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Dry Orgasms – Do You Suffer From Retrograde Ejaculation?

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An orgasm doesn’t always involve ejaculation. When most men climax, fluid is expelled from their penis. However, some men don’t always expel ejaculatory fluid when they climax. What happens when a man has a normal orgasm sometimes and doesn’t ejaculate at other times? Where does the semen go?

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Is There Such A Thing As A Dry Orgasm?

It is commonly thought that men will ejaculate every time they have an orgasm, but scientific studies and reports from men across the globe have proven otherwise. It is possible for a man to have an orgasm apart from ejaculation – meaning, that although a man has experienced a climax, no fluid is expelled from the penis during the orgasm.

This is especially true if a man is able to have multiple orgasms. Since it takes about fifteen to twenty minutes for a man to produce more ejaculatory fluid, if he has another orgasm within this time frame, it will most likely be “dry” or without semen.

What Is Retrograde Ejaculation?

A “dry” orgasm can mean that a man simply has not produced ejaculate during that particular climax, but it can also mean that a man did produce ejaculatory fluid during the orgasm and that it just didn’t end up coming out of the penis.

So where did it go?

With retrograde ejaculation, the semen is expelled from the testicles, but does not travel through the urethra and out the penis. Instead, the fluid goes up and into the bladder. For men who experience this problem, it’s not always consistent, so it’s a little harder to figure out what exactly is going on. For example, a man who experiences multiple orgasms and has a “dry” orgasm, he probably isn’t experiencing retrograde ejaculation. It is possible for no ejaculatory fluid to be released at all during climax. However, a man that is simply having normal sex and sometimes ejaculates and sometimes doesn’t probably is.

A urinalysis test is needed to confirm the presence of semen inside the bladder to determine whether or not a man is experiencing actual retrograde ejaculation.

What Causes Retrograde Ejaculation?

A common cause of this condition is when teenagers – hoping not to make a mess and get caught masturbating – pinch the tip of the penis and close off the urethra during orgasm. Also, some types of medications can cause retrograde ejaculation, including anti-depressant and anti-psychotic medications. Health conditions can also cause this condition, and rarely, an obstruction in the ejaculatory duct can prevent ejaculatory fluid from being released.

Although it isn’t technically harmful to pinch the tip of the penis right before ejaculation to prevent semen from being expelled, it can be uncomfortable and you may end up having a much less satisfying orgasm than if you had simply let it go. If you’re worried about making a mess, masturbate in the shower (it goes right down the drain) or use toilet paper or facial tissue to catch your semen when you ejaculate.

Is Retrograde Ejaculation Harmful?

When a man experiences retrograde ejaculation, it’s not going to harm his body at all. There is no damage done to the ejaculatory duct, the penis, the testicles or the bladder when this occurs. It’s not a dangerous condition to have, however, that doesn’t mean that men shouldn’t be concerned about it:

  • Many men who experience this condition report that orgasms are much less pleasurable when the semen is redirected to the bladder instead of being expelled from the penis. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable – and you want to make it as good as you can!
  • Men with retrograde ejaculation may become infertile – but whether that’s due to the fact that the semen simply doesn’t come out (after all, the sperm have to come out of the penis and travel up the vagina to fertilize an egg) or that the process of redirection into the bladder makes a man infertile over time is unknown.

What Should You Do If You Have Dry Orgasms?

If you experience a dry orgasm outside of having multiple orgasms, whether it happens seldom or frequently, seek the advice of your doctor. If you’re not comfortable enough with your current doctor to talk about this, find a new one! Your doctor is best equipped to deal with this sort of condition, and he or she has the tests available at hand to confirm whether you’re really experiencing retrograde ejaculation or not.

Once you get a confirmation on whether you have the condition or not, you can begin talking to your doctor about real options that are available to you.

What You DIDN’T Know About Her Orgasm

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An orgasm for a woman is totally different than one for a guy. Here’s how learning the difference between the two will make you the best she’s ever slept with.

Two Phases Of Orgasm Men Have That Women Don’t

A man has two additional phases to his orgasm that women do not: the Point of No Return (PNR) and the Refractory Period. The PNR, as you can guess, is when you have reached the point where you don’t even need to be touched in order to ejaculate.

Your body goes into the Refractory Period after you have climaxed, and you’re “coming down,” in a sense. You feel calm, warm, and tired. There will be absolutely no service in that area until your penis has had a rest. Let’s explore these phases more closely, and see how they make your sex different from hers.

The PNR is both a blessing and a curse. It happens when the semen has entered the shaft, and there is no stopping the load from blowing. Your grandmother could walk into the room, and you’d still be able to cum. Women do not experience this. Her body will not continue to through the orgasm unless stimulated. The minute you stop touching her, she will stop cumming.

She could be in the middle of a body searing orgasm, and if you pull away, that will be the end of it. Some men think this is a cute way to tease their woman, but these men are total idiots. If she is screaming, “I’m cumming! I’m cumming!” then you had better continue to do exactly what you are doing until she’s done, or she just might not let you have a second chance.

Hers Are More Intense

She may not be able to get through a climax with no stimulation, but her orgasms tend to be quite a bit more intense than yours. Typically, you bust out that squishy “O” Face for about two seconds, and then it’s nap time. Her orgasms can last exponentially longer than that given the proper stimulation. You will hear her scream, see her body writhe, and she will be in a totally different world. Guess what, she can do it again.

She Can Go Again And Again

The best part about sex for a woman is she doesn’t have the Refractory Period. When she climaxes, her body doesn’t go into hibernation mode the way yours does. Therefore, if you quit on her after just one sweet burst, you’re not living up to your full potential as a lover.

Now don’t just get her off and then mindlessly keep rubbing the same spot hoping it’ll happen again. Pull back a bit. If you wait a minute, and then go back to touching her, she’ll cum again. Plus, each proceeding orgasm tends to build in intensity. If you get her to the point where she’s going, “Stop, I can’t cum anymore, it’s too intense, “ she may just fall in love with you.

9 Ways Sex Can Make You Healthier

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Sex feels good, there’s no doubt about that. But most people think that it is purely a recreational activity. However, studies show that it can actually improve your health! Couples who have great sex often lead healthier lives than those who don’t do it as often, don’t have a close, satisfying sexual relationship with their partners or single men and women who don’t have sex at all. Even masturbation can help make you healthier! Here’s how sex can give your wellness a boost.

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Give Your Immune System A Boost

Believe it or not, sex can actually improve the quality of your immune system! Studies show that regular, satisfying nookie can actually increase the effectiveness of your natural immune system by increasing the amount of immunoglobulin-A in the body. Immunogloblulin-A is the first antibody to react when the body has been invaded by a cold or flu virus, so more of this in the body is a good thing, especially during cold and flu season! What a great excuse to stay home in bed on a cold winter day, cuddling and making love with your partner!

Lower The Risk Of Death

Sure, sex is great and all, but did you know it can actually lower a man’s risk for death? The same goes for masturbation, because studies show that men between the ages of 45 and 59 who had an orgasm twice or more in a week’s time actually lowered their risk for death by as much as fifty percent!

Decrease The Risk Of Prostate Cancer

If you’re a man between the ages of twenty and fifty and ejaculate frequently, you’re actually decrease your risk of developing prostate cancer in the future! In this case, the more you ejaculate, the more you’re lowering your risk! Do you need a better excuse to ask your partner for more sex? The studies showed that men decreased their risk of developing prostate cancer by as much as 33%!

Make Your Period More Regular – And Stop Aging In Its Tracks

Women who are more sexually active – getting busy approximately a few times a week – tend to have menstrual cycles that are more regular than women who don’t have sex as often. This same study also produced findings that women who got it on at least weekly – without ever missing a week – aged more slowly than women who didn’t do it as much.

Ease Post Menopausal Symptoms

After menopause, the vagina can become dry and uncomfortable, and women can experience hot flashes as well as other symptoms when their bodies stop producing estrogen and other hormones necessary for reproduction. If a woman who has reached menopause has sex frequently – and at this age, “frequent” is considered about three or more times per month – her vagina tended to dry out less and produce more lubrication. She is also less likely to experience hot flashes. This is because sex increases the amount of estrogen in a woman’s body, which is the very thing women start to lack when they go through menopause.

Increase Your Threshold For Pain

Believe it or not, stimulation of a woman’s g-spot will actually help increase her threshold for pain. This is because pleasurable stimulation (with or without an orgasm) produces endorphins in the body – which are as effective as morphine at blocking pain. A woman can nearly double her pain threshold with regular sex!

Burn Calories And Boost Your Mood

Of course, it can help burn calories and boost your mood, for two reasons. First, your body burns calories during sexual activity because you’re working your body and sweating, but the activity will also boost your metabolism throughout the day (especially if you have morning sex), allowing your body to burn more calories during the day than it would have if you hadn’t had sex. A great orgasm will also boost your mood, as will the sheer act of being physical and feeling intimate with your partner.

Prevent Build Up Of Toxic Substances In The Body

If you’re a man who smokes cigarettes, drinks alcohol excessively or participates in illicit drug use, you might be surprised to find that certain substances – including cancer causing carcinogens – can build up in the ejaculatory fluid. Without regular sex or masturbation to expel the ejaculate, the body can simply harbor these chemicals and they will continue to build up until there finally is a release. Keep carcinogens and other unwanted chemicals from building up in your ejaculatory fluid by getting busy with your lover or masturbating until you reach climax regularly.

Decrease Headaches And Arthritic Pain

Studies also show that great sex reduces the intensity and frequency of headaches in both males and females, as well as the frequency and intensity of arthritic pain. This can be contributed to the release of endorphins through the body during sexual pleasure, especially during orgasm. If you have headaches often, or experience body aches and pains caused by arthritis, try increasing the amount you have sex with your partner or the amount you masturbate alone.

Female Ejaculation: Give Her A Squirting Orgasm In 7 Easy Steps!

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Female ejaculation exists, and a squirting orgasm is like the holy grail of all female orgasms. This might be new to you, but contrary to popular belief, women do experience the release of ejaculation just like guys do. Kudos to the men who can make their ladies “gush” and attain the ultimate in sexual ecstasy! For those who want their women to achieve a squirting orgasm during your intimate moments with your girl, the following steps will come in handy! (Warning: Once you please a woman in this manner, it will create incredible bonds of intimacy between the both of you – so use this tips ONLY with the woman you really love).

#1: An Exciting Prelude To Begin Sexual Exploration

Make the foreplay hot and steamy for your partner. Start out with small bites on the earlobes and along the contours of the neck, followed by smooth and tender sucking on both nipples. Use light touches along the torso with your fingertips. Do these until you come into contact with the inner thighs. Let your lover be the one to guide you once she is prepared to take the exploration to a new level.

#2: Licking Is More Than Just The Movement Of Your Tongue

Start off by sliding your tongue along the vulva to the clitoris and along the borders of your lover’s vagina. The upward and downward motion of your tongue should be done repeatedly and unhurriedly. Use the broad part of your tongue for best results.

#3: Light Touches Along The Mounds Of The Most Private Areas

Allow the tip of your tongue to travel along the labia minora. To make this more pleasurable for a woman, let your tongue slide along this minute mound along with with some momentary sucking.

#4: Next Stop Is The Clitoris

Tenderly suck on your girl’s clitoris. You can move your tongue in various directions. Make your hands busy at the same time. Gently caress both breasts and have the tips of your fingers make light touches on the nipples and on more sensitive spots.

#5: Roll That Tongue!

Curl your tongue into a tube-like shape and insert it into the vagina as gently as you can. This step may be a little tricky especially for first-timers, but with enough practice, you can make your partner go wild.

#6: The Power Of Your Fingers

Insert two fingers into the vagina with your palm facing upward. Find the G-spot – a mound of flesh inside the vagina, about one to two inches in size. Lightly touch and add pressure on the G-spot using your fingertips. You will feel this flesh swelling up and become more rigid as you continue to stimulate it.

#7: The Most Awaited Moment – A Squirting Orgasm!

At this point, she will most likely reach the peak of sexual excitement and be able to experience the “gush” of female ejaculation. However, before she ejaculates, she may have a tingling urge to urinate. Assure your girl that it perfectly safe to let go. Act natural and make your partner feel that you are totally at ease, because this way, the sexual encounter becomes a lot more special. And with this, she will surely ask for more!

Q&A: Can Ejaculation Cause Blindness?

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Many stories have been told about sex, masturbation and ejaculation to try to scare people into not having sex or not masturbating. Several years ago, masturbation was believed to be wrong for a man (and enjoying sexual pleasure was believed to be wrong for women) and that ejaculation would cause blindness. Can it?

Question: Can ejaculation cause blindness? This is something that I heard from various sources (people I know and people I talked to on the Internet) but I don’t know if there has actually been proven cases about this. Is it true or is this something that people made up?

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Ejaculation Does Not Cause Blindness

Ejaculation – during sex or masturbation – never has and never will cause a man to go blind. This is what is known as a sex myth, and there are many of them. Other sex myths about masturbation and ejaculation are that it will cause a man to grow hairy palms. Going blind or growing hair on your palms is not something that will happen from simply ejaculating during sex or masturbation. There are no special or “rare” cases of this happening – it won’t happen, ever. It never did. If these sex myths were true, just about every guy in the world would be blind or have hair on his palms.

Where These Myths Come From

Generally, sex myths like this come from the last hundred years or so, when many religious and philisophical organizations decided it was bad or morally wrong to masturbate and shouldn’t be done. Rumors were spread that bad things would happen if you masturbated or ejaculated, such as going blind or growing hair on your palms. People who went blind were often looked down upon, almost as though they were proof that this affliction existed. Young boys and men were afraid to masturbate or ejaculate, because they were afraid horrible things would happen to them. Rumors and sex myths such as these were a form of control, a way for religious and philisophical organizations to force people to do what they believed was right.

What To Do When Someone Tells You A Sex Myth

If someone you know, or someone on the Internet tells you something you know is false, just dismiss it. Although the vast majority of civilization has realized that masturbation and ejaculation won’t in fact cause blindness or hair to grow on the palms, some people are still suggesting this is true to try to continue to force people to adhere to their own belief system. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation and ejaculation – in fact, it’s a normal and healthy way to discover and enjoy your sexuality. A man’s body was designed to ejaculate, as a form of sexual release and to help make babies. Sometimes, if a man does not ejaculate after sexual tension has built up, this can cause some discomfort or pain. Masturbation is an excellent way to relieve sexual tension without the consequences that sex can bring, such as sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.