girl is very sensual, and erotic talk tops the list of “major turn ons in bed.”

If you want to be better in bed, here’s a final reminder for you. Whatever you do, don’t think about your past failures to perform in bed. Just relax and make it work by always keeping tabs on what the girl is feeling, and more importantly, how she is responding to your actions while you’re making out.