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The Best Sex Positions You’ve Never Tried

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Sex positions can get old if you’re using the same ones night after night. Do you wish that you could break out something new from your “bag of tricks” that would feel amazingly good to your lover, whether it’s she’s your long term partner, or a girl you just met?

There’s probably nothing worse than the feeling that comes when you know that your partner is bored with you in bed. While you are thinking about how you can keep things interesting, fun and fresh, you also might be worried that if you try anything too drastically new, that you might scare her off for good.

Well I’ve got good news for you. Some of the most amazing sex positions that I (and most women) ever experience are not much more than slight modifications to some of regular positions that we all know and love. In this article, I’m going to show you how to perform a few of my absolute favorite positions, as well as some tips you can use increase the intensity further still.

Straddle Missionary

Missionary is the original man-on-top position, and the most common one for most people. It also happens to be one of my favorites or clitoral stimulation, and that great feeling of really being stretched out, when we make a slight adjustment.

The next time you are on top, ask her to put her legs together while you spread yours a bit. You should now be straddling her while remaining face-to-face. This will help you to slide against her clitoris with every thrust you take. Since her legs are together, she will also feel tighter for you and also make you feel much wider for her.

To create a feeling of complete surrender, pin her hands down to the bed. You can also sit upright, which will allow you to thrust much faster and harder. Remember to have enough lube on hand, because this position can go from amazingly pleasurable to uncomfortable pretty quickly.

Fork And Spoon

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, while you enter her from behind. You will be doing most of the work of work in this position for both penetration as well as other stimulation including kissing her neck, fondling her breasts, or massaging her clitoris, with either your fingers or a tiny vibrator.

After you’ve been enjoying the spooning position for a few minutes, you can try an amazing variation; where she will move her bottom leg under your top leg, and her top leg on top of yours. This will allow your bodies to become wrapped up in each other’s, which helps to build incredible levels of intimacy while giving her very deep penetration.

For even deeper penetration still, lift her top leg towards the ceiling while you lean your body away from hers. This will give you an angle that allows for much deeper penetration, as well as a great view to look at.

Froggie

The Froggie position is a variation of Cowgirl, where you are laying on your back, and she crouches on top of your penis while still on her feet. This will give her tons of freedom to ride you very vigorously while putting less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups in her legs and core, so she has to be fit in order to sustain this position.

If you really want to give it to her good, grab her waist or ass and pull her on to your penis. She can place her hands on your stomach, chest or the beds backboard to brace herself. This will also give her a chance to relax while you take over, thrusting upwards from below. And for even MORE stimulation, you can always slip a small vibrator in between her legs and right on to her clitoris.

The point of all of these positions is to help give you a little creative insight in to what it takes to be a truly amazing lover. The next time you have sex, go ahead and give some (or all) of these positions a try, and of course feel free to use your imagination to come up with some new variations of your own.

8 Ways To Prevent UTI’s During Sex

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Sex can often cause urinary tract infections for both guys and girls. Urinary tract infections happen when bacteria or fungi get into the urethra and these infections can be uncomfortable or painful. When severe, UTI’s can cause extreme pain, bleeding and the inability to urinate. Here’s how to protect yourself -and your partner – from UTI’s during sex.

Drink Lots Of Water

Make sure you and your partner are drinking enough water every day. The body is about 70% water, so each person requires roughly eight or so glasses of water a day. A glass is about 8 oz. – so it’s safe to say that a lot of people don’t get enough water. Replacing drinking water with drinking soda, sweet tea or any other sugary or caffeinated drink can definitely contribute to a UTI.

Bathe Before And After Sex

This is probably one of the best things you can do to help prevent getting a UTI during sex. Both men and women naturally harbor bacteria all over the body, however, it’s not necessarily the kind of bacteria you want to introduce to your genitals during intercourse. Hot, sweaty sex (the good kind) can definitely create a breeding ground for bacteria and contribute to urinary tract infections. Simply make a shower before sex part of foreplay – and make sure you wash up afterwards as well.

Women: Be Careful What You Use Down There

Scented lotions, sprays and soaps can irritate the delicate tissues of the vagina, which can lead to an infection. Even products that are designed for use in, on or around the genitals – such as douches or feminine deodorant sprays – can irritate the vagina if there are any chemicals, soaps or perfumes in the products. Avoid douching, and stick to using only plain, unscented soap during showers or baths. You may also want to take showers instead of baths, as bacteria and fungus in the bathwater can easily travel up the urethra.

Wear Cotton Underwear

If you or your partner do not wear cotton panties, briefs or boxers, you may want to switch to wearing cotton only. Any time there is heat and moisture around the genitals, it can cause bacteria to breed. Cotton fabric allows moisture to evaporate through the fabric, while other fabrics (such as polyester or lingerie items) can trap moisture near the genitals.

Change Sex Positions

Sex positions where the penis rubs up against the urethra – such as missionary or girl on top sex positions – can also cause urinary tract infections. This is because the friction during sex actually pushes more bacteria up the urethra. Instead, try sex positions that don’t involve the urethra, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl.

Urinate After Sex

Make sure that along with showering after sex (or having sex in the shower!) that you also urinate immediately after having sex. This will help flush out any bacterial or fungus that was pushed into the urethra during intercourse. While this isn’t going to completely prevent UTI’s from ever happening, it can certainly help reduce the occurrence of a UTI or at least make the UTI less intense and easier to treat if you do get one.

Pay Attention To Your Sensitivities To Condoms And Spermicides

Spermicide and condoms with lube or spermicides can also help contribute to urinary tract infections if you’re a fairly sensitive person. This can happen to both men and women, although, it is more common for women to get UTI’s from intercourse, condoms and spermicides. When you try a new product, make sure you aren’t using anything else new at the time. For example, don’t try out a new lube and a new condom at the same time.

This is because if you find that you have a sensitivity to the product, you’re not going to be able to tell which one it is. Introduce each new item alone and pay attention to your reaction to it. If you’re sensitive to it or get a UTI, try something else until you find something that works with your body chemistry. There are lots of lubes that are available for sensitive skin!

Increase Your Vitamin C Intake

Extra vitamin C will help adjust the pH in your bladder and urethra, making it difficult for bacteria to actually live there and cause an infection. You can do this by taking simple vitamin C supplements, or by drinking more vitamin C rich juices. If you do choose to go the juice route, make sure that you’re not drinking juices that are packed with sugar, as this can actually make UTI’s worse.

5 Wet And Wild Sex Positions

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The sex positions you can get into in the bedroom will only take you so far when it comes to trying new things. A lot of sex positions can end up being very awkward, especially if you and your partner aren’t extremely flexible or don’t have the right kind of furniture to help you out. However, you can spice things up by bringing in the element of water. Not only is having sex in the water extremely hot, it can help you get into sex positions that you never could before!

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Sitting On The Edge Of The Pool

This one is easy and probably a little cliche, however, there’s a reason it’s so popular. Sometimes it can be difficult to get into sitting sex positions in the bedroom (or even out of the bedroom). The pool adds the sexy, sultry element of water to your sexual escapades, but it’s really the ledge of the pool that gives you the advantage here. The female partner sits on the edge of the pool – usually on the shallow end – while her partner stands at an area in the pool that allows his groin to meet up with hers. After your hot sex-a-thon on the side, you can slide into the pool and cool off!

Up Against The Wall Of The Pool (Or On The Ladder)

Standing sex positions are even more difficult to do in the home than sitting ones, so if you really want to get into a standing position, the pool is really going to be an asset for you. Find an area of the pool where you can stand up, but the water should be high waist or chest level on the male partner. Use the wall of the pool for support – or the pool ladder to help you, but the key here is that the water will help make the female partner feel lighter and easier to lift up and onto the man’s penis. Underwater, the woman will feel fairly weightless, allowing both partners more movement and freedom in the standing sex positions.

Missionary Position In The Jacuzzi

Sure, the missionary position may be played out, but if you hop in the Jacuzzi first, the hot, bubbling water will turn it into a completely amazing experience. This is a great way to try the missionary position if you love doing it that way, but you’re tired of the same old, same old. Find one of the places in the Jacuzzi that is contoured and designed for a person to lie down in the tub but not be completely covered in water – these are usually on the sides of the Jacuzzi. Either partner can lie down – have the man lie down if you want to do girl on top. You’ll love the feel of the hot, steamy water around you and your partner as you get it on!

Doggy Style In The Shower

Often, the shower is the most convenient place to have sex in the water, because if you don’t have access to a private pool or Jacuzzi, you can forget those unless you want to get busted in the pool of a hotel! Shower sex can be lots of fun if you have a big enough shower or tub, but a lot of people don’t. Doggy style, however, is the best sex position to use in the shower if you don’t have a lot of room. Turn the shower on so you can feel the hot water running over your bodies, and get it on! You can vary the angle of penetration by having the woman put her hands up on the ledge of the tub instead of the bottom.

Scissor Position In The Tub

If you have a longer tub, you can use the scissor sex position as well. Have the woman lie on her side in the tub and raise on leg as high as she can. Then, the man will straddle the leg that is resting on the bottom of the tub and start penetration sideways. Her leg can comfortably rest on his shoulder if she’s flexible enough. You probably want to do this with the woman’s head facing away from the faucet, or she might bang her head into it and get quite the shiner! Run the water for a few minutes if you want a couple of inches of water in the bottom of the tub to splash around in, or turn the shower on to feel like you’re doing it in the rain!

Q&A: Sex Positions For Plus Sizes

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Finding the right sex positions that not only feel great but also work with the body type of both you and your partner can be frustrating. If you or your partner are plus size, you may not get good penetration in some sex positions and others may just be downright impossible. Here are some sex positions that work well for big boned couples, because everyone deserves a satisfying sex life!

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now, and we just cant seem to get it to “work,” meaning we can’t quite get a good flow going. With me being a girl, I have trouble getting it to feel really good for an extended period of time. The problem is he is very overweight and I am a mere 120 pounds.

We are only physically capable of doing the girl on top positions, and I have trouble keeping his penis in and when it stays, I have a hard time keeping thrusts going because I have to keep his belly out of the way. Please help us we really want to improve our sexual connection with one another.

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Doggy Style

Doggy style is a great sex position to try if one or both partners are big boned. If only he is larger, it works well because he can lay his belly on her butt to keep it out of the way and allow for deeper thrusting. If she is also larger than average, it allows her to keep her own belly out of the way during sex. Traditional missionary style sex may be difficult if both partners are larger than average because their genitals don’t always touch when facing each other chest to chest. Doggy style makes penetration and thrusting much, much easier for big boned couples.

Spooning

Spooning is also a great way to overcome difficulty having sex when you’re overweight. The woman will lie in a fetal position, with the knees bent. A pillow can be put under the woman’s hips if it is comfortable. The man will kneel facing the woman and enter her, and for variety, the woman can lift her leg and place it over his shoulder.

T-Square Position

In this sex position, the woman lies on her back with legs spread apart and raised. The man lies with his hips under the arch formed by her raised legs. This allows both partners’ abdomens to be out of the way, allowing the genitals to touch without difficulty.

Try A Love Swing

A love swing – also sometimes called a sex swing – can enable you and your partner to try sex positions you never could before. Because the sex swing holds one partner up, it is easier to do more things than you can if you’re having sex on a surface like a bed or couch. Most sex swings have straps that can suspend one or both legs in different ways, allowing lots of variety for penetration and thrusting. Couples that have larger than average body types will find that g-spot orgasms are easier to achieve using a sex swing, because it holds the body at a variety of angles.

Love Swing Safety

If you do decide to invest in a sex swing, make sure they hold you and your partner’s separate weight limits, and make sure to install it correctly according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Find a sturdy place in the ceiling from which to hang the swing, such as a beam or stud – not sheet rock or drywall.

It’s Not All About Penetration

Sex isn’t all about penetration – if you and your partner have difficulty finding sex positions that are comfortable, learn to please each other in different ways. Oral sex is a great option for big boned couples that have a hard time with intercourse and thrusting. Also, try experimenting with sex toys. You can give your partner pleasure and connect with them sexually in ways other than intercourse. Don’t stress out too much about it if you and your partner can’t have sex easily. You can still have fun together!

Fun Facts

Did you know that overweight men last longer in bed? Researchers in Turkey have finished a year long study which correlates body mass index with male sexual performance. Heavier men were able to make love for an average of 7.3 minutes, while smaller men lasted only an average of 108 seconds. The study showed that overweight men had higher levels of the female hormone estradiol, which blocks male hormones and delays the climax.

Top 10 Best Places To Have Public Sex

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Sex in public is a fantasy that a lot of people have, including both men and women. The thrill of doing it where people might see you, or the fear of getting caught is a huge aphrodisiac for many. Here are some outstanding places to get busy in public and satisfy your urge for voyeurism. Use these ideas to turn the heat up on your sex life, tonight!

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Public Sex Disclaimer

In most places in America (and around the world), having sex in public is illegal. If you get caught, you could get fined or even go to jail. In some countries, the punishment for engaging in sexual acts is much more severe. Be mindful of the laws in your area and act accordingly. Also, be respectful of the people around you. Getting caught by kids is not cool! Explore your sexual fantasies but remember to do so in a responsible way.

In A Wave Pool At A Water Park

Even the most daring couples will have fun in a wave pool at a water park because it’s actually very public. At most water parks, there are a ton of people in the wave pool at any given time. You’ll definitely be in the close proximity of others, but it is possible to have sex in a wave pool without getting caught. Be creative with your timing and go later in the evening, when there is less chance that there will be lots of parents and children around.

On A Virtual Roller Coaster Ride At An Amusement Park

You can’t safely have sex on a real roller coaster, but doing it on a virtual roller coaster ride can be a lot of fun too. You have the small, cozy enclosed space and the up and down motion of the ride to assist in your partner’s penetration and thrusting. It’s also pretty much impossible to get caught if you and your partner have snagged a ride by yourselves, unless there are cameras that monitor the activity inside the ride.

At A Dog Park

Shed your inhibitions and do it doggy style in a dog park like the real dogs do! Pick a bush or tree to hide behind as you and your lover get it on, but beware of getting caught by people and furry friends alike. Also, beware of dog poop. Most people in a dog park are respectful and clean up their pet’s feces with a bag and dispose of it properly, but some don’t and getting dog poop on your body will ruin your sexy fun instantly.

Skinny Dipping At The Lake

Instead having sex with your lover in your tent or car, cool off by stripping your clothes off and going skinny dipping in the lake. Pretty much everyone has sex in the lake, so getting caught is almost a non-issue here. Make sure you’re out of the way of any boats or anyone else and enjoy the weightless feeling the water gives you. This is a great time to try standing sex positions because the water will help hold your partner up!

In A Bed At The Emergency Room

Long wait times will ensure privacy here and if you’ve ever been to the emergency room, you know it could be hours before the doctor comes to see you or sends a nurse for testing and blood work. Take advantage of this time and get busy on the emergency room bed. Just make sure not to try this during a real emergency!

In A Public Park On A Swing Set

A great way to try different sex positions with ease is by using the swing set at a public park. Imagine using the swing to swing your partner in and out of you or swinging together and only using the motion of the equipment to aid your thrusting rather than thrusting with your muscles. This can be an incredible turn on, but try it late at night when there aren’t any kids around. Also, don’t strip down completely – it can be much harder to hide what you’re doing if you do get caught if you and your lover are completely naked.

Also, consider just using the swings for foreplay and head home for the main event. The great feeling of having sex in public will still be there even when you head home, and it’s a lot easier to hide what you’re doing and avoid getting caught if you’re just giving a handjob.

In Santa’s Big Chair At The Mall

This is a great place for a Christmas time romp in public. Malls usually stay open late, and the “Christmas Wonderland” scenes are usually shut down and roped off – meaning no people and no kids. Definitely don’t try this when there are kids around! Hop up in Santa’s chair and have some sensual but risqué sex. And don’t forget to tell Santa what you want for Christmas – and what your naughty fantasies are.

At A Public Gym In The Locker Room

After a great workout when you’re adrenaline is pumping and you’re hot and sweaty, get a little frisky with your lover in the locker room. You can easily get caught here without some planning, so make sure you’re at the gym when there aren’t very many people there. Most locker rooms have private showers in them, and you can sneak your partner in there and close the curtain for some private (yet still public) fun.

In A Phone Booth

This is also a great way to dabble with public sex in a private way. Phone booths are pretty tiny though, so make sure you and your partner can both fit in there to begin with. Also, consider bringing lube with you just to make things go more smoothly. In fact, lube is probably an essential component of public sex period – a little stage fright can definitely affect a woman’s ability to produce adequate sexual lubrication.

In The VIP Area Of A Swank Nightclub

If you can get into the VIP area of a nightclub, their swank sofas and sensual atmosphere is perfect for sex. A blowjob under the table probably won’t get you caught, but full on sex will. If you want to get really wild, consider finding a swinger nightclub that allows that kind of thing. Check out the rules before you go and feel it out before the pants come off.